I have three children (3.5, 3, and 1.5) and I was waaay worried about this, as well. I will tell you what happened with me (b/c it does vary): I had surgery on a Thursday...my mom came on Wednesday and was in charge of me and my hospital needs. My husband was in charge of the kids on Thursday and Friday. I came home on Friday and didn't lift/hold the littlest child until Saturday afternoon. I didn't lift her, but would hold her while standing for a short time. (My doctor ok'd lifting or holding very minimally for her; she is approx 21 lbs) I went of the Percocet (:tt2:) on Saturday night so I would be able to drive on Monday. On Monday, I was able to take the two oldest to preschool. For my littlest, I planned activities with friends so that someone could help with getting her in the van. I did that until about a week out and then I was generally doing everything for all of the kids. (I did enlist help when possible, but mostly did it myself) My youngest does walk, is potty trained and is pretty independent, so I only had to pick her up to get on the potty or into the crib. I am now officially three weeks out and feel great! I guess it is up to your doctor and your comfort level...Good luck!!