Friends will try and sabatoge you offer you sweets and all kinds of stuff you can't have they don't respect your sleeve....... Some don't want you to lose weight cuz then you will be smaller than them.......

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I am violent towards relatives because they seem to always know how to push my buttons... I think I would have dropped kicked her if my sister would have said some crazy mess like that. Terrible...

But Andkel you are so right. Most of my friends are smaller than me (although not skinny) and I know that they will have issues.... but I know how to curse a ***** out and defriend (is that a word lol) real quick... NO PROBLEM

You have me laughing..... That would definitely do the trick get them straight quick

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I just told my sister I got my sleeve two weeks ago. She is visiting me for the first time in 2 years. Things aren't going well. I started back to work this week' date=' I'm okay but tired and a little too emotional. Last night I had 1\4 of a drink, doc said I could, my side hurt so I stopped drinking, couldn't even take in Water. I was worried someone would hit my not yet heeled, sometimes still ache inscisions,e at the club so I wanted to go home, plus I was tired. She's mad at me and I feel bad she even came, but I love her and want to spend time with her.[/quote']

Maybe y'all can try doing something else that's more safer for you....family members are much harder to please than friends

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Family members are the hardest people to understand or make understand.

Your sister should be hog tied for that remark. I am so sorry she said that to you. YOU will not be fat you will be happy' date=' healthy, and even more beautiful then yo already are. You are doing this for you not anyone else.

My husband says I'm eating to much my sister says I'm not eating enough my kids think I'm crazy for having it done.

Now I just listen to myself and my God I don't need any nay sayers in my corner and when they try to get me to eat the wrong things I just tell them to back off I can do bad all by myself and don't need any help in that area, but thank you anyway.[/quote']

Trap that's what I did went with my heart and tuned everybody else out

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Hi Andkel! How's everything going? Yes' date=' I've already had a few incidences of people trying to sabotage me, or expressing jealousy. One girl even told me, "The more weight you lose, the more I'm gonna hate you". I didn't know how to respond. She said it in a joking way, but I know there was some honesty in the comment.[/quote']

Hey good to here from you again.... All is well? Oh wow she said that...... People are something else no need for jealousy is you want it save and get it like I did.....I hate people that say don't lose anymore and I've only just begun..... Let me be the judge of what size I should be please.......glad to hear from you

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As open as I have been about telling people I have the sleeve' date=' I lied by butt off and told them that I was physically unable to eat breads & sweets... it would make me vomit. No one offers me anything anymore. LOL.[/quote']

Lol..... That's a good one

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Capt Derel' date=' Good to see a picture of you!

I ate Easter dinner at my aunt's last weekend...and I planned it so that I could eat what I wanted. Holidays are one day where I don't worry about Protein or about whether or not something is going to fit into my eating plan. I had some turkey, ham, a devilled egg, a bite of sweet potatoes, green Beans, and mashed taters, and much later a little bit of cheese cake for dessert. I was SO full afterwards that I walked around the block to help things go on through.

One of my other aunts made a comment about not wanting to be so restricted that she was forced to eat a single bite of each thing, then walk it off. I thought that was insane because I had plenty of food. I actually stood in the kitchen to eat and watched what everyone else put on their plates and ATE. My thoughts were "No wonder we're all fat!"

A cousin made my mom's recipe for carrot cake and was (I heard later) offended that I didn't eat any of that. So, let me get this straight, now I'm offending you because I DIDN'T eat something? @@

It's a never-ending circle and some people will be offended no matter what we do. We have to make the choices that fit our lives and our sleeves.

The upside is that apparently I was THE topic of conversation whenever I was not in earshot. Everyone is speculating on whether I'll actually "get skinny" and how long it will take me to gain it back. But, for the first time ever, I was smaller than all my aunts and all but one (very young) cousin. [/quote']

Wow you were able to taste all that I know u didn't eat much.....lol ..... Offended cuz you didn't eat something wow!!!!!? Gotta love family

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Oh boy do I feel ya on this! I have had to not tell some family members and friends because it would get back to my mother' date=' and if she finds out I had surgery she will drive me bananas. Because I'm the eldest and we look alike, she's always treated me more like a younger sister that she's extremely jealous of. The only time she doesn't pick on me are when I'm as heavy as she is. It will be bad enough when she sees me lose weight, but if she discovers I had a procedure for it, I can't imagine the venom that will spew forth. Shoot, just getting my hair cut short prompted barbs like " well, you're just going to get fat and look like a triangle." My dad is undegoing cancer tx at the moment and I cannot have her stressing him out or cutting me out of the picture when he needs his family.

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Oh wow good luck with mom..... It's hard I know when our mother or the critics....... But my mom would do me like that I just wouldn't talk to her for a while

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Family sucks. My mom asked what I wanted for Easter since chocolate is not an option so I asked for an amazon gc for books. She just sent us a huge box and it had my gc but over 5 different godiva truffle kinds. I couldn't believe it and when I called her she said I am too uptight that its a holiday and to enjoy it or I will get white hair and wrinkles. Uh yeah I am a huge fan of godiva truffles I have to stay far away from it, its the one thing I can't just eat one. I will eat all 5 bags at once. I couldn't believe her, thank God my neighbor is also a fan and have an amazing metabolism. I could have killed her though!!

Whooz, I'm sorry about your father. Today my sister, her bff, and I went to a Vera Bradley event. It was fun, it did include two meals. Her size 0 friend was so supportive. I kept asking her for advice on what to eat and where I could get protein. I filled my plate with only what I could eat, but knew I was taking too large of amounts, I guess I wanted to see a larger plate. I stopped when I was full and had my plate taken immediately. For dinner I pureed some chicken. I think being together all day really showed my sister how much work this is for me. Plus since her bff praised me on the process I think she's starting to see I have so much to re-learn. Hopefully, next month when I see my sister again she will be proud of how I look and help me tell my parents.

Capt Derel' date=' Good to see a picture of you! [/quote']

I didnt post a picture before because I couldnt fit in the picture. After losing 63lbs my head finally shrunk enough. LoL just picking on myself. I dont look to much like a butthole do I? I just dont like taking pics of myself. But I did take some preop and I will at 3 months and at 6 months just to show the transition. Thanks for noticing though.

This is so very true that its really sad. Happened to me... My "best" friend actually said to me " who is going to be the fat friend now?"

This is so very true that its really sad. Happened to me... My "best" friend actually said to me " who is going to be the fat friend now?"

Those are fighting words!

I am tired of being the fat funny girl.

Those are fighting words!

I am tired of being the fat funny girl.

A lot of my friends are worried I won't be funny anymore. I said I've always been funny even before I was fat :-/

JEEEZZZZ, I'm sorry to hear of all the issues. I guess I'm a lucky one, all of my co-workers and fishing buddies are VERY happy for me that I am taking steps to be more healthy. I haven't told my family yet (other than wife and kids) but not because I'm worried about them not understanding, more because I want it to be a suprise for them to see me thin. two of my bothers-in-law have had the lap band and lost tons of weight with them.

This is so very true that its really sad. Happened to me... My "best" friend actually said to me " who is going to be the fat friend now?"

Omg that is horrible!!!! Wow! I font think that is a friend!