hopeandfaith

I feel the same way....this waiting game is KILLING ME! In fact, I just emailed my Dr office to push a little more. LOL

How long did it take for them to approve you? I'm WAITING....did all my weight loss management....waiting on insurance to say DO IT!! OH and I'm SO HAPPY you are approved!!!

So last night I asked my husband, SINCE YOU don't want YOUR family to find out about my surgery, what am I going to tell them when I CAN'T eat anything on Christmas? He said, I don't know have you asked your FRIENDS on that Website you are always on!! LOL I said GOOD IDEA! I don't want to tell his family I don't feel good because then they won't want me to hold the babies! I LOVE seeing the LITTLE ones!!!

Also, since he made this comment plus the one about watching the guy after his WLS on TV, I decided to ask him a few questions. So I asked, WHY would a husband not SUPPORT his wife during this surgery. His words.....HE'S STUPID! LOL I laughed and then said well you told me I was a FAILURE AT LIFE when I told you I was going to do this. He said, Well I just thought you should be able to do it on your own. I said, do you support me now? He said, HELL YES! Again, I laughed!!! I know you don't know my husband but this is a HUGH HUGH change!!! I'm SO HAPPY that WHATEVER channel had this guys WLS experience on TV OPENED HIS EYES! In my heart I know it was the GOOD LORD above that SHOWED HIM THE WAY!!!

Have a GREAT day everyone and I can't WAIT to hear what you told people when you couldn't eat!

THANK YOU ALL for your feedback!

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Tonight my husband said OH YEAH I forgot to tell you. I was flipping channels the other day and came across this 400 pound guy on TV (picture). I was going to change the channel but then heard him say Weight lose surgery. He said they showed him NOW and WOW you should have seen the difference and the guy is a runner now. I asked him what kind of surgery he had and my husband said OH I didn't listen that close! LOL

He was SO EXCITED talking about it! It made me feel like he is OK now! I just wanted to let you know the MAN can change his mind! LOL

See I told you I'm on an EMOTIONAL roller coaster WAITING for my Surgery Date. I'm crying one minute and so DOWN and smiling at little things like this! I don't know WHAT is WRONG with me! It has to be this WAITING game...its not my monthly (sorry guys) because I don't get that anymore! LOL

Ok so for the past two weeks I've been SO TORN on what to do. I have two Sisters and they are both nurses. I was an OOPS baby...so my older siblings LOVE me. I was like an only child because when I got old enough to remember they didn't live with us.

One of my Sisters WAS over weight like me the other is a runner and watches what she eats. So the over weight sister had Gastric Bypass and the other sister didn't talk to her for a LONG time! She was so MAD that she would do this to herself! The sister that had the surgery I TOLD about my up coming surgery and she is SO SUPPORTIVE the other one I haven't told. You see when my Uncle died of Cancer the skinny sister started working with Cancer patients to learn more. When my Dad died of a heart attack she then started working with Heart patients to LEARN MORE and she DID help my Brother when he had his 5 bypasses! WELL NOW she is on a MISSION for ME. She just took a job studing and researching OBESITY! She told my Mother that she wants to HELP me! So here comes the PROBLEM! My Mother is SCARED my Skinny sister will get SO MAD at me and HER for NOT telling her what I'm doing!!! I KNOW IT IS MY LIFE but when I was 15, 17 & 22 years old and had to have surgery for my Kidney stones she DROPPED EVERYTHING and came to my bedside and TOOK care of me. I still believe she SAVED my life because she REFUSED to let the nurses do what the doctor told them to do to me. She said you will not TOUCH her until the Dr comes to see her in person and can see what is what is going on! FINALLY the Dr showed up and sure enough did NOT proceed with what he wanted to do! She did the same for my other sister when she had problems six months after her bypass...got the first airplane out and took care of her. NONE of us live close to each other....CO, FL, MN, and TX!

I know she will be MAD at me BUT I AM doing what I THINK is BEST for ME! I DON'T want her to get MAD at MOM for not saying anything since they talk to each other at least twice a day! My Mother lives by ME! I'm THINKING about emailing her the day I go for surgery because I DON'T want to get lectured before my surgery. What do you all think? AM I WRONG for not wanting to say anything right now? I REALLY don't mean to HURT her feelings. I can't tell your HOW MANY DIET books, ADDICTION books and SELF HELP books she has purchased and MAILED ME! For the last year she has REALLY PUSHED ME to lose weight to the point my oldest daughter called her and told her to leave me alone already. That she knows she means well but when I talk to her my blood pressure was going up!!! LOL

I'm venting again sorry!!! So MANY EMOTIONS during the WAITING game!!! I SURE HOPE BCBS makes up their mind FAST!!! LOL

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Lisabug I AM SO SORRY you are dealing with this when you are trying to heal! I've been married since I was 18...I'm 46 now. It HAS NOT BEEN an easy road to say the least BUT you have to talk to him. REMEMBER most men are like LITTLE BABIES and have to be reassured that you LOVE them. Don't ask me WHY and they say women are hard to read. LOL

All I know is when I went on a CHURCH retreat my husband FREAKED!!! He LIKES to play the OH I CAN LIVE WITHOUT YOU TYPE...my daughters tell me differently when I'm out of town...LOL Anyway, when I came back from retreat he ignored me...came to church but STOOD in the back and LEFT ASAP..didn't show up at the lunch afterwards even. My two daughters went looking for him but COULDN'T find him. When I finally came home after lunch he drove in....I said HEY I've missed you! He said are you DIFFERENT...I said NOPE I'm the same person just found an inner peace I didn't know I needed. He left again! FINALLY at 8 that night we were sitting outside and my youngest daughter said DAD WHAT IS WRONG with you....YOU are acting like a CHILD!! He said, well someone told me that Mom was going to came back a CHANGED women and would LEAVE ME!!! I was like OH MY GOSH WHO in the WORLD would tell you something like that? I told him I LOVE him more now then before I left!

I'm telling you this story because it sounds like you husband is acting like an ass because he is SCARED you are going to CHANGE and LEAVE him. Men can be SO DUMB!!!! When I told my husband I was having this surgery he told me I was a FAILURE AT LIFE! Yep, that is what he told me! Since then we have talked A LOT and I've told him I NEED him and he HAS to HELP me. My daughter told me he is INSECURE AGAIN!!!! SCARED I'm going to LEAVE HIM because someone told him MOST WOMEN LEAVE their husbands after they LOSE WEIGHT. I tell you MEN TALK MORE CRAP TO EACH OTHER!!! LOL

I'm sorry this is so long but my advise to you is TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND! Tell him that you LOVE HIM. I HOPE this HELPS! PLEASE, PLEASE takecare of YOURSELF!

Ok I know this forum is older but I will put my two cents in! LOL I'm 46 and have been married 28 years. I have two girls 22 and 25. I'm not sleeved yet but HOPEFULLY sometime in the last two weeks of this MONTH!! No matter where you live USA or over seas..... TRUST me when I FINALLY get my surgery date you will hear me CELEBRATING!!! LOL

THANK YOU SO MUCH for POSTING!!! Just yesterday I was reading a new forum and I thought....Hmmm I wonder what Tiffykins would say to help them!! LOL You are an INSPIRATION to us ALL!!! I haven't read a lot about long term Sleevers so I'm SO HAPPY to read your SUCCESS!!! Thank you for being there for US!!

I know when I FINALLY get Sleeved I will be needing MORE HELP and SUPPORT! Like you, I don't know HOW I WOULD HAVE MANAGED WITHOUT THIS WEBSITE and ALL of the WONDERFUL, WONDERFUL PEOPLE and the FANTASTIC SUPPORT! I honestly believe I wouldn't be having the surgery because of my family but once I wrote my story out here and got the support I was looking for.....Well let's just say I'M READY for a NEW ME!!!!

You are not being to sensitive! Some people are just cruel when it comes to over weight people. I know, my Husband is ONE and his MOTHER is WORSE! He will say something ugly about someone over weight in front of me and not think twice. I tell him that hurt my feelings and he said that was MY fault I took it personally! I'm sure they weren't even THINKING about what they were saying. About your trip you need to do what makes YOU comfortable. If they continue to be RUDE then they are NOT good FRIENDS!! Is it worth the money you are going to spend to go on this trip with them or will you be worried about the comments they will make and NOT ENJOY YOUR time!?

Sarah WAY TO GO!!!! GOOD JOB!! I LOVE your dogs too!!! My youngest daughters Boxer had 9 puppies 7 weeks ago. I play with them EVERY MORNING and RIGHT when i get home from work. Aren't BOXERS just the MOST LOVABLE dogs!!! I have three Rottweilers too.....SO I'm trying to sell 6 Boxer puppies right now....3 are already spoken for. TOO MANY dogs around our yard but I LOVE them ALL! LOL Keep up the GOOD WORK!!

I have BCBS OKLA. Who would I need to send it to I wonder? Gosh I'm GREEN!!!

So I was SO EXCITED that today was my LAST weigh in for my insurance. THANK GOODNESS I asked the nurse did you send my last weigh in information to my Sleeve Dr? Well sure enough NO! So they filled out two today and I TAKE them to email. I told my Doctor I know you are busy so I will make sure to send them. She kept a copy just in case!

Anyway, I get to work and scan both pages and email. Waiting, waiting, waiting to get the email that they read my email. Finally, I called the Sleeve Doctors office and the lady that does the insurance is out for the week! Will be back Monday. I was SO HOPING she would send my info into the insurance today and I would get a call MONDAY with my surgery date. I asked the lady answering the phone can't anyone else send my info into the insurance company. She said no honey only Vicki can do that.

I'm just SO LET DOWN. This whole journey has been SO EMOTIONAL! UPS and DOWNS! I feel like I've had to fight with EVERYONE to get what I want! My Husband, my youngest Daughter, ( Oh and get this the Doctor TODAY told me my Oldest Daughter has talked to HER about her FEELINGS with me having this surgery!! I mean WHAT THE HELL! She told me she had a very good talk with my daughter!) doctors offices, and insurance company! I know I should have more patience but I just can't wait to be where some of you are. I mean, I read everyday and get so excited and can't wait to be one of you! I've lost a whole 14 pounds and I feel like a size 2 when I'm still a size 22. LOL I want to see how I will feel when I lose 100 to 150 pounds!

I'm just venting and I know others had to go through MUCH more then I'm doing but it is just SO DISAPPOINTING! My head HURTS!! LOL

Irene WAY TO GO!!! I said, WOW look at that little waist line! LOL I sure hope you did some STRUTTING! I know I would be doing the MODEL WALK and TURN AROUND, walk and turn....LOL GOOD JOB!!!

I'm SO HAPPY for you!! I hope next week I can say when my surgery date is! I will keep you in my prayers and if my prayers come true we will be sleeved around the same time and we can keep in touch with our new journey! GOOD LUCK!!!

PLEASE don't be depressed my goodness 20 pounds in four weeks is GREAT! That is 5 pounds a week. I'm sorry you are still hurting but keep drinking your Water. I know it's easy for me to say I'm not SLEEVED yet but from reading all these forums that is what they say. Some say drink warm water to make your stomach feel better, take smaller bites and just don't eat as much. Maybe Soup would be better for you right now. When do you go back to the doctor? Have you called them to see if they can give you something to help you. I SURE hope you get to feeling better SOON!!! HANG in there!

GOOD LUCK and I can't WAIT to hear from you again! Keep us POSTED on your journey to a new life! You are in my prayers!

It is natural to feel this way. What you are doing WILL change your life but for the Better!! I will keep you in my prayers!!!

My husband didn't want me to tell anyone....MOSTLY his MOTHER AND FATHER because they are VERY JUDGEMENTAL and have made MANY comments about others GAINING their weight back. My mother in law talks about FAT people ALL THE TIME!!!!

I did however tell my three Vice Presidents of the company that I work for. Two were VERY SUPPORTIVE and one who is a HEALTH-acholic well he said he didn't like the idea but would support me no matter what I did. Started emailing me LOTS of weightloss material...LOL With the time off of work for Doctors appointments it just made me feel better. PLUS, at the time that I spoke with them I NEEDED to have a Male support me....my HUSBAND didn't like the idea either....he told me I was a failure at life....BUT has CHANGED his MIND since we had a VERY GOOD AND LONG talk.

Don't let OTHER peoples feed back bring you down. You are doing what is BEST for you not them!! If you get ANY NEGATIVE feedback and need to VENT just sign on to this website and VENT. You have some VERY GOOD people out here for the SUPPORT you need. Like I told my family (husband and daughter) you DON'T know what I go through and how I FEEL! You have NEVER been in my SHOES! I need SUPPORT not negative talk so if you don't have something nice to say then PLEASE don't say anything at all!!!

I hope to get sleeved in December and I'm VERY EXCITED!! GOOD LUCK but follow your heart! If you have a close relationship with your boss then go for it! It really SURPRISED me of the support I did get from mine!!

OH MY GOODNESS!!!! WAY TO GO!!!

WAY TO GO!!! I hope when I'm sleeved I can write a SUCCESS story like this!!! I'm PROUD of you!!

Alright! This is GREAT!!! Way to go!!!!

AWESOME!!!! What a GREAT THANKSGIVING present!!! This will give you more time in the hospital to heal!!! BEST of LUCK!!!!!