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I flew in to a conference yesterday and was able to buckle my seatbelt without struggling to clasp the belt. I remember last time I flew in on the same flight last year I tried to hide the fact that my belt wasn't buckled from the attendants because I was so embarrassed and didn't want to ask for an extender.
My goal for the next flight will be to buckle it and actually have to tighten the belt!

A big reason I held off on doing WLS surgery for so long was I was worried people would think I was taking the easy way out and judge me for it. When I confessed this to my mom she gave me some great advice that it wasn't the easy way out, we still have to put in the work for the weight loss. WLS surgery would just help put me on the right track toward getting healthy. I'm so glad I listened to her and thus far, she's been right. I've still been putting work in, I just gained a tool to push me in the right direction when I struggle to make good decisions.
Also, even if it were the easy way out why is that a bad thing? Do people need to see a struggle to make weight loss valid in their minds? If there were an easier way to get healthy shouldn't we be allowed to take it?

I flew in to a conference yesterday and was able to buckle my seatbelt without struggling to clasp the belt. I remember last time I flew in on the same flight last year I tried to hide the fact that my belt wasn't buckled from the attendants because I was so embarrassed and didn't want to ask for an extender.
My goal for the next flight will be to buckle it and actually have to tighten the belt!

I flew in to a conference yesterday and was able to buckle my seatbelt without struggling to clasp the belt. I remember last time I flew in on the same flight last year I tried to hide the fact that my belt wasn't buckled from the attendants because I was so embarrassed and didn't want to ask for an extender.
My goal for the next flight will be to buckle it and actually have to tighten the belt!

I flew in to a conference yesterday and was able to buckle my seatbelt without struggling to clasp the belt. I remember last time I flew in on the same flight last year I tried to hide the fact that my belt wasn't buckled from the attendants because I was so embarrassed and didn't want to ask for an extender.
My goal for the next flight will be to buckle it and actually have to tighten the belt!

I flew in to a conference yesterday and was able to buckle my seatbelt without struggling to clasp the belt. I remember last time I flew in on the same flight last year I tried to hide the fact that my belt wasn't buckled from the attendants because I was so embarrassed and didn't want to ask for an extender.
My goal for the next flight will be to buckle it and actually have to tighten the belt!

I flew in to a conference yesterday and was able to buckle my seatbelt without struggling to clasp the belt. I remember last time I flew in on the same flight last year I tried to hide the fact that my belt wasn't buckled from the attendants because I was so embarrassed and didn't want to ask for an extender.
My goal for the next flight will be to buckle it and actually have to tighten the belt!

I flew in to a conference yesterday and was able to buckle my seatbelt without struggling to clasp the belt. I remember last time I flew in on the same flight last year I tried to hide the fact that my belt wasn't buckled from the attendants because I was so embarrassed and didn't want to ask for an extender.
My goal for the next flight will be to buckle it and actually have to tighten the belt!

I flew in to a conference yesterday and was able to buckle my seatbelt without struggling to clasp the belt. I remember last time I flew in on the same flight last year I tried to hide the fact that my belt wasn't buckled from the attendants because I was so embarrassed and didn't want to ask for an extender.
My goal for the next flight will be to buckle it and actually have to tighten the belt!

Do you have a counselor or therapist that you see for your binge-eating disorder? Having someone to work with you on the mental-health side of your journey is going to be extremely important for your success. The surgery will put limits in physically which will help with the over-eating mentality to a degree, but it's also important to approach the psychological aspect of this journey and may be what your surgery psychologist is worried about.

A big reason I held off on doing WLS surgery for so long was I was worried people would think I was taking the easy way out and judge me for it. When I confessed this to my mom she gave me some great advice that it wasn't the easy way out, we still have to put in the work for the weight loss. WLS surgery would just help put me on the right track toward getting healthy. I'm so glad I listened to her and thus far, she's been right. I've still been putting work in, I just gained a tool to push me in the right direction when I struggle to make good decisions.
Also, even if it were the easy way out why is that a bad thing? Do people need to see a struggle to make weight loss valid in their minds? If there were an easier way to get healthy shouldn't we be allowed to take it?

She's not being very supportive, but then again it's hard for others to understand our plight with obesity. Do what's best for you. It isn't the easy way out because the dieting continues for years after the surgery. The surgery doesn't magically make you skinny. It's a lot of work, but the surgery is just a tool that makes it a little bit easier to do the diet. I didn't tell anybody but my husband about my WLS because I didn't want to hear the judgers and the haters and making me feel like crap like I wasn't strong enough to do it on my own.

Ask her what kind of moron would want to do everything the hardest possible way. Does she push her car to work everyday? Use the cat's tail to apply eye shadow?

Congrats!!!! That's really exciting!

Congrats!!!! That's really exciting!

I'm so excited today! I am no longer "Obese." I weighed this morning and am officially "overweight!" My highest recorded weight about 3 yrs ago was 242 lbs. That equals a BMI of 48.9 and is Class 3 Morbid obesity. I had a BMI of 46.2 when I started my bariatric journey last June. Today, at 147 lbs, my BMI is 29.7! I am finally just "overweight!"

This sounds like a decision you should talk through with your Dr, going over your neurological auto-immune illness and whether Bariatric Surgery is a good fit to combat the weight gain that's associated with it.
I would be cautious of accepting the advice of those outside your care team (friends, family, coworkers, etc...) since ultimately it's your body and your decision and the people in our lives have all kinds of preconceived opinions and motivations for swaying you one way or another, even if well-meaning. To your daughter's point, technically, a majority of people can lose weight by watching their intake and exercise, but some people need the bariatric surgery as a tool to help move them along and that's just as valid of an accomplishment as doing it through sheer willpower.

Can you work with the Dr who is treating your neurological condition to get their opinion on whether bariatric surgery would help you?

Unfortunately, unless your daughter is a medical doctor/ bariatric surgeon/ neurologist she really does not have the experience to comment on whether or not this will be helpful for you.
You need to consult a physician to ask what possible outcomes you would be looking at with each option.
Good luck 💜

I agree with Calgalintx, I also work in a hospital and talking about patients in such a way is against policy in most places. You should report her if you can or ask for a different nurse to be assigned to your care team.
Take some deep breaths, you'll recover as quickly as your body is able, try to work on easing some of that anxiety you're feeling right now. Do as much water/walking as you are able, the walking will help relieve pressure you are feeling. Request more pain meds if the pain makes you unable to walk. Sip Water as slowly and as frequently as you are able so you're not trying to play catch-up when it's time for discharge. Most importantly, talk to your Dr. to let them know you are struggling.

I agree with Calgalintx, I also work in a hospital and talking about patients in such a way is against policy in most places. You should report her if you can or ask for a different nurse to be assigned to your care team.
Take some deep breaths, you'll recover as quickly as your body is able, try to work on easing some of that anxiety you're feeling right now. Do as much water/walking as you are able, the walking will help relieve pressure you are feeling. Request more pain meds if the pain makes you unable to walk. Sip Water as slowly and as frequently as you are able so you're not trying to play catch-up when it's time for discharge. Most importantly, talk to your Dr. to let them know you are struggling.

I agree with Calgalintx, I also work in a hospital and talking about patients in such a way is against policy in most places. You should report her if you can or ask for a different nurse to be assigned to your care team.
Take some deep breaths, you'll recover as quickly as your body is able, try to work on easing some of that anxiety you're feeling right now. Do as much water/walking as you are able, the walking will help relieve pressure you are feeling. Request more pain meds if the pain makes you unable to walk. Sip Water as slowly and as frequently as you are able so you're not trying to play catch-up when it's time for discharge. Most importantly, talk to your Dr. to let them know you are struggling.

I agree with Calgalintx, I also work in a hospital and talking about patients in such a way is against policy in most places. You should report her if you can or ask for a different nurse to be assigned to your care team.
Take some deep breaths, you'll recover as quickly as your body is able, try to work on easing some of that anxiety you're feeling right now. Do as much water/walking as you are able, the walking will help relieve pressure you are feeling. Request more pain meds if the pain makes you unable to walk. Sip Water as slowly and as frequently as you are able so you're not trying to play catch-up when it's time for discharge. Most importantly, talk to your Dr. to let them know you are struggling.

Dr Taylor at Mt. Sinai was fantastic, I wish I would have gone with him and his location for my surgery. I ended up going somewhere else for the surgery since I was already cleared there.

Has anybody tried Daily Burn for their fitness routines? I've done a few workouts with them and really like it, but was curious if other people have any input on whether they feel like it was a good workout program?