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    Addicted got a reaction from Sassafras1 in Tips and Tricks   
    Water makes me nauseous. After so many trials and errors, I bought Luisianne Decaf tea bags and make tea in my cold brew coffee maker. I will drink a lot because the Luisianne is not bitter like most teas, sugar and caffeine free. No muss, no fuss.
    Using small eating utensils works for me. It takes longer to eat with them and taking smaller bites allows the food to go down better. I bought mine through Amazon and rather than being toddler flatware, they are dessert ware.
    Protein Shakes out of the container are not easy for me because sometimes they solidify and no amount of shaking dissolves it. So I put mine in my Nutribullet with ice and sometimes almond milk.
    When on the soft foods diet, ground beef is one of the only meats allowed. I take a pound of hamburger and mix in salt, pepper and Worcestershire sauce. I press it into a glass loaf pan which makes a thin loaf and bake it. I can take slices and eat them with vegetables or alone to fulfill my Protein quota. Most often I pair it with Beans to up my protein.


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    Addicted got a reaction from Cheeseburgh in Favorite Grocery Products   
    "Garden Lites Veggies Made Great, Mushroom and 3 cheese Egg White Frittata". Found at Walmart. 6 individually wrapped, 45 seconds in the micro. Great for Soft food Diet. Actually tastes great.
    There were different flavors but I chose this one because I thought it didn't have potatoes as most quick Breakfast items do. Read the verbiage on the box and it does have potatoes but they are mixed with cauliflower and kale and have to be very fine because none of these are obvious.
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    Addicted got a reaction from ksgypsy in Being Policed   
    We had guests last week, my brother-in-law and his wife. I am close to both as is my husband so they knew about my WLS. I didn't mind the questions about what my guidelines were as they seemed to be out of interest. However, my brother-in-law and husband are both "bossy" and I found the dominant question being "Are you supposed to be eating that?" or "How much of that are you allowed to eat?" I recently graduated to regular food and was pretty much sticking to my quantity requirements so I had many "to go" containers in the refrigerator of my leftovers. If I deviated from my quantity requirements, I paid for it in misery but it was a reinforcement of why we have guidelines.
    I got lectures about how my brother-in-law lost weight and his exercise regimen. I wouldn't mind it if he were just "sharing", however, I was getting what I perceived aslectures at the end of their visit. I know that he cares and I have to take his personality into account so I am taking what I like and leaving the rest. With two of them (my husband and brother-in-law) at the table, it was a bit much but at least my husband kept reminding our guests that I had to eat every 3 hours.
    I know that people who do this sort of thing are uneducated about what it takes for us to meet our goals. It is a definite process and we have the tools. They cannot do it for us. If we could do what they have done to meet their goals, we wouldn't have been forced to take this major step. If we have people constantly telling us what to do then we won't know how to "self manage". I kept saying that I was in a "learning curve" and while I was making "mistakes", I was getting into a routine where the program was more intuitive. We have benefit of the knowledge telling us "what" and "why" and I don't mind educating but I don't want to keep explaining or justifying. I am tired of feeling, "less than" but it is hard for me to let people come to their own conclusions but I can't control others, I can only control how I react to them.
    All our lives people have thought they knew what was best for us. I am learning to say, "If I make a mistake, it is my mistake."
  4. Like
    Addicted got a reaction from ksgypsy in Being Policed   
    We had guests last week, my brother-in-law and his wife. I am close to both as is my husband so they knew about my WLS. I didn't mind the questions about what my guidelines were as they seemed to be out of interest. However, my brother-in-law and husband are both "bossy" and I found the dominant question being "Are you supposed to be eating that?" or "How much of that are you allowed to eat?" I recently graduated to regular food and was pretty much sticking to my quantity requirements so I had many "to go" containers in the refrigerator of my leftovers. If I deviated from my quantity requirements, I paid for it in misery but it was a reinforcement of why we have guidelines.
    I got lectures about how my brother-in-law lost weight and his exercise regimen. I wouldn't mind it if he were just "sharing", however, I was getting what I perceived aslectures at the end of their visit. I know that he cares and I have to take his personality into account so I am taking what I like and leaving the rest. With two of them (my husband and brother-in-law) at the table, it was a bit much but at least my husband kept reminding our guests that I had to eat every 3 hours.
    I know that people who do this sort of thing are uneducated about what it takes for us to meet our goals. It is a definite process and we have the tools. They cannot do it for us. If we could do what they have done to meet their goals, we wouldn't have been forced to take this major step. If we have people constantly telling us what to do then we won't know how to "self manage". I kept saying that I was in a "learning curve" and while I was making "mistakes", I was getting into a routine where the program was more intuitive. We have benefit of the knowledge telling us "what" and "why" and I don't mind educating but I don't want to keep explaining or justifying. I am tired of feeling, "less than" but it is hard for me to let people come to their own conclusions but I can't control others, I can only control how I react to them.
    All our lives people have thought they knew what was best for us. I am learning to say, "If I make a mistake, it is my mistake."
  5. Like
    Addicted got a reaction from ksgypsy in Being Policed   
    We had guests last week, my brother-in-law and his wife. I am close to both as is my husband so they knew about my WLS. I didn't mind the questions about what my guidelines were as they seemed to be out of interest. However, my brother-in-law and husband are both "bossy" and I found the dominant question being "Are you supposed to be eating that?" or "How much of that are you allowed to eat?" I recently graduated to regular food and was pretty much sticking to my quantity requirements so I had many "to go" containers in the refrigerator of my leftovers. If I deviated from my quantity requirements, I paid for it in misery but it was a reinforcement of why we have guidelines.
    I got lectures about how my brother-in-law lost weight and his exercise regimen. I wouldn't mind it if he were just "sharing", however, I was getting what I perceived aslectures at the end of their visit. I know that he cares and I have to take his personality into account so I am taking what I like and leaving the rest. With two of them (my husband and brother-in-law) at the table, it was a bit much but at least my husband kept reminding our guests that I had to eat every 3 hours.
    I know that people who do this sort of thing are uneducated about what it takes for us to meet our goals. It is a definite process and we have the tools. They cannot do it for us. If we could do what they have done to meet their goals, we wouldn't have been forced to take this major step. If we have people constantly telling us what to do then we won't know how to "self manage". I kept saying that I was in a "learning curve" and while I was making "mistakes", I was getting into a routine where the program was more intuitive. We have benefit of the knowledge telling us "what" and "why" and I don't mind educating but I don't want to keep explaining or justifying. I am tired of feeling, "less than" but it is hard for me to let people come to their own conclusions but I can't control others, I can only control how I react to them.
    All our lives people have thought they knew what was best for us. I am learning to say, "If I make a mistake, it is my mistake."
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    Addicted got a reaction from GreenTealael in Taking Meds   
    I have been having difficulty swallowing pills. My reflux made my esophagus sensitive and once they hit my stomach, they made me nauseous and I felt like I had swallowed a rock. My nurse practitioner prescribed Sucralfate to coat my healing organs but insurance won't pay for liquid and they are horse pills. I started crushing them and tried putting them in a liquid but I had to keep swallowing because they kept coming back up. My husband is a pharmacist so he suggested putting the crushed pills in sugar free pudding. It works like a charm because I can swallow the pudding without chewing. So I am now taking my anti-depressant and blood pressure meds the same way. Just can't crush time release blood pressure meds because it affects the way they work so my GP switched me back to a non-time release so I can crush them.
    I wasn't taking my meds properly or taking Vitamin supplements at all. I was even having a hard time with the melting Vitamins because of the taste. I discovered vitamin patches that I purchased on Amazon. You just apply one and leave it on for 24 hours then skip a day and apply the next. I am also taking self administered B12 shots once a month.
    Whew! I am so glad to solve these med problems because I was getting fatigued, my blood pressure was up and I was down.
    All is well.
  7. Like
    Addicted got a reaction from ksgypsy in Being Policed   
    We had guests last week, my brother-in-law and his wife. I am close to both as is my husband so they knew about my WLS. I didn't mind the questions about what my guidelines were as they seemed to be out of interest. However, my brother-in-law and husband are both "bossy" and I found the dominant question being "Are you supposed to be eating that?" or "How much of that are you allowed to eat?" I recently graduated to regular food and was pretty much sticking to my quantity requirements so I had many "to go" containers in the refrigerator of my leftovers. If I deviated from my quantity requirements, I paid for it in misery but it was a reinforcement of why we have guidelines.
    I got lectures about how my brother-in-law lost weight and his exercise regimen. I wouldn't mind it if he were just "sharing", however, I was getting what I perceived aslectures at the end of their visit. I know that he cares and I have to take his personality into account so I am taking what I like and leaving the rest. With two of them (my husband and brother-in-law) at the table, it was a bit much but at least my husband kept reminding our guests that I had to eat every 3 hours.
    I know that people who do this sort of thing are uneducated about what it takes for us to meet our goals. It is a definite process and we have the tools. They cannot do it for us. If we could do what they have done to meet their goals, we wouldn't have been forced to take this major step. If we have people constantly telling us what to do then we won't know how to "self manage". I kept saying that I was in a "learning curve" and while I was making "mistakes", I was getting into a routine where the program was more intuitive. We have benefit of the knowledge telling us "what" and "why" and I don't mind educating but I don't want to keep explaining or justifying. I am tired of feeling, "less than" but it is hard for me to let people come to their own conclusions but I can't control others, I can only control how I react to them.
    All our lives people have thought they knew what was best for us. I am learning to say, "If I make a mistake, it is my mistake."
  8. Like
    Addicted got a reaction from GreenTealael in Taking Meds   
    I have been having difficulty swallowing pills. My reflux made my esophagus sensitive and once they hit my stomach, they made me nauseous and I felt like I had swallowed a rock. My nurse practitioner prescribed Sucralfate to coat my healing organs but insurance won't pay for liquid and they are horse pills. I started crushing them and tried putting them in a liquid but I had to keep swallowing because they kept coming back up. My husband is a pharmacist so he suggested putting the crushed pills in sugar free pudding. It works like a charm because I can swallow the pudding without chewing. So I am now taking my anti-depressant and blood pressure meds the same way. Just can't crush time release blood pressure meds because it affects the way they work so my GP switched me back to a non-time release so I can crush them.
    I wasn't taking my meds properly or taking Vitamin supplements at all. I was even having a hard time with the melting Vitamins because of the taste. I discovered vitamin patches that I purchased on Amazon. You just apply one and leave it on for 24 hours then skip a day and apply the next. I am also taking self administered B12 shots once a month.
    Whew! I am so glad to solve these med problems because I was getting fatigued, my blood pressure was up and I was down.
    All is well.
  9. Like
    Addicted got a reaction from ksgypsy in Being Policed   
    We had guests last week, my brother-in-law and his wife. I am close to both as is my husband so they knew about my WLS. I didn't mind the questions about what my guidelines were as they seemed to be out of interest. However, my brother-in-law and husband are both "bossy" and I found the dominant question being "Are you supposed to be eating that?" or "How much of that are you allowed to eat?" I recently graduated to regular food and was pretty much sticking to my quantity requirements so I had many "to go" containers in the refrigerator of my leftovers. If I deviated from my quantity requirements, I paid for it in misery but it was a reinforcement of why we have guidelines.
    I got lectures about how my brother-in-law lost weight and his exercise regimen. I wouldn't mind it if he were just "sharing", however, I was getting what I perceived aslectures at the end of their visit. I know that he cares and I have to take his personality into account so I am taking what I like and leaving the rest. With two of them (my husband and brother-in-law) at the table, it was a bit much but at least my husband kept reminding our guests that I had to eat every 3 hours.
    I know that people who do this sort of thing are uneducated about what it takes for us to meet our goals. It is a definite process and we have the tools. They cannot do it for us. If we could do what they have done to meet their goals, we wouldn't have been forced to take this major step. If we have people constantly telling us what to do then we won't know how to "self manage". I kept saying that I was in a "learning curve" and while I was making "mistakes", I was getting into a routine where the program was more intuitive. We have benefit of the knowledge telling us "what" and "why" and I don't mind educating but I don't want to keep explaining or justifying. I am tired of feeling, "less than" but it is hard for me to let people come to their own conclusions but I can't control others, I can only control how I react to them.
    All our lives people have thought they knew what was best for us. I am learning to say, "If I make a mistake, it is my mistake."
  10. Like
    Addicted got a reaction from GreenTealael in Taking Meds   
    I have been having difficulty swallowing pills. My reflux made my esophagus sensitive and once they hit my stomach, they made me nauseous and I felt like I had swallowed a rock. My nurse practitioner prescribed Sucralfate to coat my healing organs but insurance won't pay for liquid and they are horse pills. I started crushing them and tried putting them in a liquid but I had to keep swallowing because they kept coming back up. My husband is a pharmacist so he suggested putting the crushed pills in sugar free pudding. It works like a charm because I can swallow the pudding without chewing. So I am now taking my anti-depressant and blood pressure meds the same way. Just can't crush time release blood pressure meds because it affects the way they work so my GP switched me back to a non-time release so I can crush them.
    I wasn't taking my meds properly or taking Vitamin supplements at all. I was even having a hard time with the melting Vitamins because of the taste. I discovered vitamin patches that I purchased on Amazon. You just apply one and leave it on for 24 hours then skip a day and apply the next. I am also taking self administered B12 shots once a month.
    Whew! I am so glad to solve these med problems because I was getting fatigued, my blood pressure was up and I was down.
    All is well.
  11. Confused
    Addicted got a reaction from AlwaysCruising in Favorite Grocery Products   
    I added imitation crab meat to my egg whites this morning and threw some mozzarella cheese on top. I would have liked to add spinach but I am day one on my soft food diet. Does anyone know if spinach is a good idea? It is soft but stringy so idk.
    I am dying for taco shells, wheat tortillas or tortilla chips. They are considered sharp or difficult to digest I am assuming.
    My husband made some taco meat so I am adding that to my fat free refried Beans with green chilies and lime.
    I also have no-hip nachos. ( beans, taco meat, sour cream, mild guacamole, jalapeños and fresh salsa. The problem is that I am not a bland food eater and spicy foods are not allowed. Needless to say I eat salsa and jalapeños but I guess my gut is accustomed.
  12. Confused
    Addicted got a reaction from AlwaysCruising in Favorite Grocery Products   
    I added imitation crab meat to my egg whites this morning and threw some mozzarella cheese on top. I would have liked to add spinach but I am day one on my soft food diet. Does anyone know if spinach is a good idea? It is soft but stringy so idk.
    I am dying for taco shells, wheat tortillas or tortilla chips. They are considered sharp or difficult to digest I am assuming.
    My husband made some taco meat so I am adding that to my fat free refried Beans with green chilies and lime.
    I also have no-hip nachos. ( beans, taco meat, sour cream, mild guacamole, jalapeños and fresh salsa. The problem is that I am not a bland food eater and spicy foods are not allowed. Needless to say I eat salsa and jalapeños but I guess my gut is accustomed.
  13. Like
    Addicted got a reaction from Sassafras1 in Tips and Tricks   
    Water makes me nauseous. After so many trials and errors, I bought Luisianne Decaf tea bags and make tea in my cold brew coffee maker. I will drink a lot because the Luisianne is not bitter like most teas, sugar and caffeine free. No muss, no fuss.
    Using small eating utensils works for me. It takes longer to eat with them and taking smaller bites allows the food to go down better. I bought mine through Amazon and rather than being toddler flatware, they are dessert ware.
    Protein Shakes out of the container are not easy for me because sometimes they solidify and no amount of shaking dissolves it. So I put mine in my Nutribullet with ice and sometimes almond milk.
    When on the soft foods diet, ground beef is one of the only meats allowed. I take a pound of hamburger and mix in salt, pepper and Worcestershire sauce. I press it into a glass loaf pan which makes a thin loaf and bake it. I can take slices and eat them with vegetables or alone to fulfill my Protein quota. Most often I pair it with Beans to up my protein.


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    Addicted got a reaction from Cheeseburgh in Favorite Grocery Products   
    "Garden Lites Veggies Made Great, Mushroom and 3 cheese Egg White Frittata". Found at Walmart. 6 individually wrapped, 45 seconds in the micro. Great for Soft food Diet. Actually tastes great.
    There were different flavors but I chose this one because I thought it didn't have potatoes as most quick Breakfast items do. Read the verbiage on the box and it does have potatoes but they are mixed with cauliflower and kale and have to be very fine because none of these are obvious.
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    Addicted got a reaction from summerset in Crappy Dietician   
    "Malnourished" is a very vague term. Did they go into details?
    He didn’t write details. He has a medical background so I will ask.
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    Addicted got a reaction from ChasD in Things I won't miss about being fat!   
    I won't miss:
    Bragging about my weight loss and reveling in the compliments, then gaining it all back so that the next time I brag, I get silence or boredom.
    I won't miss being afraid of falling down and not being able to get back up.
    I won't miss falling down and having people panic that I won't be able to get back up.
    Struggling to get back up.
    Making excuses for my weight.
    Making inane jokes about my weight to cover my lack of confidence.
    Having people comment on how much or what I am eating.
    The feeling that people won't or don't like me because of my weight (internalized too much crap I read in my teens and early adulthood).
    Guilt!
    Having my cat knead my stomach for comfort.
    Having children tell me I'm fat. Don't people teach their kids discretion?
    Thanks for the topic, happy to be here.



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    Addicted reacted to BayougirlMrsS in Husband's   
    good morning.... Pretty much the same status i started with .... it was 2009 and at 5'2" and 232lbs. I had NO self confidence and NO sense of self. My x brought me to nothing. He (6'4" not overweight) is the most self-centered, selfish, controlling, norcicistic man you will ever met. I took it for 26 years... technically 29, we dated for 3 years. It was a gradual thing... At first it was my friends, then my co-workers, then my family. We would only do things with his friends and family. I could never do anything with friends and co-workers only if he was there. Family, i could on holidays and he would never come. He controlled everything even though i work all the time (2-3 jobs sometimes). He took all of my main jobs money. I was able to keep the cash of the other (waitress). This is what i used to buy personal stuff and my kids things. I couldn't even buy underwear without his approval. I would sew up the holes just to avoid an argument. Cut my kids pants for shorts for school.... it was ruff.
    I thought all those years ago, if only i were skinny i could make him happy. Make him love me again, make him want to be with me sexually... and life would be fine. But NO, life after the band got worse. From day one he hated the thought of me losing weight. He was very degrading to me and one of the biggest was my weight. Of course, he told me all the "normal" things you tell a large person..... Your fat, no one will ever want you, you are disgusting, Lazy.... that i was ugly... But when i tried to lose weight he would always sabotage it. He knew and would still make me bring him home cake, pie, ice cream...., Then say, you don't have to eat it. Well when i decided to have WLS, he fitted out... he did everything in his power to get me to change my mind, and when i didn't and was doing my 2 week liquid diet..... he decided to go on a 4 day bike drive to the mountains. I stood strong and didn't cheat not once. As it would turn out, that trip saved me.... My company did a massive lay off and i was to be part of the over 100 to be let go. But because i wasn't there they couldn't lay me off. That Tuesday i had the band sx and went back to work the following Monday and lost my job and insurance.... It was a blessing in disguise. Over the next year, i lost 69lbs. the next year i lost 20lbs and that's pretty much where i stayed. In 2012 without him know till two day before i had a TT w/MR and Lipo to the flanks..... HOLY HELL was he mad. I thought i didn't come all this way to be left with saggy skin... As my confidence grew my tolerance of him got less and less. Even with him still degrading me.... I was too skinny, looked like a bag of bones, still ugly, but now he pointed out the wrinkles. And through it all...... Why are you losing weight? You must be cheating... NO. In 2014ish.... i got to the point where i hated going home. My oldest was out the house and married and my youngest was on his way. There was nothing at home except my dog and a hateful miserable husband. I asked him so many times for counseling... he said, if you pay for it, i'll go, but i don't need that, there is nothing wrong with me.... It's all you. That was it, the last straw... i started preparing my self to be on my own. In July of 2015 i told him that if things didn't change, i was filing for divorce come January. He of course didn't believe me, well January came and i filed. He still didn't believe i would go through with it.... but when i started going out and leaving him home he finally got it. I was gone forever. I made him move out July 4th.... My independence day..... It was like the world was lifted off me. I could breathe. And i figured if i had too, i would work 3 jobs again... My weight went up and down over the years, but never more than 20lbs.... i was at my lowest when he left 130ish. But got back to my normal 143lbs.
    Dating was exhausting and fun all in one. Then in Oct i signed up for Match on a "free" week just to see what was out there in crazy land. And i met the man of my dreams.... we talk, texted for a few weeks and then met in person. I never knew men could be like this. Opened doors, pulled out chairs, walk nearest the road, carried my luggage, complimented me, listen to all my crap... Including that i was dating others and was NOT interested in a relationship. But i found myself comparing all the other men to him... and my friend said, men like him and one in a billion, take him before someone else does..... and i did. He is the most incredible man, supports me in everything including my revision to the sleeve a year ago..... and our 1 year wedding is on the 28th...
  18. Like
    Addicted reacted to drawingdami in Husband's   
    Sounds like your husband might be scared of the coming changes that he has no control over. Have you said to him something like, " I understand that you can't feel happy about this, but I would like your support. It is going to happen with or without it, and I would rather not be resentful that you didn't support me during this time." Then tell him how to support you, specifically. Most men I know do very well with specific instructions. They just are not very intuitive!😏
    The man in my life has had NO reaction to all of this. Neither positive or negative. When I asked what he thought about all of this, he kind of shrugged his shoulders and said, "Do you" and "I hope it's worth it". That was it. My surgery is scheduled for September 2nd, and he is still like, "Doo-dee-doo-dee-doh".🙄
  19. Like
    Addicted reacted to DwGirl in Husband's   
    Let me start by saying I really love this man , But..... since deciding to have WLS every time I bring up the surgery or things concerning it he is always being shady or condescending. I really wanted him to be happy and to support me but I see that its just not gonna happen. He keeps saying all of this is just happening too fast, and the kids are starting school.
    LISTEN DEAR, I have been everything to everyone for many years and now its time for me, you can handle 1 weekend without me step your game up man.
    Sent from my SM-G970U using BariatricPal mobile app
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    Addicted reacted to BriarRose in Things I won't miss about being fat!   
    I don't look at 5 pounds any more. I look at half a pound at a time !!! And I Celebrate every half a pound as a major victory - at 10 years out, I still have to remind myself where I STARTED 10 years ago. At 320 pounds. Now I am at 177. And each pound is a VICTORY !
    Celebrate each victory !!!!
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    Addicted reacted to FlabulousQueen in Things I won't miss about being fat!   
    I won't miss getting out of breathe when I walk up or down the stairs.
    I won't miss my legs rubbing together causing a rash.
    I won't miss feeling uncomfortable on theme park rides.
    I won't miss standing up to wipe my bottom after using the bathroom (tmi).
    I won't miss feeling uncomfortable sitting in a booth.
    I won't miss sweaty under-boobs!
  22. Hugs
    Addicted got a reaction from sizemedown in Second Guessing This!   
    I was scheduled for surgery in April of 2018 but had bacterial pneumonia and sepsis so it had to be cancelled. Being in ICU in an induced coma, I lost a lot of weight. I told the surgeon I didn't need the surgery because I lost it on my own. I'm sure he chuckled but my GP wouldn't approve surgery for a year anyway. When I topped out of my last size range, I chuckled. Anyway, my point is - if I was going to lose the weight I needed to lose to get healthy, I would have already lost it and kept it off.
    From your story, I see red flags everywhere. My surgeon actually wheeled me to surgery, just him with the surgical staff walking alongside. It was like he was saying, "It's you and me kid." He was an excellent surgeon who I was referred to because he took Medicare insurance. His office staff was very good, however, when the first scheduling was cancelled, I complained directly to the doctor in a letter. about his staff. My issue was with their insurance coordinator who told me my surgery may not be paid by Medicare and that Medicare doesn't do pre-authorizations. She said that after surgery, I may have to pay out of pocket. I had checked with Medicare and they would pay based on the surgeons submittal paperwork. I told the surgeon that I had never had dental work or surgery done that the doctor's office didn't know what the insurance company would pay. Additionally, I checked all the boxes that are required by Medicare in order for them to pay. Not to mention, I was in need of a Nissen and hernia repair and had good secondary insurance. Unfortunately, if Medicare doesn't pay, neither will Blue Cross.
    When I finally had the surgery August 3 of this year, the Surgeon's office had checked on the insurance and the staff was very helpful and attentive. Previously, they seemed rather snippy. Most surgeons are arrogant but not mine. He was professional and supportive. It seems that your surgeon thought he was being friendly but he was being unprofessional. I felt creeped out by everything you had to say about your surgeon, staff and surgery center.
    By now you will have made your decision and it will be the right one for you. Your weight loss is awesome and it is recommended that you lose as much weight as possible prior to surgery. It was a major life changing decision to have WLS and it sounds like it was the right choice for you based on family history. You are wise to take everything into account and put the brakes on if you are not 100% comfortable.
    Best of luck and God speed.
  23. Like
    Addicted reacted to summerset in Help! I ate McDonald's 2 weeks post op   
    That sounds kind of familiar. Except the Beans, that were allowed after 4 weeks.
    Sometimes you push your limits and regret it. Sometimes you push your limits and you don't regret it. Just like with every other thing in life.
    I personally would've been kind of a fool had I not expected me pushing my eating limits as I push my limits in so many other aspects of my life.
  24. Like
    Addicted reacted to drawingdami in Second Guessing This!   
    Hey there, Surgery Sis!
    You and I are going to be afraid, mentally hold hands, and on Wednesday, JUMP! 🤗🎉
    I am similar to you in that I have several chronic health issues, and I am similar to @Addicted in that I too had bacterial pneumonia, was in ICU in a coma and also lost around 55-60lbs during that time a few years back. I went under a size 16 and woke up an 8! That was freaky.🤯 Anyway, I also thought I could keep it off on my own as well. But I went right back up to my usual 215 within a year and a half. Like many say here, if you could have lost weight and kept it off all on your own then you would have. I congratulate you on the weightloss you have achieved already though. Respect!😎
    The biggest factor in deciding to do this was my health. In theory, many of my health issues will be improved--some greatly--by this surgery. I am all about quality of life. To me that matters way more than quantity. If there is a chance I can feel better than I currently do, I am gonna take it! Why do you want to do this, really truly. You and everyone else here knows this isn't the easy way out. It is hard, but it's going to be a different kind of hard. Do you think you can trade the hard work of losing weight on your own with being a bariatric patient and all it entails? You said the weight is just falling off now. There will be a time where your weight will stall out, no matter which route you take. Do you think you can fight through that stall on your own, which could be several weeks, or do you think having a tool with you could help? Like EVERYBODY says who does this, surgery is a tool, not the solution. You still gotta work.
    I would take another good look tonight at why you want to do this. You can always, ALWAYS cancel a surgery, up to the last minute. I have had many surgeries, and there was one time that I actually did that. I yelled STOP!!! right there on the table in the OR and began to sit up. I just wasn't comfortable with what was going on and you better believe everyone stopped what they were doing and got me off of that table! No one wants a potential lawsuit, even if you did sign the consent form. So really think about this. Don't worry about anything else right now but yourself. This is your body and at the end of the day, you're the one who has to live in it AND you can't get another one.
    How big is your bariatric center? Initially I thought my surgeon and his team were a bit ambivalent about me and that made me doubtful. But then after talking to the nurse practitioner there I found out that they oversee over a thousand patients. For them, I am just passing through. It's a miracle anyone remembers my name!
    The best antidote to fear is knowledge. Do you know how many years your surgeon had been doing bariatric surgery, specifically what you are having done? Do you know what kind of reputation that bariatric clinic has? I have never seen a hospital have more than a 3 out of 5 rating, but that doesn't necessarily mean your clinic is bad.
    No matter what you decide, you have to advocate, advocate, AD.VO.CATE. for yourself! Your bariatric team will only give you as much attention as you demand and you have to demand it. Never be rude, but let them know you ain't playin'.
    Blessings on your head and good luck on Wednesday! Don't forget--if you decide to go ahead and feel like your panic is going to overtake you, remember there is someone in NYC holding your hand and taking the same step forward with you.
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    Addicted reacted to sizemedown in Second Guessing This!   
    Girl!!! You are next to all my family. I'm from Texas. My sister is in College Station I think. I have been back in a long time. All my other family is all over Houston and Lake Charles, etc. I have so many friends there, too. Hope your surgery goes better this time. I appreciate you sharing your fears. I love this place. I thank God for you all. I feel better about my surgery. My surgeon is amazing. He has been wonderful. Yes, he is Board Certified. He has great ratings that match up completely with my experience with him. I was just scared about the hospital. That has hopefully been addressed. I spoke to a very pleasant girl today and she assured me that I'm in good hands. And I really feel that way now. And I brought my concerns up to the doctor. It will all be fine. I loathe complaining. You always feel like they will stick you extra hard with the needles or give you a Clorox IV Bahaa. Good luck with your surgery!!
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