Why am I not super excited. I am scared. Not of the surgery but I think of the comment. What if I screw up. What if I can't get the weight off. What if....what if .....what if... and what if I let my husband down, so many people are believing in me. But truly I can't count on them for support. Maybe on my personal trainer and thats causes I am paying him. But I can't call him all the time to talk me out of eating something. My husband is great but I could sweet talk him and he would agree to anything. What am I going to do. I get banded this Monday and I am freaking out!!!!!

My advice, keep a picture of the old you somewhere near looking fat, preferably with food in your hand/mouth. Remind yourself how you don't want to be that person anymore. Keep a bottle or 2 of old meds that are not going to be part of your routine, set a goal for yourself, a new pair of shoes, size 12pants, remember why you are doing all of this. And my personal saying, you have to please yourself before you can please anyone else...and you deserve this! If all else fails, laugh...laugh at the fact that you can walk a flight of stairs and not be winded, laugh that you don't drive round and round at the mall waiting on someone to leave a spot close to the door, laugh that you can dance...the WHOLE song! Don't say what if, say why not! Good luck, and I'll stop rambling now and go to sleep...lol...

I don't think there is one person out there with the band that has not felt this at your stage in the process. Its natural from what I saw. I felt it and still feel like that sometimes post op day 4 for me. All we can do is do our best and try this is not a guarantee but we are making the effort to try. Just be committed to making healthy choices. I am struggling even now to get in enough water, protein and vitamins. It is a constant effort everyday and we just have to say we are going to give it our all. If you need support find a buddy on here. I have several I talk to about everything not just the band but everyday life and that helps to know and share the struggle with someone. These people don't know you or your family who are they going to tell. I found it helpful that I was actually being more honest with myself in being honest with them. I don't feel my family shares in my emotions through this process because I don't feel they can understand what I am feeling. They are very supportive more then I would have ever thought they would be but still there is something about going through this with someone else. Somethings bothering me or I feel something abnormal to my buddy list I go....

That was me--because inside you worry you will fail, feel deprived, disappoint, all of the above. Once you've lost weight from your pre-op diet and gotten through the surgery, you will be surprised how that feeling will turn around.....

Why am I not super excited. I am scared. Not of the surgery but I think of the comment. What if I screw up. What if I can't get the weight off. What if....what if .....what if... and what if I let my husband down, so many people are believing in me. But truly I can't count on them for support. Maybe on my personal trainer and thats causes I am paying him. But I can't call him all the time to talk me out of eating something. My husband is great but I could sweet talk him and he would agree to anything. What am I going to do. I get banded this Monday and I am freaking out!!!!!

I think you should rely on YOURSELF to monitor your eating. You can do this!

I am feeling the same thing! Being banded Monday as well

IT is scary, however, with that said, it is also an exciting time in your life and you are sensing the potential change and as humans, the majority of us hate change. The unknown and the so called "faiures" in the past are scary too!

This is normal and you have to decide who is going to win the battle. Are you doing this for others or are you doing this for yourself? Perhaps you are doing it for both others and yourself. For once do place yourself in front and take a day at a time. As you lose, you will start to see and believe that you can do this. You will feel better, will look better, and will discover small joys that you have never thought of...the NSVs of life when losing weight. remeber this is a process and you are going to have to work the process for you to succeed anyone thinking differently is only fooling themselves. Remember too that there will be bad days, days of struggle, days of self doubt, days of frustration and perhaps disappointments. You have to be able to put them into perspective, lean on those that you can or find folks that you can count on...many do not have reliable support sources in their lives so they seek support on areas such as this one. Either way can work to let you know that you are not alone and that in and of itself can be comforting. We are here for you as we know you will be here for us!

I wish you success, luck and the joys of being a bandster!