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Thanks that was helpful!

Welp, I must be a lot lazier then the rest of you, I just bought a program to input all that stuff instead of making an excel sheet (which I'm perfectly capable of doing) and the kicker..... I don't even use it.:faint:

Hey roz, I haven't had my first appt yet either so I'm in the same boat as you. I understand your confusion about small people eatting a lot. I have a sister who is about 5 foot nothing and about 98lbs. Almost all our lives she ate more then me, but she never got any bigger, and me, well I'm up to 242 now. It's difficult to deal with especially when its in your own family. My sister thankfully has always been really supportive and never shoved it in my face. I to have been on never ending diets for most my life, periods of exercise etc. and I'm just hoping that this will be the tool to help me finally get this weight off me. Good luck and keep in touch with me. Do you have a date for the surgery yet? Maybe we will end up getting them around the same time. :Banane40:

I have a B.S. in business management, but because I moved to Portugal, there is more money in teaching English because I'm a native speaker. Right now I'm teaching at a british school here in Portugal. It's been a new experience and I hope one day to get back to business, but for now this pays the bills.

I haven't told a fib yet, but I think I'm going to have to come up with a whopper! :speechles I am planning on getting banded over my easter vacation. Problem is Easter Sunday when my husbands family has a HUGE lunch with every one invited. 1. I'll probably still be feeling a bit of pain from the surgery, and 2. I won't eat any thing which will raise suspicions from the getgo. I don't want to tell my inlaws or any one else for that matter, so I'm trying to decide what to tell them. I can't tell them I had any kind of surgery because they know me well and know I don't have any health problems. (other then my weight but they would never agree with wls, they think I just need to try dieting harder.)I think I'm going to have my husband tell them I came down with something and I'm sick in bed at home...*sigh* inlaws....:frusty:

Happy Valentines to every one as well!

heheheheheh..... :biggrin1: People are so emotional about this because no one likes to be told what to do, especially by people who know nothing of the situation. i.e. a skinny person telling fat people they are cheating.

Well, this is a great tool to keep track of things isn't it? I'm glad I found this site. I never thought about doing surgery before because I never thought I was that fat. But apparently I am, and I think I have really known that all along. To top all that off, I live in Portugal where obesity is not such a widespread problem. I actually almost fell out of my chair laughing yesterday at a doctor’s appointment. See by law here, if you work then you’re entitled to insurance through the government. Nice right... but that also means that once a year they get to send you to a doctor and run all kinds of test. It was this doctor that I was seeing. She asked me....Do you have any health problems. And my response was, well, other then my weight, no. And she said, ohh right, but that’s a characteristic of your people right? :omg: She was saying it’s a characteristic of Americans to be fat. After I finished laughing, I thought. Gezz.... Any way, it was her that suggested I get lap band surgery and it wasn’t until then that I seriously considered doing it. It seems to make a huge difference when a doctor suggests it. My husband is against it, he doesn't think I'm that fat and he says surgery should be a last resort. Well, I feel like I'm at the end of my rope. I'm 25 and I have been fat since I was about 6. I've been on pretty much every diet you can think of. Sometimes I loose, some times I don't. But one thing that is guaranteed, I gain it back plus some. I'm currently 5'5 and 242lbs. I didn't even realize how fat I was getting because we weigh in kilos here and 110kilos doesn’t sound like much, until I converted it. Well, I have an appt with the bariatric doctor on the 24th, so we will see what he has to say. I'm sure I qualify my bmi is 40.3 and I have headaches and other pains. Not to mention I can't find clothes here in my size :phanvan , I'm always asking my mom to send me stuff from the states, but that gets expensive. Well, that's it for now. Hugs and butterflies for every one.

Hey there, I just wanted to say you should stop beating yourself up over your daughter. Shes 21 (right) and way over the legal age. What she does now shouldn't effect you. If she's living at home and refuses to abide by your rules then kick her out. If she doesn't live with you, then limit your contact with her and tell her why. Eventually she will come around. I know because I'm 25 and my mom and me had it a bit difficult awhile back. I'm sure you did the best that you can, now its up to her to be a big girl. I know it sounds a bit harsh, but thats what you have to do to get kids to understand sometimes.

I read on another forum about some one who went to mexico. she was absolutly thrilled with her choice. She said that the facilites were beautiful and the doctors and his staff were wonderful, so more power to ya!

thanks for the advice guys. I never thought of myself as REALLY fat before because I have a pretty good self image, so I never thought surgery was for me. So I would have expected the same response from my doctor. I always thought I could just try harder at the diet. (which ever one I was on at the time) I live in Portugal by the way, I'm not sure if I mentioned that. My husband is Portuguese so I moved here when we got married, so I'm not sure how things work here as far as where its performed and who does it. I have an appt. with the bariatric doctor on the 24th. But I had seen this guy before like 3 years ago and he tried to give me a diet to follow, so I'm not sure how he is going to react to surgery. But it was a doctor in the same clinic who told me I should do it. So we will see what happens after the appointment. I did show my hubby the before and after pics, he thinks most of the girls looked better before! I was fat when he married me and I don't think he would mind keeping it that way. He told me last night if it wasen't for all the health risks that he would tell me to forget the surgery. I guess the only reason he's entertaining the idea is because he knows the kind of fat I have is really dangerous, and because of my family history. Ohh well, I don't care, its time to finally do something.

Hey all, I have thought about lap band surgery before, but never really thought I could do it. Today however, I saw a doctor for a check up and she asked me if I had ever thought about the lab band surgery. She said she's almost sure I'm a candidate and that I should see a gastric doctor to sort it out. It takes on a whole new meaning when a doctor says that you should do it. So I would like to know your opinions based on my history.:help: I'm 25 years old, 110 kg (242lbs) and im 1.65m tall (5´5). I have been fat since I can remember. (since about 6 years old I think) I have been on numerous diets, had some success with some of them, but then end up gaining the weight back and usually plus a little more. I exercise, I have a treadmill, I go to the gym when I can. I'm not lazy and I cook fairly healthy. But we (my husband and I) eat out a lot because of our busy schedule. My bmi is 40.3. I want to start a family but I know because of my weight it would be dangerous. I have never had surgery before, the worst thing I ever had done is my wisdom teeth were pulled. I'm afraid of surgery, but I'm afraid even more of my weight and the problems it might cause. Heart problems and diabetes and cancer all run in my family. I don't know if the surgery is right for me, or if I'm just not trying hard enough with the diets. This is a hard decision and my husband said he's leaving it up to me (although he doesn't support the idea of me having surgery if I decide to do it he won’t stop me.) Thanks in advance for any advice. <!-- / message -->