bthompson82

Hi!!! Whelp I put a lot in that title lol.. but I’m a black 37 year old femme lesbian, looking for friends, or who knows ! Tell me about yourself !

Hi!!! Whelp I put a lot in that title lol.. but I’m a black 37 year old femme lesbian, looking for friends, or who knows ! Tell me about yourself !

Hi!!! Whelp I put a lot in that title lol.. but I’m a black 37 year old femme lesbian, looking for friends, or who knows ! Tell me about yourself !

@ajtylo... can you clarify what you mean by “play” I truly hope it’s not what I’m thinking. My post is a safe space for all people but especially the LGBT community. So if you are here looking for something.. this is not it.

@ajtylo... can you clarify what you mean by “play” I truly hope it’s not what I’m thinking. My post is a safe space for all people but especially the LGBT community. So if you are here looking for something.. this is not it.

Hi I was sleeved 7/29, I find that watering down everything helps, walking a lot, and using gas x has helped me be able to drink more full liquids

I was recently sleeved on July 30th, 2020 (1 week post-op). This was my first surgery in my life. The main issue I'm experiencing right now is anytime I ingest anything (full liquid diet) it is super uncomfortable enter my sleeve. It makes it difficult to get my required fluids in everyday because that feeling is so uncomfortable. Please tell me if anyone has experienced this. I'm freaking myself out because I don't want to be sick or become malnourished or something. And it absolutely does not matter what temperature it is. I usually always do warm or room temp and it's the same feeling. I'm just scared and feeling like maybe I messed up getting this surgery.

@ajtylo... can you clarify what you mean by “play” I truly hope it’s not what I’m thinking. My post is a safe space for all people but especially the LGBT community. So if you are here looking for something.. this is not it.

So I’m in the pre op phase and as I get closer to getting my surgery date .... I’m becoming increasingly excited about losing weight and being slim again!! I feel kinda bad about being so excited... my reason for getting the surgery is not purely weight-loss. I have type 2 diabetes that is under control but I’m sick of taking medication, also inner cranial hypertension. I’m 5”3 and 200 pounds with a BMI of 34.5 ... so I know I won’t be losing more then 100 pounds at most. Yet and still .. all I can think about is getting back to my high school weight ... so am I a horrible person ?

@hop_scotch oh no my goal is 135-140!!! I’ve never been a 100 pounds in high school lol. Would like to lose about 65-70 pounds or so.

@mahtab try not to be upset , a lot of the ladies here are very correct, for people that don’t have as much to lose, we will lose slower

So I’m in the pre op phase and as I get closer to getting my surgery date .... I’m becoming increasingly excited about losing weight and being slim again!! I feel kinda bad about being so excited... my reason for getting the surgery is not purely weight-loss. I have type 2 diabetes that is under control but I’m sick of taking medication, also inner cranial hypertension. I’m 5”3 and 200 pounds with a BMI of 34.5 ... so I know I won’t be losing more then 100 pounds at most. Yet and still .. all I can think about is getting back to my high school weight ... so am I a horrible person ?

B... Trying to do this without support from your wife will make it more difficult. My Now ex husband did the same things to me... said lots of horrible things... before and after WLS. But it got way worse after. After i lost he accused me of everything under the sun... including cheating... getting thin for "other men"... Getting thin to prepare to leave him... It's got to the point where i hated to go home after work.
for her to say that she might not find you attractive after... is a crap thing to say, which means she is already insecure and is going to use that as an excuse.... trust that she is already thinking that. You have to chose to do this for you. And know that you will change in every way... not just your weight. Divorce in the WLS community is huge... My best guess... over 75% of us get divorced.
We also lose friends and family. So she won't be the only person with issues with your WL. I would venture to say most of the people you hang around are "large". They will start to side with her and tell you.... Don't you think you lost enough, Your too skinny, your not the same person, all you talk about now is losing weight, you won't be able to come out to eat with us anymore...... and they will start canceling plans with you and you will see that they will start doing things without you.
But, you don't need these people in your life.... you will do fine without them. surround yourself with positive people... people that will support you and your new healthy life...
I unlike some people here chose to tell NO ONE about my Sleeve.....Only my now-husband knows. Tons of people knew about the Band SX in 2009 and the removal in 2017... I wish i had told no one then... but live and learn. So much better not telling... I just say i'm watching what i eat and i'm doing crossfit... which is 100% true.

I haven’t had time to read this whole thread yet but I am nervous about this. My RNY is scheduled for March 11, and I’m 5’4” and 235,
40 BMI. I basically wanted to do this as soon as I hit the BMI requirement so I could lose from the lower weight rather than waiting until I was bigger, older, unhealthier. But now I worry I won’t lose very much and I will regret it.

So here we go, for the people who follow me all ready know my details but here they are again ( I’m 37 , 5”3, 200 pounds, type 2 diabetic, intercranel hypertension. I am pre op for the sleeve, waiting on my next appointment hoping for a surgery date) .... so here is the deal my wife has not been all that supportive of my surgery since I started the process, saying things like “ you will always have a belly” and you will never be your high school weight” and the worst one is “ I don’t know if I’ll be attracted to you when you are so skinny” .. horrible right! Well she is a big girl herself at 5”4 and 298 pounds!! I’ve never bugged her about her weight in the 12 years we have been together.. but now that I am working on getting this surgery she wants to lose weight too , and that’s great!! Unlike her I fully support her... until I found out how she wanted to do it ... HCG diet!! .. I tried to tell her very gently that 500 cals a day is unsafe and of course you will lose weight .. you are starving!! Plus those “shots” could be filled with anything they don’t come from a medical doctor!!! But she yelled at me saying I WAS THE UNSUPPORTIVE ONE!!! Can you believe that crap! So here we are .. here doing this crap and now trying to convince me to do that same... hell no .. I’m getting my sleeve !!! Rant over

I started at 225 with a BMI of 35. I am now at 167 (for several weeks now) and BMI is 27.

I am about 5'9" or just a hair under. My highest weight was 255 in Aug. 2016. I went on a low carb diet and got down to 230 by January 2017. I was 208 on the day of my surgery May 15th 2017. It took me about 7 months to reach my goal weight of 150. I maintained 150-160 until about 3-5 months ago when I gained to 165. The 15 # regain is well within the 10-20 pound that I have heard a lot of WLS patients deal with 2-3 years PO.
I would like to be closer to 150 so I am actively working on losing the 15#. It is much harder at almost 3 years PO.-
For me 15 # is almost 2 pants sizes. At 150 I am a size 6-8. At 165 I am a 10-12.

Hi I’m 9 months out and lost 65lbs not sure why it has slowed down but I realized I stopped cardio cause I had a flare up from RA but now I’m back with cardio and lost 5 lbs in a week .. always have your Water at least 33-60! A day .. I just get a large smart water bottle fill it up twice a day and drink it all before I go to sleep even drink when you are driving .. I need to be down 12 lbs by March 23 when I see dr ... pray for me

@mahtab try not to be upset , a lot of the ladies here are very correct, for people that don’t have as much to lose, we will lose slower

I had my surgery on Dec. 16, 2019. My surgery weight was 214 lb and I am now at 187 lbs. I have lost 24 lbs so far which seems to be very slow compared to what other people have been saying which makes me upset. I have started to workout to jump start my metabolism so that helps.

Sounds like y'all are going to have to "agree to disagree" but support each other nonetheless. You might want to see if she'll watch any of Dr Vuong's youtube videos. He uses "colorful" language but always presents them in a manner that is entertaining but explains everything well. Maybe this would help. He does a great one on why diets don't work--she should at least watch that one!

Ok. I would recommend therapy. Because everything ur life after weight loss surgery will change and you and ur wife will need it!! With the sleeve you will be starting at the most 300-400 calories a day if ur lucky in the beginning. I can get in 450-500 calories now and I’m a month post op. So her restricting her self to 500 calories would be a great support to you! I would recommend sitting down and talking to each other.

Sounds like neither one of you are happy with the other one's choice for weight loss efforts. That's going to make it hard for each of you to support each other along with journey together. I hope you two can work it out.

I was 174lbs at surgery. Five weeks later I am now 158lbs. Coming off nicely xx

@therealmelshere he has never expressed it but he is almost 30 , and he has never dated, he will agree that a man or woman he sees is good looking but that’s about it. We don’t bug him about it