BeanieSprouts

Congrats on having surgery, and I'm so happy to hear you're doing well! I did the same thing, actually, and weighed myself right when I came home from surgery. Bad idea, I'd gained like 15 lbs and my family was like terrified I'd be upset. I just took more pain pills and took a nap. lol.
My highest weight was close to yours, 360! I feel like admitting it is so powerful, like there's no reason to be ashamed. I'm not less of a person because I weighed 360 lbs, and neither are you. You're about to go through so many changes, and I hope you know that you deserve all of the good that comes with this. You're amazing, wonderful and so strong. You're just getting started on his journey, and that's amazing! I wish you luck, happiness and so, so much positivity.

I've noticed this too, unfortunately not any welcome attention. :c Mostly just men sending me pictures of their genitalia on Facebook, to which I reply with pictures of hot dogs being sliced up.

Good Morning! I need a bit of a dose of reality from you guys, and I would really appreciate some feedback.

I work in an office with a girl who went to the same surgeon I did. We had our surgeries done about 2 months apart, me first and hers second. I know she's still in the honeymoon phase (and maybe I am too, I'm less than a year out), but she eats SO MUCH more than I can and eats SO MUCH that I can't.
We talk often about foods we can and can't eat. She recommended eating sweetened condensed milk because it "slides down", talks about how she can polish a whole bottle of wine off on her own nightly and eats fried chicken sliders multiple times a week. She still eats french fries, ice cream, cake, Cookies and chips.
I'm not looking to change her behavior, I know that's not possible nor is that my problem. My issue is that because she's a lighter weight than I was starting, she's visibly lost more weight than me and people in the office are commenting. If I pass on a piece of cake, they say I shouldn't because "well SHE'S having one!" and while I don't listen, it makes my life harder.
Admittedly I'm jealous that she seems to be putting very little effort in and seems to be doing well. I am not undermining my own progress, I've lost 120 pounds so far, and 90 alone from surgery. I have completely overhauled my diet and life. But I am still jealous of her ability to eat whatever and still lose weight.
I know in rational Beanie-Brain that she is not set up for success and that makes me sad, but it doesn't change how I feel about this. Someone please tell me that I'm not a loser for refusing all cake and candy in my office and that my emotions are irrational?

I've noticed this too, unfortunately not any welcome attention. :c Mostly just men sending me pictures of their genitalia on Facebook, to which I reply with pictures of hot dogs being sliced up.

I've noticed this too, unfortunately not any welcome attention. :c Mostly just men sending me pictures of their genitalia on Facebook, to which I reply with pictures of hot dogs being sliced up.

I've noticed this too, unfortunately not any welcome attention. :c Mostly just men sending me pictures of their genitalia on Facebook, to which I reply with pictures of hot dogs being sliced up.

I've noticed this too, unfortunately not any welcome attention. :c Mostly just men sending me pictures of their genitalia on Facebook, to which I reply with pictures of hot dogs being sliced up.

I've noticed this too, unfortunately not any welcome attention. :c Mostly just men sending me pictures of their genitalia on Facebook, to which I reply with pictures of hot dogs being sliced up.

I've noticed this too, unfortunately not any welcome attention. :c Mostly just men sending me pictures of their genitalia on Facebook, to which I reply with pictures of hot dogs being sliced up.

That is SO frustrating and upsetting! You are so close, and you can do this! I promise. It's a minor set back, the universe telling you that it's not the exact time. You're still on the road there, just a slight Detour. Some traffic. You got this, and when you get your clearance you're gonna ROCK it!

I have lost the ability to fold shirts neatly because I'm used to having so much extra fabric. Where do the arms go???

Start VERY slow, especially if you're nervous. Have only a TINY mouthful of puree and wait to see how it sits for you. It may make you feel sick, and eating more than a bean-sized amount at a time can make that worse. Listen to your body, you'll know when it's time to stop. Trust me. lol. You can do this!! I had a tiny amount of pudding first and it was pure bliss.

Thank you everyone so much! Rationally I know everything you are all saying, but it's so nice to hear it from someone else. ❤️

Good Morning! I need a bit of a dose of reality from you guys, and I would really appreciate some feedback.

I work in an office with a girl who went to the same surgeon I did. We had our surgeries done about 2 months apart, me first and hers second. I know she's still in the honeymoon phase (and maybe I am too, I'm less than a year out), but she eats SO MUCH more than I can and eats SO MUCH that I can't.
We talk often about foods we can and can't eat. She recommended eating sweetened condensed milk because it "slides down", talks about how she can polish a whole bottle of wine off on her own nightly and eats fried chicken sliders multiple times a week. She still eats french fries, ice cream, cake, Cookies and chips.
I'm not looking to change her behavior, I know that's not possible nor is that my problem. My issue is that because she's a lighter weight than I was starting, she's visibly lost more weight than me and people in the office are commenting. If I pass on a piece of cake, they say I shouldn't because "well SHE'S having one!" and while I don't listen, it makes my life harder.
Admittedly I'm jealous that she seems to be putting very little effort in and seems to be doing well. I am not undermining my own progress, I've lost 120 pounds so far, and 90 alone from surgery. I have completely overhauled my diet and life. But I am still jealous of her ability to eat whatever and still lose weight.
I know in rational Beanie-Brain that she is not set up for success and that makes me sad, but it doesn't change how I feel about this. Someone please tell me that I'm not a loser for refusing all cake and candy in my office and that my emotions are irrational?

THANK YOU all for your responses. Thank you for reminding me that this was a single event and that I can recover from it. Thank you for reminding me that my sleeve is not magic, and I still have to put in the work. It is disappointing not to be as restricted as I hoped, but my resolve to use this tool to the best of my ability remains strong.
I am seeking therapy for my binge eating disorder, anxiety, and depression. I have an appointment tomorrow and can discuss this episode.
Today has been a good food day, in spite of the fact that I'm hungry (I think PMS-ing, when I always get really hungry).
I love this place and the support it offers.

Good Morning! I need a bit of a dose of reality from you guys, and I would really appreciate some feedback.

I work in an office with a girl who went to the same surgeon I did. We had our surgeries done about 2 months apart, me first and hers second. I know she's still in the honeymoon phase (and maybe I am too, I'm less than a year out), but she eats SO MUCH more than I can and eats SO MUCH that I can't.
We talk often about foods we can and can't eat. She recommended eating sweetened condensed milk because it "slides down", talks about how she can polish a whole bottle of wine off on her own nightly and eats fried chicken sliders multiple times a week. She still eats french fries, ice cream, cake, Cookies and chips.
I'm not looking to change her behavior, I know that's not possible nor is that my problem. My issue is that because she's a lighter weight than I was starting, she's visibly lost more weight than me and people in the office are commenting. If I pass on a piece of cake, they say I shouldn't because "well SHE'S having one!" and while I don't listen, it makes my life harder.
Admittedly I'm jealous that she seems to be putting very little effort in and seems to be doing well. I am not undermining my own progress, I've lost 120 pounds so far, and 90 alone from surgery. I have completely overhauled my diet and life. But I am still jealous of her ability to eat whatever and still lose weight.
I know in rational Beanie-Brain that she is not set up for success and that makes me sad, but it doesn't change how I feel about this. Someone please tell me that I'm not a loser for refusing all cake and candy in my office and that my emotions are irrational?

Thank you everyone so much! Rationally I know everything you are all saying, but it's so nice to hear it from someone else. ❤️

Good Morning! I need a bit of a dose of reality from you guys, and I would really appreciate some feedback.

I work in an office with a girl who went to the same surgeon I did. We had our surgeries done about 2 months apart, me first and hers second. I know she's still in the honeymoon phase (and maybe I am too, I'm less than a year out), but she eats SO MUCH more than I can and eats SO MUCH that I can't.
We talk often about foods we can and can't eat. She recommended eating sweetened condensed milk because it "slides down", talks about how she can polish a whole bottle of wine off on her own nightly and eats fried chicken sliders multiple times a week. She still eats french fries, ice cream, cake, Cookies and chips.
I'm not looking to change her behavior, I know that's not possible nor is that my problem. My issue is that because she's a lighter weight than I was starting, she's visibly lost more weight than me and people in the office are commenting. If I pass on a piece of cake, they say I shouldn't because "well SHE'S having one!" and while I don't listen, it makes my life harder.
Admittedly I'm jealous that she seems to be putting very little effort in and seems to be doing well. I am not undermining my own progress, I've lost 120 pounds so far, and 90 alone from surgery. I have completely overhauled my diet and life. But I am still jealous of her ability to eat whatever and still lose weight.
I know in rational Beanie-Brain that she is not set up for success and that makes me sad, but it doesn't change how I feel about this. Someone please tell me that I'm not a loser for refusing all cake and candy in my office and that my emotions are irrational?

Good Morning! I need a bit of a dose of reality from you guys, and I would really appreciate some feedback.

I work in an office with a girl who went to the same surgeon I did. We had our surgeries done about 2 months apart, me first and hers second. I know she's still in the honeymoon phase (and maybe I am too, I'm less than a year out), but she eats SO MUCH more than I can and eats SO MUCH that I can't.
We talk often about foods we can and can't eat. She recommended eating sweetened condensed milk because it "slides down", talks about how she can polish a whole bottle of wine off on her own nightly and eats fried chicken sliders multiple times a week. She still eats french fries, ice cream, cake, Cookies and chips.
I'm not looking to change her behavior, I know that's not possible nor is that my problem. My issue is that because she's a lighter weight than I was starting, she's visibly lost more weight than me and people in the office are commenting. If I pass on a piece of cake, they say I shouldn't because "well SHE'S having one!" and while I don't listen, it makes my life harder.
Admittedly I'm jealous that she seems to be putting very little effort in and seems to be doing well. I am not undermining my own progress, I've lost 120 pounds so far, and 90 alone from surgery. I have completely overhauled my diet and life. But I am still jealous of her ability to eat whatever and still lose weight.
I know in rational Beanie-Brain that she is not set up for success and that makes me sad, but it doesn't change how I feel about this. Someone please tell me that I'm not a loser for refusing all cake and candy in my office and that my emotions are irrational?

Congrats on having surgery, and I'm so happy to hear you're doing well! I did the same thing, actually, and weighed myself right when I came home from surgery. Bad idea, I'd gained like 15 lbs and my family was like terrified I'd be upset. I just took more pain pills and took a nap. lol.
My highest weight was close to yours, 360! I feel like admitting it is so powerful, like there's no reason to be ashamed. I'm not less of a person because I weighed 360 lbs, and neither are you. You're about to go through so many changes, and I hope you know that you deserve all of the good that comes with this. You're amazing, wonderful and so strong. You're just getting started on his journey, and that's amazing! I wish you luck, happiness and so, so much positivity.

Congrats on having surgery, and I'm so happy to hear you're doing well! I did the same thing, actually, and weighed myself right when I came home from surgery. Bad idea, I'd gained like 15 lbs and my family was like terrified I'd be upset. I just took more pain pills and took a nap. lol.
My highest weight was close to yours, 360! I feel like admitting it is so powerful, like there's no reason to be ashamed. I'm not less of a person because I weighed 360 lbs, and neither are you. You're about to go through so many changes, and I hope you know that you deserve all of the good that comes with this. You're amazing, wonderful and so strong. You're just getting started on his journey, and that's amazing! I wish you luck, happiness and so, so much positivity.

Start VERY slow, especially if you're nervous. Have only a TINY mouthful of puree and wait to see how it sits for you. It may make you feel sick, and eating more than a bean-sized amount at a time can make that worse. Listen to your body, you'll know when it's time to stop. Trust me. lol. You can do this!! I had a tiny amount of pudding first and it was pure bliss.

I dont think you are being irrational at all and you are most definitely NOT a loser. It is she that should be jealous of you and your self control cause she obviously has none and in the end that is going to come back and bite her in the ass. And for those people commenting, ignore them. They have no idea how differently people lose and this isn't their journey. They will never understand. You just keep doing the right thing and in the end it will be you who has the success!

My opinion is, every body's reaction to the surgery is different, having the same surgeon dont have to mean same result, the purpose of the surgery it to learn how to eat healthy and less portion to maintain the best results for longer time possible, u r unique, don't put ur self down by comparison to a non healthy lifestyle, otherwise why did u had the surgery in the first place [emoji6]

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In three years she will have gained all her weight back most likely. Let her eat her cake now and drink her wine. Those habits won’t get you very far long term.
Do not be jealous. Under a year out most people can eat whatever and still lose weight.
Follow your own diet and stick to the right program for long term success.