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Girl, I get fat jokes all the tiem. I'm at the point where I don't give a shit! REally! cause I feel if you can laugh at me...you have nothign better to do with your time..I'm working on my weight loss and once I get to 150 lbs..I will be happy and complete with myself..you're doing this for you..and no one else.let the haters know..I'm big and beautiful now..and once I'm skinny..I'll be skinny and beautiful..nothing changed but the size..stay ab eatuiful person..don't let NO ONE see you sweat beautiful!

you are hella funny! I'm glad you made that decision..be motivated..and continuous..

Nothing will sabotage a perfectly good weight loss plan faster than an inner perfectionist who expects you to get everything "right' date='" one hundred percent of the time and leaves you feeling like a failure when you (inevitably) don't.

[b']If you struggle with an inner perfectionist, here are five strategies for moving it out of your way.[/b]

1. Separate yourself from your perfectionist. YOU are not your perfectionist. However, if you’ve been applying all-or-nothing standards for a long time, you might feel like you are. Spend some time stepping back and observing your behavior. Get familiar with the perfectionistic thinking. Notice where it comes up and what the consequences are when it does.

2. Label it. Start thinking about “that unhelpful inner perfectionist” or whatever name you want to give this way of thinking that gets in your way. Acknowledge it to yourself whenever you see it—“there goes that unhelpful perfectionistic thinking again.” This is different than “I’M doing it again.” Remind yourself of tip number one. Your inner perfectionist is an it and is NOT you. It’s simply a way of thinking–which you can change.

3. Make a list of all the ways that your inner perfectionist is not helpful or the examples of how your perfectionist has made or can make things worse. Don’t forget to include the guilt and shame that usually comes with listening to an inner perfectionist (because we never measure up).

4. Create an alternate mantra. Come up with a short, sweet message that you can use when the perfectionistic thinking chimes in with “you screwed up” or “you failed” or “now you blew it.” This must be a message you believe to be true. It may be as simple as “nobody’s perfect” or “trying to be perfect is not helpful to me.”

5. Give yourself permission to encounter your perfectionist over and over. Don’t fall into a trap of expecting to be perfect in vanquishing your inner perfectionist. You’ll have success—sometimes—and sometimes you won’t feel so successful. But over time and practice, it gets easier. Really.

Feel free to reprint on your own website, newsletter, blog or message board as long as you include the following: Melissa McCreery, PhD is the founder of Enduring Change Coaching and creator of the Emotional Eating Toolbox ™ 28 Day Program and the Weight Loss Winner's Circle. Get free information, tips, and strategies for taking control of emotional eating at http://www.emotionaleatingsolutions.com.

THISisthe day that the Lord has made! let us rejoice and be glad.

I really need to hear that. I'm gonna get my mind right now. I feel you on everything though. thanks for those encouraging words. Sometimes, you just need to know that you just aren't in it alone..That's the blessing with this lapbandtalk. people like you. God bless you, and I'm gonna do this.

thanks hun! Feel free to add me to your list...so that we can all continue to encourage one another!

Hi everyone,

This is the first time I've EVER written a blog entry. So, here it goes. Please read and comment if you are influenced, encouraged, disgusted (i wouldhope not), or just bored.

I am 20 years old. i was first banded in August of 2008 on the 19th. I was 19 so you all know that this was a life altering change for me. When i first did this, I was influenced to do it by my mom. She always says how she wants to see me in a little miny skirt and nice outfits before she leaves this earth. She never said that I didn't dress well now though. I know i do. I try at least. However, this thing has been quite a journey. I'm currently 6 months post-op and I haven't lost the weight I'd expected to loose since i got this band. I know it was due to my poor food choices and my lack of excercising. Therefore, there was no one to blame but myself. So, I feel that its time to do this write. I payed too much money for this to go to waste. I could have had a beautiful car. Instead, Im going to have a beautiful body. I grew up on soul food..you know, fried and fatty was the key to those meals lol. Now, I'm really conscience about baked foods. I never really consume fried food like that. I've been a big chip person and sweet drinks. That has been my problem up to now. During the first week of banding, i lost 16 pounds total. I don't remember what I weighed, since I last went to the doctor. I started out at 345 and thank God I'm not there anymore!

Yesterday, I cried on my sweetheart's shoulder..They have this new movie coming out about a plus sized girl who grew up unloved. Surprisingly, she looks like me and she has my name! I thought, whoah! Did they really make this movie come out? I felt a bit embarrassed when they showed the preview before we seen the movie we went to go see called "Madea Goes to Jail." Everyone laughed at this girl. Deep down inside I felt as if they were laughing at me. I came home and told my friend that I'm tired of trying to be strong and block all of the thing that people say about me. I literally said that I didn't want to go through this anymore-being fat. I don't want to be on this earth. I thought that would be the best solution. I felt that God was trying to tell me soemthing because of this movie but instead I got angry with God thinking he was trying to pay me back for all the sins I've commited. I'm not a devil or soemthing but you know everyone has sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. However, that was not the case. He told me that he knew that I was very emotional and very timid when it comes down to public abuse about my weight. The thing about it was...I never really got ridiculed directly but indirectly from the public. My worst critics were myself and my family. He is someone I thought I could never tell the "Real" story to about me and how I feel about my weight. I make jokes about my weight as a sign of securing the premises because I wanted to do that before anyone else would. anywho, he told me that I was beautiful and that the only persont that could help me was God. I feel as if I'm ADDICTED to food! I thought I couldn't stop eating stuff. i would throw up and eat. Wake up in the moring and feel the impulse TOO eat. Why? I don't know so don't ask lol. Now, it makes a lot of since. This is my body. I want a result. I HAVE TO PUT MORE EFFORT..That's it. That's all to it. I know it is easier said than done. So, I'm going to stop saying it and DO IT. The race is not given to the swift, but to he that endureth to the end. I thank God for understanding. I'm ready to do this. I'm hitting the gym in the morning. No more consuming a lot of food, more than my band can hold, and throwing up. If I throw up, its gonna be because my band made me do it...not me...So, I started saying in December there's going to be an 09 Precious that won't be eating the way she did AFTER being banded in 08. I'm doing this strictly for me. I want to wear hot clothes. I want to be a healthy nurse one day. I want to dance without getting tired. I want to be free from this emotional distress brought about by my weight. Everyone keeps saying Precious, you have to get that weight off. They don't understand that I try so hard to do that though. I try and try. I thought I did. I kept saying what do youthink I got this band for? WEll, that's just it. Why did I get this band? to keep eating the way I did? No. With the support of few and the ridicule of many, I'm going to make this work for me. For my future. For that money spent lol. Time to show this world what PRECIOUS..is really about. Piece and love to you bandsters! I'm praying for the best. IF you are a Christian person, pray for my success. SEe you soon when I'm the top headlines with the before and after pictures worthy of great progress. Like the rapper Nelly says, "I'm on a mission and its sort of like a mystery and I ain't stoppin til I go down in history." So, true. Let's do it. NOW. I'm doing it. NOW God bless!