TropicalBeachDoll

I agree its no ones business. People will speculate and comment. But who cares...keep the suportive people around you...

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So far no one has figured it out or suspected. I've had several family dinners and a work luncheon. My sister commented on my small plate and I replied it's my diet, and she nodded and no one said anything else. whew! I'm really happy this is what I chose.

No she recommend that I do weight watchers and see her again next week.

If not , let me be the first 🤦🏽‍♀️. Today I went to my initial psych evaluation and the doctor told me that because my family had previously diabetes high blood pressure and etc. that I was predisposed to have as well and she said that my family did not know how to eat therefore I don’t know how to eat and my children won’t know how to eat .she then went on to tell me that I have poor eating habits .she then told me I should join weight watchers and she made a sarcastic joke saying hey look I’m trying to help you out you’re about to get yourself all cut up
So yeah I figure that I share with you how my psych evaluation went today was quite interesting let alone very him how can I explain it I felt like she was putting her finger in my face. Talk about rubbing salt into a wound

I’m a secret sleever! Haha. My husband, father, and aunt are the only people who know. I haven’t even told my sister. Haha. I just don’t think it’s anyone’s business. I’m only a little over a month out from surgery and I’ve had several meals out with friends and they never suspected anything. It also helped that my surgery fell with Lent...I told everyone I gave up carbs and booze for Lent (which is pretty true but also happens to be physically mandatory...haha!) good luck!

I'm a very private person so when I had the surgery few months ago I told only my younger sister out of 5 siblings. Last time I checked I don't see anyone with plastic surgeries (implants, nose job, Lipo, etc) announcing it to the world so why should I announce mine? It's nobody's business and I keep it that way.

I started the processes last year, but dropped out because I didn't care for the team that was selected for me. (I live in Mexico and we had communication and location issues). At that time I told everyone that I was considering surgery and It brought out the negativity in many, the useless comments from some and my closest friends and family knew me well enough to know that I've struggled with my weight for 25 years. I've tried all the diets. I've yo-yo dieted with success and setbacks due to injuries and medical issues.
This year I wasn't sure the new team nearer to my home would work, but they've been wonderful. Remembering the people with hurtful and worthless comments from last year I've only told the closest of my friends and my husband. Only the supportive people are around me now.
When to tell my mother is an issue. She has recognized that I've lost weight. I haven't told her that it's the pre-op diet. She'll figure it out when I stop dining out with friends the first month after surgery. She'll be OK with apprehension.

Secretly sleeved here! Only my boyfriend knows and he has been all the support I would ever need!
I chose not to tell any friends or family bc I didn’t want to hear any negative comments, my mother’s hysterics about having surgery or the overflow of advice on how to lose weight the “right” way. As far as anyone knows I have adapted a new healthy lifestyle (not diet) which is 100% true! I’ve changed the way I eat, am more conscious of my hunger signals and am on an exercise plan. That is a much as anyone needs to know.
we shouldn’t feel ashamed for having the courage to make changes in our life but unfortunately that is how much society sees these surgeries.
This is far from the easy way out. It’s takes hard work, constant monitoring and dedication to do what we have done. Don’t let anyone make u feel any other way. 💪🏻

I feel the same. I have only told two friends and of course my husband knows...

I am sorry to hear that you dont much support but you can lean on those 2 friends who walked the walk you are on.
as for telling family if you dont see support there you did the right thing. them not knowing is better than the negativity you would have faced as you prepared for this.
keep your head up and enjoy the process you are about to go thru as much as you can. Not all of it is easy but all of it is worth it.

and i told only my close family but the way they blabber it was the same as buying ad space

Has anyone had this surgery and NOT told friends or family? I got sleeved 3/8 and have told 2 best friends. They both have gotten the surgery done 3 years ago. Every time I would bring up the topic of Bariatric surgery I would get the negative comments of “thats the easy way out” and “just exercise”. I don’t wanna hear anyone’s mouth. I’m not embarrassed about the surgery at all. I just don’t have many supportive people in my family.

I only told my husband, and a few close friends. I have always been the heaviest in the family and I knew this would bring up all kinds of feelings. Plus naturally I do not like tons of attention so I did not want people looking commenting that I've lost too much, not enough, too fast, too slow etc. and finally I did not want to hear how easy this is...
It's not a big deal because I have been on one diet after another since I was in my early teens. Like most folks on this thread some of the diets have been absolutely crazy! Everyone is used to it... The difference is I will be successful!

Thank you for the encouragement. Pre op scheduled for September 13
How long has it been since your operation?
How are you holding up?

Thank you so much for the encouragement. Today I did the psychology evaluation I have to complete nutrition classes pre op date of a scheduled for September 13 with Dr .

I was scared too, but I knew that once I went into the hospital, nothing was stopping me, I went in, they get you at ease really quick, they wheel you back, you get strapped and you wake up feeling tired for 2-3 days, it really isn’t to bad. I know it’s easy to say but if I knew now what I knew then I would have never been scared, I also know no matter what others say your going to be scared. This has been the best thing I have ever done for myself and I hope , and am sure you will come out perfect!!
Rny 1/22- no down 80 pounds!!

I am having the sleeve done and it is supposed to be laparoscopic and robotic. That's good to hear it wasn't too bad pain wise. My surgeon also gives pain blocks that last a few days so you move more as well.

Psychology evaluation tomorrow @1pm . I’m slowly getting there. Every step count

Do you have any idea how many people would give their left nut to have the opportunity you have right now?
I'm not making this stuff up. THIS ^^^^ is what I based my responses on. Sorry, but I don't do "martyr" posts. There was a reason I unleashed and told you the king's new clothes are his birthday suit.
This is tooooo serious a surgery to go in with this attitude.
Everyone and their brother has anxiety about the surgery. BFD! We deal with it and move on. But I don't know of many who actually adopted a laissez faire attitude to the pre-surgical diet (and I'm talking about the actual PRE-OP diet, not the pre-six month weight loss diet--we all have cheated during that and lived to tell about it--and moved forward through surgery. It's far too dangerous and irresponsible IMHO to not take the pre-op diet seriously.

Do not cancel, that would be incredibly lame. I was scared before surgery and had thoughts about cancelling and I am so glad I didnt. I am down 100 pounds in 7 months and feeling much better. Life will be difficult after surgery as the surgery is not a cure all but just a tool to help you lose weight. Think about how many times you have tried to lose weight on your own, maybe you had success but did you have long term success? did you keep the weight off?
Being scared is understandable as it is major surgery, but it will be well worth it. It will not be easy but you can do it.

Logicwand I hope I join her there, I can also be a Panic Princess and if we go through it together we can,lean on each other's strength! You were a sleever, well as a future RnY I keep dreaming my surgeon sneezes and makes my pouch face the wrong way and spends an extra half-hour trying to rejoin my intestines. Totally groundless, mine has done so many he probably could do them in his sleep- although I'm hopeful the whole team will be wide awake,so you mentally waving bye bye to the stomach portion resonates with me. TropicalBeachDoll I promise to be your buddie, even if our dates don't align, okay? We can and will do,this, Girlfriend![emoji13][emoji173][emoji172][emoji13][emoji171][emoji13][emoji170]

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Very brave! I too have a toxic family, specifically my mother. No matter what the conversation is she always brings up my weight and how she knows I’m going to be alone for life because of it (we live in separate states too). This past January I got insurance through my school and it covers the gastric sleeve so I decided to do it without my family knowing because I knew my mom would discourage me from doing it. I’m getting close to getting a date and for me personally I have done some soul searching and have decided to tell my mom one week before the surgery. I’ve decided this because In the past I’ve had emergency surgery and the doctor had to call my mom in NY and tell her everything. I don’t want something to happen and have her have to get a call from someone else. I want to give her the option of coming down to Florida to help me (if she wants to be supportive) after my surgery. This is my journey and my experience but I completely understand your reasoning and I support you. I can’t wait to see your results and I know it will be amazing

Stay strong, you can do this. Good luck!

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry you had to go through that. It sounds like a toxic family relationship. (I'm familiar). I am so proud of you for standing your ground. You are a smart, beautiful woman and you deserve to live your life how you choose. That is what life is all about!! I am excited FOR you!! LOL

@logicwand so days I’m so excited and some days I’m really nervous and I think about it constantly. I really need this change to help put me back on track . The odd part of it is I can’t really tell my family because everyone has their opinion. Only my husband and 2 close friends know .

Psychology evaluation tomorrow @1pm . I’m slowly getting there. Every step count