I had the same thing happen to me when I first started going to seminars, making Dr. appointments, etc. However, for my husband, the issue was financial. I was a self pay and he did not want to spend the money. Also, my weight has never been a problem for him. I have to say, he has loved me through "thick" and "thinner". He really didn't think I needed to have the surgery, but I did this for ME!!! And that is what you really need to take a look at. It's hard when your married though, because it's supposed to be a "we" thing, not an "I" thing. And if you are like me, you probably don't feel comfortable doing something without his blessing. I had my husband go with me to the seminars so he could hear for himself and ask questions. He eventually agreed to the surgery, but I still did not feel like I had his total support. My drive time to the surgery center from my hometown was 2 1/2 hours, and we fought about it the whole way to Kansas City. Talk about miserable! I really needed his support - most of all on that day. I was already scared (for nothing, I might add....looking back the surgery was pretty simple and it is safe), and the last thing I needed that day was to have to go under the knife being a nervous wreck from arguing all morning. I must to say in my husband's defense, that he is a wonderful man and usually treats me very well, but this was a real issue for him at first. Since the surgery, he has been very supportive and he now sees what a difference it has made in OUR life and OUR marriage. Before I lost weight, the whole family had to suffer because I couldn't/didn't want to /didn't feel like doing things they wanted to do (e.g.: going swimming, going on rides at an amusement park, riding a bike, hiking a trail, etc.) Now I can join in and enjoy the fun. He also sees the difference in my confidence level and my health. He now agrees it was probably the best thing I ever did!:redface: Hang in there!