Hey guys,

After reading and posting to a thread by Nikki about some issues with people commenting on her surgery, I started thinking about some ways I plan to deal with this post-op. I've discussed this in counseling and I've read some other threads here and there on the forum about how sleevers have handled people who go too far with comments about your surgery. I was thinking that maybe we could have a dedicated thread to discuss this.

I tend to be a little sarcastic in nature but I try to keep it under wraps. I guarantee I'm going to let it out full blast when I have to deal with rude comments. But, I'm sure others will deal with it in a more philosophical way, like this great comeback posted by mistiblu - "don't you feel like you're cheating by having surgery?" My reply, " yes, cheating obesity, heart disease, and diabetes, but cheating weight loss no".

Please post here with some situations/comments you've had and what you said or plan to say to bring all discussion to a STOP! I appreciate everyone's input because I tend to think of great comebacks 20 minutes after the person has walked off, so I'm gonna need some help in this area.

I'll kick things off...

Rude comment: You sure took the easy way out.

Response: (with a big smile) You're right. It's been SOO easy for me doing it this way...except for that pesky 2 month stringent post-op diet, and making sure I don't get dehydrated, and counting Protein and carbs. Yeah, it's been VERY easy.

Yes, I did have a dear friend who died just having a D&C and one in a car accident! But enough of that, several friends just want my clothes!!! ha ha

I had one of these recently and it was reading this thread that helped me with my response:

(Friend) "I thought about you when I was at a buffet this weekend and felt sorry for you that you could not eat what you wanted...don't you miss that?"

(me) "No, I don't miss anything, especially my CPAP machine or my knees hurting when I go down stairs."

I haven't had any bad comments. If I did I would assume they were motivated by jealousy as I look so utterly fab now hehehehe!

This thread makes me not want to tell anyone. I used to get these snide comments about extended nursing of my sons and I think they would apply.

In response to, "you are going to spoil him" or it could be used "Isn't it unhealthy for you to eat that little? or Should you be eating that?"

"I'm doing the best I can as I'm sure you are doing your best." If they really were doing their best they wouldn't be all up in your business.

In response to, "You still giving that kid the titt?" or could be "You don't look healthy, you are too thin, your head is too big, etc."

"Wow, you sure are interested in my boobs" (insert creeped out look) could be "Wow, you sure are interested in my body." (insert same look)

"You took the easy way out." response "I guess you wouldn't know much about easy vs hard seeing as you have never dealt with obesity."

"You could have done it on your own, just takes willpower." "Actually all my willpower was used up not punching people like you in the face." (smile)

"I'm just worried about you being too thin." "Thank you for all this newfounded concern. How much would you like me to weigh?"

You could just say, "in a post apocolyptic world, I'm less likely to eat you now?"

You could just say, "in a post apocolyptic world, I'm less likely to eat you now?"

Bahahahaha:lol0:

You could just say, "in a post apocolyptic world, I'm less likely to eat you now?"

I like it - why not add, just to keep them on their toes:

"Unless I divide you up into really small portions, and make sure I chew you thoroughly before swallowing!"