I was just reading another thread, and I didn't want to hijack from that thread, so I started my own.

My husband didn't want me to get the band because he was worried that I would lose weight and dump him. We had that conversation for the longest time before I was banded, and also after. I told him that I love him, and I was doing it for me. But, since I have had it done, and have lost weight, we really don't talk about it anymore. He has yet to say, Hey you look like you've lost weight, or you look great. It does hurt my feelings at times because we can be around friends and they will say it. I have asked him about it, and all he has said is you looked great before you had it done, so I don't feel the need to tell you anything.

Has anybody else had this happen, or had any other success stories?

Men are the greatest people on earth when it's time for bed.

I ain't gonna say a word.....nope, I ain't gonna.

I was very leary of consulting with my husband but I did all the research first and printed it out for him to read. After being married for almost 9 years and he seeing me get up 5 to 6 morning a week to go to the gym it was somewhat refreshing for him. He was so supportive and we even self paid. He couldn't get off to go with me to Mexico so I had to tell my immediate family and they were not happy but my mom said she would support me and go with me. I was greatful for her support cause she means the world to me.

My man is the greatest and still is even in the process.

I'd like to hear the reverse; what do guy's wives things when you tell them you are going for surgery?? I'm curious to know if our 'better halves' react differently.

So come on banded gentlemen, share!

My husband was supportive of the surgery. I was looking in to gastric a couple of years ago and he was totally against that but when I told him about lapband and he read all the info then he was ok with it. He is insecure now that I have lost weight though. Doesn't help that he is 15 years older than me, and I am on the road to thinner and healthier. Think he is affraid I will leave him for another man.

I was definately one of the lucky ones. My husband actually knew someone who was considering lap band surgery and asked me what I knew of it.... At the time I knew nothing, but after a little research... I asked him how he felt about me having the surgery. His response was perfect.. I would never keep you from doing something you really want to do. We researched it together.. traveled to TJ together and the rest is history. Of course... I am only one month out and I haven't lost any weight... so I feel a little like a big dissappointment to him that he has spent so much money with no results (my words). Regardless he has been nothing but the best about the whole procedure!!!! I did not tell my mom and dad until after I had the procedure done.... My mother did not take it well... however she now understands .....but she still would have preferred for me to do it the impossible way!

My hubby was leary at first but after researching was all for it. He's very supportive. Now maybe we won't look like such an odd couple when out together, his skinny little self & my not-as-fat-anymore self!!

When I first started researching the band I mentioned it to Dh and the first initial reaction was "NO". As the months went by and I talked to him more about he started warming to the idea until I told him the price. I went to a consult with my Dr just to find out more. We sat down and had a talk about it after that. He wanted me to be happy and said he knows I am not happy the way I am and will help me anyway he can. Went back to the Drs a couple times, got my date, had the surgery and here I am. He has been my rock through all this.

I'm having hubby problems as well, but they are a bit diffrent from the rest, my hubby is all for the surgery, but on his terms (when and where I do it) and we are not seeing eye to eye on this point. I made another thread in the lounge so I didn't take over this one. But men are the greatest.....when they get what they want they are...:faint:

My husband was super supportive and was excited as I was about having the band. We both were doing a celibration dance the day I finally weighed less than he did. He is 6'2 and weighed 205 and I am 5'1 and at one point weighed 270...I was so embarrased. He knows the struggles I have gone through. Now my aim is to weigh less than my ex...lol...just 15 pounds to go. A big sloppy kiss to Mark(DH) for all his love and support!

I cant speak for husbands....but my wife hates the band. Me losing weight seems to really scare her for some reason. I try to comfort her and explain things. It never works tho.

she might think you are going to leave her or fool around. That's what my husband kept saying when I wanted to get the band. Just keep telling her you love her, and there is never going to be anyone else.

Me and my husband went for chinese buffet yesterday. Of course I can't eat that much, but he made the comment to me that I know your band works, because you only make one trip instead of three like you use to. I thought it was funny, and he is right.

Yeah, I have defenitely noticed that buffets don't hold the appeal they once did. LOL

Used to do three plates and a six inch tall bowl of soft serve.

I can relate