Hi all!

I am excited to say I have a date tonight! (a blind date) I have been emailing him for weeks, we have clicked personality wise. I was engaged until early this year, (my ex was against me getting weight loss surgery, so after we split I went for it) Anyways, I am wanting to know if I should tell my date tonight about my surgery or if I should wait and see if we even make it to another date. Something tells me we will due to our constant communication for the past few weeks.... any advise would be great!!!

I think you should wait and see if the "relationship" goes further.

As a guy, I wouldn't wanna hear about it on a first date. It's a bit intimate more of a third date type of deal.

I would just see how the evening goes and if you feel comfortable then tell him and if not than wait and see. But be forewarned, I was on a dating site and guys can seem so wonderful and perfect in emails and then on the phone or in person they are a whole other story. But the good news is I met my current boyfriend of almost 4 years on that site and he is very sweet and caring. He doesn't want me to get the sleeve and wont go to Mexico with me but is other wise a great guy that would do anything for me.

I agree with Bikerchick, I think you should just see how it goes. It might come up on its own. You said you already had the sleeve, so if you go out to dinner you won't be able to eat much and I'm sure he will notice that. You mentioned communication and that is really important. So I would say don't hide it.

Good luck and have fun lady!!

It sounds like you two have a great communications relationship but I think I would wait for a while before sharing the news. Go on a few dates and see what happens.

Have fun and be safe,

Niki

thanks everyone!!!!!! :-)

A friend of mine was in the same situation. Only they actually may have run into eachother once or twice before her surgery. It wasn't until maybe a 4 or 5 months after that they started dating. He did notice that she was waaay less heavy than she was when they had briefly made contact before and he was concerned about her not eating the 'normal ' amount of food. She finally told him right before a scheduled Thanksgbiving meal with him and his family. He's been very supportive so far. I guess my point is, only you know when it's the right time to let him know.

Good luck to you!