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laurenantics

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    laurenantics got a reaction from Smanky in My husband doesn't want me to have surgery   
    While I believe that you do indeed need to have a heart-to-heart with your husband and explain exactly how your feeling and lay out all of the emotions and reasons behind your decision to do what you want to your body... I disagree that you need to spend the rest of your life explaining yourself to him. Additionally, once you've laid your heart out on the table and explained your decision, (IMO) he'll need to make a decision to support you, his wife, or to not support you.
    While I appreciate @thegreaterfool giving you the man's point of view, I don't think it took into account what you need from your spouse. You need support from your spouse just as much as your spouse needs you to support him. It's a give and take ... not just a give, give, give. So while yes, he needs to hear and feel your support to quell his worries right now, you're going to need his support too. 50/50 give and take, not just give and give some more. He has to care about your relationship as much as you do to put in his 50%.
    Best of luck to you and I hope your talk with him goes well and that he's able to understand your choice and decision enough to partner with you on the decision and you can carry each other moving forward. Because this is a huge life decision, you're going to need him, too.
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    laurenantics got a reaction from Smanky in My husband doesn't want me to have surgery   
    While I believe that you do indeed need to have a heart-to-heart with your husband and explain exactly how your feeling and lay out all of the emotions and reasons behind your decision to do what you want to your body... I disagree that you need to spend the rest of your life explaining yourself to him. Additionally, once you've laid your heart out on the table and explained your decision, (IMO) he'll need to make a decision to support you, his wife, or to not support you.
    While I appreciate @thegreaterfool giving you the man's point of view, I don't think it took into account what you need from your spouse. You need support from your spouse just as much as your spouse needs you to support him. It's a give and take ... not just a give, give, give. So while yes, he needs to hear and feel your support to quell his worries right now, you're going to need his support too. 50/50 give and take, not just give and give some more. He has to care about your relationship as much as you do to put in his 50%.
    Best of luck to you and I hope your talk with him goes well and that he's able to understand your choice and decision enough to partner with you on the decision and you can carry each other moving forward. Because this is a huge life decision, you're going to need him, too.
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    laurenantics reacted to boogie2dope in Not Losing   
    Is it possible that being too low in the caloric intake scale can actually stall weight loss? I would think at a deficit, no matter how small, weight loss would still happen, but I've read that the body can stop losing and try to maintain bc it thinks it's in trouble. Maybe someone can shed more light on this?
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    laurenantics got a reaction from Smanky in My husband doesn't want me to have surgery   
    While I believe that you do indeed need to have a heart-to-heart with your husband and explain exactly how your feeling and lay out all of the emotions and reasons behind your decision to do what you want to your body... I disagree that you need to spend the rest of your life explaining yourself to him. Additionally, once you've laid your heart out on the table and explained your decision, (IMO) he'll need to make a decision to support you, his wife, or to not support you.
    While I appreciate @thegreaterfool giving you the man's point of view, I don't think it took into account what you need from your spouse. You need support from your spouse just as much as your spouse needs you to support him. It's a give and take ... not just a give, give, give. So while yes, he needs to hear and feel your support to quell his worries right now, you're going to need his support too. 50/50 give and take, not just give and give some more. He has to care about your relationship as much as you do to put in his 50%.
    Best of luck to you and I hope your talk with him goes well and that he's able to understand your choice and decision enough to partner with you on the decision and you can carry each other moving forward. Because this is a huge life decision, you're going to need him, too.
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    laurenantics reacted to The Greater Fool in My husband doesn't want me to have surgery   
    @laurenantics, we need to call our marriage off.
    I usually do a couple paragraphs on the importance of communication, and more about relationships being about 100 commitment and more communication.
    Then a bit on the importance of variety in sexual positions and role play in public.
    You know, the obvious stuff.
    But I had to pretend to work for a while, so couldn't hit the usual high points, so I'm sorry to say I rushed it a bit.
    Trust me when I say the silent motto around here is "happy wife, happy life" and any man worth his salt has figured this about by year 20. 25 tops.
    So, I could reprise any of the parts I missed if anyone would like to read them.
    Good wishes and good luck,
    Tek

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    laurenantics got a reaction from Smanky in My husband doesn't want me to have surgery   
    While I believe that you do indeed need to have a heart-to-heart with your husband and explain exactly how your feeling and lay out all of the emotions and reasons behind your decision to do what you want to your body... I disagree that you need to spend the rest of your life explaining yourself to him. Additionally, once you've laid your heart out on the table and explained your decision, (IMO) he'll need to make a decision to support you, his wife, or to not support you.
    While I appreciate @thegreaterfool giving you the man's point of view, I don't think it took into account what you need from your spouse. You need support from your spouse just as much as your spouse needs you to support him. It's a give and take ... not just a give, give, give. So while yes, he needs to hear and feel your support to quell his worries right now, you're going to need his support too. 50/50 give and take, not just give and give some more. He has to care about your relationship as much as you do to put in his 50%.
    Best of luck to you and I hope your talk with him goes well and that he's able to understand your choice and decision enough to partner with you on the decision and you can carry each other moving forward. Because this is a huge life decision, you're going to need him, too.
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    laurenantics got a reaction from Arabesque in Food Before and After Photos   
    I'm a hotel concierge, so I make a lot of dining reservations at places I could never afford. So I like to go online to all of the menu's of the places I book and build 'the perfect meal' from them. It's so much fun just dreaming and pretending I'm rich and can eat anything I desire. For me, it's a fun game and doesn't mess with my mind or make me hungry.
  8. Congrats!
    laurenantics reacted to ceecee.100 in Weirdest None-Scale-Victory - I'll go first   
    I have ankles again!!!!
  9. Haha
    laurenantics reacted to TinDE in Weirdest None-Scale-Victory - I'll go first   
    I have shoulders!!

  10. Congrats!
    laurenantics reacted to Dtrain84 in I've gained weight...   
    ...muscle weight that is. I'm in the gym 6 days a week. I decided to bulk up because wasn't happy with being slim and slender. I went from 175 to 205 and haven't went up in clothing size. This is the same shirt in both pictures. I love filling out my shirts now..lol.

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    laurenantics reacted to Dtrain84 in I've gained weight...   
    Thank you! You know I love being well put together..lol. I've added to my wardrobe, I just haven't worn them yet. Here's a blast from the recent past..lol

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    laurenantics reacted to NeenersNW in 41gram protein shake   
    I just wanted to share a Protein Shake that has helped me get through my post op liquid phase after VSG. It tastes amazing imo like a Peanut Butter and jelly sandwich 🥪 best of all just shake it in your shaker cup and enjoy!
    8 0z 1% milk
    2 tablespoons PB2 powder peanut butter
    1 scoop unflavored Protein
    1tsp sugar free raspberry Syrup

  13. Haha
    laurenantics reacted to The Greater Fool in Positive pregnancy test after gastric sleeve   
    Well, when a man loves a woman...
    Tek
  14. Haha
    laurenantics reacted to SBG in Weirdest None-Scale-Victory - I'll go first   
    -jumped right up on the tailgate of the truck today!
    -fit in the space between the stairs and the wall in the barn to chase baby chicks. Always had to call the kids before.
    -RAN from spot to spot at my son’s cross country meet
    -couldn’t move a heavy piece of furniture that I’ve always moved by using my weight. Just stood there confused until I figured out the why.....then I started grinning.
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    laurenantics got a reaction from GreenTealael in Common Channel length for DS?   
    Mine is 100 cc - Traditional DS
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    laurenantics got a reaction from AngieL11282 in Did you taste buds change immediately?   
    It was immediate for me, the Bone Broth I loved and couldn't get enough of pre-op suddenly tasted like liquid pennies to me. In general, I'm not as huge of a fan of salt as I used to be and I've found myself craving spicy as opposed to salty.
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    laurenantics reacted to Candace76 in July 2021 Surgery People!   
    JMTaylor, eholmes89, & laurenantics,
    It sounds like you are all doing so well! Congratulations on your weight losses.👏 It can be hard to avoid comparing your weight loss with others. We need to remind ourselves that we're all different. I think it also may even out, somewhat (of course there are extremely quickly or slow losers), some lose a lot right away & then may have longer stalls. I think we all just want to get to our goal so badly. We'll get there! 😁🏆
  18. Congrats!
    laurenantics got a reaction from Candace76 in July 2021 Surgery People!   
    I started out far, far heavier than most. My 12 week mark is tomorrow and today I'm at 58 pounds lost since surgery and 79 pounds lost since prep diet in June. And still, there are people out there losing faster than me and I get all upset that I'm not losing as fast as some.
    It really can mess with your head.
    I'm slowly coming to grips with not being fast "enough" for my start weight. But comparing ourselves is a big problem in my opinion.
  19. Congrats!
    laurenantics reacted to bhrobins in Male Tummy Tuck Thread   
    Sunday - 3 days post op - 1st shower day. Never had a shower felt so nice. Had to rig up a lanyard for the drains, but otherwise all went well. Unfortunately, realized I had the wrong gauze/cotton padding and my wife had to make a quick run to the store before I could get trussed back up.
    Here are some mortifying before and after shots. Lots of swelling still, especially on the "love handle" area. It feels tight.
    Overall I think I will be pleased, but it is difficult to imagine what the final results will look like at this stage.
    The extra horizontal lines above the incision are some scrapes from the edges of the compression bands.







  20. Congrats!
    laurenantics reacted to bhrobins in Male Tummy Tuck Thread   
    Extended Abdominoplasty complete!
    Surgery was at 7:30 today, and all went well. I was home by about 3pm.
    Surgeon said he took off 9 lbs of excess skin. Amazing!
    Still feeling a bit groggy this evening. Mostly just sitting and sleeping other than short walks around the house.
    I came home with a catheter and 2 drains. I am to take out the catheter on my own tomorrow morning. Should be fun.
    I'm still trussed up with a couple of compression wraps Not much pain now, but have only been home a few hours.
    More updates to come.
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    laurenantics got a reaction from learn2cook in 3 options: which one would you choose?   
    What are your stats?

    The last thing I’d do is a fasting coach, personally.
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    laurenantics got a reaction from learn2cook in 3 options: which one would you choose?   
    What are your stats?

    The last thing I’d do is a fasting coach, personally.
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    laurenantics reacted to Mike Long in 6 month post Op update   
    Thank you! I’m walking at a 15 min mile. So it takes me about 75 mins. I own a treadmill but I walk 99% outside. I’ve found the key is to go on different routes. I sometimes walk downtown, around our park, around my neighborhood or the high school track. I’ve found that walking does wonders for me and not just the calorie burn. I put on my music and just get mental clarity. I highly suggest it if you’re able.
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    laurenantics got a reaction from Mike Long in 6 month post Op update   
    How amazing your progress is! Congratulations!
    My curious questions are, how long does it take you to walk the five miles? Are you doing it out in the real world or on a treadmill?
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    laurenantics reacted to _Shane_ in Lost all of my 2020 regain in the past 2 months!   
    Hey fellow DSers...
    Just a little story from me, a DSer roughly 2 1/2 years out.
    I underwent the DS on 8/13/2018, and effortlessly lost over 100% of my excess weight.
    So during the 2020 lockdown I think a number of circumstances contributed to me gaining ~30 pounds of regain! I'm not sure when the regain precisely started, probably sometime in April 2020, since I wasn't logging my weight by that time.
    Now to the DS's credit, even with that 30 pounds I was still within the "normal" BMI for my height, at around 24 BMI. This regain wasn't disastrous, but I certainly didn't like the trend.
    Basically I believe I got overconfident in the DS, and what the DS can do. The DS does have an "achilles-heel" and that's simple refined carbs. The powerful malabsorption properties of the DS are defeated by simple refined grains and simple sugars. In addition, those foods seem to be "slider foods" as I can fill up quickly, but they pass though the sleeve quickly so I'm ready for more.. For some reason (depression, low fat absorption, who knows) I developed quite the sweet tooth, and I ate as much chocolate and candy that I wanted (which was a lot). I also ate processed high-carb-laden frozen foods, grilled cheese sandwiches, quesadillas, pizza, fast-food breakfasts and lunches, etc. I didn't eat a huge amount at once, as I still have good restriction.. but it all added up. Oh and of course no physical activity or exercise.
    On around Jan 21st I decided to take control again and got back to basics... eliminated all simple carbs/sugars/etc, logged and counted calories, though I didn't exercise. The DS worked it's magic, and I'll post a screenshot of my weight log over the past 2 months.
    The last time I logged my weight in MyFitnessPal was Dec. 7th, 2019 at 133.2 lbs. I'm not sure why I stopped logging - probably because my weight didn't move much at that point. I made it my goal to lose all my regain since that point - so 133.2 lbs. was my goal. It's really a bit low a weight for me, but I wanted to start from where I last left off and rebuild good habits from that point, not a point of regain.
    The loss wasn't really that difficult, and I wasn't really all that hungry very often. I still have good restriction - the "cottage cheese" tests seems to indicate I have about a 6.5 oz sleeve capacity, may 7 or 7.5 if pushed or with certain foods, and less with dense Proteins.
    I love the DS. Best decision ever.



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