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I have started getting hunger pains, and when I do, I grab another shake. I made sure to have a variety so I could have different flavors depending what I was in the modd for. I also have different broths. My favorite food ever is wanton Soup and pho. So I bought pho broth and also wonton soup (strained it so I had the broth and not the other stuff) and when I have that, I feel "normal" because it's broth I normally eat. I also have the usual veg broth, chicken broth, etc. And I don't stick to a strict schedule. I have something any time I feel hungry (I'm drinking Protein Water throughout the day).

When I get like that it’s because I’m not getting enough Protein, so I drink my shake! Make sure you reread your meal plan and follow it to a tee. It helps! 1 week post op the mere thought of having to eat made me a little nauseous. First priority is protein. Make sure to ask your nutritionist contact if you’re not sure!!

You know, I completely forgot about coffee. While on the pre op liquid diet, I would drink Decaf coffee and it did keep me full for quite a while. Thank you so much for responding so quickly and thanks for the suggestion that helped me remember what helped. On my way to the store now to stock up on decaf coffee🙂 You're a life saver!

You know, I completely forgot about coffee. While on the pre op liquid diet, I would drink Decaf coffee and it did keep me full for quite a while. Thank you so much for responding so quickly and thanks for the suggestion that helped me remember what helped. On my way to the store now to stock up on decaf coffee🙂 You're a life saver!

First off, PLEASE DO NOT CHEAT. At this time it wouldn’t be just a few extra calories. Your tummy is still healing and you could seriously hurt yourself. That being said it is possible what you are experiencing is actual hunger (a few do) but more likey that it is just extra acid or head hunger. Are you on a PPI? Many doctors prescribe them automatically but some you have to ask for it. The way to know the difference between actual and head hunger is by what you are craving. If you are craving something specific (usually something you should not have) it is most likely head hunger. Actual hunger you will be craving anything. Even another Protein Shake sounds good. Some people say warm liquids such as tea and coffee help with the hunger whatever the cause. Not sure if you can have caffeine yet but I’m sure Decaf works as well.

Hello
About nine years ago I had the gastric sleeve and lost a bunch of weight.
I gained it all back.
Almost a year ago I had bypass surgery and have done very well. I’ve lost over 90 pounds and am less than 10 pounds away from my goal. I am taking it far more seriously this time and feel I will keep it off.
My problem is that when I look in the mirror I only see a person that weighs 250 pounds and feel like a fraud when I’m shopping for a size 12 in pants.
Am I the only one or have other people had struggles with this as well?
thanks

I think this is very common! I am almost 8 months out and I know in my head my body has changed drastically, but sometimes I have a very hard time seeing it. I have found that looking at pictures side by side helps, taking measurements helps, and comparing some of my old pants to current ones can help, too. Sometimes, when its really bad, TOUCHING my body can help. This is a well established therapeutic grounding technique, so it helps get me out of my own head, but it also just makes the change very visceral. My body FEELS different. And sometimes I just need to FEEL the changes with my own two hands for it to feel real. Like, I can wrap my fingers around my writs and doing that feels very concrete, which forces my brain to acknowledge the changes. Its hard sometimes for our brains to catch up, but hang in there! You will see it!

You are experiencing what is called body dysmorphia. Many people benefit from taking a current photo of themselves and putting it next to a pre op photo.

I have the same issues. I keep thinking when I put my size 10/12 clothes on that they're so small there's no way they will fit, but they do. I alternate between seeing myself as really a lot different and seeing myself as huge in the mirror. I still have a lot of fat in my tummy (and a lot of loose skin) so it's hard to imagine I am actually SMALLER than the average person now!

I have gone from wearing 6xl shirts to 2xl/3xl. Every time I go to put on a shirt, I think to myself, "There is no way this is going to fit." So every morning is a pleasant surprise when it does.
This is VERY common. If all I had to go on was the mirror (as opposed to people's comments or measurements or how my clothes fit), I would think I had only lost 20 pounds instead of 180 pounds.

Your body goes into shock after the surgery & a lot of the hormones that regulate certain functions go haywire making your levels go up or down. Then some hormones, like oestrogen, are stored in your fat & as you lose weight they are released into your blood stream & cause issues like mess up your menstrual cycle. You may find your cholesterol goes up too & your liver function is off too. They all settle eventually & many, like your sugar & cholesterol, will be much lower.

I had high sugars the first three weeks PO and then my sugar dropped to 105 and then under 100 there after - consistently. I stopped checking about 3 weeks ago. I'm 8 weeks PO (gastric bypass). My doctor explained it to me as my body adjusting and healing. I was worried at first but they were correct. My sugars dropped and I'm feeling great. Give yourself a little time, I understand it is hard not to be concerned though, because it's a lingering concern from before and something we were always told to watch. They took me off all medicine immediately after surgery and I haven't had to take anything other than my thyroid and Multivitamin.

@Dumbguy Sorry to hear you went through that experience, it is never easy, and it's even worse on the kids. Seems like you are better off without her. And you are focusing on what is important, being a father for your kids when they need you the most. Best of luck!

I wonder if the 85% divorce rate is due to the fact that the obese person was undervalued in the relationship? Once they regain their self esteem they are able to explore options which weren’t available to them previously.

Cheating is not a solution to your problem. Listen to yoyrself - go reread your post a few times. - While you are fat, you seek less attention and have no problwm being faithful. You fear more attention will lead to cheating. You sound like getting excess attention is the problem. The problem is in your head, your upbringing, or both. You need counseling to sort this out, it could be a high libido or it could be an addiction or other problem.
If you are committed to your marriage, you DON'T CHEAT period, regardless of libido.
Self-sex.
But you could be using this libido thing because you secretly want to cheat, better examine this closer.

My experience....is that Infidelity, by itself, is almost never the integral issue.
Infidelity is a symptom of a bigger underlying problem in a marriage that isn't working.
People in happy marriages don't cheat.
Not to say there aren't marriages and couples who survive a bout of cheating...but it's a huge red flag that more is wrong than meets the eye.
Without addressing the underlying issues, the marriage becomes doomed.
Remember that 85% of people who get bariatric surgery get divorced.
If you're "happily married" and cheating...you're either a massive narcissist, or are in serious denial.