WeightLoss Mama

Wow! What a crapton of stress and worry! I get it! Life definitely happens while we're trying to improve ourselves!! I think the idea of having low carb/low fat/healthier options on hand will be very helpful. I also think it's important to get up each day (only take that 1 day) and make a 1-10 check list of plans. Scratch them off as you complete them. Make doing self-care part of that plan. Cuz if you're well, the kids will be healthier.
Try making yourself a deal for 1 day only. Make a deal not to have ANYTHING sweet all day (whether or not that is sugar or sugar subs). And include making it a no crap day--so no chips crackers etc. If you need to clean all the crap out of the pantry, frig and freezer! The kids don't need the crap either! Lock it in the trunk of your car if you must! Then any time you're hungry, drink a glass of Water as quickly as you can. Then wait 20 minutes--get busy with something else. If at the end of 20 minutes you are still hungry and it's not time for your meal, then have a small Protein and veggie based 100cal snack. Follow your rules of eating/drinking. If it is time to eat, then have your meal that you've planned.
The rule is that if you're hungry, you eat protein/veg at 100cals per pop. No sweet. I use things like boiled eggs, al dente steamed broccoli, raw veg like leafy greens, rbp, carrots, celery, etc. If I'm hungry enough to eat, then I will eat a boiled egg and some veg! Hard to binge when you're full of boiled egg and veg!
Then once you complete the day...do it again tomorrow. Just only commit for 1 day.
If you screw up, then continue moving forward taking the next best bite. Don't throw the day away cuz of a slip or an isolated meal or snack. Put the snack in the trash, get the crap out of the house...etc.
You can do this. It IS worth it! You are worth it. Your family is worth it.
Find a counselor!!! Talk to your doc and RD!!!! Get them to help. It is in their best interest to help you through this rough patch, cuz you are part of their outcomes of surgery. They want to have good stats.

January 28!

January 28!

Not much different between 12 to 13 months except for no reason at all I started dropping weight again instead of maintaining. Currently 153lbs.
Anemia is ever present, knew I would be so I will resume IV treatments for that. Missing the summer, need a vacation from the cold. I'm always cold.
food choices are pretty constant, I'm boring and don't really need a lot of variation just rotation of my usual suspects.
No clue what clothing size I really wear but it's between a small and medium, 6-8 totally depends on cut and designer.
Dumping and food comas still occurs for me, random things like nut, meat, yogurt (lol, whatever) very mild reflux depending on food choice like yogurt, (lol whatever again) not taking anything for it because PPIs are more trouble than they are worth. If necessary I will get papaya enzyme and work with that.
BUT overall still a good choice

January 28!

Got my clearance from dr. and insurance and got a tentative surgery date.

So, just weighed in at the doctor’s office for my medical clearance -I loss 13 pounds since 10/11!!! These small changes are going to aid in my recovery for after the sleeve procedure!

Excited !

Hey everyone! I always post the good and the bad. So I’ve been stalled for nine days. But I feel like it’s about to break. I’ve continued working out and have resisted some very tempting extra calories here and there. So, hopefully I will have a weight loss post soon. My hair isn’t as bad anymore and I’m taking my Vitamins regularly. I get in 3-5 16 ounce bottle of Water a day. Not as much as I should. Also, I’ve been able to eat slightly more and have found some foods to be slider foods that are even high in Protein. So, I’m trying to navigate this for long term weight loss. My goal is to be baby ready by June/July. 😊

@RJS109
I just wrapped up the life skills class on Thursday (due to the snow the week of Thanksgiving and holidays).

I requested a ‘phantom’ date for surgery for employment purposes. So, I have a date for late January that may change.

My meeting with the nurse practitioner is scheduled for 12/5. I will need to schedule the appointment for the medical clearance but they do not see a problem.

Excited! How about you?

I have Dr. Halbert too. I live in New Castle.
Have you received your date yet? Curious how far out surgery is scheduled for after getting insurance approval.
My medical clearance appointment is on January 2nd. Hoping for a late January surgery, but that might be too optimistic.

Honestly I am only about 5 months out from hitting goal and maintaining well. I am nearly 2 years post op.
I think I will always be a WLS patient. Mostly this comes from having to be so careful to get proper nourishment and all the things that can go wrong if I don't. Every time I see a doctor of any kind it has to be brought up. Most physicians don't even know the potential issues with treating a WLS patient. From malabsorbing medications to having to do a complete nutritional panel and understanding what it all means. I swear, I have had 2 different PCPs since having Bariatric surgery and have moved out of state.
I have had to almost train my PCPs and I have to ask all the critical questions about my care and how my nutrition plays a key role. I am not sure that will ever change to be honest. Now maybe that's because I have had so many dealings with doctors since my surgery. I have degenerative disc disease and severe osteo arthritis so I usually dealing with spine problems or joint problems so I have a lot of interaction with the medical field. Most of them are clueless about how to treat us.Maybe that is why I feel that way.
Just my point of view.

You look so good! You said you will never be skinny...guess what?? You are skinny love with your curves and all. I’m so happy for you and you are a good example of what hard work and determination looks like.

Inspiration overload 🙌🏾. Yassssss

Hello all!

I am 5 months out and a 100lbs down. I am honestly so grateful that I got the opportunity to have this operation done. I don’t miss my old life style at all, I now love the gym, I love my lean Protein and veggie meals, I love being able to shop anywhere without worrying about if they’ll carry my size, I love not worrying about taking up too much space on public transport, I love running about everywhere and not feeling the excess weight on my knees and feet.

Have I had bad days?? Of course! One day I ate an entire block of brie, another day I ate a slice of pizza. But the difference is now I don’t let my mistakes define. One bad meal isn’t going to get me back where I started. One bad meal isn’t the end of my journey. I accept it, and move on. Maybe i’ll move around even more the next day.

I have another 30lbs to go until I hit my goal weight, I will never ever ever be skinny, because i’m naturally curvy and you know what? That’s ok. I own these curves and i’m healthy and curvy!

HW: 298
SW: 289
CW:185
GW:150 ish?

Before and less than a year post VSG.

I completely agree with you, and i'm glad you kept yours a secret to avoid the negativity.

I'm only 5'1 and according to the BMI, anything over 130 is over weight for me so imagine what it takes to be considered morbidly obese, not much.

I think everyone should be supported for trying sooooo hard to take control of their life back.

I'm also seeing tons of the "you only lost how much weight in X time" comments. It's not a race and any loss is progress.

Once a day is a habit, not a treat. Work it into your plan and expect the correlated outcomes.
I have Protein Bars, the ones that are more like candy bars once a day and a part of my meal because I like dessert but refuse to just eat anything.
I decided in order to make it work I needed to find the "cleaner" versions of things I wanted, even the sugar free versions work occasionally. The cals will add up so I log them to stay accountable.
Safe Journey!

I'm such a hypocrite! I legit went into this journey thinking "I got this!" I thought I was going to be one of the huge successes that was going to be able to be an inspiration to EVERYONE. I wanted to just rock this process. Then once I had the surgery everything changed. I wanted nothing more than to feel "normal" again. I wanted to have my proverbial cake and eat it too. I wanted to lose the weight, but not even acknowledge the newly built pouch that was the secret to my success. I did really good, going from (5'8) 280 to about 215 in four months. Christmas of 2016 was my stall. Well, guess what...I'm still there. In the last nine months, I've slowly been going back to my pre-surgery life. WTH??? Why would I put myself though all this only to go back to where I was? I bounced around getting down as low as 198 once or twice- but that is just it..yo-yoing again! I'm currently back up to 209.8 and determined to turn this **** around! I cannot believe how MUCH I've taken my tool for granted! I started my pouch reset yesterday. I noticed a difference nearly immediately. I took the advice and decided to do what I should have done the first time around. Good habits: stop drinking 30 mins prior to food and after food, eating (or drinking my Protein Shakes in my case) sloooooooooowly. I did have some low fat cottage cheese yesterday evening and found that it took everything I have in me to finish it! It felt amazing! I got full in no time JUST from eating slow. I could barely finish that half cup of food!

So my lesson learned: DO NOT JUDGE. It will be a lifelong battle and journey for me. I was magically thinking my pouch would take away my mental battle with food. The next step is to get help with that mental part. I did have the psych eval, but iI truly think nearly everyone going through this process should have some additional therapy to deal with the eating disorder that caused the obesity. Not many people will acknowledge overeating as an eating disorder- but why is that? If people refuse to eat or cannot eat, its considered an ED, if you purge and vomit or take laxatives to get rid of the food, its an ED. Overeating is, IMO just as bad.
I am very anxious to get started with my food therapy and finding someone that can help me. One tool i did not take advantage of is the support groups my doctors offered. BIG mistake. That is free help! I'm going to look into getting involved with those and proudly reclaim my tool. I'll keep ya posted!

This is a common phenomenon in the African-American community.
Many of our peoples' perceptions regarding body image are whacked. In essence, the lower end of the plus sizes (12, 14 and 16) have become the new normal. Anything smaller is "too skinny."
I'm 5'1 and about 120 pounds with a BMI of 22. I like how I look, yet many people in the black community feel I'm too "skinny" and need to become thicker.
On the other hand, my white acquaintances comment that I look healthy and good. In general, obesity is more socially acceptable in the black community.
What matters is your personal goals, your health, and where you want to be.
Don't allow other people to define you. In all likelihood, the people making the comments need to look in the mirror and engage in some self-improvement. Good luck to you.

I have been told by multiple people (friends, family and coworkers) that I am getting slim and shouldn't lose much more weight (like maybe 20 more lbs max). I'm at 197 right now and want to hit 130 (and this is my max, I ideally want to get smaller). I'm not even 5 feet tall but a number of people have said that I shouldn't want to lose my "thickness". I don't get it. I can't wrap my head around this obsession with "thickness". At 130 I'd still be considered overweight. I don't even like the way I look right now so it boggles my mind to have people say that I look good this way. Has anyone else experienced this?

Well tomorrow morning at 5:30 am on the 31st of Oct. is my big day! I've bought all the Vitamins I'll need for the next 3 weeks and shakes. Propel Water etc all is ready, and I'm excited! I'm currently 5'8" and 258 pounds. My goal is 160 or 170 range. I'm a follower of Jesus, live my love for God very loudly.
I am four years healed of self-injury, thanks to God and a supportive family.
My mom and grandmother are very supportive of my choice, my father is not. He is worried about 'head hunger' and this not working out at all. I can understand his concern, but at the end of the day, it is my body and myself I have to contend with.
I believe that a huge componate will continue to be my faith, and family. I will also be attending support group meetings at the hospital that I'm being sleeved at.
I've been soaking in faith-based music today, and am mentally preparing for the big day tomorrow. I'll probably update this thread when I am back home. It's only a one night stay and then I'm released back home.
I do believe that those who are worried will be surprised by joy when they see me push through. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength!

Hello All! I am new to the group. I received the green light for my sleeve surgery scheduled for 1/28/19. I could have had it sooner but due to work commitments and child care issues, it will be in January!

I am happy and excited to start this adventure! Please comment with words of wisdom and advice! Surgery buddies are welcome. Hey

Wow, tempus fugit! A year ago today, I went into surgery weighing 284 lbs. Today, I weigh 195 lbs for total of 89 Lbs lost...SO FAR. My original goal was 140 pounds. While I am still headed in that direction, well see what the future brings. Wile I am very happy with my weightloss to date, I thought I would be further along. Oh, I'm not ungrateful, just anxious. I know that I have made some food choices that I shouldn't have, but I try to shake it off, and stay on task. Some days are better than others. I'm still forcing myself to drink lots of Water. I can say I have gotten much better!
Along with the weightloss, I have gone from wearing a size 24 to a size 14. One day I just stared at a dress in my closet, amazed that it was really mine...in that size! I actually tried on a dress in a size 12, and it fit. Wow. A few other victories....
I CAN NOW:
-shop off the rack, on the main level, not downstairs...behind housewares
-cross my legs without cutting off my circulation
-share a seat on my commuter train without fear of spilling over the center
-run up stairs without gasping for air
-Go shopping with a friend
-tuck my shirt in
-wrap a bath towel around my body
-WEAR LILLY PULITZER....HOORAY!
-sit on furniture without fear of crashing to the floor
***drumroll, please*** I WEIGH LESS THAN MY HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!
here are a few photos to show my progress thus far. I can't wait to come back in a few months to share my goal photos.
Thank you
Darlene

Hello All! I am new to the group. I received the green light for my sleeve surgery scheduled for 1/28/19. I could have had it sooner but due to work commitments and child care issues, it will be in January!

I am happy and excited to start this adventure! Please comment with words of wisdom and advice! Surgery buddies are welcome. Hey