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Update: husband moved GS Cookies out to the garage since I do not spend time out there and he pointed out that he quit buying soda last week (I didn’t notice since soda isn’t my vice) since he felt he didn’t “need” it and was getting concerned that one kid was drinking up to 3 cans a day which he felt was excessive. So, small steps/victory. I appreciate everyone’s support here!

Update: husband moved GS Cookies out to the garage since I do not spend time out there and he pointed out that he quit buying soda last week (I didn’t notice since soda isn’t my vice) since he felt he didn’t “need” it and was getting concerned that one kid was drinking up to 3 cans a day which he felt was excessive. So, small steps/victory. I appreciate everyone’s support here!

Your family is mine. My mom and brother haven't changed their diet one bit. I've had a few private crying fits and yelled at them a few times about it. They say apologetic things but nothing changes.
I'm 7 months out now but it's still infuriating they eat without care just because they know I can't eat it.
I keep telling them that SEEING it and SMELLING it just reminds me of what I can't have and it doesn't make me feel good remembering what I can't/shouldn't eat anymore. It gets easier (not easy but easier) not to crave it. Getting into the 'Regular/Forever' foods stage around 4 months post-op helped.

I do not know where to start. My immediate family (Husband, tweens) support me verbally, but they continue to eat lots of processed food, fast food, etc. I’ve asked that they keep that stuff in the pantry, but the request is ignored. (He actually brought home a case of Girl Scout Cookies tonight!). I can ignore the take-out and fast food for myself, but I get really depressed when I make something I can eat for the whole family they take a few bites (like slightly seasoned taco meat) and head for the bag of chips. I knew this was going to be an issue before surgery, but I brushed off how hard it would become mentally since I’m struggling to find a good eating pattern at 7 weeks post-op and find myself still drinking one shake a day to get 1/2 of my Protein. Has anyone else encountered this problem and how did you get over the emotional/mental block of everyone in your house being the exact opposite of you? I should clarify that I’m not preachy or pushy with them regarding diet since getting the sleeve was my choice, but I need to get more animal protein in the house for me at least. (Tuna is not tolerated—so that’s out. eggs are too since I’m allergic to egg whites). I’m really sick of Beans and cheeses at this point and almost caved with with McDonald’s fries last night when they were brought home. I’d also appreciate if anyone has any go to meat based recipes that freeze well in small portions that they could share, so I can wean off my reliance on shakes.
thanks for listening. My head and heart needed to vent.

Hello,
I hope you are well. I have been a registered nurse for over 12 years and my Bariatric surgery will be in March. When I was in shape (all of my life except for 5 years ago), I used to think the same thing as your wife. 5 years ago I fell into a depression and gained over 100 pounds. I’ve been trying to get it off ever since. Now, I have high blood pressure, sleep apnea, acid reflux and pre-diabetes. People in my family say I should not do the surgery. They say I can do it on my own. But as I said, I have been trying to lose the weight for 5 years and my health is actively declining. Should I wait until I am fully diabetic so I can meet the approval of my family? No. Obesity is one of the most unhealthy modifiable conditions you can have. Despite how widely accepted it is, it’s worse than smoking, drinking, and quite a few illegal drugs (arguably combined). It damages every organ. Fat puts pressure on your organs, making them secrete hormones that alter your ability think and function properly. I know your wife is concerned about the risks of surgery. But what about living long enough to go to your child’s wedding? What about being able to play with your child in the park? What about setting a healthful example for your child so the cycle does not continue (I come from an obese family so I know how hard it is to break free from bad Family eating habits)? I hope my comment helps.

Best advice - cancel your life insurance now! She won’t stab you then, she might need you.
You are just going to have to prove her wrong, show her that WLS does work.
She is probably feeling insecure and worried that you may decide to find someone else once you are looking super hot. Reassure her and remember pregnancy hormones are a b***h!

This is something I worry about in my household too. Hubby needs to lose weight, but isn't on board with that right now, so he still eats a lot of unhealthy meals that I don't touch. I don't really mind though (at this point) because it is fresh in my head why I'm eating differently than he is. I'm hoping that he will start to see the changes in me and want them for himself. But til then, it's a bag of corn chips every other night. Stay strong!

I got so mad at my son one day for eating my tuna that I fixed each of us a space in our own cupboard. Out of sight out of mind does help me, until I remember the junk is there.

😂. I laugh, but you are so right.

Thanks for the ideas. I tried some deli turkey too soon I think at week 4/5 and it didn’t set well. I’ll have to try again now that I’m more healed. I did find a recipe for meatballs using ground chicken that I’m going to try. I’ve never been a meatball fan, but I’m thinking I’ll soon become one. 😊

I do not know where to start. My immediate family (Husband, tweens) support me verbally, but they continue to eat lots of processed food, fast food, etc. I’ve asked that they keep that stuff in the pantry, but the request is ignored. (He actually brought home a case of Girl Scout Cookies tonight!). I can ignore the take-out and fast food for myself, but I get really depressed when I make something I can eat for the whole family they take a few bites (like slightly seasoned taco meat) and head for the bag of chips. I knew this was going to be an issue before surgery, but I brushed off how hard it would become mentally since I’m struggling to find a good eating pattern at 7 weeks post-op and find myself still drinking one shake a day to get 1/2 of my Protein. Has anyone else encountered this problem and how did you get over the emotional/mental block of everyone in your house being the exact opposite of you? I should clarify that I’m not preachy or pushy with them regarding diet since getting the sleeve was my choice, but I need to get more animal protein in the house for me at least. (Tuna is not tolerated—so that’s out. eggs are too since I’m allergic to egg whites). I’m really sick of Beans and cheeses at this point and almost caved with with McDonald’s fries last night when they were brought home. I’d also appreciate if anyone has any go to meat based recipes that freeze well in small portions that they could share, so I can wean off my reliance on shakes.
thanks for listening. My head and heart needed to vent.

😂. I laugh, but you are so right.

I do not know where to start. My immediate family (Husband, tweens) support me verbally, but they continue to eat lots of processed food, fast food, etc. I’ve asked that they keep that stuff in the pantry, but the request is ignored. (He actually brought home a case of Girl Scout Cookies tonight!). I can ignore the take-out and fast food for myself, but I get really depressed when I make something I can eat for the whole family they take a few bites (like slightly seasoned taco meat) and head for the bag of chips. I knew this was going to be an issue before surgery, but I brushed off how hard it would become mentally since I’m struggling to find a good eating pattern at 7 weeks post-op and find myself still drinking one shake a day to get 1/2 of my Protein. Has anyone else encountered this problem and how did you get over the emotional/mental block of everyone in your house being the exact opposite of you? I should clarify that I’m not preachy or pushy with them regarding diet since getting the sleeve was my choice, but I need to get more animal protein in the house for me at least. (Tuna is not tolerated—so that’s out. eggs are too since I’m allergic to egg whites). I’m really sick of Beans and cheeses at this point and almost caved with with McDonald’s fries last night when they were brought home. I’d also appreciate if anyone has any go to meat based recipes that freeze well in small portions that they could share, so I can wean off my reliance on shakes.
thanks for listening. My head and heart needed to vent.

I do not know where to start. My immediate family (Husband, tweens) support me verbally, but they continue to eat lots of processed food, fast food, etc. I’ve asked that they keep that stuff in the pantry, but the request is ignored. (He actually brought home a case of Girl Scout Cookies tonight!). I can ignore the take-out and fast food for myself, but I get really depressed when I make something I can eat for the whole family they take a few bites (like slightly seasoned taco meat) and head for the bag of chips. I knew this was going to be an issue before surgery, but I brushed off how hard it would become mentally since I’m struggling to find a good eating pattern at 7 weeks post-op and find myself still drinking one shake a day to get 1/2 of my Protein. Has anyone else encountered this problem and how did you get over the emotional/mental block of everyone in your house being the exact opposite of you? I should clarify that I’m not preachy or pushy with them regarding diet since getting the sleeve was my choice, but I need to get more animal protein in the house for me at least. (Tuna is not tolerated—so that’s out. eggs are too since I’m allergic to egg whites). I’m really sick of Beans and cheeses at this point and almost caved with with McDonald’s fries last night when they were brought home. I’d also appreciate if anyone has any go to meat based recipes that freeze well in small portions that they could share, so I can wean off my reliance on shakes.
thanks for listening. My head and heart needed to vent.

😂. I laugh, but you are so right.

Thanks for the ideas. I tried some deli turkey too soon I think at week 4/5 and it didn’t set well. I’ll have to try again now that I’m more healed. I did find a recipe for meatballs using ground chicken that I’m going to try. I’ve never been a meatball fan, but I’m thinking I’ll soon become one. 😊

Aww sorry your going through that. I can definitely relate. I try and meal prep for myself every 4 days. And then cook other foods for my family. If I make them spaghetti, I’ll make extra meat for me. I try and do stuff like that. I’ve been eating a lot of frozen cooked sausage like jimmy deans. It’s so easy to heat up. Probably not the best but that’s my go to. I like to buy the chicken that is individually packaged that way I won’t have to waste extra.

Wow!! The difference in your face is really amazing!! You look fantastic!!

Today I was finally able to take off my wedding rings!! It is the first time in 3 years I’ve been able to do so. Best non scale victory!! Thank goodness my marriage has held together. 🤣😂

Hi all!

RNY on 1/27 for gastroparesis and feed and bile reflux. Had a scrambled egg with a little cheese this morning and was scared bc so many people say they have issues with eggs but I had no issues! Except u get so thirsty when I eat so it's so hard for me not to grab a swig of Water !

Glad to see everyone here!

Have my two week post op on Tuesday and hope cleared for slight weight machines at the gym because I feel like a pile of goo! Haha

I used to go to a kickboxing and CrossFit gym and know I won't be in any shape to do that for a few months but miss the feeling of not being tired and mushy haha


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I actually just searched things online... if I'm craving something in particular, I'll google bariatric recipe for blah blah blah and print out the ones I find. I have a 3 ring binder FULL of stuff that I love that is super healthy and high in Protein made specifically for bariatric people.
And I also have the cookbook above- it's got pretty good stuff in it, too. I've tried a few of the recipes and they turned out great!

@mahtab try not to be upset , a lot of the ladies here are very correct, for people that don’t have as much to lose, we will lose slower

I’m like you. I’m only 14 pounds down at week 5 after surgery. Started at 214 at 5’4”. I expected my loss to be much slower though and I’m happy with the 14 at the moment. I’ve decided to only weigh myself once every two weeks in order to not become scale obsessed.

I still occasionally feel fatigued. 5 months out. Drink your fluids. Eat your Protein. Take you Vitamins. You can also have your labs and blood pressure checked. I feel like crap when my BP is too low or I am dehydrated. And remember, you are still healing so SOME fatigue is normal, but it shouldn't be all the time. Let your doc know!

I seem to have 1 good day followed by 2-3 bad ones. On the good day I can do some light housework and answer emails, etc with two ten minute walks in the afternoon. Good Protein and Fluid intake too on that 1 day. Then in the days after I feel weak, want to sleep, and feel generally achy, irritable, and foggy headed. I don’t even have the energy to eat and do not meet my fluid/protein goals. I keep reminding myself I had a major surgery that I’m still healing from. Still it’s hard as I was hoping to have much more energy than I do and that puts me in a bad headspace. Then the cycle repeats. 😒