Fluffy_Gurl

So, my wonderful boyfriend has started expressing concerns that i'm gonna get all skinny and then leave him. We have a LDR so that makes it a little harder. He is also 11 years older than me. These are issues for him mostly, I have no issues with either. altho I would love for him to move back here since his whole family lives less than two hours from me. anyway, I am not sure how to address this. I know they are his insecurities but I love him, have no intentions on leaving him, in fact just the opposite. the first thing i thought of when i got the approval from my ins for the surgery was wooohoooo I can wear a pretty wedding dress! Of course we arent exactly engaged yet but we have talked about it and I am sure it is in our future. He is the man i want to marry. Help!!! Any advice?????????????????? Please and thank you!

i had to quit too, altho i knew i would be tested, hardest thing i have ever done, on the bright side i know if i can quite smoking i can b successful with the band. I would call ur dr office and let them know you have been "chewing the gum" on occasion. and quit smoking now!!!

Im not banded yet...but that being said...alo of the anti anxiety meds as well as antidepressants com in "sprinkle" form. you can look them up online to see if there is a med that would work for you that is similar to zoloft. personally, I dont function well without my antidepressants so I hope that i will be able to take mine after i get my band.

Im not banded yet..but I hope things go well for you!!! good luck with your new doc and the revision!

Maybe find a genre of books you may enjoy, music, meditation, writing, painting, .... im on my own path of discovery..not banded yet but quit smoking and i am definatly trying hard not to fill that void with food. I am feeling the lonliness pain too!

Does COBRA continue the insurance you already have or is it a different insurance?

So..yesterday...I found out that I no longer have a job...I am still waiting to see when my ins will run out. I am so frustrated, sad, and angry. After three years of doing research on lap band etc, I finally had insurance that covered the suregery, made the appts and had the surgery scheduled....October 26 (they scheduled it out because I had to quit smoking for two months prior to surgery per the doc) I am now 25 days without smoking cold turkey.... Has anyone else had this happen to them??? What did you do? I am contemplating asking the surgeons office if they would move up the surgery but I dont know if that is even an option.....This sucks!!!! Not only do I not have a job but have no surgery either? BUMMED BIG TIME!!!

Is there anything that you regret not eating before your band? Something that you cant eat now? Is there anything that you cant eat now that you have your band that you thought you would be able to eat? Have your tase buds changed? Does food taste different? Just a few things I've been wondering about today..like..."Am I gonna be able to eat celery?"

First of all....always remember that BOYS ARE DUMB! It doesnt matter how old they are etc...they are always boys. Secondly, there are so many guys out there that you shouldnt worry about the one who may not have wanted to have lunch, maybe hes recently started to see someone etc... Nevertake it personally. The best advice I can give is to do things that make you happy, get involved in something that you enjoy outside of work. when your happy and not looking the right one will fall right into your lap. And stop stressing about that guy. Why would you want to be with a guy who isnt polite enough to say maybe another time...or something similar. YOU are worth someone who is interested in you for everything that you are! So I guess what I am saying is never settle for the guy who isnt going to be everything you deserve!!! Find ways to spend tmie with others who may not be of the opposite sex and form some friendshps. That takes care of being lonely. lonely sometimes leads to bad choices in mates.

Nicotine slows the healing process and can cause other complications and increases the risk of blood clots

So I set my surgery date! The only thing is I have to quit smoking for two months before they will do the suregery. So Im quitting tomarrow! How did handle this? what worked best for you? any tips or suggestions? Im ready to quit, I think lol but it has been a struggle and many failed attempts in the past so any help is appreciated!

I just had my consult today and I specificaally asked for th elow profile because i didnt want ahuge bulge after weigh loss. My Dr told me that in ppl with a BMI under 42 they usually use the low profle ports. so Yay me! If its an option for you I would go with it!:thumbup:

Hi all... I have been researching this journey for a long time. I finally have insurance that covers the band. YAY! I have my first appointment with a surgeon in two days. The appointment is supposed to take a few hours...psych consult, dietician etc...I am nervous about this and not quite sure what to expect...any advice ??? Also I have not been able to find much info on Dr. Thomas Brown in denver. I know somone who has been to him and had a great experience another who is in the process and has her surgery date. I am just wanting more than one opinion. Thanks for any advice! Nervous and excited!

Although I havent been banded yet in my research i have found that several doctors wont band less than a year after you have a child, also your insurance company might be more inclined to approve you after your thyroid issues are under control..this is just my personal opinon not based on personal experience for what its worth.

I voted yes. I whole heartedly believe that this woman has serious mental health issues. Who in their right mind would do this? Taking her children away from her would be the best thing to ever happen to these children. Children should have parents who love them. I do not believe that this woman loves her children. The only reason she had these children was for some kind of claim to fame or recieve material things she could not afford for herself. In most cases children are born from love, not that this is true in all cases but in most, and deserve to have loving homes to go to. This woman on the other hand has thought of no one but herself. How in the world is she going to support all of these children. I am not just talking about financially but emotional as well. these children not to mention her already existing children are going to suffer because of ehr mental instability. Who does something like this? it is almost unfathomable to me that a woman, a mother, would know she was having this many children and not even have car seats to bring them home in??? Did she think the magic fairy was going to safely deliver them home? I am a single mom of one and i struggle every day to make ends meet and to be there for my child. I do not feel that this woman has any idea of what she has done and the implications for her and these children for the rest of their lives. I say shame on her, shame on the doctors who implanted her, and shame on her family and friends for not trying to get this woman some therapy after she had the first six.

I can soooo understand your frustration. I live next to a high school and the teens are horrid. I catch them in my yard smoking drinking etc all the time. they think because I live close to the school that they can treat it as their property and do with it as they please. They climb my tree in the front yard, throw their trash everywhere, leave unmentionable items in my yard...its disgusting!!!! My neighbor and I have teamed up and have acually started photgraphing them and turning the pics into the police. They do all of these wonderful horrid things after school as well. All hours of the night and weekends also. I would think having been a teenager once that hanging out near the hs on the weekend wouldnt be so cool but appearantly I am wrong. the photos have cut down on the mischief some but we are still working on eliminaing it!!! Good Luck with the unruley!

I was just wondering if anyone has gone through surgeryloans.com for financing for lb surgery..if you had not so great credit and what your payments are. I am looking at dr.kirshenbaum in denver area and he charges around 10,000 self pay. just looking for some advice and maybe what to expect. thanks!

I agree with Jachut maybe banding isnt the right thing for you maybe bypass or the sleeve would be better for you. I would reccomend that you get some counsling i think that there is more going on than just the fear of gaining back the weight. What you are doing is very dangerous for you. you have taken several steps to get healthy by getting the band in the first place now you have to take the steps to get healthy again. Good Luck!

Just wanted to mention that a physical therapist can also help with balance problems. if your insurance covered your surgery they will mosl likely cover some pt to help get back your balance and help your pasture for your new body...also your insurance may cover it evn if they didnt cover your sugery

congrats on your surgery and hope you feel better soon!!!!

i think most of what they lose in the begining is water. and if thats all you did all day yourd maybe lose that much too...but how many of them will acually be able to maintain when they get home?

I'm sorry you aren't feeling well. i truely understand where you are at though. i have been sick for a few weeks now and i also have asthma. I had pnemonia..i was just wondering if they ruled this out for you also. when i went to the doc i thoguht that i just had some bronchitis and mostly had gone for my sinus and ear infections not even realizing that i had pnemonia..just a thought and maybe something you should keep in mind seeing as how us asthmatics are more prone to develop pnemonia (sp)! hope you feel better soon!

I had the same issue also. I was told that it was covered during open enrollment so i of course got the more expensive plan because it had beter surgical coverage etc and had a lower deductable for the surgery however when i went to get it approved i was old that my employer had decided not to cover any weightloss procedures or programs not even nutritional counsling...i was also angry and upset. i would consider talking to your hr person. i didnt personally find that helpful and am now trying to find a way o finance it myself but you may have better luck with your employer. good luck!

So I refer back to my origional post in asking..Where were the parents? Well gee, looks like they were right in the next room. What the H#ll were these parents thinking? letting boys stay the night and it wasnt just one boy in which case i maybe possibly could wrap my head around but multiple boys? Some people were never meant to be parents.

congrats and good luck!