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this is one of the big reasons I stopped using the forums on my fitness pal. To many people who were already skinny going on and on about how fat they are and how they need to loose weight when they were already well below my goal weight. I saw so many people posting their "before" pictures that showed slim people with flat tummies talking about how they needed to loose so much weight, it really made me feel badWhat you said is the reason I don't want to tell some people at work about getting WLS. Like when they are 130lbs 5'6" and are trying to talk to me about how fat they are....it's really kind of effed up if I let it get to me. Like are they trying to tell me I disgust them? Lol. I don't let it get to me bc I could care less, but I could see a more sensitive person getting offended. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Maybe the mayo too. Think about this as if you're feeding a baby. The first few weeks of baby food is usually one ingredient simple veggies and fruits. I imagine your tummy is fairly sensitive at this point, like a baby's tummy. I'm sure you know but Gatorade has a lot of sugar (14g/8oz for regular & 7g/8oz for G2). I think some doctors allow it tho bc of the potassium. Maybe instead of the Gatorade try electrolyte water with your crystal light? Idk just a thought. Sometimes when you're trying to figure something out it helps to get a fresh set of eyes. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I hit the 60 oz goal fairly quickly surprisingly bc it took freaking all day just sip sip sip so that's why I decided to try the super soft Mac and cheese but learned the hard way I need to wait a little longer since it gave me diarrhea (I think? Maybe a combo of that anesthesia still releasing) Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

My surgeon's office was wrong, said I had a 6 month wait BC I was UHC. They didn't understand that UHC just administrated my husband's company's self-funded health care plan. I asked them to pls call and check. No wait. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'll focus on more protein. To be honest I've been scared to eat so I do the very minimum. Maybe my body refuses to lose bc it thinks it's starving. I will work on the fear of eating & embrace this journey. It will come off eventually. Thank you! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

2 weeks post-op. I get WAAYYY over 64oz of fluids in, but at this point I'm only getting 32-48oz of Water. Is the 64oz any Fluid or just water? Bc man. I hate water. I drank 12 diet cokes a day in my pre-surgery life and didn't even touch the clear, tasteless stuff. I know that's bad and full of chemicals, but can I sub Vitamin water zero for regular water? Or do I need to suck it up and drink the clear stuff? Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I agree with you completely! My surgeon stopped doing the RNY bc he refused to do weight loss surgery and do another one which was the case with RNY. My surgeon only does SIPS, sleeve and DS. My surgeon suggested the SIPS even though I went in with getting the DS. My surgeon suggested the SIPS but I had the final choice on the day of surgery. Sent from my SM-G930P using the BariatricPal App

@@JennyJennJen my surgeon allows carbonation at 2 weeks post op. I can't drink beer bc of celiac and I don't like soda but I have tried seltzer post-op and enjoyed it enormously. Wow!

Hi Gina. I have IBS as well. I was hospitalized as a toddler for a week - diagnosis: nervous stomach. Which of course became Spastic Colon, then IBS. Now, at 54 I got so fed up with how I was feeling that i decided I wasn't going to feel like it another day. I started doing research. I discovered while doing research that sorbitol and other sugar alcohols are in so many things (xylitol, mannitol, etc.). Even in my toothpaste. And more importantly, I was taking Cipralex Meltz which contain sorbitol - I can honestly say I felt poisoned. So - lactose intolerant, IBS and a pretty bad intolerance for sugar alcohols (something I figured out 5-6 years ago but didn't know I was ingesting every single day). When I went to my doctor and explained all these thing she said - "I know what's wrong with you!" - She told me about the Low FODMAP diet - a Doctor in Australia (with celiac) discovered the correlation between certain foods and intolerances, and sugar alcohols and their effect on people with gastro-intestinal problems. The biggest factor for me has been removing sorbitol completely. I'm super vigilant about this. My brain-fog just disappeared, my gut/bowel was so much better after that. I'm fairly good at not eating the many fruits and vegetables, fructose, fructans, etc that are all part of this. I just could not understand why when I ate I avoided dairy but my almost instant diarrhea happened all the same. It was awful. I'm not completely out of the woods, but I feel control for the first time in my life! I downloaded the app, bought the book and haven't looked back. My IBS is one of my major concerns when it comes to getting the gastric sleeve operation. I'm very concerned about foods going through my system too quickly and making my life miserable due to the food bypassing the absorption in the small intestine and through to the large too quickly resulting in chronic diarrhea. I see my doctor August 11 and it'll be a question I'll be asking for sure. She may not know the answers but she may be able to send me to see somebody that does. I really think that you should try this diet, especially as you have IBS. Perhaps you already know about the Low FODMAP diet? If so, sorry I've wasted your time with this very long message! lol The Protein shakes you're drinking - check the ingredients. Become familiar with all the sugar alcohols so you can recognize them when you read ingredient lists. Most people with IBS also have lactose intolerance. Do you have it? Protein shakes are an issue for me - it's also a concern if I get the sleeve surgery as the Protein Shakes are a necessity from what I know. I can't have things like sugar-free popsicles (probably have sorbitol), shakes if they have dairy or sugar alcohols/sorbitol, etc. Dieting usually means low-fat, low-sugar foods. I won't be able to ever have those items, so will need to always have whole foods only - no processed. I will need to have a Protein shake chosen beforehand that doesn't bother me. If it bothers me before surgery it'll be a nightmare after. Please look at this diet - there are so many doctors that don't know about it. Find a dietician who knows about it and get some help from him/her. Check your toothpaste, your foods/drinks, gum, mints, sugar-free pop (btw I can't have aspartame either). Good luck - would be so nice if this is a big help for you :-)

Thanks I've already completed the legal name change, did that a few days after the wedding. I'm just hoping that u can get my surgery before I have to pay my 3rd deductible some starting this journey. It's so annoying that I'm a whole month behind on getting things going to insurance bc of my pcp's office. I just don't want to have to shell out more money again bc of something I had no control over Ready for a chance at really living! ❤️

It is very rare to get pregnant on Depo unless they did not get it at the right intervals (or got pregnant before it would be effective). I don't know about impacting weight loss (I don't think it will have a big impact) but have you considered an IUD instead? The thing about Depo is - it's in your system for 90 days whether you have issues or not (you can't stop it or remove it like other forms of bc).My obgyn didn't recommend the IUD because so many women that come see her have had issues...constant spotting, cramping...just something I wouldn't wanna deal with. ????????????

I called my pcp to get my name changed and be sure the Doc that comes in signed my weight loss study records so I could send off to insurance, turns out their internet was down the only day he came in the past two weeks, so I have to wait 2 more weeks for him to sign anything! I'm starting to get really ancy bc I need to be approved before the end of September, otherwise I'll have to start doing appointments over again. ???????? Working with all of these doctors has been a nightmare. Not to mention my surgeons office didn't answer the phone today, they never answer the damn phone.... I'm starting to get really discouraged.... I've been working for a year to have surgery and it just keeps getting pushed back further and further away. Ready for a chance at really living! ❤️

Ok I see the surgeon tomorrow to ask questions and what to do before surgery my weight has to be 310! But I'm not sure if it has to be that tomorrow or on surgery day!??? I don't want him to hold off my surgery bc of 4 pounds Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Please forgive me if this is long.... And some of you might nail me to the cross for this I've been married going on 15 years. I'm 35 years old with 2 Children 12 and 15. 2 years ago almost to the day I met a guy. Now I may have been what society considers a fat girl but only now am I able to actually express that. I truly did not see myself that way. I was very confident, dressed well, hair did nails did everything did and although I was married-- NEVER had a problem attracting men. I was doing some shopping and kinda ran into this guy and looking back I think he may have strategically planned it but when I looked up there he was. I felt like I had been hit by lightening. He looked me in my eyes and said hello, then walked away. He had me at hello. He was extremely attractive. Why extremely? I could see him being on tv, or a music entertainer and it wouldn't surprise me he was that kind of attractive. My heart was fluttering and I was just a mess. Thinking why I didn't spruce up a bit before I left the house ugh!!! I mean wth, it's just a little harmless flirting. After trying to figure out 50 ways to sunday how I would tell this guy he was cute without coming off as thirsty I ultimately decided against it. I mean guys tell me how attractive I am all the time and it's normal but if a woman does it, it's an automatic signal that she wants you and that's not the message I was trying to send. Well he found his way over to me again and struck up a conversation. We chatted a few brief moments then I'd shut it down and sashay with my basket over to another isle. He'd find me again. He never came out and flirted with me off rip but these random conversations were a big giveaway. After all he was obviously younger, he must've been nervous and didn't know how to approach me. Well he finally got up the nerve and found me in another isle walked up behind me and whispered in my ear Damn Ms ______ you look so good. Why did he call me Ms. ______ Because I had on a football jersey that had my sons last name and number on the back and I guess he just went from there. Here was my opportunity. I looked over at him as he walked away, tossed my hair, laughed very nonchalantly and said, yeah you too. Well within moments he had come back with a piece of paper with his name and number written on it. he asked me to call him if I ever needed any home repairs, flooring or tiling. So I smiled and said sure I might just do that. Finally he asked me if I was married and I was truthful and told him yes and he made a case about wanting to be a friend to me, and just be someone I could talk to if I ever needed and that he would never overstep his boundaries. I politely declined and decided it was time to wrap this shopping trip up quick fast and in a hurry. As I was leaving the store I got to my car and popped the trunk I looked up and he was walking toward me eyes fixed. I got scared for a minute and asked "what are you doing?" he said I wanted to help you with your things. Please allow me. (Just like that. No lie) So he put my groceries in the trunk, pleaded his case once more and asked me to just give him a chance. He opened my car door so I could get in, and asked again would you please give me a call. I agreed and pulled off. I could go into details about how this whirlwind affair unfolded but lets just say it was the best of times-- it was the worst of times. He was 22. No kids. Lived on his own. Had 2 jobs. Very responsible, a real gentleman, Old school. he was everything I never would have expected. I fell in love. lust. whatever. My world had been turned up. side. down. My husband found out, it tore him apart. Our family was broken and it was all my selfish fault. Did we have issues? yes. Nothing major. Nothing worth him being cheated on. One day. He stopped calling and texting. he just disappeared like a thief in the night. I thought I would have a nervous breakdown. I didn't know what happened, why was there someone else? Did I say something do something? NOW things needed to end don't get me wrong they should have never began. But I started to wonder... would this have happened if I were say 75-100lbs lighter? For the first time I began to feel insecure about the way I looked. My weight never came up. He always told me I was beautiful, attractive, whatever but nothing else made sense. We reconnected and he just told me he had a lot going on with his job and he had to move out of his place and that he just needed to deal with it all and that he would never just leave me without saying a word. He asked me about my husband and I told him we were working things out. He said I just want to make you happy (whatever that meant). then one day he said listen sweetie, its getting too hard for me not being able to have you when I want and spend time with you and I can't do half relationships. So I said fine. I understand no hard feelings. 8 days pass and I'm heartbroken he calls and says, I miss you so much. I love you, I'm going crazy, I can't sleep, I've been shutting people out cause I only want to be with you. He said he would be in the city and wanted to see me that weekend and it never happened. Then I didn't hear from him anymore. I called, I texted cause I thought he cared. He never responded. Once he returned my call, and I left my phone in the car. He left a message hey baby, call me when you get a chance. I miss u and I love you. Talk to you soon. I called him back, texted him... nothing. So I told myself # 1 I'm trying to work things out with my husband-- why keep this going on. ( I was addicted to him and I could not stop) # 2 He clearly is not that into you. His actions do not line up with his BS words if he really wanted to spend time with you or talk to you he would. #3 LET HIM GO... there must be someone else or he isn't attracted to you or something. That affair tore me apart mentally. There was no closure. I was left with a empty feeling inside. 4 months later I see him on FB with a girl who and he was now "in a relationship". He was calling SOMEONE... texting SOMEONE just not me. My husband and I are back together. I won't say he's fully recovered there are definitely trust issues there that will take a lot of effort on my part to restore. I do regret that affair. If I could do it over I would have run for the hills!!! I have convinced myself that (although it was wrong my ego was hurt still the same and my confidence completely SHAKEN) he did that because I was fat and he didn't want to hurt my feelings. I've had a problem with flirting and getting myself in trouble with the hubby in previous years before I gained weight. Then I started gaining weight as a way to keep me honest, thinking guys wouldn't be as attracted to me and I could be content in my marriage and not wander off. it was working although I still got hit on. I never want to go down that road again. But honestly 2 months after things ended I decided to have WLS. Now I didn't have surgery until 1 year later because although that was the catalyst I didn't want that to be the only reason. I needed to do it for me. My health, and my well being. I'm much better today. But I was just curious if anyone else had the feeling a relationship ended or never took off because of their weight. Or if you've had trouble staying faithful since weight loss. I will be honest, when I get to goal. I will have a professional photo shoot as my reward. My friend agreed to post a pic of me as her WCW as he is her friend on facebook-- to ensure he see's the new and improved me. (I know, petty) but It's only for my personal satisfaction but trust me I will never travel that road again. EVER again. My hubby has loved me through it all and he deserves my LOYALTY. But sometimes I don't trust myself and wonder will old habits find their way back when I lose all the weight?

Some thoughts...one is about thinking about food all the time. This is a reality of life for many people, especially those that are overweight. I always thought about food, and I still always think about food a year out. I still think about planning my meals out and if I'm going somewhere I plan what I can throw in my bag, I think about making myself drink Water and I think about getting all my Protein in. Even if you did not have surgery, if you don't think about food you won't always make the best decisions. Sticking to a diet involves thinking about food. As far as missing eating fast. Well surgery or not you're not supposed to eat fast. Eating fast is one of the main factors in weight gain. When you say that you did your research and then say that you don't want to to think about your meals, you want to eat quickly, you want to have large meals...it seems contradictory. If you did your research you would have known about these things I read some interesting comments today and I wanted to make something really clear. Out of all these people around the globe that are on this website, there are going to be some of us that have found post op, that this surgery was the wrong decision. If you want this website to be honest and truthful, a source of good solid information for people considering surgery and a source of support for people post op, then everyone's experiences should be welcome. The reason's I think this surgery was wrong for me has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with my post op complications! And as for comments about people who regret their surgeries and have complications because: • "houses were dirty" • "they didn't follow instructions" • "they haven't seen the great results yet" • "they are just negative people and negative people are more vocal So, just let me tell you this, some of us simply made a mistake. We thought this was a good plan, we took advice, did our research, attended the seminars and weigh ins (in my case, two years attending). We met our surgeons, we discussed our pre existing conditions, we spoke to our family and friends. I myself have a counsellor, did CBT counselling for the entire two years pre op and am deemed emotionally and mentally sound. (just as an aside, my NHS CBT counsellor did not agree with this surgery). I checked with my pain mgt team about the efficacy of my medications post op. And it was still a mistake! And so what? It happens. And people like me should be able to explain these things without others trying to negate our admission of this mistake by offering excuses as to why we are unhappy with our decision. I could have floated onto a cloud, had magical unicorns lick away my stomach, and woke up in paradise fully healed, sipping a cocktail in the sun and I would still tell you that this was a mistake for ME. And for many of my friends. It doesn't matter how many years post op I get, I will consider this a mistake. My house is not dirty, I followed instructions to the letter, I consider my bariatric discharge booklet my life guideline and I never variate. I keep in touch with anyone and everyone in my medical care stream that might be helpful. And complications happened. And yes, to many of us in our bariatric system. But again, it was not the complications that disturb us. We all have different reasons for regretting it. Most of us feel that we were misinformed, which doesn't help. My neighbour regrets her bypass because of her now permanent diarrhea and no improvement in her diabetes. She tells me that she has to think about food most of the day just to keep herself fed (choosing the right foods so as not to vomit), and she could have simply dieted harder if she had known she would have to think of food all day. She is three years post op and she still struggles with dehydration. Her hair never grew back after the initial drop out. I myself am only 9 weeks post op and have had complications so I can't know what my future holds. I miss eating quickly and simply in a way that doesn't have to be well thought out. I want to be able to eat a full salad, maybe even with dressings, without worrying about which component might not agree with me. I want to be able to eat any kind of meat I want cooked how I want in the quantity I want. I want to drink beverages with my meals. I miss a morning coffee or afternoon tea. I miss ice tea. (I know other people can drink it but I can't now). I don't want to have to plan my food day meticulously or be different from others around me eating. I want my medications to work again in the way they did pre op to control my fibromyalgia symptoms. And I have definitely seen weightloss results. As I was lying there starving to death for seven weeks, I have lost all but 20lbs of my expected and required excess weight to satisfy my healthcare team. ( I am still only getting around 500 cals a day in, but have constant diarrhea so who knows how much stays in). I now look "normal" except for the grey pallor in my skin and the nappy I now have to wear because of fecal incontinence (my IBS-d was totally controlled before surgery). I am six dress sizes smaller but can only leave my house if I don't eat anything and wear adult protection in case of water causing an "accident". Or in case I become faint from lack of food and fall. So I do actually feel that had I read a forum entry like this, I might have thought twice. And that's a good thing. If people are scared, that's okay. Let them hear more than just "don't worry, I was fine, you will be too!" Because maybe they won't! So this is not about complications, it's about people. One size does not fit all. Some of us should have simply accepted our weight, or worked harder to diet it off. Had I taken in only 300 to 500 calories a day for 9 weeks pre op, I would have lost all this weight anyway. If you are happy, well done! If you are dead set on going ahead, ignore this. If you are a high BMI person (think 600lb life), God bless you, this may save your life, if you are a food addict, I feel your pain. You will still have to diet post op! You will still have to exercise. If you are undecided, then simply take a breath, think about it, really examine your food issues. Could you do more to lose weight? Could you move a bit more and eat a bit less? Anyway, I am where I am and I plan to make the best of what I have left. And I intend to keep making sure that pre op people have a good think and post op people like me have someone they can talk to. Thanks to everyone who is supporting me. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I read some interesting comments today and I wanted to make something really clear. Out of all these people around the globe that are on this website, there are going to be some of us that have found post op, that this surgery was the wrong decision. If you want this website to be honest and truthful, a source of good solid information for people considering surgery and a source of support for people post op, then everyone's experiences should be welcome. The reason's I think this surgery was wrong for me has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with my post op complications! And as for comments about people who regret their surgeries and have complications because: • "houses were dirty" • "they didn't follow instructions" • "they haven't seen the great results yet" • "they are just negative people and negative people are more vocal So, just let me tell you this, some of us simply made a mistake. We thought this was a good plan, we took advice, did our research, attended the seminars and weigh ins (in my case, two years attending). We met our surgeons, we discussed our pre existing conditions, we spoke to our family and friends. I myself have a counsellor, did CBT counselling for the entire two years pre op and am deemed emotionally and mentally sound. (just as an aside, my NHS CBT counsellor did not agree with this surgery). I checked with my pain mgt team about the efficacy of my medications post op. And it was still a mistake! And so what? It happens. And people like me should be able to explain these things without others trying to negate our admission of this mistake by offering excuses as to why we are unhappy with our decision. I could have floated onto a cloud, had magical unicorns lick away my stomach, and woke up in paradise fully healed, sipping a cocktail in the sun and I would still tell you that this was a mistake for ME. And for many of my friends. It doesn't matter how many years post op I get, I will consider this a mistake. My house is not dirty, I followed instructions to the letter, I consider my bariatric discharge booklet my life guideline and I never variate. I keep in touch with anyone and everyone in my medical care stream that might be helpful. And complications happened. And yes, to many of us in our bariatric system. But again, it was not the complications that disturb us. We all have different reasons for regretting it. Most of us feel that we were misinformed, which doesn't help. My neighbour regrets her bypass because of her now permanent diarrhea and no improvement in her diabetes. She tells me that she has to think about food most of the day just to keep herself fed (choosing the right foods so as not to vomit), and she could have simply dieted harder if she had known she would have to think of food all day. She is three years post op and she still struggles with dehydration. Her hair never grew back after the initial drop out. I myself am only 9 weeks post op and have had complications so I can't know what my future holds. I miss eating quickly and simply in a way that doesn't have to be well thought out. I want to be able to eat a full salad, maybe even with dressings, without worrying about which component might not agree with me. I want to be able to eat any kind of meat I want cooked how I want in the quantity I want. I want to drink beverages with my meals. I miss a morning coffee or afternoon tea. I miss ice tea. (I know other people can drink it but I can't now). I don't want to have to plan my food day meticulously or be different from others around me eating. I want my medications to work again in the way they did pre op to control my fibromyalgia symptoms. And I have definitely seen weightloss results. As I was lying there starving to death for seven weeks, I have lost all but 20lbs of my expected and required excess weight to satisfy my healthcare team. ( I am still only getting around 500 cals a day in, but have constant diarrhea so who knows how much stays in). I now look "normal" except for the grey pallor in my skin and the nappy I now have to wear because of fecal incontinence (my IBS-d was totally controlled before surgery). I am six dress sizes smaller but can only leave my house if I don't eat anything and wear adult protection in case of Water causing an "accident". Or in case I become faint from lack of food and fall. So I do actually feel that had I read a forum entry like this, I might have thought twice. And that's a good thing. If people are scared, that's okay. Let them hear more than just "don't worry, I was fine, you will be too!" Because maybe they won't! So this is not about complications, it's about people. One size does not fit all. Some of us should have simply accepted our weight, or worked harder to diet it off. Had I taken in only 300 to 500 calories a day for 9 weeks pre op, I would have lost all this weight anyway. If you are happy, well done! If you are dead set on going ahead, ignore this. If you are a high BMI person (think 600lb life), God bless you, this may save your life, if you are a food addict, I feel your pain. You will still have to diet post op! You will still have to exercise. If you are undecided, then simply take a breath, think about it, really examine your food issues. Could you do more to lose weight? Could you move a bit more and eat a bit less? Anyway, I am where I am and I plan to make the best of what I have left. And I intend to keep making sure that pre op people have a good think and post op people like me have someone they can talk to. Thanks to everyone who is supporting me. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

So I have started lying about how much I've lost to ppl at work bc they don't know about the surgery. Now I have to keep up with my weight lie.. see how one really does create another lie!! Lol Sent from my SM-G930T using the BariatricPal App

I'm new, I just joined like, 5 minutes ago because I need to hear from some people who know first hand what I'm thinking or can just "get it." I'm also not sure if I'm even posting in the right spot or even posting correctly at all? I'll start by saying I'll be 24 in December, I'm married to my amazing pilipino (I know it's an "f") and the whole reason I'm wanting this surgery is kids! Haha, straight to the point. I was diagnosed with PCOS and insulin Resistance at 13. I started showing symptoms when I was 6 and nobody knew what was going on, nobody knew as much as they do about PCOS and IR as now, leading me to this: I thought I was going to be stuck with taking Metformin and Aldactone my entire life. I've been taking it all this time, anyway. I've had 3 miscarriages, so now I'm on BC until December, when I'll get off, at that time I'll do Clomid and try again. UNTIL... My mothers very close family friend is the owner of a company that helps get grants for candidates for this surgery, not sure if there's more than one but still, I'm not saying a name (Not that she would care) She called to check in and said somebody close to her had a baby-she had PCOS- and the surgery had literally "cured" her PCOS and Insulin Resistance and a lot of other people they've gotten grants for. Like wooooooow. That blew my mind, I'm waiting to talk to her for more, for now I have this wonderful place. Everything I knew about my future could be changed by this and I'm freaking out. I was researching all this good stuff the day I found out.. Yesterday and I was like dude, hell yes I'm doing this! No regrets ( YOLO, really). But today I was finding out more about the diet and everything; which leads me to this: I'm not addicted to food. I don't go to food for comfort when I'm sad or even happy. I probably don't eat enough honestly. I love Water, I love chugging water and I love working out and chugging water. I was reading stories and videos about how so many people get dehydrated! That scares me so much. The whole process of eating a quarter of a meal makes me feel uneasy, I know it's psychological, it also sounds like I wont get nutrition (I know you need to take Vitamins, I do now anyway). Eating so so so so slow sounds like it will be weird and ultimately not like myself in a way, you know? Like changing ALL these little things will change who I am. I know that's ridiculous but I can't change that thought no matter how hard I try. I've been bigger my ENTIRE life. I lost weight months before I met my husband from running 2 hours every night, literally around 2 in the morning, I just stared college with late classes and it was a way to occupy my time I guess. At the time but I was still curvy but healthier. I've gained weight back and it WON'T go. I run for an hour 4 days a week a few months now. I don't know if I'll feel like ME, I look in the mirror and I'm like eh, I'm overweight but I'm okay with that in a way, I'm me? You know? I know I'm not defined by my weight but it's still apart of me in a way. I don't want to do this for the way I look (mainly) I don't think I'm scared to be thin, I'm scared to not be ME. I want to do it for my health and even though it hurts a lot and it's like UUUGH, I'll postpone having baby a couple years to have a healthy pregnancy, no gestational diabetes and a healthy baby is the only thing I want, I'm not selfish in that matter, I could do clomid now but I'm not healthy yet so I passed. So those two fears are taking over my brain. I haven't even talked to a surgeon yet, but I have an appt with my PCOS specialist early September I'll bring it up then. Are my fears normal? Rational? Or am I alone in this and a friggin' baby. If you read this whole thing you're amazing and I can't thank you enough. And I'm sorry I wrote too much, I have tendencies to overshare.. a LOT.

It is very rare to get pregnant on Depo unless they did not get it at the right intervals (or got pregnant before it would be effective). I don't know about impacting weight loss (I don't think it will have a big impact) but have you considered an IUD instead? The thing about Depo is - it's in your system for 90 days whether you have issues or not (you can't stop it or remove it like other forms of bc).

To the girl that looked at me funny as I walked to my elliptical at the gym! I can roll my eyes waaaaaaay better then you!!! hope she enjoyed my looks bc I felt great making them haha.... On the other hand 5 pounds shed off me pleaseeeeeee final doc appt soon before surgery... Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I try not to be *afraid* of certain foods but I do categorize foods in ways that make it easy for me to quickly make decisions on what I will eat (or not eat) and how often. I try not to make it so complicated that it becomes inconvenient. Basic rule of thumb for me is to stick a whole-foods based diet. Stay away from processed or refined products. I really feel that's been the key for me. Watch the documentary called "Fed Up" and you might be afraid of processed foods when you're done. It really hit home for me. As a father, it was one of the most moving and infuriating docs I've ever seen...and it explains so much of how I got to where I was pre-op. Unlike the doc, however, I don't blame anyone but me for that, but at least now I know what to avoid

Oh ok I get it!I am still too early post-op (3.5 weeks) to even think about trying any food that I overindulged in pre-op. Also was diagnosed celiac at the same time so my list would have included pizza, Pasta, but I can't ever have them again bc of the wheat. So I'm not sure what would make my list at this point. Oh I know- chocolate! I hate pizza! And anything with cheese on it. It grosses me out. You should get your proton powder in chocolate flavour. I can and I will.

@ KristenLe do you have a waiting period? Where are you getting it done? I'm at Duke, and they have been great at booking me through pre op tests and appointments super quickly, BC I need to be back at work by 9/15. If I couldn't be recovered by then, I'd need to wait til April BC of work cycles. All I have left to do is Pre Op day on August 11, then RNY surgery August 18th. I really can't believe all the tests they do.... I feel like I've had the most comprehensive health work up that I've ever had! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Oh ok I get it!I am still too early post-op (3.5 weeks) to even think about trying any food that I overindulged in pre-op. Also was diagnosed celiac at the same time so my list would have included pizza, Pasta, but I can't ever have them again bc of the wheat. So I'm not sure what would make my list at this point. Oh I know- chocolate!

They won't let me use the spray. I should've sneaked it bc my mouth is so dry and their sponge thing lasts like a minute!! Happy surgery day pink!