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Thanks for the reply! I agree, I want to take some time and figure out how to be me again, it's been so long in a co-dependent relationship that it will be nice to figure out myself again. My problem is I worry about the far future when I shouldn't lol Part of being an anxiety ridden nut I guess

I'm not worried about hair loss, my hair is super thick so if anything I'm kind of looking forward to that part. It's just that I don't want someone to assume I'm "normal average" size and then have to explain the loose skin and see them get grossed out. Just not looking forward to that part. And that may all be in my head, maybe whoever I tell will be super cool about it, I guess it's just the unknown that worries me.

Hey guys! I'm in a super weird predicament that I'd never thought I'd be in. I am in the beginning stages of weight loss surgery, scheduled to meet with the team in two weeks and then a few months until signing consent and getting a surgery appointment. Last month my common law partner of 12 years told me he is transgender. I never dated in high school, I have only ever been with him. So now at 31 and beginning this journey I find myself single. We are good friends so besides the financial and emotional stress there aren't any bad or hard feelings. But now I'm looking at making new relationships, both friendships and potentially eventually romantic ones. How do I do that during this process? Has anyone been there before? How do you explain to someone I may not always look like this, or loose skin and hair loss may be part of the process. I live in a small town, I don't even know how to begin the process of making friends as an adult, not to mention as an obese adult. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? Or have advice? Edit-- I should add that I am not looking to start dating right away, I'm not in that kind of headspace yet, but I am anxious about the day when I feel ready. Just the worries of ever being in a relationship again are on my mind.

What a great hopeful topic! Mine are: 1. Travel on an airplane comfortably, be able to put down the tray. 2. Wear comfortable clothes that doesn't pull tight across my belly or have to wear sizes too big and they sag around my shoulders in order to fit my mid section. 3. Be able to cross my legs. 4, Run with my dogs. 5. Have a baby, healthily.

I will check out that app! I tried fitness pal but I just kept forgetting to log. I am finding myself repeating lots of meals too, I think it may be why the hunger especially in the evening is so sucky. Way to go though, 38 lbs is no mean feat! I lost 12 the first month but in the last couple of weeks I went back up 2, every pound seems to be a fight before the surgery.

You're so close!! Just think that the next part of your life is right after that surgery! The next 10-11 months for me feel like torture lol, if I could I'd go in today to get it over with. Yes it's a harsh diet,but I think with the sleeve as a tool it'll be great. Just in the meantime with my fat belly telling me it's hungry lol Good luck with your surgery!! Fingers crossed!

Hey justmetj! Yes, it's the post surgery diet, just we're required to eat it up until the surgery, but without the tool of the actual surgery. So right now the amounts seem super small and I'm always hungry, so I've slipped up a few times.I'm not sure though how to keep the surgery team happy as well as tweak the diet enough so that it isn't as intense. Yes! I wouldn't have gotten to the point of needing the surgery if I could eat 4-5 ounces of food a meal and be happy with it lol I'm trying to stick to this diet though because I'm afraid of surgery being delayed or denied if I don't do it perfectly. My surgeon here also seems a bit more strict though as lots of people I see on here are allowed caffeine and my surgeon requires no caffeine for the rest of my life. Not too bad for me because I'm not a big hot drink person, but it would kill my mother who has 5-6 cups of tea a day lol Thank you so much for replying, it's nice to talk to people who've gone (are going) through this weight loss thing too.

Hi Frustr8 Thanks so much for sharing your story! It's so nice to have people willing to reach out and be a source of advice and support! I'm not lucky enough to live on the island actually! I'm in Labrador so I'll have to fly back and forth to the island to get the surgery and meet with surgeon, worth it in the long run but tricky in the short term I've noticed that the timeline for people in the states seems a lot shorter! But much more expensive and a lot more hoops to jump through. I was hoping there might be people out there who've had to wait a long long time before their surgeries too. Congratulations to you on your accomplishments so far!! I bet you feel so much better with those 70+ lbs gone, that's amazing!

Hi everyone! My name is Kayla, I'm 31 and got approval to start the journey to a vsg surgery in February of this year, so I've completed my education webinars and a week of trial liquid and healthy eating diet. The surgeon here in my province (there's only one) requires me to continue the bariatric diet and to complete daily food journals from now on. If I don't have these food journals they may delay my surgery. I'm finding it really difficult to stick to 3 oz protein and half a cup veggies (surgeon recommended diet) with small snacks of a half serving of fruit and protein. I won't likely get to have the actual surgery for up to another 11 months, only one surgeon means looong wait lists. Without the surgery as a tool my hunger is constantly there, and I am constantly not satisfied. Just to clarify, I am following the guidelines, but I have slipped up a few times (slice of pizza on my birthday) like increasing my protein to 5-6 ounces or having extra cheese in order to curb some of the hunger, I've also taken to eating sunflower seeds, slowly one at a time, to stop myself from thinking about other food. But it's a struggle. Just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation, how did you deal with having to follow the post surgery diet without the actual surgery to help? Has anyone had to do a long time of food journals and how to you keep on top of it? I've tried the app but having better luck actually writing mine down, but still forgetting sometimes. Advice, stories, anything would be greatly appreciated!

I'm 315, just started my journey. Doing the dietitian and nurse meetings now and hopefully have my surgery within the year. It's reassuring to see people who started near my weight say it's working out for them, especially long term. I know my expected weight after a year is around 220, but I'm personally hoping to get down in the 1's. Following the thread!

Thank you for your reply! Luckily I'm in Canada and covered by my Inuit status as well as MCP, the only thing I'll need to cover is my flights to and from the city in our province with the bariatric team. I had a referral sent in for the VSG procedure but hopefully this education process now will tell me if that's my best option. All my research says yes but the doctor's may give me other info. Yes! I'd like to start getting into the right diet so that it's sustainable!

Hey guys! I'm brand new to the forum, I am 30 years old and weigh about 310 lbs. I was at 400 at my heaviest. I've been struggling to lose weight for the last 4 years, I teach a low impact fitness group three times a week, and still it's a huge struggle to even lose percentages of a pound. The thing that pushed me into that first weight loss was a miscarriage, my husband and I desperately want to start a family. Last summer I finally put in a referral for sleeve surgery after doing some research and having an aunt go through the surgery. Now I am just starting the process, confirmed my interest and will be starting the educational portion. I was wondering if anyone can share their stories of the process now, and the best ways to start preparing even though I likely have 6 months to a year wait. We live in a very isolated small town, one very tiny grocery store so we don't have much access to the best foods or fresh produce, but I'm determined. Looking forward to the journey, and to hearing from other people going through the same thing. I am terrified honestly, but also crazy excited, Kayla