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I don’t think there’s really anything that tightens skin. Muscle development can fill you out a bit and make the skin less noticeable. Plastic surgery is the only thing that research shows successfully removes extra skin.

also your husband is a d**k.

That is really unkind. you've lost weight and gotten healthier. I'm sorry they aren't being more supportive, you have so much to be proud of! be kind to yourself.

I had gastric bypass in 9/15. I am 5’1 and day of surgery I weighed 250. I have Hashimotos. I’m just looking to see ppl with similar stats and their weight loss. Please, I know everyone is different, looses differently etc. I just would like to see how other ppl are getting along. So far, I’ve lost about 18 pounds post op and that seems to be so little to me. I lost about 3 or 4 pounds this week (third week weigh in) and that seems so minor. Again, I know everyone is different, I’d just like some similar ppl sharing journies so I can relate! Thank uou!

Starting BMI was 40, and current is 23.

My stats are very similar to yours. I am also 5'1" and started at 250 pounds. I had the sleeve rather than the bypass. My weight loss started slowly compared to others I know who had WLS. I lost about 10 pounds the first month, then 15 the second month and then I settled into about 10 pounds per month until recently (it has slowed down now). At this point I am 18 months out from surgery and I have lost 110 pounds overall. 18 pounds in 21 days is pretty amazing and 3 or 4 pounds in one week is great! I think you're doing fine.

That's not the point for everyone.
There is misconception that some foods make you fat, and that healthy weight individuals don't eat those "bad" foods. When the reality is it is (mostly) about finding the calories that either keep you losing or maintaining weight. Also for me, and I sure for others as well, it's about finding a balance of foods that don't make me feel deprived.

Is anyone feeling like they made the worst decision ever by getting this surgery. I hate it right now honestly 😔 1 week post op I don't want to eat or drink anything. I literally have to force myself which I usually just end up not eating or drinking at all. I hate the feeling of a queezy stomach and that's all food or drink gives me as well as terrible gas pain. I'm starting to feel weak because I haven't been able to eat or drink but idk. I wish I never had it. I would kill to be able to just eat salad and baked chicken and healthier foods instead of having this surgery. I don't know why I didn't just eat healthy before then I wouldn't have to go threw any of this 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Thank you!! You helped calm me down 😅😅 I’m starvingggg lol

Agreed on not getting anything in bulk. I had a very kind friend who gifted me a care package of herbal teas and 3 kinds of broth before my operation. I ended up disliking all of the broth and surviving off of a quart of homemade chicken stock I had in the freezer. If I were to go through it again, I would make 1 pot of chicken stock, buy 1 six-pack of sugar free Jello, and make sure I had Protein Shakes on hand. No need to make it complex.
I'll also say this. Immediately post-op I was spending a lot of time fussing about what I'd eat in the puree phase and making recipes, which was fun... until I realized my puree phase was only a week long before soft foods. I ended up having to throw lots of my meals away as I just couldn't finish them before they began to go off. So just keep that in mind, plan your purchases for however long you will be in a given diet phase, and for however long it takes for you to get sick of eating the same thing over and over again.
Good luck on your surgery!

It’s normal to be worried. Just over 7 years ago, I laid on the bed about to be wheeled into surgery and they brought my little kids ages 3 and 7 in to see me. I tried to be strong while they were there and I think I succeeded pretty well, but after they left, my eyes filled with tears. I was thinking thoughts similar to yours and also, “If I die, will they grow up hating me for eating myself to the point where this surgery was my only option?” The nurse knew what I was thinking without me saying a thing and said “You’re doing this for them, so you can be a better mom.” Or something to that affect, and she was right. She reassured me that I was in good hands and I calmed down and went through with it. I have NEVER regretted my surgery. Even when I messed up and gained back 50 pounds (which I have lost again plus 10 more thanks to my tool!) It’s literally one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life. I’ve had so much fun with my family the last 7 years that wouldn’t have been possible if I had backed out. You’ll be ok. In a year you’ll most likely say it’s one of the best things you’ve ever done, too!

Loving Aldi!

My Gastric Bypass RNY is September 15th!! I’ve had my date for three months now (they’ve been backed up with corona hold backs). It’s coming up quick!! Good luck to you ❤️

Good morning! My Gastric Bypass RNY is scheduled for September 15th and I’m trying to prepare for when I get home. What did you all have ready? What did you love? What did you not use? Any and all info is so appreciated!

I’m just seeing this... so happy for you! Ignore the bad stories! Update us when u can!

NEVER would wear vest before because i thought the way i looked in them was weird because of my weight. Decided to buy one the weekend cause im tired of always being a little cold. This helps and doesnt look completely terrible

Others may also be picking up on the positive changes in you and responding in kind.
I know that as the pounds came off, I felt better and better, gained more and more confidence. I stood up a little straighter, took better care of myself. I'm sure that was projected out into the world and people noticed.

Congrats!!! This is random, but do you (or anyone else who sees this) obsess over the surgery? Wondering if it will be approved, worried that something will change, etc.? If so, how do you manage it?! I literally have a hard time sleeping now bc it's always on my mind! ALWAYS!

I'm meeting a professional contact in a coffee shop later today whom I have never seen in person. I was describing what I look like so he could recognize me, and I told him I was "slim." It sort of made my day, because I used to tell people to look for the "big boy." 🙂

@Rosey115, I had my surgery (sleeve) on 2/10. I will tell you yesterday was the worst day I had since the surgery, and my friend who is a recovery room nurse said that is not uncommon.
However, if you are feeling pervasively sad, and it sounds like you are, I would hope you reach out to your surgeon's office for someone to talk to. Are you mourning food? Are you struggling with the all liquid diet (I can't imagine anyone doesn't struggle with this). Are you in a lot of physical pain? Do you not have support at home, either through family or friends? Are you having intrusive thoughts about things you used to enjoy, and are now worried you won't? I think that some or all of those thoughts are probably very, very common and normal, but if you are that down, you should get someone to talk to. This recovery is no joke, so you don't need it to be any harder.
If you are having thoughts of hopelessness, or hurting yourself, PLEASE reach out. At the risk of being intrusive, but I'll take intrusive, the National Suicide Prevention Hotline is: 1-800-273-8255.
You've made a decision that is life affirming and there are great and wonderful things ahead. Our lives will be more than sip, sip, sip, walk, walk, sip....Hang in there.

I don't regret it for a moment. Literally the best thing I could have done. I remember being a week out and nervous as could be constantly thinking "What am I about to do to myself". Honestly, the best advice I could give would be to stop reading the horror stories online. I went in on June 10th 2019. I waited in pre-surgery for what seemed like forever which they gave me Water and Tylenol. The docs came out and told me what was going to happen and then a short while later I was wheeled in to the room. It was chaos, but the nurse who had been with me stayed by my side. I was in the room for maybe three minutes when they said we just gave you something that's going to make you sleepy. That was it. Out like a light. I woke up in recovery and I was sore but not in incredible pain. Still groggy I slept off and on until about midnight when I had the gas pains in the shoulder and neck that I had been warned about.

The night nurse was great, she came and walked me every half hour and every time I walked the pain lessened. I spent most of the night walking, eating Popsicles and drinking water. (I hate Jello but it was available)

Swallowing hurt at first but it was similar to strep throat. Not impossible or agonizing. By noon time the next day I just wanted to go home. I felt okay and was ready to be free from the boring hospital room.

For the first few weeks I slept in a recliner rather than my bed because the incisions were uncomfortable when I laid down. Not horrible pain but nagging enough to keep me awake. My wife set up Protein Shakes in shot glasses in the fridge so every hour or so I would get up and walk around and take a shot. I moved on to Soups and finally that first scrambled egg meal was the best. I ate a lot of single egg omelets with cheese. In fact, my wife says I got so good at making omelets in the first thirty days that she'll put my omelets against any Breakfast joint in town.

The hardest part was coping with not eating with everyone else when I returned to work and social outings. That and staying in clothes that fit. Thrift stores became my best friend as I was dropping a pant size every couple weeks at first.

A lot of people are put off as they feel others treat them differently as they lose weight and it becomes a mental barrier for them. For me, I completely understood because I was treating myself differently. I wasn't the same as I was before. My normal just isn't the same as it was before, but it's better. My quality of life has improved so much since June. I run now. Not like just a little. I run 3-4 times a week. Miles at a time. Before I could barely walk .3 of a mile. My confidence is through the roof and I actually like buying new clothes. I can go out and do things I was afraid to do before. So of course the people around me are treating me differently. I am different.

Will you ever feel like the normal you felt before? Probably not, but if you're like me your normal from before felt pretty bad. The new normal will be worth every second of discomfort and struggle.

P.S. If your surgeons office offers support groups. Do it.

P.S.S Take lots of pictures, you'll regret not having them later as you reach the big milestones.

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