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I guess I am one of the weird ones. I love all the cooking game shows liked Chopped and anything with Guy Fieri (Pre and Post Op). It doesn't trigger me, I get some kind of perverse pleasure in watching other people enjoy the food LOL

So would they say the same thing if you had your gallbladder or appendix removed to save your life? I don’t think so. They are looking at it as cosmetic not as a means to extend your life.

So would they say the same thing if you had your gallbladder or appendix removed to save your life? I don’t think so. They are looking at it as cosmetic not as a means to extend your life.

Yes, I do agree. I don't think people realize how things come out of their mouth sometimes.
Sometimes, it is just plain mean and they still don't think it is.. those people are dicks. LOL
For example I was told "if you loose too much more weight you will be unattractive to me" lol.. ok 1st: it is fine that you like big girls, 2: I don't care if I am "attractive to YOU".. I care I am happy with myself and attractive to my partner. And, honestly.. if my weight loss became UN attractive to my partner.. that wouldn't stop me either it just may stop my relationship..
This is for me.. for just about the first time ever.. it is FOR ME..

I'm ugly crying right now. I'm below 300, for the first time in almost 18 years. I can't believe it. I don't even have words. I never thought I would see this. I really didn't. I can't wrap my head around this. I'm below 300. I'M NOT 300 ANYMORE!!!!!!!

Me! I had VSG on 06.21.22

I eat faster than I should but my stomach will let me know it's too fast, I am still measuring my food though. 4 months out.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I just got back from a work function where we were fed several meals buffet style. Someone made a comment each time "you aren't eating very much". I just said, "not that hungry" LOL

Whelp six months post op tomorrow!

I still do not have "hunger" but I find myself more snacky over the last few weeks. It is annoying. I still stay within my plan limits 98% of the time, sometimes going over my calories (within 100) but usually with still healthier Snacks and foods.
I have been eating out more because life is so crazy and hectic right now, which I need to chill there too.

We are going to Florida/Disney the first week of October so I will be forced to eat out then, which is just another reason to stop now.

Overall I really don't have any complaints. No issues, and still kicking butt.

I see my surgeon for my 6 month check up next week and I am still ahead of the predicted weight loss chart he gave me.

I am JUST NOW starting to really see my weight loss in full body pictures. Even more so since I have been wearing clothes that fit rather than huge and falling off.
Tons of friends have been commenting and sending me inspiring messages or when they see me say something. It is kind of nice that people are noticing the work I am putting in. Regardless of that, when I saw pictures of myself from the weekend I was like WHOA who is this person?!?!

Flipside, I look like a half deflated Water balloon naked. 😂😝 HAHA!

KEEP GOING PEOPLE- WE GOT THIS!

6 months and hit 100 lbs loss today since surgery and 137 total!

@GreatDanish916 Glad you are doing well! I’m only 3 months out but I get stomach hungry, not head hungry.

Sharing a blog post I wrote a few years ago that I thought might help some of you...
On the face of it, losing weight seems so simple. How many times have we all heard statements like “just eat less and move more!” While that type of sentiment is factually true, it can be incredibly hard in practice. The reason is because we all are creatures of habit.
Now when I say habit, I don’t want you to think of the negative connotation we sometimes give to the word habit. Habits can be and often are, good things. An example would be brushing your teeth before bed. If that’s a habit you have (may of us do), it would be hard to classify that as a bad thing. We do it partly because we know we should, but also because it’s just become a habit, and things would feel off if we didn’t do it. In fact, because so much of what we do on a day-to-day basis is routine, habits help us get those things done without having to exert much extra mental energy to them.
It follows that if we want weight loss or other healthy behaviors to become habit, we have to “hack” our brains a little. We do that by replacing old behaviors with new behaviors. Over time, the new behavior become a habit that replaces the old behavior we want to get rid of.
This again sound simple enough, but because we as humans are wired to seek out rewards, we sometimes do things we know we shouldn’t. This means we can’t just flip a switch and start working out, or ”eating better” (whatever that means). We first have to make sure the reward we get for the current behavior is minimized, and the reward we get for the new behavior is maximized. By doing that, we can slowly change behavior.
To make this easier, I have grouped behavior change into six dimensions we need to focus on:

We’ll start with the 3 dimensions of motivation.
Motivation is often misunderstood, so I want you to think about it a little differently than you may think of it now. Motivation is simply the mental processes that drive your behavior. Thus when someone says “I have no motivation”, that’s actually incorrect. They do have motivation, they just have motivation to do something else.
Personal Motivation – These are things that internally motivate you as an individual person to act in a particular way. There are several factors that make up personal motivation, but the most important factor is how a new behavior makes you feel vs. the current behavior. To change behavior, we need to minimize the negatives associated with the new, desired behavior and maximize the positive aspects of it. We also want to do the exact opposite for the bad behavior we want to replace.
For a more personal example, I like fishing but am not a big fan of slow cardio (too boring to me). I can turn boring exercise into playing simply by using a row boat or kayak to fish from, rather than a motorized boat. If you have small children, you could play tag or hide and go seek with them, rather than walking on a treadmill.
Social Motivation – This form of motivation is all based on the fact that at our core, people are social animals. In short, we crave acceptance by others. While this can be a negative if taken to the extreme, we can also make it work to our benefit. Examples would be having one or more accountability partners or using social pressure to ensure compliance.
Structural Motivation – Also known as the “carrot & stick”. The goal is to find ways to add in additional punishments for bad behavior and rewards for good behavior. For example, many people find that meaningful financial rewards or punishments can drastically impact behavior. An example might be “placing a bet” with a family member that you will not eat any highly processed foods for the next month. If you succeed, you get the payout, but if you fail, you have to pay instead. Obviously the carrots & sticks don’t have to be financial at all, but for many people money is a big motivator.
We move now from Motivation to Ability.
I want you to think of ability as how prepared you are to replace bad behaviors with good ones. It does us no good to be super motivated to take on a new good habit if we don’t have the knowledge, skills, or ability to actually incorporate the that habit into our lives.
Personal Ability – This is all about learning and developing the skills, tools & knowledge you’ll need to actively engage in the new behavior. For example, if my goal was to use horseback riding as exercise, I’d have to get a horse, find a place to board the horse, learn to ride, learn to care for the horse, etc. before that could become a reality. This is obviously an extreme case, but too many times we expect that simply having motivation will be sufficient to reach a goal. The fact is it’s not. No matter what the goal is, there is some level of knowledge or skill needed to make it happen. A more concrete example might be “wanting to eat more vegetables”. For many people, this is a challenge not because they don’t like vegetables, but because they have no idea how to prepare them. Learning to do so would be the TRUE first step to a better diet.
Social Ability – Teamwork is the operative word here. Perhaps you really struggle to walk enough on a daily basis, but you also know if you have someone to walk with you, it would make it much more enjoyable for you. This can also refer to using a coach or expert to help. If you know you need to use strength training to reach your goals, but don’t have any idea where to start. Enlisting the help of a professional might be just the thing you need.
Structural Ability – I like to think of this one as cheating to your advantage! So many times, we create environments where we’re almost bound to fail. Examples are things like keeping a bag of chocolate or saving your “fat clothes” just in case. Another classic example would be failing to plan meals ahead of time. Instead, we need to change everything we can about our environment to support us making good choices and eliminating anything that causes us to stumble.
Taken together, these six sources of habit change can help you replace bad habits with good ones, but it’s not magic. You still have to work at it and you still have to make yourself more aware of when and why you are choosing bad habits over good ones. This awareness is really the first step to success.

So I have a few things to update on. I haven't been super active lately because things have been crazy.
First, I finally got rid of my size 26/28 clothes!!! I had them bagged up for a good week and a half and I finally pulled the trigger and got rid of them. All of my work clothes, shoes, and size 10 jewelry was donated to Dress for Success. My casual clothes and pajamas were donated equally between a local homeless shelter and a local domestic violence shelter. I'm currently in size 22/24 clothes, but they're starting to get big on me (I'm in like a size 21 lol But there isn't a size 21, so...) Once I make it to a size 18/20, I'll do it all over again.
Second, I'm in another stall. I have been for the last 8 days or so. I know because it's following the same pattern as the last 2 I had. I gain 3 pounds and then sit there for weeks, then drop like 5 pounds when it breaks (first stall lasted about a week and a half. Second one lasted 2 1/2 weeks. I figure I might be looking at 3 1/2 or 4 weeks now). I'm used to it now so I'm not freaking out. BUT, my size 9 rings are too big. I need size 8 1/2 and like I said, the size 22/24 clothes are starting to be too big. So even though the scale isn't moving, I'm still winning!!!
Third, I FINALLY got my appointment for the scope. The GI cocktail has helped me be able to eat some food, but I still have to be careful. I'm now on 80mg of Nexium daily and I take the GI cocktail 10-15 minutes before eating anything. I can actually sleep in my bed again, so that's good. Looking forward to this scope to get to the bottom of everything once and for all.
Fourth, been working my tail off finishing my last 2 classes for my degree!!! I'm a little over half way finished, and it's been exciting. I've been working on this degree for the last 11 years, so to finally be at the finish line is amazing. I had been putting it off and as my health and weight started getting better, I just became super motivated to finish and finally have my degree. My graduation is in December, and I FULLY intend to be below 300 when I go. That's my new goal. I have 3 months. I think I can do it. I'm at 322 right now (remember I gained 3 pounds before just sitting at this weight?) so if I can lose 23 pounds in 3 months, I'll hit multiple goals at once. So excited!!!!!
Well, that's about it for now. Hope everyone is enjoying their 3 days weekend. My daughter's birthday is Tuesday, and we're letting her miss school and we're taking her out to lunch and then to do a little shopping (she's turning 16). Have a good one

Girl, I feel your pain. I just made an appointment with a counselor because I'm about to lose my mind. My husband is an alcoholic. Every night is him bitching about everything wrong in the world. I try really hard to keep a positive attitude. I know things in the world are shitty but I don't focus on what I can't control. My work life is stressful as we are getting ready to go through a merger and realistically don't know if we will have jobs or if we do, what they will be. I just hit my 20 years with this company so I am feeling a little sad. Then I have to go home and listen to him until he goes to bed. I'm frustrated to say the least. Rant over.

OMG Sleeve , I had to check the ID on your post to check it wasn't me that hadn't written about it and forgot !!
I have also been married for 17 years ,I was the worker - he stayed home and was a house husband .Well the years have gone by and now he does absolutely nothing .I mean nothing ! He sits at his laptop gaming all day , only getting up to eat , smoke , and go to the toilet .That's it .He doesn't even walk the dog when I can't .He gets a 74 year old neighbour to do it .He is 55 and weighs 308 Ibs and he could really do with a sleeve .He eats junk food all day in between smoking .It has got to the point (and I only had my surgery on the 17th August ) where he doesn't care if the dog's Water bowl isn't fresh , he still expects me to bend down and refill despite the hernia repair and sleeve op .In fact prob like you ,I have had to put the washing in and do all the jobs to keep the house going - if I ask him to do the tiniest thing he has a strop .
Ugh .I know exactly how you feel .We both want new starts but our husbands are almost making it far harder than it actually is .He is already saying "well I might have had one of those sleeves but look at what I'm eating now and you're going hungry ."
I am going to lose this weight ,despite his negativity ,then I'm going to have gather some self esteem and consider what on earth my future will be like .There has to be a better way forward than this - for both of us Sleeve X

Girl, I feel your pain. I just made an appointment with a counselor because I'm about to lose my mind. My husband is an alcoholic. Every night is him bitching about everything wrong in the world. I try really hard to keep a positive attitude. I know things in the world are shitty but I don't focus on what I can't control. My work life is stressful as we are getting ready to go through a merger and realistically don't know if we will have jobs or if we do, what they will be. I just hit my 20 years with this company so I am feeling a little sad. Then I have to go home and listen to him until he goes to bed. I'm frustrated to say the least. Rant over.

Girl, I feel your pain. I just made an appointment with a counselor because I'm about to lose my mind. My husband is an alcoholic. Every night is him bitching about everything wrong in the world. I try really hard to keep a positive attitude. I know things in the world are shitty but I don't focus on what I can't control. My work life is stressful as we are getting ready to go through a merger and realistically don't know if we will have jobs or if we do, what they will be. I just hit my 20 years with this company so I am feeling a little sad. Then I have to go home and listen to him until he goes to bed. I'm frustrated to say the least. Rant over.

Girl, I feel your pain. I just made an appointment with a counselor because I'm about to lose my mind. My husband is an alcoholic. Every night is him bitching about everything wrong in the world. I try really hard to keep a positive attitude. I know things in the world are shitty but I don't focus on what I can't control. My work life is stressful as we are getting ready to go through a merger and realistically don't know if we will have jobs or if we do, what they will be. I just hit my 20 years with this company so I am feeling a little sad. Then I have to go home and listen to him until he goes to bed. I'm frustrated to say the least. Rant over.

Girl, I feel your pain. I just made an appointment with a counselor because I'm about to lose my mind. My husband is an alcoholic. Every night is him bitching about everything wrong in the world. I try really hard to keep a positive attitude. I know things in the world are shitty but I don't focus on what I can't control. My work life is stressful as we are getting ready to go through a merger and realistically don't know if we will have jobs or if we do, what they will be. I just hit my 20 years with this company so I am feeling a little sad. Then I have to go home and listen to him until he goes to bed. I'm frustrated to say the least. Rant over.

Girl, I feel your pain. I just made an appointment with a counselor because I'm about to lose my mind. My husband is an alcoholic. Every night is him bitching about everything wrong in the world. I try really hard to keep a positive attitude. I know things in the world are shitty but I don't focus on what I can't control. My work life is stressful as we are getting ready to go through a merger and realistically don't know if we will have jobs or if we do, what they will be. I just hit my 20 years with this company so I am feeling a little sad. Then I have to go home and listen to him until he goes to bed. I'm frustrated to say the least. Rant over.

I just got back from a work function where we were fed several meals buffet style. Someone made a comment each time "you aren't eating very much". I just said, "not that hungry" LOL

I just got back from a work function where we were fed several meals buffet style. Someone made a comment each time "you aren't eating very much". I just said, "not that hungry" LOL

As of today, I am exactly 3 1/2 months post sleeve surgery and have lost 61 pounds!!!! I can't believe it!!! I still feel like I'm fighting for every pound, but I also knew PCOS would do that to me. Still, I'm so so happy that I hit that weight. I know it's going to get tougher the more time that goes by, but the fact that I'm losing and not putting the weight back on is huge!!!! I'm so excited. My next goal is to hit 320 (that will officially put me at a lower weight than I was with Keto - even though I lost 100 pounds then, and it'll only be 67 pounds now, because I went into the surgery a lower weight than I was at when I started keto). After that, my next goal is to hit 299 and be under 300 for the first time since 2005.

Happy Birthday!!! Thanks for this update. I was in Vegas over the weekend and too scared to drink as I have read horror stories. I think the first time I will do it at home in case I get sick or stupid (or both LOL)

I have found that every phase of drinking is faster. The buzz hits quicker, but doesn't last as long, quickly giving way to the hangover (the headache you woke up with), and by early morning it's like it never happened. Be careful as this can really annoy partners that go through everything at the normal pace and wake with the hangover. So be sensitive and refrain from slamming doors and drawers over much, unless they acted poorly the night before.
Good Luck,
Tek