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I told my cousin (who is also overweight) that I was considering it because we've always sort of "been in it together". I didn't want to keep some thing like this from her. But I didn't tell her I was approved or had it done until the day after in the hospital. My husband knew of course and I told my parents a month or so before the surgery. I also told my children (13, 9 and 5) so that they would understand why I was going to the hospital again. They get scared because I had an issue with my heart before. But also so that they would hold me accountable afterwards and man do they! lol I kept it a secret at work from mostly everyone. Only a few knew from the beginning. Then a week before my surgery they all knew. I didn't mind to tell them at that point because I knew it was really happening. I am weird about jinxing things or failing things. I didn't tell the rest of my family until Thanksgiving day. They noticed how much smaller I already was and that I wasn't eating. I didn't tell them before because they can be extremely judgmental. But by that point I already had it done and I'm not ashamed of it so I told whoever asked.

I had thought of getting WLS for years but was never truly ready. I just had my sleeve done on 11/20/19. Best decision ever. I felt ready and confident in that decision. BUT I didn't tell me family. I of course told my husband, children and parents. That was all! The rest of my family I knew wouldn't understand and I just didn't want to be bothered with all the questions and negativity. Thanksgiving was difficult because I was only a week post-op. So of course everyone noticed I wasn't eating. They asked why and had noticed I was already smaller so I told them. And I got mixed reactions. Some good, some bad and some just didn't care. I had one aunt that said, "Now why did you have to go and do that?" Instantly soured my mood but then I remembered I did it for my health and not theirs. My whole family is overweight and they're used to me being the same way so it's hard for them to see that I'm taking my health back. I agree with the others here...become as informed as possible first and then make the decision on your own. I have found so much information on here that the doctor never told me and this support has been amazing. I found a video on here yesterday that made me feel so much better about my emotions, etc. Good luck with your decision!!

Water was really hurting my stomach too and plain water still does. I have found that when I add flavors to my water it helps a lot. Also warm decaf tea helps too. I drink it with no sugar or anything. The warmth helps a lot