SydneySleever

I agree, something is flawed here.
For what it's worth, back in the 80's or 90's Weight Watchers had a fat-and-fiber stage. The plan was very low fat, at least XX Fiber (I don't recall the amount). Other than that, you could eat pretty much whatever you wanted. I gained weight on that sucker. Fat isn't my temptation. It's salty/crunchy like pretzels, many of which are fat-free. I was in heaven, except for the whole gaining weight thing.

Had my surgery yesterday. It's almost 2 in the a.m. Had alittle trouble breathing when I came out but it got better. Shoulders and belly hurt from the gas but I've been up walking. Just got my first popsicle YUM! Nurse said I'm doing better than any one on the floor. No pain except the belly gas. I was so scared but it's turning out very well!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

And if you ever need a Bari-Godmother, I am almost alway here. Like almost everyone else I Am A Work In Progress, I may start to stumble but I never fall because the people here believe in me but more important I believe in ME and I know that I will make a success of this, I'm staying to the end come H*** or High Water, I have started on this journey and I am not a quitter. Don't count me out for you can count,on me. And barring dropping dead which I could do, because,i course I'm 72, I will be here until my weight loss is done and maybe also afterwards. I am a tough old red feathered hen , farmer can't catch,me, farmer can't choke,me. If I weren't a hen I'd crow right about now!🐥

My surgeon said I didn’t need to lose any weight before surgery. His rationale was that if I could successfully lose weight then I wouldn’t be considering surgery in the first place so he feels all the added pressure and stress caused by dieting isn’t a productive use of time.

He just told me to start practicing for the post-op way of life.

YES! to all of it!

Health promotion and maintenance is absolutely my role. More than half of my job at work is education.
It is condescending and rude of you to assume that you know my job description, nurses do all kinds of things. I have lots of other fancy letters behind my name besides RN that relate to my professional role, but that isn't the point for this forum.
I didn't think I would have to include all of my credentials to have a discussion about how people felt about weight conversations in a healthcare setting.

Just my 2 cents:
How should a doctor tell you to lose weight? Or should they just not say anything? Who can you help by ignoring it? I think it should be brought up when discussing any health concerns related to weight. If there are no health concerns yet, don't go there. It's not like they haven't noticed. However, opposite answer for pediatricians. Parent do seem to have a blind spot for "baby fat". Not sure how to broach the subject, though.
Would it be better if nutrition classes or a healthy lifestyle program was offered at the same time? Yes, my doctor's office told me to lose weight every time they saw me. But when I asked for help, they said they didn't advocate anything but diet and exercise. Well, gee whiz, they'd watched me go up and down hundreds of pounds during that time. Why did they think it would work this time? Some form of help would have been appreciated.
Should the conversation only happen with another big person? Would you feel less judged that way? I don't think that matters.
Or does it seem silly for a fat person to tell another fat person to lose weight? Empathy or irony? Depends, one may have co-morbidities that the other does not. Again, I don't think the size of the medical professional should matter. I mean, my obstetrician was male; he never experienced pregnancy.
Would it be better or worse if bariatric surgery was mentioned? Would it help if I flashed my scars? I think it could be mentioned among a list of alternatives. In fact, it wouldn't be a bad idea to have a handout that discussed pharmaceutical options, behavioral modification options and surgical options with pros/cons. This would include the weight ranges for which each was appropriate.
Tell me about times when a medical professional told you to lose weight. How did it feel? What would have made it better? Generally, I got angry because I'm overall in good health, no-comorbidities, etc. I felt like they used that as the catch-all excuse to not look into the actual causes of my issues. Hangnail? Lose weight, it'll get better. Pneumonia, lose weight, it'll help. Pimple on my a$$, lose weight, it'll help. You know what? Even if the weight did contribute to the problem, telling me that it might improve in a year or two after I lost an unlikely amount of weight was not helpful. Especially if you would have sent a non-obese person for some actual treatment. I stopped going to doctors entirely. They weren't going to help me lose the weight, just document my suffering.
/Rant over/

dfox and SydneySleever, thank you for your input!

Yes I moved through them faster. I pretty much skipped puréed and moved onto soft. I stayed on liquids for one meal and soft for one. I asked my dietician before doing so. Worked well for me.

Sillykitty you’re a woman after my own heart!

I just had one week of low carb.

From more than 40 years of yo-yo dieting, I know that I have to abstain from sugar entirely, at least during the weight-loss phase. It is a slippery slope covered with banana skins covered with ice for me.

First of all, I am sorry this happened to you....But man that was the funniest thing I have seen here in a long time. From the title to the post.....You put a smile on my face.

I had my first close call today. dinner with family at home, but man that would have been memorable. Managed the food on my plate well and ate to just under restriction, but I wasn't thinking and took a swig from the Water glass someone had put at my setting and there was a VERY close moment where it felt it would come right back out and bring friends. Like, into-my-mouth close. Yikes.

Did you have the presence to say "Well Excuse Me Folks" or did you just kind of slink away?😨

We live and we learn. Some of us test the pouch and it is human nature. You likely won’t do it again.

Today I spewed at a restaurant. I ate too fast and too soon after drinking. It was a terrible, embarrassing lesson.

Today I spewed at a restaurant. I ate too fast and too soon after drinking. It was a terrible, embarrassing lesson.

From reading what you ate today, I'm not seeing that the issue is with restriction at all. Just about everything you named is a slider food. I assume you didn't eat this all at once, you ate it throughout the day, right? So these types of foods will just slide right down, not give you the satisfaction of feeling full, so you want to eat again in a little while. To feel the restriction, and getting the feeling of fullness and satisfaction, Protein and fibrous veggies are the most effective, and at the same time, what your body needs.
It is cliche because it has been repeated over and over again, but VSG is only a tool. It has to work in conjunction with us making good choices.
Sorry, if this is harsh, but I see some blame shifting in your post, that you need bread, crackers and potatoes in the house for the dogs (huh??), that you didn't read this forum presurgery, that you don't have enough restriction, that you have unexpected hunger, the mental health resources available to you. We each need to take responsibility for what we put in our mouths. Some days it is really easy to make good choices, some days it is really hard.
As far as resources go, Barbados has universal healthcare, so can you see a psychologist or counselor? They may not specialize in food addiction, but they will have experience in addiction, compulsive behavior, self destructive behavior. You can supplement that with online resources dedicated to food addictions, if necessary.

I’m down 82lbs!!

I referred last year to my need to feel more comfortable driving my car.
Back then, my gut/stomach was just 5mm to 7mm (under half an inch) away from the steering wheel.
Well, thanks to a smaller arse/backside, I have moved my seat about 40mm (1.5") closer to the steering wheel ... but the gap is out to 155mm (6.5") or more.
I'm really enjoying being sleeved!

Matt, I don't care whether Taylor gets a sleeve. You are entirely wrong in your accusations. You prove my point that "It's always amazing on forums when a dispute has finished its course, there is always someone who seeks to breathe new life into it". You have your own reasons for this.

It's always amazing on forums when a dispute has finished its course, there is always someone who seeks to breathe new life into it.
Taylor is the one at fault. I merely gave her well-intentioned advice, and got the aggressive "thanks but no thanks" reply each time. I'm not being controlling: I've said that the decision is hers.
I think now you've had the irreversible sleeve, you are seeking to "campaign for it". I guess it is working for you. But there are likely to be many people who will regret the operation (Google "gastric sleeve regrets"), so I'm not sure how well-intentioned your advice is if you're encouraging someone with a BMI of 31 to have a gastric sleeve.
In the end, someone who has asked for advice has no right to respond aggressively when it's not the advice she wants. But one option has always been not to reply to posts/posters she doesn't wish to enter a discussion with.

It sounds like you give a lot. You give love to your kids and husband. You give time and energy to your parakeets. You give inspiration to your fans. I’m really glad you’re open to taking the support of all of us here, you deserve it.

Where is Marie Laveau and a good voodoo doll when you need one?🎑