Yeah I get what you're going thru...though I've always had some success with the ladies...I carried my weight well being a little taller than most guys but, just goes to show you this past weekend I went out to a club for the first time since being banded, I'm only 18lbs down, but I kid you not I had 2 very attractive girls give me their numbers...voluntarily...like I didnt even ask...that has never happened to me. Look all I can say is enjoy it, sure theres alot of games but at the end of the day theres so many people in the world that those games shouldnt matter. If you feel like someone is stringing you along move on to the next one. The way I see it is we were born by ourselves (unless youre a twin) we die by ourselves too...I feel like I really dont need anybody but at the same time I'm nothing short of grateful for the people who do come into my life. Dont stress over it is what I'm trying to say. Enjoy it, do your thing, be you and someone will value that.