RuthD

I had my surgery on 20th of Dec. If I would decide to do the reversal would I be the same? Would I develop health problem, or would I be the same as prior to the RNY?

That’s a very rude question to ask someone and then to follow it up with “well, I don’t think you should” is just awful. Ask them if THEY plan on losing any weight!

Have you contacted the doctor? What was his inout after you told him the surgery was a fail and his fault? Did you sue him?

Hi, so I want to share something very personal. I know I will be judged for it but I have no other support. And because I feel like I am protected by this shield of anonymous I hope it will not haunt me but instead help me. I beg for understanding! So as some of you know I had doubts regarding the surgery RNY. I felt like with the support of members I got to the peaceful state of mind, prepared for what I should be eating and not, did quite a bit of research. I have noticed that in Europe (where I am from) there are no specific support groups and these types of surgeries are taboo to talk about, people are looked down for having them. So I haven't told anyone but my immediate family, and I also lied to two of my friends that I will have surgery for health purposes. My family was sceptic but I calmed them down buy telling how great it will be etc. Because I had to pay for the surgery most of the money was kindly given to me buy my mother. The surgeon gave me the date for the surgery in a month. So I felt like it was soon but by that time I felt I was prepared. So on the day of surgery I had doubts but as members said that was normal so I decided to follow through. As soon as I woke up I knew I have made a mistake. I feel like I have betrayed my body, myself, like it was the biggest mistake, irrational decission and that I was failed by the medical system in my country, as the leading up to the surgery is nothing as USA system. Yesterday I came to forum and read about the reversal and all of the horror stories of people getting sick even after years after surgery, fatigued and since that momment I cannot stop shaking inside, I feel paranoyed , so so so anxious, so emotional. I want to scream, I had so many nightmares in one night my heart is rushing. And the worst thing is I cannot tell anyone about how I feel as I don't want to be judged, but most importantly I don't want my family to feel like they let me do this thing to myself, like they have failed me. I know my mother feels so much guilt, as she keeps saying we could have tried harder for you to lose weight without depleating yourself. I am so afraid of becoming low energy, depleated of nutrients. I don't want my gallblader removed, I don't want kidney stones, I don't want the fatigue. I beg of you, please help me, tell me what to do! Has anyone has been in my shoes how have you got to the other side? Please don't judge me. Is the reversal possible? Would I be just like before? How iften does the complications occur? How long will I feel this way? I know I sound like the most stupid person in the universe.

I can't say that I felt regret. What I did feel was loss, I could not go to my best friend and comforter, food for help anymore for my emotional distress. The first few weeks were the hardest. I also have only told my immediate family. Even thought gastric bypass is more common in the united States there is still a stigma, or people who are quick to judge. I have lived a clean life I rarely drink, I only tried to smoking once, but I found myself addicted to food. I had severe high blood pressure, non alcoholic fatty liver, with cirrhosis of the liver. I was to the point that if I did not do something I was going to die. Some people will look and say but you really were not that big. The problem was my organs were not able to function properly. I was killing myself.
Fast forward to today 3 months post op. I feel really good. I am totally off my high blood pressure pill/ Water pill. My blood sugar is perfect. I can do more then I have been able to do in years. I have no doubt I will live to see all of my kids get married now, because my liver enzymes are also normal. I still have about 60 pounds to go to my personal goal weight.
So what started as what you might call regret I now see as the best thing I could of done for myself and my family. Once you see results and you start to look great in clothing and people start to notice and compliment you, these are the things you will start to be addicted to. It will make you try a little harder to walk that extra mile, or lift weights just a little longer. Let the feel good affects replace the food that is killing us.
It does get better, use your tool that you chose to get to give you freedom. Think of it as a gift you have given yourself instead of self mutilation. You have chosen life, give yourself at least a couple months before deciding you made the wrong decision. Think about what you have to look forward to.
I am 100% positive you will look back and say. "Man those first few weeks were tough but look at me know I'm living I'm happy,Healthy and a Hottie"
All the best ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))

Your feelings are very normal. I was lucky not to have them, but lots of people do. I take a medication called Ursodiol to prevent gallstones because I also want to keep my gall bladder. I would ask your doctor about it. I think I started it a month after I was sleeved. This is not a time to make any decisions. Just work on drinking Water and what your doctor recommends and try to find a professional to help you. When you have healed more you will feel so much better!

Have you contacted the doctor? What was his inout after you told him the surgery was a fail and his fault? Did you sue him?

Please, please, please find yourself a good counselor or therapist to talk to about your regrets, worries, and fear that you won’t be able to change. I only say this, because we are not equipped or able to walk you through what sounds like an extremely difficult emotional time for you. I don’t want to see you ruin or waste anymore of your life caught up in these worries and regrets, so please seek help from a qualified professional! ❤️

I never had regret, but know many people who went through that stage. I was so ready to get healthy and to lose the weight by the time I made the decision for surgery, that there was no going back.
I honestly believe that mindset is one of the make-or-breaks for post-surgery outcomes/regrets. If you expect things to be bad and miserable, they usually will be. If you go in set on having no difficulties or no insurmountable issues, then things will go much more smoothly. That was my case. I have had very very very minor issues. Nothing insurmountable. And I'm thankful every day for the blessing this surgery has been to my life.
I feel like I have my life back! I feel like I am in control of my future, rather than being slung here and there by disease--as a victim without power.
I told VERY few people--immediate family only. They are all supportive. The others just think I've lost weight and look fantastic now. I get support from Facebook and from BP and MFP. I also get support from my family...but I try not to burden them with the narcissistic obsessiveness that is early pre and post WLS. LOL. BP gets most of that! LOL.
Regret is a phase. Look at it as there is no way through but forward now. Drink TONS of liquids. And understand that the emotional rollercoaster that happens WILL pass and things WILL get better. It has for almost 99% of the people who have this surgery. A year from now, you will be a completely different person and will be so glad you had this opportunity. Congrats on going through with it!!!

Honestly, I had some regrets immediately after surgery (I had the sleeve). I think that's fairly normal. And I wasn't 100% sure going in to the surgery that I'd go through with it. The week before I told my surgeon I still wasn't sure. In pre-op, he asked me if I was sure, and I said "No, but I don't think I'll ever be, so I'm just going to do it." I'm two months out now, and I feel pretty good about it. I will say it helped that I have a therapist that specializes is weight issues and is familiar with surgery. She reminded me that in the immediate aftermath of the surgery, you're hormones are a bit off, so you can feel a LOT of emotions. One thing - I don't think you lied to your friends about this being a surgery about health - it absolutely is.
Some things that helped me - planning for foods at every stage that I like. I love lasagna, so I made ricotta bake for soft foods. I still eat that several times a week, and add some pureed spinach for extra flavor. I also love Beans, so I did pureed beans and cheese - really good.
I also got a meditation app for my phone. When I'm feeling a bit stressed, I listen to a 3-5 minute meditation and find it helps me. I also keep a list on my phone of why I wanted this for myself
I also find that walking - even a little - helps. Reading a good book and watching fun new TV shows on Netflix have also helped.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you the best and hope that it gets better for you like it did for me.

I just pray that there are people who felt or are feeling the same way and will come through with their experiences. If I could only take time back... to the morning of the surgery ...

I am in Switzerland and had the surgery done Dec 18. It is harder in Europe as there are less support systems in place. Hang in there and keep using this forum.

I just pray that there are people who felt or are feeling the same way and will come through with their experiences. If I could only take time back... to the morning of the surgery ...

Hi, so I want to share something very personal. I know I will be judged for it but I have no other support. And because I feel like I am protected by this shield of anonymous I hope it will not haunt me but instead help me. I beg for understanding! So as some of you know I had doubts regarding the surgery RNY. I felt like with the support of members I got to the peaceful state of mind, prepared for what I should be eating and not, did quite a bit of research. I have noticed that in Europe (where I am from) there are no specific support groups and these types of surgeries are taboo to talk about, people are looked down for having them. So I haven't told anyone but my immediate family, and I also lied to two of my friends that I will have surgery for health purposes. My family was sceptic but I calmed them down buy telling how great it will be etc. Because I had to pay for the surgery most of the money was kindly given to me buy my mother. The surgeon gave me the date for the surgery in a month. So I felt like it was soon but by that time I felt I was prepared. So on the day of surgery I had doubts but as members said that was normal so I decided to follow through. As soon as I woke up I knew I have made a mistake. I feel like I have betrayed my body, myself, like it was the biggest mistake, irrational decission and that I was failed by the medical system in my country, as the leading up to the surgery is nothing as USA system. Yesterday I came to forum and read about the reversal and all of the horror stories of people getting sick even after years after surgery, fatigued and since that momment I cannot stop shaking inside, I feel paranoyed , so so so anxious, so emotional. I want to scream, I had so many nightmares in one night my heart is rushing. And the worst thing is I cannot tell anyone about how I feel as I don't want to be judged, but most importantly I don't want my family to feel like they let me do this thing to myself, like they have failed me. I know my mother feels so much guilt, as she keeps saying we could have tried harder for you to lose weight without depleating yourself. I am so afraid of becoming low energy, depleated of nutrients. I don't want my gallblader removed, I don't want kidney stones, I don't want the fatigue. I beg of you, please help me, tell me what to do! Has anyone has been in my shoes how have you got to the other side? Please don't judge me. Is the reversal possible? Would I be just like before? How iften does the complications occur? How long will I feel this way? I know I sound like the most stupid person in the universe.

Right after surgery, I wondered if I did the right thing. It was a little rough and I worried just like you. But each day things slightly improved. It doesn't happen overnight but it is pointed in the right direction. It took a full 6 months before I was really happy with the decision.
Some people right after surgery cannot even get a good nights sleep. Therefore they are deprived of the rest they need to restore their bodies. Some on this site found it easier to sleep on a recliner for a few days. So this site is full of people who lived problems after surgery and found ways to deal with them. So if you have a specific problem put it out there and someone may have a specific answer that will provide relief.
The three most important elements after RNY gastric bypass surgery are to meet your daily Protein, Fluid and Vitamin requirements. food is secondary because your body is converting your stored fat into the energy that drives your body. Thus you lose weight.
Weight loss is achieved after surgery through meal volume control. You begin at 2 ounces (1/4 cup) per meal and gradually over the next year and a half increase the volume to 1 cup per meal. With this minuscule amount of food, it is next to impossible to meet your protein daily requirements by food alone, so therefore you need to rely on supplements such as Protein Shakes.
So hopefully, your surgery team gave you detailed requirements for the various daily vitamin requirement, the fluid requirements and the daily meal volume and food types (liquid, puree, solid) as a function of time. Mine were provided in a 1 inch thick binder. If this was not spelled out in detail, we will try and help.
I wrote a short article about my experiences after surgery. It may help. http://www.breadandbutterscience.com/Surgery.pdf

I just pray that there are people who felt or are feeling the same way and will come through with their experiences. If I could only take time back... to the morning of the surgery ...

I am a bit over month after gastric bypass surgery... and feeling so much down now... I feel like I’ve done biggest mistake in my life by choosing this op.. Instead I should just had a sleeve or just cut half of it off so there wouldn’t be any malnutrition or dumpings... coz now I lost 24k within a month.. I feel so weak I don’t know how to get back to work as I feel too weak even to get upstairs... I am so depressed that it is even impossible to explain... any comments on that???