I am soooo tired of people telling me how I " look better"! Wow did I really look that bad? To me its not a compliment at all! I wish people would choose their words wisely!

IMO it may not be so much of a compliment than it is someone saying "Hey, I've noticed...good job." I'd appreciate that.

I welcome the compliments.it is a little always but it is inspiring also ! I've been getting comments from people who knew about the band.so I didn't take it to heart.But last week I got my first comments from people who saw me in march just before I got banded.I've only lost 40 lbs ( need to lose total of 160) but it's starting to show and I appreciate people noticing ! :-)

I welcome the compliments.it is a little always but it is inspiring also ! I've been getting comments from people who knew about the band.so I didn't take it to heart.But last week I got my first comments from people who saw me in march just before I got banded.I've only lost 40 lbs ( need to lose total of 160) but it's starting to show and I appreciate people noticing ! :-)

I know! I was thrilled the first time someone that didn't know about the band noticed!! Yippee! It's working!

I know I look horrible and that's one of the reasons I'm having the surgery. I can't wait for people to tell me I look better. I want to feel better. It's not taken as an insult when you're unwell to be told you look better and healthier.

I've had people I don't know who stop me to say they've seen me at the gym and wanted to tell me how great I'm doing. When I started at the gym I was 365 (highest was about 380) currently 212. It is validating, but also embarrasing that someone I don't know is stopping me on the street.

I only told people at work, so most people at my work do not know I have the band (I work in an office with l35 people...my one on the keyboard decided not to work lol) I have lost 50lbs and starting to get alot of people noticing. I love the attention and the fact that they can tell. Its always a compliment to me

I Get what your saying but I think I looked horrible before I lost weight. That is why I got the band. Pure vanity. I am proud when they say I look better because my goal was to look and feel better. The health aspect was 2nd to me.

Try to take it as a sign that the weight is coming off and be proud.

They have every good intention behind it. Dont read into it as a negative thing. I get told all the time that I look thinner and that I look great' date=' I dont take offense to it. Choose your reaction and choose not to be offended by it. It will change your whole outlook on things[/quote']

Well said! I agree!!

When people ask me what the secret is and knowing they'd never take the challenge of lap band, (and yes, it is a challenge). I tell them I do 1 hour of P90X, a hour of Spin class, another hour of weights, eat less than a 1,000 calories a day, then another hour of yoga on the evening. Then I ask them of they'd like to join me one day.

Oh yeah, I work 80 hours a week.

Before I got my lapband I knew a couple girls that had gotten lapbands and were actually angry and bitter about the differences in the ways they were treated after losing weight. I decided that I wasn't going to have any of that type of thinking. I enjoy the compliments and learning how to feel good about how I look. I never wore makeup before or high heels. Who would have thunk that at 52 I'm finally learning how fun it is to be a girl?

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