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While I’m glad you have an outlet on this forum, I’m going to tell you something you don’t want to hear. This surgery is as much mental as it is physical. You need to get help with your anxiety before you proceed. The mental game of loosing weight is strong enough, coupled with the surge of hormones released from fat cells lost. There is a reason that most programs require a psych evaluation... it’s nothing to take lightly. Please consider counseling before you make any final moves.

Agree with AshAsh above. Also highly reccomend the book through thick and thin - it’s about the weight loss journey and focuses a lot on the mental side of things as well as the physical. It’s maybe 7 dollars on Amazon and totally worth the read.

Hope all goes well and you have a speedy recovery!

Praying all went well [emoji120]🏾

I hope it went well and you are feeling the best you can.

My husband and I are high school sweethearts and have been together 8.5 years. He has been there from my skinny high school cheerleading days all the way up to the 235 highest weight on my 5 foot frame. He is very skinny at 5'11 and 155 lbs. He eats whatever he wants and has a hard time putting on weight.
He has gone to every single appointment with me over the past 10 months which has been over 35 4 hour round-trips so far and he has taken off for my appointments post op as well. He is also taking a 2 week vacation to care for me during my healing after surgery which I will greatly need dealing with our 11 month 80 lb lab.
Although he tells me all the time that I do not need the surgery and hold my weight well proportioned (he's just being a good husband) he has supported me through the entire process. I think this is because we have had long talks and he knows my goal is to run 5-10 miles again 5 days a week like I did in high school. I loved running and the mental break it gave me from my anxiety.
I am on day 13 of my clear liquid pre-op diet (surgery is in 2 days) and he eats before he comes home and only says he has to make a "stop" so he doesn't rub in my face what he is eating. Therefore, he is done eating before he comes home. He waits until I'm out of the room before eating anything else as well. I have never asked him to do this, he just does out of a sign of support.
He has also rallied all of my loved ones that know (not that many I do not want the whole world to know my business) and they are all doing the same thing. I cannot believe the amount of support I have received from him and my loved ones. It makes this whole journey seem a lot less lonely.

I am really glad you have the courage to post this. I can tell you that you're not alone! I was the same way for almost 6 weeks post-op. Golly, I can practically identify with the anger and saddness. I even had some suicidal ideation because I could not see a path forward to a better life. A song from Paula Abdul, Forever Your Girl came on the radio and I just broke down sobbing in my car. This was the song that my ex-girlfriend (and the woman I thought I would marry) sang to me on karaoke night on a cruise. She was drunk, in love, and she looked directly at me as she sang the song. I remember tearing up at the love I felt. Well, it turned out she's not forever my girl.
In some ways I was/am mourning the old me and I don't have food to make me feel better. Is it possible that you are mourning the person that you were pre-surgery? The difficulty of the mental game cannot be underestimated. If you need a shoulder to cry on, I am here; having walked in your shoes.

It feels extreme to me... My dad had the gastric bypass about 8 years ago and he had awful complications. I'm worried I'll have the same issues since I'm close (or was) to his pre op weight

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I am 55 and was sleeved on 03/26. I had plenty of class/surgery mates that were 60 and beyond. So, it is not unusual to have this done later in life.
Like most people here, my only complaint is that I did not get it done sooner.
Good luck!

Any other women my age or older on this journey? I'm turning 60 in September. Getting sleeve next week after nearly 6 decades of struggling with weight. Why now (finally)? Trying to keep from crossing the line from "borderline diabetic, borderline this, borderline that" to actually becoming diabetic, etc. Highest weight prior to starting my journey: 308; current weight 286; surgeon says my goal is 170, but I'd be pleased at 200. I'm 5' 10".
On my one-week pre-op fast. Fortunately, my fast includes 7 Protein supplements/day and Clear Liquids. So, for me that's a shake or Soup or bar every two hours. It was tough yesterday (day 1), but feeling better today.
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Nice to meet you, we're in the same life boat! I'll be 59 this summer and got sleeved 7 weeks ago. Also like you, I didn't have any co-morbidities yet, but it was only a matter of time. I've been dieting since I was about 12. Hang in there, the pre-op is tough, but you're tougher!

And good luck,to both. You young chicks! I can say this because I'm 72 and on my way to a soon RnY,bypass, not worried, not frightened, because I have lived a long time, would have better had I been thinner. Not going to get bogged down in the Coulda- Woulda -Shoulda's of life, what didn't kill me made me stronger and I'm strong enough to go for this. None of us know how many more years we will be granted but it is my intention to live them stronger fitter and thinner than I am today. Join me on this journey ladies, the best is yet to be! 🌈😝

Hi I’m 69 and was sleeved April 12th with hiatal and umbilical hernia repairs. On clear liquid diet and have lost 6 lbs so far. I have dieted for years with temporary success. My diabetes was not under control despite taking 3 different pills and an injection. My health was getting worse and I wanted to be able to keep up with my 5 little grandchildren.
I was terrified but the surgery was really easy. The pain was like a dull ache and they keep you medicated so you’re really ok. I was walking laps in the ward the same day and released the next. You can do this!
HW 217 SW 207 CW 201 5’4”

Hi! I am 65 and had my sleeve surgery on December 18th. For me, all the stuff you have to do to get ready for it wore me down more than the actual surgery haha. I did stay one night in the hospital, but was released the next morning. And I did very well. It wasn’t hard or even very painful. And they took out my gallbladder during the surgery because it was full of stones. Don’t be worried. It was very easy, as surgeries go. I did take pain medicine afterward but mostly at night. You will do great.

Welcome. I was almost 68 when I had my gastric sleeve August 2017, along with gallbladder removal, hiatal hernia repair and regular hernia repair. It wasn't bad, I stayed 2 nights in the hospital. The worst problem was at home sleeping in bed just didn't work. I sleep in a recliner for at least a week. Pain wasn't too bad either.

I will also be 60 in September and my surgery date is May 16th. I have been thinking about this all my life, well ok since I was 10 and I finally made up my mind to do this and enjoy my life without worry of food controlling me anymore. We are strong, and have a lot of life to live and we have got this! Good luck and keep in touch all of you

Progress picture Sunday anyone? Post your progress pics if you want! Would love to see how my fellow Novembers are doing!

Not scheduled yet but the process has begun. And if all goes as planned my last appt with the nut is may 17 so I am looking for end of June date. Hope all keep going smooth and insurance (UHC) approves. 🤞

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June 6! Let’s do this!!

I’m on June 6th! Holy moly it just got real

I am scheduled for May 18th and I’m also nervous!! Best of luck to you!!

Friday face ash hahahaha at work

Here’s my Friday face! 75lbs down

68lbs down and relaxing at home on my night off.

So we foster dogs, not 100% ready to commit to having a full-time baby... This was most recent and probably best foster this year. I love them all, but this guy was 9, blind, and had 3 legs. Snuggliest cutest dog ever