there is a nice older couple who lives across the street...you know the hi and bye waves and when they are gone or we are, we take the mail and paper etc....

so the day before yesterday, me and my doberman kabo were in the front yard just sitting on the front step....and she came outside and said *you are looking so good. i bet you are feeling so much better*. i said i sure am and thank you...

later when hub came home, i said you didnt tell the lady across the street of my surgery did you. he said last year at my surgery and i was home 8 days from work, she came to him when he was outside and asked was his wife okay as she noticed my car was in the driveway and hadnt left....he said he told her i was having WLS.....

kinda surprised i asked him why on earth would you tell someone this and he said cos i am proud of you thats why

so if someone compliments you, smile and say thank you that is what i did and then use that for you to keep going..

How about a pic of your doberman?

How about a pic of your doberman?

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very good advice and what a nice hubby to

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Kabo one nice looking dawg. Does he know his name comes from a reference to Sammy H? Poor puppy.lol

I have a neighbor just like that. I told hub before surgery not to tell her anything, b/c she's the type to get on the phone and tell everyone she knows. She is also very negative and would give me grief. She just came over last week, to find out where my husband

was for the week(business trip) and she still said "no he's not, he was just on one", anyways she noticed I lost weight and wanted to know what I was doing. I said " eating better and taking care of myself". Just so happened I just finished mowing the whole yard and was still working in my garden when she came over.

Did I tell you her name is Mrs. Kravitis, from Bewitched.

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That is a handsome boy. My girl Ava would probably swoon over him when she hits puberty.

here be my big ole baby boy

Beautiful!

Bet that felt great!

I live in a rural community, and I have to say, I really don't mind if my neighbors keep an eye out for each other. Every situation is different, but what if you were in need of help? Thank goodness she would notice the car not being moved for several days. I told my husband at the very beginning to please, not say anything to anyone. He is a super guy, very chatty, and would think nothing of telling someone, but it's my choice to tell or not tell. I don't want to be the topic of conversation, and as much as I try to avoid certain people, we all know there are those who say deliberately mean things.

I have not yet learned how to keep from running to food to make it all better... But the band will help.

C, I love that you are so honest about your feelings working through this journey. It is not all roses and sunshine, but it sure helps us all to keep it real, or as real as we each can handle it.

Instead of looking for differences between people, who not look at what we have in common?