BlueAngelEyes

Im what you call a debbie downer! I had my surgery may31st and regret every day i wish i wouldnt of done it. I didnt do all the research i should of just listened to the docters counceling class. Major mistake wish i would have never done this. Maybe it will change when im thin and wearing fun pretty clothes and feel sexy again but for now my attitude is it sucks!!

So sorry for the job loss. I guess it's one of those "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" kind of deals. Best of luck on that end.
Agree, that what you're feeling is normal after surgery and as tempted as I am to encourage counseling, that may not be in the financial cards for you considering your situation. BUT, I LOVED Frustr8's suggestion.
I had a bad experience with a psychologist early in my journey and was reluctant to go back. Suffice it to say, she only made me feel worse about myself and kind of angry. BUT, I started QiGong and Tai Chi just before surgery and it has made a huge difference in my life. Not only physically, but psychologically. I highly recommend it (and there are no floor exercises, so you don't have to worry about your Downward Facing Dog turning into a Beached Whale, LOL!)

What you're feeling is so normal after surgery. Give yourself some time. Get out for short walks. Follow your doctor's directions. Definitely seek some therapy too. It is such a vital part of your post-op care! If you feel like you can't talk to your current therapist about what's going one, find a new one that you are comfortable talking to.

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Would Tai Chi help? Seems like the slow, yet smooth and controlled moves might also help.bI am considering it myself, better than Yoga with my degrees of stiffness. Down Dog would quickly turn into Beached 🐳 Whale. And I might take 3 men and a dog to change my position let alone stand me on my feet again! Ah, but we all have our own degrees of flexibility we brought to the mix.😞

Thank you everyone. Im looking into a fitbit or some kinda step counter i think that will help me with distracting myself with walking more. Im hoping everything else turns out for my husband and our family. Thanks again for everyones kind words.
Oh and some one mentioned going to therapy. I feel like i cant right now cause my therapist that ive had for years and i love she didnt want me to do the weight loss surgery so i feel like she would just be saying i told u so. So i will see if walking more can get my frustration out.

Im so depressed right now and im the most negative person on the planet.. i cant seem to get out of my rut. Im only 3 weeks postop and regreting every day about getting the sleeve. Im sick of pureeds and not being able to drink Water with my food. Life sucks right now and cant find anything positive to think about except looking up healthy Snacks and meals on pinterest ill make in a year from now... ive hit i guess its called the 3 week stall and have been the same weight for 5 days now.
My husband lost his job recently and have know idea whats going to happen now. Will we have to move in with one of our moms with 2 kids, 3 dogs, 3 cats and 2 turtles or sell and move to a different city after thinking this house was going to be our forever home. My husband has gone to interviews but nothings working out. Im assuming the worst like always and feel like i cant even be a good partner trying to hold him up with freaking out and dealing with my own negative funk.
I dont want to go do anything. I feel like the tvs been my sidekick and cant break the habit. Im so sick of making my kids yummy meals and my husband doesnt seem to eat unless i make him food. I made him meatloaf and a cheessy baked potato with veggys and my mouth was watering and also had tears on my face.
I just want to feel pretty and normal and dont know how. Sorry to vent it feels alittle better writing all that down for some reason.

I eat Breakfast closer to lunchtime. Usually 3oz lean deli ham with one slice of toasted ancient grain bread from Trader Joe’s. Total about 175 calories
lunch examples: Jimmy John unwich turkey no mayo extra turkey and an apple or grapes. 185 calories total
I make tacos with 96% lean ground beef, this one keeps me sane. 4 oz of meat and 2 Old El Paso crunchy taco shells is a total of 240 calories and the carbs are pretty low. I do add a bunch of lettuce, (no cheese) Tomato and peppers usually. It feels like cheating when I have this.
Another great find were the Chili lime chicken burgers from Trader Joe’s, they are 150 calories.
dinner. Grilled 4 oz chicken breast or grilled chicken Italian sausage with a grilled veggie, usually average 225 calories for dinner. Or see above tacos!
Shrimp are always a great choice too.
I never eat tacos twice a day, I make the seasoned meat and freeze it in portions. I am farther out than you and I’m not super phobic about carbs, I just keep mine to under 70 right now.
i usually have a 100 calorie snack like a mini kind bar with Decaf coffee before bed.
I hope that gives you an idea.

Im so depressed right now and im the most negative person on the planet.. i cant seem to get out of my rut. Im only 3 weeks postop and regreting every day about getting the sleeve. Im sick of pureeds and not being able to drink Water with my food. Life sucks right now and cant find anything positive to think about except looking up healthy Snacks and meals on pinterest ill make in a year from now... ive hit i guess its called the 3 week stall and have been the same weight for 5 days now.
My husband lost his job recently and have know idea whats going to happen now. Will we have to move in with one of our moms with 2 kids, 3 dogs, 3 cats and 2 turtles or sell and move to a different city after thinking this house was going to be our forever home. My husband has gone to interviews but nothings working out. Im assuming the worst like always and feel like i cant even be a good partner trying to hold him up with freaking out and dealing with my own negative funk.
I dont want to go do anything. I feel like the tvs been my sidekick and cant break the habit. Im so sick of making my kids yummy meals and my husband doesnt seem to eat unless i make him food. I made him meatloaf and a cheessy baked potato with veggys and my mouth was watering and also had tears on my face.
I just want to feel pretty and normal and dont know how. Sorry to vent it feels alittle better writing all that down for some reason.

I'm so sorry for the job loss, I'm sure that is making life really hard now. You need some you time, even if it is a short walk with one of the dogs. As many have said this is a journey to save your life so you will be able to live a healthy life. Just take this a day at a time. As a former military wife, I never had a forever home and made each one special. You will get through this.

Agreed. Regular exercise makes you feel soooooooo much better all around.
Everyone and their mother has been saying it forever, and its' so true.
It's hard to start, but try. It's worth it. ♥️

Im so depressed right now and im the most negative person on the planet.. i cant seem to get out of my rut. Im only 3 weeks postop and regreting every day about getting the sleeve. Im sick of pureeds and not being able to drink Water with my food. Life sucks right now and cant find anything positive to think about except looking up healthy Snacks and meals on pinterest ill make in a year from now... ive hit i guess its called the 3 week stall and have been the same weight for 5 days now.
My husband lost his job recently and have know idea whats going to happen now. Will we have to move in with one of our moms with 2 kids, 3 dogs, 3 cats and 2 turtles or sell and move to a different city after thinking this house was going to be our forever home. My husband has gone to interviews but nothings working out. Im assuming the worst like always and feel like i cant even be a good partner trying to hold him up with freaking out and dealing with my own negative funk.
I dont want to go do anything. I feel like the tvs been my sidekick and cant break the habit. Im so sick of making my kids yummy meals and my husband doesnt seem to eat unless i make him food. I made him meatloaf and a cheessy baked potato with veggys and my mouth was watering and also had tears on my face.
I just want to feel pretty and normal and dont know how. Sorry to vent it feels alittle better writing all that down for some reason.

I am sorry that your husband lost his job, remember behind every no there is a yes. You will get over the pureed stage and will be eating other variations of food very soon. Remember why you had the surgery done. Be strong for your family especially the kids. My kids always know when I am sad. Stay positive for them. Talk it out with a therapist, especially if you had emotional issues with food before the surgery.
Wishing you and your family the best.

I'm sorry for how you're feeling. And for your husband's job loss. This post surgery journey is not easy. I'm almost a year out and I still feel sad and angry often because I can't turn to food for comfort like I used to. The only thing that makes it worth it for me is seeing the weight come off. That'll happen really soon for you. It won't alleviate all the icky feelings, but it does help. Sending you good vibes for everything to turn around for you quickly. Hang in there.

You might want to consider some therapy to deal with those food feelings and what's going on in your life right now.

just an idea, but you might try some exercise goals. Get a step tracker and start working up to 10,000 steps a day - gradually. Exercise releases happy mood endorphins, gives you a sense of accomplishment, empowerment, and control, builds lean muscle, and revs up the metabolism. It helps you sleep better, gives you time alone to think (if you walk), and helps with motivation in general. I found it to be extremely beneficial in my early weeks. Add some wall pushups. Each week you can up the steps, pushups, add some light weights, flights of stairs, etc. Exercise is a wonderful antidote for depression. It doesn't have to be a lot - just something. Then even if the scale doesn't change, you know you are still making progress toward goals and good health. Just something to consider.

I was on full liquids the first 10 days cream of wheat, yogurt, creamed Soups, smoothies, oatmeal, ect. Then soft foods scrambled eggs, Beans, cheese, grits. Drs. guidelines vary so much that first month. Good luck to you

Eating with a cocktail fork REALLY slows you down.
Also eating with chopsticks slows you down.
Also eating with your opposite hand.
Also having a conversation at the table with family helps you pause and put your fork down between each bite.
Also, don't pre-load your fork with the next bite until you've thoroughly chewed, savored and swallowed the bite in your mouth and you've enjoyed a bit of conversation at the table.

@JanJan19 Lmao I read your cottage cheese post and decided not to ask if advancing a day or two early would kill me. I didn’t want to get scolded either. I mean if we were all great dieters most of us wouldn’t be here in the first place. JS.
I made it to foods today without cheating except I added a little shredded cheese to my grits the last couple days, but yea, I hear you. And at some point those cream Soups and yogurt and shakes just make you want to hurl. I crushed my Protein goal today bc I added a Protein Shake snack. Do you know the next step? If you do you could cautiously try it or call your doc and let them know you feel you need to bc you’re so weak. It’s not a hard requirement for all vsgs to go so long on liquid but they may have their reasons.
I would never have survived liquids without yogurt. I was eating 3 a day to avoid extra shakes. I can do a shake a day. Any more than that is too much thick sweet drink. 

Girl, I barely made it a week on liquids. But also, listen to your doctor blah blah. I have no idea why yours specifically would be asking for a month of liquids. That sounds insane to me & I can only imagine how frustrated you are especially when we all have completely different instructions.

My pre-op was no carbs for a week & then one day of liquids. My post op was 2 weeks of liquids: Protein Shakes, Soups, liquid yogurt. I nearly lost my mind & I was freaking hungry & annoyed. I think I added cottage cheese around day 9 or 10 but I keep that on the down low because I mentioned it once here & a bunch of people went nuts on me. I think the next stage was puree, but my doctor had like all soft foods in there. Like meatloaf was okay. Potatoes, refried Beans. I am trying to stay away from carbs so I wasn't real interested in adding those in. I went pretty much from liquids to: yogurt, ground beef, ground chicken, eggs, cheese. I'm 3.5 weeks out & for the most part that's all I'm eating, in some variation. Oh and quiche. I'm eating a lot of quiche with eggs, cheese & veggies. Measured into 4oz servings.

Everyone is going to tell you to follow the plan and talk to your doctor, which is wise advice. But also very frustrating knowing that if you'd gone to another doctor across town they may very well have another plan entirely.

This entire thing is so confusing to me. I've not eaten one thing that's disagreed with me thus far. I'm being careful, and like I said I have a fairly basic list of items I'm eating but I keep waiting for some of these side effects I'm hearing about because I feel nothing. I tried salmon this weekend. It was fine. Tried cucumber. Fine. I force myself to stay to 4oz & count every calorie, gram of Protein and ounce of Water. I've not been sick at all. Drinking (water) is a total breeze.

Goodness... I saw a loaf of bread and two cupcakes cooling off 😭😳

I had my sleeve done may 31st 2019. My surgeons office isnt the best with giving information unless i ask them. I emailed them asking how much excercise am i supposed to be doing right now? Im in liquid stage still. They said excercise is always good but remember u just had surgery so baby steps.
What does that mean?? I like directions and that wasnt what i was hopeing for.
Am i supposed to be walking everyday for 30mins or an hour?
Am i supposed to be jogging i just dont know what will help my weight loss. I have been the same weight for 3 days now and not exercising until my docter said it is always good so wondering how much??
I dont think getting a gym membership at this point is good right?
I guess i thought the first month was healing time so i didnt need to do anything???? Someone know whats best???? Thanks

Im what you call a debbie downer! I had my surgery may31st and regret every day i wish i wouldnt of done it. I didnt do all the research i should of just listened to the docters counceling class. Major mistake wish i would have never done this. Maybe it will change when im thin and wearing fun pretty clothes and feel sexy again but for now my attitude is it sucks!!