jultrim18

Matt's right! Get some lube and even consider trying some of that warming stuff they sell at the drugstore and don't skimp on the foreplay!!! (the warming stuff is LEGIT) You'll get in the mood and be more comfortable during the official act. Get your boyfriend involved with getting you ready and have fun with it. You can do this!!!

Fat stores estrogen, as you lose fat, your system gets flooded with estrogen, unfortunately your sex drive is controlled by your Testosterone levels. But, the good news is, that once you flush out a good amount of fat, and your body has a chance to balance out again, your sex drive should come back with a vengeance!

As far as the dryness... get yourself some lube. Water based stuff doesn't hang around long, but it's condom friendly. Oil based stuff works amazing, but isn't condom friendly. Silicone lubes are more expensive typically but are both condom friendly AND has good staying power. And no need to go to an adult store for lube, all pharmacies carry lube and personal massagers now.

5 weeks post op here. I would not say that my sex drive is nonexistent but I do feel like mine has certainly gone done. Tbh, I've always had a much higher sex drive than most and now it has gone to almost being normal since surgery. I think it has to do with all the hormonal changes and just being focused on other things. How can I think about sex when I'm trying to keep track of how much I'm eating, what I'm eating, staying hydrated, taking my Vitamins, etc.
The dryness is definitely hormonal. Lube has always been my best friend. Not sure about you but my surgeon made me stop my birth control for the month after my surgery. This has definitely messed with my hormones also.
You should give your OBGYN a visit and explain the situation to her.

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Hi, females. I am 11 weeks post-op. My sex drive is nonexistent. I have none. It is starting to annoy my bf. Also, when I do the deed, I am in sooooo much pain because I am as dry as a bone. Anyone else experience this? In my 5 years of being sexually active, I have never had pain. Thanks!!

Hi, females. I am 11 weeks post-op. My sex drive is nonexistent. I have none. It is starting to annoy my bf. Also, when I do the deed, I am in sooooo much pain because I am as dry as a bone. Anyone else experience this? In my 5 years of being sexually active, I have never had pain. Thanks!!

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Happy Halloween ya'll!

I would definitely not get the surgery now if you are feeling this way. To be honest, I had no idea how restricting the surgery would be. I thought I was going to have no cravings or hunger. Therefore, I was so excited and ready. I am 25 years old. I got the surgery on 08/17/2018. Let me just tell you, I am still dealing with food depression. I have no way to comfort myself now. I used to do it with food and alcohol after a long week of work. Now I cannot do that. Therefore, this tells myself I was not mentally prepared for the surgery. It’s too late now. I am stuck with the exhaustion and depression and boring life. I am stuck with this fear of food and fear or of gaining weight back. Still have an unhealthy relationship with food, but now it’s not eating. Ugh just terrible. I was a binge eater, though. Good luck. It is your choice. I am happy I got it because I am losing weight and feeling more confident. I hated being super fat. I felt disgusting after the fact I ate. So yes I am happy I did this, but it sucks at the same time. I think surgery is harder than actually dieting because you have no choice on how much to eat and you can’t have your cheat day because it all just hurts the little sleeve. I am just ranting now Bc I’m tired. Best of luck!!!

I just want to thank everyone for their imput! It really helped me realize that this isn't something to take lightly and I don't think I prepared myself. I am going to speak to my doctors office and ask to restart the 6 month weigh-in's and take it from there. Thank you all I've read every single response and you're all such amazing people for giving me your time to write feedback 🙂

I would definitely not get the surgery now if you are feeling this way. To be honest, I had no idea how restricting the surgery would be. I thought I was going to have no cravings or hunger. Therefore, I was so excited and ready. I am 25 years old. I got the surgery on 08/17/2018. Let me just tell you, I am still dealing with food depression. I have no way to comfort myself now. I used to do it with food and alcohol after a long week of work. Now I cannot do that. Therefore, this tells myself I was not mentally prepared for the surgery. It’s too late now. I am stuck with the exhaustion and depression and boring life. I am stuck with this fear of food and fear or of gaining weight back. Still have an unhealthy relationship with food, but now it’s not eating. Ugh just terrible. I was a binge eater, though. Good luck. It is your choice. I am happy I got it because I am losing weight and feeling more confident. I hated being super fat. I felt disgusting after the fact I ate. So yes I am happy I did this, but it sucks at the same time. I think surgery is harder than actually dieting because you have no choice on how much to eat and you can’t have your cheat day because it all just hurts the little sleeve. I am just ranting now Bc I’m tired. Best of luck!!!

I would definitely not get the surgery now if you are feeling this way. To be honest, I had no idea how restricting the surgery would be. I thought I was going to have no cravings or hunger. Therefore, I was so excited and ready. I am 25 years old. I got the surgery on 08/17/2018. Let me just tell you, I am still dealing with food depression. I have no way to comfort myself now. I used to do it with food and alcohol after a long week of work. Now I cannot do that. Therefore, this tells myself I was not mentally prepared for the surgery. It’s too late now. I am stuck with the exhaustion and depression and boring life. I am stuck with this fear of food and fear or of gaining weight back. Still have an unhealthy relationship with food, but now it’s not eating. Ugh just terrible. I was a binge eater, though. Good luck. It is your choice. I am happy I got it because I am losing weight and feeling more confident. I hated being super fat. I felt disgusting after the fact I ate. So yes I am happy I did this, but it sucks at the same time. I think surgery is harder than actually dieting because you have no choice on how much to eat and you can’t have your cheat day because it all just hurts the little sleeve. I am just ranting now Bc I’m tired. Best of luck!!!

I feel ya girl. I am 10 weeks post op. I miss food. So much. I miss gorging myself. I am down 41lb since surgery (51lb since pre-op diet) and under 200lb, but still, I feel so empty. I definitely miss the days where I could be like, “I’ll start on Monday.” I miss McDonald’s. And I miss diet soda and seltzer. However, I now enjoy my iced tea. Btw I can gulp Water like do 3 gulps when parched so it does get better. I am always dehydrated though gotta work on that.

Thanks so much for the feedback! I am glad you are still doing well and believe in your sleeve ☺️☺️

Yes!!! I had surgery yesterday (8/17/18) Thank goodness I am not alone. My diarrhea is so bad I’m peeing out of my butt. I hope I feel better because I can’t pass gas or else I will poop my pants 😭😭😭😭

I am 8 weeks post op. Yesterday I went to a baptism. There was cake, and I decided to have a few bites of my piece.

Oh my goodness! I completely forgot about the dumping syndrome! I was in the car on my way home. It was a 1.5hour drive. I thought I was going to die. My poor belly. I was so nauseous and lightheaded and cramping so bad. I never want that to happen again.

Anyone else experience this? Also, this was my first “cheat” and I can’t help but feel guilty.

Girl I am always hungry. Nothing ever satisfies me. It really sucks. I am 7 weeks post op. I miss my old life of eating I really do. I’d do anything for fast food. But it’s nice losing 31lb too. Ugh the struggle.

Jultrim it is okay and normal to feel this way. I think I have read on this site a million times this same feeling. It is learning to eat all over again. I too struggle with food; always have, but now it is different. I am learning to eat protein first just like you. I try to have a bite of my old favorite foods and they are just not the same anymore; you know, just not comforting and fun like they used to be. I was to do things differently than I have in the bast and establish better eating habits. You are not alone! I feel your pain. We can do this!!

Would do anything for a delicious McDonald’s fountain Diet Coke mmmmm!!! Too scared to try though

I agree. Ask your surgeon. They work with doctors that advocate for the surgery. Best of luck!

Would do anything for a delicious McDonald’s fountain Diet Coke mmmmm!!! Too scared to try though

I agree. Ask your surgeon. They work with doctors that advocate for the surgery. Best of luck!

It is hard because a lot of the time you are not thirsty. Then when you are thirsty you can only drink so little! I only had 24fl oz today! Bad bad! I have to force myself. I have never been a drinker though! I have to start drinking my Protein Shakes again to get Protein and liquids in. It was bad right after surgery. It hurt to drink; therefore, I barely drank. I then became dehydrated and almost passed out twice. Just force it really. Luckily 3.5 weeks out drinking does not hurt ☺️ Still find drinking lame though

Would do anything for a delicious McDonald’s fountain Diet Coke mmmmm!!! Too scared to try though

I am a 25 year old, 6th grade teacher. I love hanging with my boyfriend and watching tv. I used to love to eat; now I cannot eat. Hope to embrace and instill this healthy lifestyle! I truly want it, but I truly miss my old ways of eating.

Would do anything for a delicious McDonald’s fountain Diet Coke mmmmm!!! Too scared to try though

I am a 25 year old, 6th grade teacher. I love hanging with my boyfriend and watching tv. I used to love to eat; now I cannot eat. Hope to embrace and instill this healthy lifestyle! I truly want it, but I truly miss my old ways of eating.