SHOULD I HAVE SEX BEFORE SURGERY???? IT MAY SEEM STUPID I WANT TO BUT IN THE SAME TOKEN DONT WANT TO WITH THIS PERSON?????

I'm confused about your question. Do you mean for the first time or something? Or the day of surgery? Or with this person before you lose weight? I apologize I don't get what you're asking...

I wasn't clear im sorry... I do have sex its just that i want to but not with this person lol. Im debating do i just wait until i lose the wait and get my head clear. i want to have sex but he just wasn't good at all. i hope i don't sound mean

Um. If you don't want to, don't. Why would you have sex with someone you don't want to. And why ask us? It is your body, your life. do or don't do what you want.

You have answered your own question. You don't want to have sex with him, so don't. You will respect yourself in the morning.

the adage goes "sex can wait, masturbate!"

Yes that's an option