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Ah I see. Well, everyone makes mistakes, but eating solid food two weeks out can cause serious complications. Not trying to alarm you or anything, but just keep an eye on it and see how you feel. Hopefully it was just a blip and you’ll be absolutely fine don’t beat yourself up, this is a difficult journey for everyone but just learn from your mistake.


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Dust yourself off. Just don’t do it again.
Continue to weigh your food so you don’t over eat.

Love him, too! Eat a wonderful salad everyday. Hubby enjoys a green smoothie each morning. Most thankful and glad to have made it to the penthouse! Dr. V is spot on when stating so many in the field often have such low expectations for their patients. As my Naval Academy father use to say, "If you're going to do something half-assed, don't do it at all!" Dad was and Dr. Vuong is a colorful communicator, but I've never doubted his sincerity, intelligence + care for the bari community. Ditto... very supportive, informative and encouraging! ;]

I love Dr Vuong! He really does tell it to you straight, doesn’t he?! He’s written 13 books on bariatric surgery; check them out! I got mine through Amazon. His “colorful” language cracks me up! 😂 Have you watched the video about “staying on the elevator?” Very motivational!!!

I’ve been reading books and watching YouTube videos by Dr Vuong. He’s a Bariatric surgeon who gives information about every stage of the process. His book ‘Gastric Sleeve Success’ was very informative; but I love his videos! He’s given me much more information than my dietician and he tells it to you straight... no fluff.

Watch Dr Vuong’s video on YouTube about what to eat after weight loss surgery. He’s a Bariatric surgeon and tells you what you need to know at each stage of the process. Very helpful!

I'll jump in here. First, my husband is the most amazing man for me. I couldn't ask for a better husband or friend. Ultimately he has supported almost every decision I have made including WLS. That being said, when I first brought it up, he did NOT like the idea. He's someone who who generally shows very little emotion outwardly and I have to pry some things out of him. What I discovered is that he was SCARED. SCARED - For him, surgery is an absolute last option for anything. He never once told me "You can't do this." (Pretty sure he knew better!) That being said, once we really started talking about it and I showed him the odds of complications, he started coming around. He still preferred that I not take the risk, but DID support my decision.

I'm still very new into this process (only 3 weeks post surgery), but now that he sees I'm fine and we have more or less resumed our normal daily lives he's very involved and supportive in the process. I had my surgery just a few days before his birthday and our new joke is that I gave him a trophy wife for his birthday!
It sounds like you have a great guy and a great relationship. A good foundation will hopefully ease him into this decision.

good morning.... Pretty much the same status i started with .... it was 2009 and at 5'2" and 232lbs. I had NO self confidence and NO sense of self. My x brought me to nothing. He (6'4" not overweight) is the most self-centered, selfish, controlling, norcicistic man you will ever met. I took it for 26 years... technically 29, we dated for 3 years. It was a gradual thing... At first it was my friends, then my co-workers, then my family. We would only do things with his friends and family. I could never do anything with friends and co-workers only if he was there. Family, i could on holidays and he would never come. He controlled everything even though i work all the time (2-3 jobs sometimes). He took all of my main jobs money. I was able to keep the cash of the other (waitress). This is what i used to buy personal stuff and my kids things. I couldn't even buy underwear without his approval. I would sew up the holes just to avoid an argument. Cut my kids pants for shorts for school.... it was ruff.
I thought all those years ago, if only i were skinny i could make him happy. Make him love me again, make him want to be with me sexually... and life would be fine. But NO, life after the band got worse. From day one he hated the thought of me losing weight. He was very degrading to me and one of the biggest was my weight. Of course, he told me all the "normal" things you tell a large person..... Your fat, no one will ever want you, you are disgusting, Lazy.... that i was ugly... But when i tried to lose weight he would always sabotage it. He knew and would still make me bring him home cake, pie, ice cream...., Then say, you don't have to eat it. Well when i decided to have WLS, he fitted out... he did everything in his power to get me to change my mind, and when i didn't and was doing my 2 week liquid diet..... he decided to go on a 4 day bike drive to the mountains. I stood strong and didn't cheat not once. As it would turn out, that trip saved me.... My company did a massive lay off and i was to be part of the over 100 to be let go. But because i wasn't there they couldn't lay me off. That Tuesday i had the band sx and went back to work the following Monday and lost my job and insurance.... It was a blessing in disguise. Over the next year, i lost 69lbs. the next year i lost 20lbs and that's pretty much where i stayed. In 2012 without him know till two day before i had a TT w/MR and Lipo to the flanks..... HOLY HELL was he mad. I thought i didn't come all this way to be left with saggy skin... As my confidence grew my tolerance of him got less and less. Even with him still degrading me.... I was too skinny, looked like a bag of bones, still ugly, but now he pointed out the wrinkles. And through it all...... Why are you losing weight? You must be cheating... NO. In 2014ish.... i got to the point where i hated going home. My oldest was out the house and married and my youngest was on his way. There was nothing at home except my dog and a hateful miserable husband. I asked him so many times for counseling... he said, if you pay for it, i'll go, but i don't need that, there is nothing wrong with me.... It's all you. That was it, the last straw... i started preparing my self to be on my own. In July of 2015 i told him that if things didn't change, i was filing for divorce come January. He of course didn't believe me, well January came and i filed. He still didn't believe i would go through with it.... but when i started going out and leaving him home he finally got it. I was gone forever. I made him move out July 4th.... My independence day..... It was like the world was lifted off me. I could breathe. And i figured if i had too, i would work 3 jobs again... My weight went up and down over the years, but never more than 20lbs.... i was at my lowest when he left 130ish. But got back to my normal 143lbs.
Dating was exhausting and fun all in one. Then in Oct i signed up for Match on a "free" week just to see what was out there in crazy land. And i met the man of my dreams.... we talk, texted for a few weeks and then met in person. I never knew men could be like this. Opened doors, pulled out chairs, walk nearest the road, carried my luggage, complimented me, listen to all my crap... Including that i was dating others and was NOT interested in a relationship. But i found myself comparing all the other men to him... and my friend said, men like him and one in a billion, take him before someone else does..... and i did. He is the most incredible man, supports me in everything including my revision to the sleeve a year ago..... and our 1 year wedding is on the 28th...

Omg girlll my situation is exactly the same. This is scary ! Smh ! Just know you have us as support here. I have finally got my family to support me and came on here 2 days ago again to find support. You got this! Don’t let him ruin your happy mood for your new life. This is what my fiancé does constantly. My kids are ages 6 and 3. So he also uses the school thing as an excuse and always saying how “This is not a good time.” Never put a time on getting healthy. Everything will fall into place. ❤️❤️❤️ My date is 9/28, I am next, I am excited, my fiancé isn’t, but it’s my body, my health, my choice. Amen.

You need a primary that is willing to run testing/labs
I went through my records and the following are the labs that my Bariatric Surgeon continuously orders to monitor my levels. Hopefully others can add to the list.
✓CBC W/ AUTO DIFF.
✓VITAMIN B12, SERUM
✓FOLATE, SERUM
✓FERRITIN, SERUM OR PLASMA
✓PREALBUMIN, SERUM
✓IRON/TRANSFERRIN, RATIO, SERUM
✓MAGNESIUM, SERUM OR PLASMA
✓LIPID PANEL, BLOOD
✓CMP, SERUM OR PLASMA
✓PTH (PARATHYROID HORMONE), INTACT, SERUM OR PLASMA
✓VITAMIN D3, 25-HYDROXY, SERUM

If you’re having no complications, you and your PCP may be able to monitor your journey. You can order your own labs through www.requestatest.com. I have used them past few years and very simple. Go to their website, order the labs you want, choose the lab nearest you to go for blood draw.
My WLS was 3/11/20, Covid took over right then, so my follow up appointments have just been brief and over the phone with surgeon/nurse. As long as I’m not having issues, all that matters to them are the labs. You can also seek out a nutritionist if you feel you need one.
So glad all is going well for you!

I am so sorry he has not been supportive or understanding of this decision, I know how it makes a huge difference when the people we love put effort into understanding us and being there for us. It seems that he does not see the value in having a more confident, happier, healthier girlfriend and what a difference that could make in so many aspects in your relationship, your life, your mental and physical health.
This decision is not about him, it is for you and about you; believe that! Please do not feel guilty or that you owe him anything from what you chose to do for your own health.

You have to love yourself first and foremost. You’re on the right track. This is for you and no one else. There are plenty of supportive men out there. Learn to love yourself first and foremost then find someone who is worthy of sharing that love.

He is an a-hole. Bottom line. I tell men from jumpstreet...”what you like is not my concern. I may inform you or run things by you, but rarely if ever will I be doing it to have your consent or blessing. EYE am the boss of me, and no one else. “ Your story is a familiar example to me as I’ve seen things like this happen to multiple relationships..it’s as if they see the success as a threat to the fortitude of the relationship. I think some men may be scared that you’ll “outgrow” them, which could very well be true, but it is an act of outright selfishness to try to put you down for bettering yourself. If he’s no longer attracted to you once you become smaller, oh well, his loss, but how could you deter someone you love from doing everything they can to live a healthier life?...

I say you go out and find another man who will love and support you unconditionally. You deserve it!

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Day 10 - a good day indeed. Today I got what I can only describe as a whoosh. Energy level is up. My daily walk was brisk and free of foot neuropathy. I ate 950 calories today. The most I have been able to get in so far. I met my Protein intake of 60 grams and had delicious Blended butternut squash and carrot Cashew soup! I went shopping for new wrist weights and I ordered a new bed. I promised myself a new bed because my old one has a huge depression where my very large bottom was. I feel better today then I have in a long time. Tomorrow is my first check up with the doctor. I’m only ten days out but I hope he advances me to purée. I’m dying to make chicken salad and feel some real food in my mouth. Feeling real good about my choice.

The important thing to understand is that it’s not a straight line. Even within a single day right now the body fluctuates in terms of recovery. I’m trying to document it best as possible for those coming after me down the road to recovery.

Day 7 - Today I had an episode of weakness and lowered pulse (54). I discussed it with my doctor and he said I need more Water. I increased my water and then just a few minutes ago, I regurgitated water and Soup. It wasn’t a whole lot and it happened as a result of trying to burp. Still have lots of gas activity. I’m feeling better then earlier in the day but I have to find the right rate of drinking water so I don’t regurgitate again. I was allowed to remove the outer dressings today and I took a nice shower with a mild soap. I use Aveno gentle body wash. I’m going to be early at night and waking up early with no naps during the day. That is a major change for me because I was sleeping up to three hours during the day at my highest weight. I’m down a total of 10.5 pounds since August 31st when I started the prep diet. I can tell that this is going to work for me. 😀

Thank you for sharing your journey. My gastric bypass surgery is scheduled for August 18. My goal is 125 pounds also.
You are really helping me to know what to expect. I’m scared and excited at the same time

Day 6 after surgery. Tenderness is nearly gone. Standing up straight without difficulty. Finally went to the bathroom yesterday after taking mirilax. I’m walking well by myself and building up to thirty minutes. Problems- Gas build up. I’m drinking too fast which is part of my old habits. I took a shower last night after wrapping myself in Saran Wrap but it didn’t stick and one of the five small dressings got wet. I cleansed the area and covered with a large dry bandage. I’m drinking clears and Premier Protein shakes. My doctor also allowed me to have a medicine cup full of sugar free pudding made with Lactaid milk to take my medication. Tolerating well without vomiting or nausea. No dumping syndrome. Calories are still under 500 at this point but fluids are tolerated well. One warning, I took a sip of some cold Water and it gave me a spasm in my belly. Cold Zico coconut water was tolerated better. Still using the 30 ml medicine cups to avoid overfilling my new stomach. Some mood issues and being snappy. Because I can’t eat junk I am “expressing myself” much more. Hubby is a bit taken aback but he needs to understand I can’t be passive anymore. It made me 125 pounds overweight.

I love reading your journey "live". I hope things are going OK for you.

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Ugh! Life can get so real sometimes. Hugs and prayers that today is better. They kept me an extra night after surgery for extreme nausea that set in late and difficulty urinating. Can totally understand your anxiety attack as so many things going on and then this idea that something else must be wrong, it’s not like what i heard this should be.😩

I’m serious though, the ride home was uneventful and within 24 hours I felt like a new woman...nothing like the fear I had felt only hours earlier. My prayer is this will happen for YOU!💝

Thanks for telling me some days you are more hungry than others. I'm starting to notice that today, now I'm ok with it since you said that. Well, we have everyone on here, so yay! Boy what a blessing everyone is. Can you imagine how anxious we would be. What a pain for doctors it must have been. Lol

I'm sorry it took so long for me to reply. I didn't get a notification that you had quoted a post of mine.
All I did was low carb (less then 30-40gr per day), at least 60gr of Protein and pushed clear fluids until I hit goal.
I had a lot to lose so it seems like I might have lost more than others, but I lost all of my excess weight (by the BMI chart standards) in around 7-8 months. I was at my and my surgeon's goal in 6.5 months with 115lbs lost.
It's just what worked for me. I just didn't mess around with carbs, ate 4 meals a day, no snacking, no b.s. Each meal consisted of a minimum of 15gr of Protein.
The people that lose less pounds in 6 months might not have as much to lose as I did, or they make have the same post-op guideline. Maybe they're not willing to low carb it. The fastest results I've seen across the board is staying in ketosis by eating low carb, pushing clear fluids. I also have no metabolic issues, or co-morbidities that could effect my weight loss numbers. I never used hormonal birth control. So, I really just pushed protein, and worked out after I hit 4 months post-op. Then I did weight lifting exercises and 1 days of cardio, that only lasted for 4 months until I had to have my gallbladder removed and was put on restricted activity because my surgeon removed hoards of scar tissue and adhesions from my abdominal cavity from all the surgeries I've had.

I haven't posted in a while and just saw this and thought I would drop in. I am currently 3 months out from being sleeved and down 55 pounds so far. Well here are some photos.

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The day of my surgery. Chub Rock ,lol!

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This week at 233! Finally able to fit in suits without major alterations and Papi Chulo is on the comeback trail.

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