I go today to tell the girls in the office that I'm having the Lapband done. We are all overweight, and that would be from years of who's b-day is it tomorrow snacked filled days. We have all talked about the Lapband and how wonderful it would be. So, why did they come at me like a pack of wolves saying that I am taking the easy way out and that all this is going to do is cause me emotional and physical problems? I kind of lost it and told them, Hey who here is the only one with the gym membership, who walks just about everyday and lifts weights? Who's followed Weight Watcher to the tee and still has problems? ME! So when you are ready to come down off your cream puff cloud, and yes, that outfit does make you look fatter yet, I will be losing weight, and feeling better about myself. And also, that shade of jealousy green, really doesn't do much for you.

I guess, I kind of went over board a bit, but how two faced! We all talked about how we would support each other and blah blah blah... Oh well - my date is June 24th and I am just giddy with joy!!! So there, stick that in their hoagie sandwich and eat it!!!! WHEW!!! I feel much better, thanks for letting rant! LOL :thumbup:

You tell 'em!!! This is definitely a bad case of envy on their part! They now have to see you losing it and getting healthy and they have to face their own weaknesses. Well honey from here on out, their lack of will power is so NOT your problem! Good luck and I'll be banded 5 days behind you and we can keep encouraging each other on this website. Good Luck!!!!:smile2:

Edited June 22, 201016 yr by shelley1057

I go today to tell the girls in the office that I'm having the LAP-BAND® done. We are all overweight, and that would be from years of who's b-day is it tomorrow snacked filled days. We have all talked about the LAP-BAND® and how wonderful it would be. So, why did they come at me like a pack of wolves saying that I am taking the easy way out and that all this is going to do is cause me emotional and physical problems? I kind of lost it and told them, Hey who here is the only one with the gym membership, who walks just about everyday and lifts weights? Who's followed Weight Watcher to the tee and still has problems? ME! So when you are ready to come down off your cream puff cloud, and yes, that outfit does make you look fatter yet, I will be losing weight, and feeling better about myself. And also, that shade of jealousy green, really doesn't do much for you.

I guess, I kind of went over board a bit, but how two faced! We all talked about how we would support each other and blah blah blah... Oh well - my date is June 24th and I am just giddy with joy!!! So there, stick that in their hoagie sandwich and eat it!!!! WHEW!!! I feel much better, thanks for letting rant! LOL

You tell them!! How dare they try to bring you down instead of cheering you on? That always seems to happen, why, I do not know but only you know when you are truly ready!! Good Luck.:smile2:

Yeah you tell girl, it's not the easy way out, it's the smart way, while u are losing weight they will still be gaining, looking dumb! eventually they will be jealous and then be monkey see, monkey do! ur imitators!!!:smile2:

I had lapband 9 weeks ago and I have not told anyone I work with. I am a nurse that works nightshift with several other females. We are close and have all yo-yo'd over the years. I did not want everyone watching every single bite I put in my mouth and monitoring my progress. If I screw up and cheat, I don't need people to talk behind my back about "how much she spent on that surgery and then she is cheating". Believe me, I have worked with them long enough to know, if they talk about others, they will talk about me!

Lost 24 lbs. in 9 weeks

10 cc band, first fill 4 cc, second fill 5.2 cc

As they say "jealousy makes you nasty".

Ive been thinking about this a bit as I had one "helpful" friend behave similarly. I think it is fear too. i did not tell everyone I knew I guess because I felt like i would look a bit of a goose if I failed.

I have come to the conclusion that I will just ignore it and keep going. I have a very sweet elderly nana who is still alive who just insists "just 1 lamington wont hurt" i dont bother arguing becasue I love her. But i do say "youre right it wont, but I dont feel like it today". It is the same at parties etc. I dont talk about why i just say no thanks or not today. This may be something you adopt at workplace birthdays. Not today. That way maybe on the day it is your birthday you will say yes because it is a once a year treat. or maybe you will say no because the treat is a new dress that you used to be too fat for. But not today has become my diplomatic way out and my own internal dialogue for temptation. This way when i fall it is easier to get up. Good luck with it.

I go today to tell the girls in the office that I'm having the LAP-BAND® done. We are all overweight, and that would be from years of who's b-day is it tomorrow snacked filled days. We have all talked about the LAP-BAND® and how wonderful it would be. So, why did they come at me like a pack of wolves saying that I am taking the easy way out and that all this is going to do is cause me emotional and physical problems? I kind of lost it and told them, Hey who here is the only one with the gym membership, who walks just about everyday and lifts weights? Who's followed Weight Watcher to the tee and still has problems? ME! So when you are ready to come down off your cream puff cloud, and yes, that outfit does make you look fatter yet, I will be losing weight, and feeling better about myself. And also, that shade of jealousy green, really doesn't do much for you.

I guess, I kind of went over board a bit, but how two faced! We all talked about how we would support each other and blah blah blah... Oh well - my date is June 24th and I am just giddy with joy!!! So there, stick that in their hoagie sandwich and eat it!!!! WHEW!!! I feel much better, thanks for letting rant! LOL

LOL! I give you a lot of credit. I probably would have gone much further than you. And hoagie sandwich? You're not from Pennsylvania, are you? :smile2:

I'm getting banded on Thursday too! But thankfully everyone I've told, and there have only been a few, have stuck by me and supported me!

Yes, get used to this. I went through and am still going through this with friends and family. My mother and one of my sisters poked fun at how I ate this weekend when we were all on a road trip. I don't care though. They say the same things about losing it on your own, etc. I told my mom if she could lose it on her own, then what was the hold up? She's been overweight for more than thirty years but she feels kinda satisfied because she has curves in the right places. I am looking good and can shop in the misses department four months after surgery. The lapband book even tells you to look out for sabatoge. Welcome and good luck on your journey.

Precisely why I have decided not to tell anyone (other than my husband and sister) about my surgery! Best of luck to you - they will be hard to deal with in the coming months. Stay strong!

I go today to tell the girls in the office that I'm having the LAP-BAND®® done. We are all overweight, and that would be from years of who's b-day is it tomorrow snacked filled days. We have all talked about the LAP-BAND®® and how wonderful it would be. So, why did they come at me like a pack of wolves saying that I am taking the easy way out and that all this is going to do is cause me emotional and physical problems? I kind of lost it and told them, Hey who here is the only one with the gym membership, who walks just about everyday and lifts weights? Who's followed Weight Watcher to the tee and still has problems? ME! So when you are ready to come down off your cream puff cloud, and yes, that outfit does make you look fatter yet, I will be losing weight, and feeling better about myself. And also, that shade of jealousy green, really doesn't do much for you.

I guess, I kind of went over board a bit, but how two faced! We all talked about how we would support each other and blah blah blah... Oh well - my date is June 24th and I am just giddy with joy!!! So there, stick that in their hoagie sandwich and eat it!!!! WHEW!!! I feel much better, thanks for letting rant! LOL :biggrin:

This is one of the reasons I didn't tell very many people my plans on getting the LAP-BAND®.

This sounds like a bunch of ladies who are too scared to do what you are doing. They are lashing out at you becuse they are angry with themselves. This is making them look at themselves and they don't like that. Just ignore them and focus on yourself. Do what's right for you and don't be surprised if a few of these "ladies" follow your lead. Good luck to you!

I agree with the other posters, its jealousy for sure. I would probably have that issue at my job, every time I turn around its a pot luck for this person or that. Or someone brings in donuts on Fridays and then complain complain about needing to lose weight....I mentioned it to my male co-worker that I am going to talk to the doctor about the lap band and he just kind of looked at me, but then said hey, to each his own!

I am going to try and keep it as hush hush as I can with the folks at work, they are not real supportive of me...But glad you let them have it there!! Good luck to you girl!

I was originaly scheduled for 01/05/10 but backed out 3 hours before surgery. I told my mom and she told a few family members. They were all against it. Last Monday I called the Dr and got a date of 7/21/10. I told my daughter and sister in law who are behind me.

Good for you- they musy be enviuos of the success you are about to experience!

I was banded on 1-8-2010 and have lost 95 pounds (as of my last follow-up on 6-14-2010)! If you exercise and eat right the LapBand is a great tool and you will see results that will encourage you more and more every day.

I was actually really lucky with the people I told about my surgery, they were all very suportive- but I chose carefully who was told and who wasn't. Now 5 months post-op these words come out of my mouth quite often: "I had a Lapand placed in January" and most people are surprised and then excited and start asking all kinds of questions.

I hope everything goes well for you. :thumbup: