skierhj

thanks for the replies. This is definitely a tough one, I just really don't know what to say to people and I work in a small office and everyone knows what everyone is up to and so they keep asking while I'll be out for a bit. I keep saying "health reasons" and even that begs a million more questions.

So, my surgery is next Wednesday (May 21st)! I'm really pretty excited and looking forward to the future. But, I haven't told anyone other than a couple of family members (and only then because they're going to be there with me) that I am doing this. I feel like if I admit this I will be horribly embarassed (as if being overweight isn't bad enough). Problem part 2 - obviously having surgery, obviously going to be losing weight???? How do I explain that if I just can't admit it to people?

21st as well. My MD has me on Atkins for 10 days, on day 2 of that and getting excited

when I talked to my primary care physician he too told me not to have this surgery under any conditions. He made an appointment for me with a nutritionist and she said I should do it. The fact is that if I could control my eating I wouldn't need the surgery...now, I'm 9 days away and am excited

I have the same problem, my insurance company has a specific exclusion for any bariatric surgeries as they consider them to be "elective" surgery akin to cosmetic and not medically necessary. What a ridiculous idea. By the time I admitted to myself that I needed to have the lap band surgery there were already problems caused by my weight. The somewhat good new is that I have spoken to a lot of people with my insurance company and the only things they won't cover are specifically related to lap band and they were pretty minimal. Fills, erosion, slippage, and anything the specifically and directly relates to the band I say it's worth the risk. The odds of running into these issues seem pretty small and the possible benefits seem to greatly outweigh the risks. I'm going in on the 21st!

So, I'm having surgery on May 21st and I'm rather nervous. I seem to be excited and looking forward to losing weight, feeling better, moving better one day to feeling like a failure the next day. I haven't been able to lose weight on my own because food is too tasty and I like lots of it. I have gotten my head around the idea that I need some help but there are those days when I feel like giving into the band is a failure on my part and it really drives me up the wall feeling that way. What did some of you do to get mentally prepared for the sugery?

The 21st first for me as well, good luck!

I'm there with you. I'm going on the 21st of May and everyday I seem to find something else to worry about. I am tired of being the big guy with the skinny friends, or being the jolly guy.The only thing I do know is that you are doing this for you and not for him.

Obiviously, I'm new here. Getting banded in 3 weeks, and I'm nervous (probably normal). I just don't know what's ahead of me and I'm pretty uptight. I know I need this, I need to drop the weight so I can go back to a "normal" life and start living again. What's next?