Sheribear68

Okay so I hit a stall on on day 12 after losing 23 pounds and once it lasted 3 days I decided that I CANNOT be a slave to the scale.
It hasn’t been long enough since surgery for me to feel like I can handle the mental roller coaster the scale provides.
So this is what I worked out I was gonna do: Find a pair of pants that you are close to fitting in, but that don’t fit yet.
Try them on every day until you CAN fit in them.
Then and only then do you weigh yourself.
I had my husband hide the scale and promise not to tell me where it was until I can fit into those pants.
I haven’t weighed myself in 3 mornings now and I feel better about it.

Yes! Exactly! We each have to figure things out and hack our bodies in order to develop those life-long new and healthy relationships with food, alcohol, and socialization that will keep us at our healthy goal weights for life rather than to returning to another day/night at the Obesity Ball.

I’m still on the purée stage, but I consider it a victory if I can get in 45-60 grams a day.
And most days I fall short because I can’t yet get in more than 300-400 calories per day

Thanks! Figuring this out as I go...

Thanks! I’ll definitely think about that advice. I seriously might just tell him I’m a bit under the weather (which isn’t a lie) and don’t feel like my stomach can handle dancing (also true). As a cancer survivor, I can’t be vague about any kind of procedure because everyone assumes the worst and it might worry him more on his big day.
Later I will tell both my nephews, once this is over and they’ve had a chance to recover from this weekend.
Oh yeah chewing an chewing and chewing yesterday completely got me through the salad course, and one appetizer course, the veggies and then the chicken. Wow, I’ve forgotten how DRY things like banquet chicken are. 🤣🤣🤣
Oh yeah... and there were delicious-looking mashed potatoes on my plate and I didn’t taste even one bite.

Don't confide. Rock through it. You're doing a great job! If he wonders, just tell him you had a little procedure done...that way you don't usurp and upstage his big day.
You're a rockstar and doing tremendously! Congrats! Remember to chew chew and chew some more. It will make puree in your mouth.

Okay so 17 days out from being sleeved and here I am for a big family wedding. My nephew is getting married and he’s been engaged for 2 years.
No expense has been spared by either set of parents and its more of an entire weekend rather than “just” a wedding.
Me and hubs have had our airline tickets and hotel reservations for over 6 months and the ENTIRE family is flying in from multiple countries to attend.
So I’ve only been on purées for 3 days and here I am traveling and in a hotel.
After a loooong 8 hrs travel, I managed to drink 60 ounces Water and eat zero Protein.
I did bring some of the oatmeal and hot chocolate protein and had room service bring me a boiled egg.
Couldn’t finish either one.
Then we go to the rehearsal dinner which is a giant, catered cocktail party with open bar, millions of appetizers, and then a 4 course meal. The meal alone took over 2 hours from start to finish.
Then there was dessert drinks and desserts... about 6 different kinds.

I’m very proud to say that I took very small bites from each course: like 1-2 tablespoons each and then had about 2 ounces of the chicken.
No beverage and zero Desserts.
Hardly anyone there knew I’ve had surgery, and kept trying to push drink after drink at me and I had to “fake” several toasts.
I finally begged one of the bartenders to serve me ice water in a highball glass with lime and I pretended to people it was a vodka water with lime.

As I sit here exhausted back in my hotel room, I realize I have to do this all again tomorrow for the wedding 😭😭😭
A bus is coming to pick us all up tomorrow and I’ll be several more hours surrounded by drinks I can’t drink and food I can barely eat.
On the upside, I feel quite empowered by my success so far and what will get me through tomorrow is the knowledge that I will be so PROUD of myself once this is over.

Well done on getting through a tough challenge

Okay so 17 days out from being sleeved and here I am for a big family wedding. My nephew is getting married and he’s been engaged for 2 years.
No expense has been spared by either set of parents and its more of an entire weekend rather than “just” a wedding.
Me and hubs have had our airline tickets and hotel reservations for over 6 months and the ENTIRE family is flying in from multiple countries to attend.
So I’ve only been on purées for 3 days and here I am traveling and in a hotel.
After a loooong 8 hrs travel, I managed to drink 60 ounces Water and eat zero Protein.
I did bring some of the oatmeal and hot chocolate protein and had room service bring me a boiled egg.
Couldn’t finish either one.
Then we go to the rehearsal dinner which is a giant, catered cocktail party with open bar, millions of appetizers, and then a 4 course meal. The meal alone took over 2 hours from start to finish.
Then there was dessert drinks and desserts... about 6 different kinds.

I’m very proud to say that I took very small bites from each course: like 1-2 tablespoons each and then had about 2 ounces of the chicken.
No beverage and zero Desserts.
Hardly anyone there knew I’ve had surgery, and kept trying to push drink after drink at me and I had to “fake” several toasts.
I finally begged one of the bartenders to serve me ice water in a highball glass with lime and I pretended to people it was a vodka water with lime.

As I sit here exhausted back in my hotel room, I realize I have to do this all again tomorrow for the wedding 😭😭😭
A bus is coming to pick us all up tomorrow and I’ll be several more hours surrounded by drinks I can’t drink and food I can barely eat.
On the upside, I feel quite empowered by my success so far and what will get me through tomorrow is the knowledge that I will be so PROUD of myself once this is over.

Okay so I hit a stall on on day 12 after losing 23 pounds and once it lasted 3 days I decided that I CANNOT be a slave to the scale.
It hasn’t been long enough since surgery for me to feel like I can handle the mental roller coaster the scale provides.
So this is what I worked out I was gonna do: Find a pair of pants that you are close to fitting in, but that don’t fit yet.
Try them on every day until you CAN fit in them.
Then and only then do you weigh yourself.
I had my husband hide the scale and promise not to tell me where it was until I can fit into those pants.
I haven’t weighed myself in 3 mornings now and I feel better about it.

It must be hard, but you have done well. Congratulations on that. I also have a few upcoming events and none there will know that I had the surgery either. If I can handle myself as well as you have I will be proud.

I’m still on the purée stage, but I consider it a victory if I can get in 45-60 grams a day.
And most days I fall short because I can’t yet get in more than 300-400 calories per day

Okay so 17 days out from being sleeved and here I am for a big family wedding. My nephew is getting married and he’s been engaged for 2 years.
No expense has been spared by either set of parents and its more of an entire weekend rather than “just” a wedding.
Me and hubs have had our airline tickets and hotel reservations for over 6 months and the ENTIRE family is flying in from multiple countries to attend.
So I’ve only been on purées for 3 days and here I am traveling and in a hotel.
After a loooong 8 hrs travel, I managed to drink 60 ounces Water and eat zero Protein.
I did bring some of the oatmeal and hot chocolate protein and had room service bring me a boiled egg.
Couldn’t finish either one.
Then we go to the rehearsal dinner which is a giant, catered cocktail party with open bar, millions of appetizers, and then a 4 course meal. The meal alone took over 2 hours from start to finish.
Then there was dessert drinks and desserts... about 6 different kinds.

I’m very proud to say that I took very small bites from each course: like 1-2 tablespoons each and then had about 2 ounces of the chicken.
No beverage and zero Desserts.
Hardly anyone there knew I’ve had surgery, and kept trying to push drink after drink at me and I had to “fake” several toasts.
I finally begged one of the bartenders to serve me ice water in a highball glass with lime and I pretended to people it was a vodka water with lime.

As I sit here exhausted back in my hotel room, I realize I have to do this all again tomorrow for the wedding 😭😭😭
A bus is coming to pick us all up tomorrow and I’ll be several more hours surrounded by drinks I can’t drink and food I can barely eat.
On the upside, I feel quite empowered by my success so far and what will get me through tomorrow is the knowledge that I will be so PROUD of myself once this is over.

Okay so I had a session with my therapist tonite (great timing with this stall) and I’m going to use a non-scale victory over the next few weeks.
I have a pair of pants that I really want to wear and currently I can pull them over my hips but cannot zip or button them.
When I can put them on and sit comfortably in them, I’m allowing myself to get back on the scale.
Until then, I will refuse to weigh

First day of the stall hit while still on liquid diet phase. I consumed 184 calories that day.
Second day was 1st day purées. I had 1/2 egg and 1/4 cup low-fat cottage cheese for 2 meals and all I had was the 2 meals. Yeah that’s all I had that day but I was so sick and tired of “sweet” tasting Protein Drinks I didn’t care.
Yesterday I branched out and added a third meal of the Bariatric oatmeal.
I double checked all my macros and I’ve only had about 20gm carbs for the 3 days combined.

I did skip walking on the treadmill one of those days bc I had dr appts all day.
Man I hope skipping one day on the treadmill doesn’t put me into a stall...

Okay so I had a session with my therapist tonite (great timing with this stall) and I’m going to use a non-scale victory over the next few weeks.
I have a pair of pants that I really want to wear and currently I can pull them over my hips but cannot zip or button them.
When I can put them on and sit comfortably in them, I’m allowing myself to get back on the scale.
Until then, I will refuse to weigh

Okay so I had a session with my therapist tonite (great timing with this stall) and I’m going to use a non-scale victory over the next few weeks.
I have a pair of pants that I really want to wear and currently I can pull them over my hips but cannot zip or button them.
When I can put them on and sit comfortably in them, I’m allowing myself to get back on the scale.
Until then, I will refuse to weigh

Thanks so far for the responses.
One reason it’s kinda bothering me is because where I am “stuck” right now has been a sticking place with me in the past.
However in the past I would get stuck here, flounder around for a few weeks, then slowly start to regain.
Logically I know that cannot happen this time around but I feel as if I almost have PTSD over it.
Lol, I’ll be MUCH happier once I can breakthrough

I'm 5 months out and hit more stalls than I can count. I have to learn to be patient with myself. I didn't put all this weight on in one month. I have to keep thinking of where I want to be in a year. Learned to change up my eating, get more calories for fuel, and exercise more.

I did. From 2-3 weeks basically. Just seems to have broken but I’m not going to obsess right now. Or try not. Lol

Gosh Boldilocks that stinks.
I’m hoping someone sees this that has been there and come out the other side with a positive story.

In the meantime we take one day at a time

I find myself attracted to and disgusted by the show.
For the most part, I get so frustrated with these guys because it seems like they have every excuse on the planet yet don’t want to work with anyone to try to help themselves
I mean at 260 pounds I had to go through 2 formal psychiatric counseling session, plus my insurance set me up for 12 weeks with a therapist via phone call
I KNOW these people get psych evals before surgery so either they are the best liars ever, or they’re getting “pushed through”.
There was one episode with a guy who ordered like 5-6 pizzas delivered after his surgery and I wanted to reach through the tv and slap him silly.
Sorry, but every single person on this planet has some kind of baggage. Yes, I acknowledge that many people have it worse than others, but we still jail people who commit crimes and who had a bad childhood.
This show sometimes feels like it’s giving all of these guys a pass to act like complete a-holes to everyone around them and not be accountable for their actions

Gosh Boldilocks that stinks.
I’m hoping someone sees this that has been there and come out the other side with a positive story.

In the meantime we take one day at a time

Okay. I’ve promised myself I won’t panic.
Was sleeved on 2/6 and recovering “normally”
Lost 23.4 pounds in 12 days and now I’ve been at the exact same weight for 3 days running.
Lol, I even had my husband get on the scale to verify it wasn’t “stuck” and it registered a different weight with him.
I’ve heard of the 3 week stall and was ready for that, but this has kinda hit me by surprise.
Has anyone else had the 2 week stall?
I’m keeping my fingers crossed that maybe because I lost almost 10% of my body weight in 2 days, I just hit the stall early?
The thought that my body is betraying me again this early in the process is unimaginable

I was sleeved the day before you - and hit a stall at day 10 that is in its 6th day now. I know everyone says it's normal and to be expected, but it's still very worrying and frustrating after going through so much to get here. Hugs.