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There's also a great website called myfitnesspal.com. You can track all of your food, exercise, and weight all in one place and it's free. When setting it up, it will give you some default recommendations for nutrition. I customized them to agree with what my doctor recommended. It's a valuable tool for me.
D.

I doubt your Dr will yell at you. And as much as your daughter had good intentions she isnt a bariatric surgeon so I wouldnt let her do the fill.
You need to make an appointment... start over and get back on track.

I didn't start working out until a few months after my surgery. There is a normal "down feeling" or "blues" that comes from being under anesthesia. Honestly, I think I was really going through grief and loss issues regarding my loss of the relationship I once had with food. Me and food still had a thing, but it had changed and it just wasn't the same....not being able to do emotional eating because the "go to" foods I used to eat gave me dumping syndrome or I couldnt digest. I had no motivation either until I went to my first post-op fill appointment and sat in the waiting room talking to other WLS patients. It was motivating to hear about their successes. Oh and I also read success stories on here and watched videos that lap-banders posted on youtube. It helped to see others losing weight and I told myself that since I went through the surgery i was not going to make it be for nothing. I started out just taking 2 to 3 mile walks with my IPod, listening to music that really got me pumped up and then I started working out with a friend so that we could motivate eachother. Have faith that this lifestyle change is going to work if you work it. You will find your motivation somewhere inside of you....if you didn't want to ultimately lose the weight, you wouldnt have had the surgery. So, maybe you just need time or that certain something to click and ignite your motivation.

In my experience, paying attention and eating slowly are the key components of success with the band. Every time you get stuck and have to kick food back up it stresses the plumbing, and that's not what you want. Make a little time for yourself to enjoy your meals. You take time out to go to the bathroom, right? Take time to take care of yourself on the fueling end of things too.
D.

In my experience, paying attention and eating slowly are the key components of success with the band. Every time you get stuck and have to kick food back up it stresses the plumbing, and that's not what you want. Make a little time for yourself to enjoy your meals. You take time out to go to the bathroom, right? Take time to take care of yourself on the fueling end of things too.
D.

Yaaay!!! Congratulations. Now YOU'RE in control. Good luck with it!
D.

I have been moving stuff from my old house to my new one for the last two days and finally checked the mail.....found a letter saying I was approved! I am so happy I can't stand it. I even cried tears of joy...lol I am such a big baby.

It really is sad when a child has to teach a parent the golden rule. How messed up is that. I'd say your mom must have some issues of her own. Kudos for not letting her problem become yours.

OK, here's my advice, and please take it in the spirit I intend it, which is trying to be helpful. You've had a long, difficult road and I'm sorry for that, but you have two choices. You can either let the problems define you or you can adapt and overcome them. The first thing I would do is watch this 4-part video series recommended by my surgeon. When I was lost and couldn't find my way, these videos helped me get back on track.
I'd also start being an active member of this forum (or one of your choosing.) It really can be a good thing to hear the advice of others and give some advice to people who are going down a road you've already traveled.
Don't let the difficulties of the past define you. Every day is a new day and you have the choice to make it right or let it get the best of you. Sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but if things are getting to the point where it's affecting other parts of your life you need to get a handle on it.
If it get's bad enough, seek professional advice from a counselor. I have a feeling once you watch the videos, you'll have a path back to the groove.
Hope this helps.
D.

OK, here's my advice, and please take it in the spirit I intend it, which is trying to be helpful. You've had a long, difficult road and I'm sorry for that, but you have two choices. You can either let the problems define you or you can adapt and overcome them. The first thing I would do is watch this 4-part video series recommended by my surgeon. When I was lost and couldn't find my way, these videos helped me get back on track.
I'd also start being an active member of this forum (or one of your choosing.) It really can be a good thing to hear the advice of others and give some advice to people who are going down a road you've already traveled.
Don't let the difficulties of the past define you. Every day is a new day and you have the choice to make it right or let it get the best of you. Sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but if things are getting to the point where it's affecting other parts of your life you need to get a handle on it.
If it get's bad enough, seek professional advice from a counselor. I have a feeling once you watch the videos, you'll have a path back to the groove.
Hope this helps.
D.

OK, here's my advice, and please take it in the spirit I intend it, which is trying to be helpful. You've had a long, difficult road and I'm sorry for that, but you have two choices. You can either let the problems define you or you can adapt and overcome them. The first thing I would do is watch this 4-part video series recommended by my surgeon. When I was lost and couldn't find my way, these videos helped me get back on track.
I'd also start being an active member of this forum (or one of your choosing.) It really can be a good thing to hear the advice of others and give some advice to people who are going down a road you've already traveled.
Don't let the difficulties of the past define you. Every day is a new day and you have the choice to make it right or let it get the best of you. Sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but if things are getting to the point where it's affecting other parts of your life you need to get a handle on it.
If it get's bad enough, seek professional advice from a counselor. I have a feeling once you watch the videos, you'll have a path back to the groove.
Hope this helps.
D.

OK, here's my advice, and please take it in the spirit I intend it, which is trying to be helpful. You've had a long, difficult road and I'm sorry for that, but you have two choices. You can either let the problems define you or you can adapt and overcome them. The first thing I would do is watch this 4-part video series recommended by my surgeon. When I was lost and couldn't find my way, these videos helped me get back on track.
I'd also start being an active member of this forum (or one of your choosing.) It really can be a good thing to hear the advice of others and give some advice to people who are going down a road you've already traveled.
Don't let the difficulties of the past define you. Every day is a new day and you have the choice to make it right or let it get the best of you. Sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but if things are getting to the point where it's affecting other parts of your life you need to get a handle on it.
If it get's bad enough, seek professional advice from a counselor. I have a feeling once you watch the videos, you'll have a path back to the groove.
Hope this helps.
D.

OK, here's my advice, and please take it in the spirit I intend it, which is trying to be helpful. You've had a long, difficult road and I'm sorry for that, but you have two choices. You can either let the problems define you or you can adapt and overcome them. The first thing I would do is watch this 4-part video series recommended by my surgeon. When I was lost and couldn't find my way, these videos helped me get back on track.
I'd also start being an active member of this forum (or one of your choosing.) It really can be a good thing to hear the advice of others and give some advice to people who are going down a road you've already traveled.
Don't let the difficulties of the past define you. Every day is a new day and you have the choice to make it right or let it get the best of you. Sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but if things are getting to the point where it's affecting other parts of your life you need to get a handle on it.
If it get's bad enough, seek professional advice from a counselor. I have a feeling once you watch the videos, you'll have a path back to the groove.
Hope this helps.
D.

Sojourner hit it squarely on the head.
D.

Hi Ursula,
I was almost exactly in the same boat as you and have recently turned things around and lost 20 more pounds since my fill a month ago - the first in two years. Don't feel bad. My doctor said it takes some folks longer to learn how to use the tool correctly, but the good news is you still have the tool and it can be adjusted to work for you again. I sound like a broken record because I've recommended them so much, but go watch these 4 videos. They totally got me back on track and taught me how to finally use the band correctly. You can, and will turn things around. Good luck!
D.

This is not a time to beat yourself up over noncompliance with your pre op diet, but it is a time to come to terms with the reality that perhaps you are not sufficiently motivated to have your surgery. If you want to be successful with weight loss with the band, then it will require your daily compliance with the diet that your surgeon recommends and exercise.
I'm not trying to discourage you, only to share the realities of how much accountability for weight loss is placed on the patient. There will not be anyone but yourself to comply with your diet. I do understand that we are human, and as such we will not be 100% diet compliant every day, however, if pre op you have not been able to change your eating patterns, my concern is that post op you will be one of the posters who becomes discouraged and angry at yourself for not loosing the weight you wanted to.
As we all know, the band is only a tool to use to assist with weight loss...you have to make the commitment to be successful. At this point in time, you seem to have not made that commitment.
Best wishes...

Okay So I lost a total of 45 Pounds since June Lap Band Plication and I am so Sexy!! I can't Stand It!!! You Go Girl!! My God is Good!! No Matter What!!!!

There's also a great website called myfitnesspal.com. You can track all of your food, exercise, and weight all in one place and it's free. When setting it up, it will give you some default recommendations for nutrition. I customized them to agree with what my doctor recommended. It's a valuable tool for me.
D.

I'm banded!!! As of 9/31/12. I'm feeling great. I'm up cleaning the house and trying to walk around as much as possible.

Best of luck... if you follow exactly what your Doctor says, your liver will have no choice but to give in and shrink.

What an honor! You must be a great example of everything they want their practice to represent if they asked you to do this, so that should give you a great deal of confidence right off the bat.
I do quite a bit of public speaking for a living, and I find that just being yourself is the best way to handle it. Whether you realize it or not, your story is sad, funny, adventurous, poignant, and inspirational just standing alone as it's own story. (That's why your doc asked you.) Just get up there and be as truthful as you feel comfortable being, and you'll touch a nerve in those people because you've been exactly where they are now. It's all about human connection.
At the risk of sounding trite, I'd speak as long as I had something meaningful or important to you to say. As a last resort (and my own personal bailout if I'm having a day where the words aren't flowing) take questions. You're the expert in your own experience. Nobody knows more about your journey than you do.
You'll do great. These people are genuinely interested in your life-changing decision because they're trying to make one for themselves.

What an honor! You must be a great example of everything they want their practice to represent if they asked you to do this, so that should give you a great deal of confidence right off the bat.
I do quite a bit of public speaking for a living, and I find that just being yourself is the best way to handle it. Whether you realize it or not, your story is sad, funny, adventurous, poignant, and inspirational just standing alone as it's own story. (That's why your doc asked you.) Just get up there and be as truthful as you feel comfortable being, and you'll touch a nerve in those people because you've been exactly where they are now. It's all about human connection.
At the risk of sounding trite, I'd speak as long as I had something meaningful or important to you to say. As a last resort (and my own personal bailout if I'm having a day where the words aren't flowing) take questions. You're the expert in your own experience. Nobody knows more about your journey than you do.
You'll do great. These people are genuinely interested in your life-changing decision because they're trying to make one for themselves.

Personal non medical opinion, looks like one angry incision. You could be on the cusp of an infection. Is it weeping, is there puss? Another thing to think of is that you could possibly be allergic to the stitches. Mine itched like mad, even after the whole thing was healed. It never got that red and angry, but I wanted to cut myself open and scratch the inside if you know what I mean.
Clean the wound with soap and Water. Be aware of where your hands and the soap bar have been. Most infections are caused by, pardon me, i do not mean to offend the weak here, but by washing your hind end and then touching a wound. My friend had surgery on her foot and it got infected because she stood in the shower and let the Water run down over her incision. Can you say EWWWWW?
After a thorough cleaning, peroxide and neosporin and a bandage.
But that is a non-medical farmgirl been doctoring animals since the day I was born opinion.

I have Aetna. Did 6mth Dr. supervised diet (today last day), Psych Eval, Eating right for life class and everything has been turned over to insurance for approval. Thoughts &prayers welcome!!!

Congratulations! I hope this tool enables you to do everything you want it to. Best of luck!
D.