pleasedontjudgeme

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I don't feel this way. I just feel like the world is full of a lot of superficial stupid...and I pay better attention to the quality people who treat me no different.
Folks who are overly impressed by my aesthetic changes....are just kinda....shallow and boring in my opinion.
When I remember that they're about as deep as a mud puddle....it changes my view of them. And not for the better.
If someone likes me for my creativity, my ideas, my humor, my passion....we connect in a meaningful way. (and would connect this way regardless)
Confidence, compassion, and joyful curiosity are endlessly attractive to me.
Being impressed with my butt or my clothes? Not so much.

You spoke to my soul with this comment. Thank you!

UGH. I read your post and got irrationally mad. It's the reason I didn't tell most people about my surgery beforehand. I don't need your unsolicited opinion on how *I* should handle *MY* body.
Maybe for them eating small portions and exercise worked. For me, I had a medical condition which wouldn't let my body lose weight. So despite eating right and exercising, it wasn't enough.
Next, it isn't about being skinny. It is about being healthy. My body is a car. I want what is under the hood to work well so I can drive it around for years to come. If good maintenance results in a good looking exterior, awesome. But that isn't the main goal.
Finally, f**k her for thinking it is the easy way out. The easy way out is doing nothing. The hard way is:
* Accepting you need help. This one may sound easy but I know that for me, this was admitting that I couldn't handle this myself. It was admitting defeat.
* Saving money for the doctor. Going to classes and education sessions for months to qualify for a major surgery.
* Going on a strict diet prior to surgery.
*Staying on a strict diet after surgery.
*Staying on a strict diet and Vitamin routine for the rest of your life.
So the "easy" way out is an insanely strict diet and major surgery to get a tool installed?
Screw her. Sorry, you touched a nerve here. One of my husband's friends lived with us for about 6 months. He had gone from 350lbs to about 150 after getting diagnosed with type 2 Diabetes. How did he do this? He switched from drinking a 12 pack of regular soda daily to a 12 pack of diet soda. Seriously, that was it and the weight evaporated off of him. I had to live with 6 months of watching him drink a gallon of milk a day, 12+ sodas daily and nothing but fast food, while he'd preach to me about how easy it was to lose weight if I just put in some effort. Meanwhile, I was weighing all of my meals, not touching carbs (or soda) and working out with no results.

I keep thinking of the same thing being told to someone with obstructive coronary artery disease...
"Did you do it on your own and correct your diet to avoid a heart attack? Or did you do it the easy way and have that pesky triple bypass they said you needed. That's not natural! You must have low self esteem!"

13 months post op. This saved my life. Everyone asks me if I would do it again. And I would !! It's hard. It's not a magic pill. You have to be ready for a life change. Not just something that will shrink your stomach so you can't eat as much. It's only a tool. As long as you go into it like that, I believe you will be successful. I am 170 lbs down in 13 months and it is life changing.

I’m feeling the same way. Hungry and disappointed. I just had my sleeve on Wednesday and never expected to feel a bit of hunger. I am drinking propel, having beef broth, sugar free popsicles, etc. and all I can think of is eating “real food” instead. Is this just a “head hunger” I’m feeling?

Pleasedontjudgeme I was starving after about 5 or 6 days. I am now 16 days post op and am allowed to have soft food so I tried some cottage cheese which was delicious but after about 3 bites I was done for! I still crave pizza like no other. We just have to have the will power to overpower those wants because they aren’t needs. I can promise you this though- it does get easier! Hang in there darlin!

I’m very happy to see this thread. I began my journey back in February. My SW was 338 and CW is 314. Hoping to finally get my surgery date tomorrow. Planning to have a sleeve. I haven’t weighed less than 250 lbs. in over 20 years. I worry it’s not possible!! Have any of you that started over 300lbs. had the sleeve or has everyone done bypass? 
Thanks!

I am just outside your limits
HW326
SW319
the rest you can see on the left
followed plan strictly. at 10 months i still dont break 1k calories and i keep carbs below 50g and sugar below 10g per day. i work out every other day. i am still dropping 8+ pounds a month so it works for me.
and yes i am just a bit over the top with this whole thing but hey i was over the top with food why not try the other side for the second half of my life

Hw 365
Sw 325
Cw 265

3 1/2 months post surgery. I’m so amazed at how great I feel after losing 100 lbs. No more struggling to walk up stairs. I can walk without tiring or having pain. I’m even riding a motorcycle again. I feel like I’ve been given a second chance at enjoying life to it’s fullest. It is nice to have a place where we all understand how difficult this journey can be. I’m cheering for everyone here. We can do it!

Hello all I started at 313. I had surgery on May 15th and I’m currently at 253.

My Highest weight was my pre-surgery weight of 335. I lost 19 lbs 10 days pre surgery and just celebrated my one year surgeriversary. I have lost 148 lbs and now wear size 10-12.

At 280 I started training with a personal trainer and am now the fittest I have been since I was a teenager.

Before surgery I had mentally prepared myself for the possibility I would be in the average range of 60 percent of excess body weight lost but as I got stronger and fitter my view changed and I realized r results were completely in my hands.

While the speed of my weight loss surprised me ;(diabetic, 50 years old and went immediately into menopause after surgery), I am thankful for the boost but still have a lot of work to do.

Keep up he hard work ladies! We can do this!

I was 415 on the date of my surgery. I’m a year out and I’ve lost 130lbs!

I’m in that vicinity, I was 304 at the start and 296 at surgery. It’ll be 6 months next week and I’m down to 216. Goal is 190 and I expect to hit that, though loss has slowed recently to 1-2 lbs per week due to lots of exercise (I’m building muscle while I lose fat). 100 lbs is definitely doable.

Count me in - I was 292 at surgery time, hit goal of 190 at about seven and a half months (after slowing things down at six months to keep from over shooting the mark too far) and eventually hit 185 before correcting it to 190ish. I could have taken it lower but that would have meant losing too much muscle mass rather than fat,

I’m not at exactly 100 lbs yet but I started at 256.4 on the day of surgery. I’m 6.5 months out and have lost 99.2 lbs so far just from surgery. I’ve got another 30 lbs I’d like to lose before I hit my 1 year out.

I’m not quite there yet but I think I will make it. Starting at 300 down to 217. Sleeved 1/8/18. I only lost 10pounds before surgery.

Me! Started at 271 day of surgery. Got to 135 lbs. I’m 5’6” for reference 

In down exactly 100 lbs. Was 278 at highest 261 day if surgery I'm now 178 lbs. I went from a size 22 pants to a 12 in 7 months 2XX shirts to a medium. Sleeved 10/26/17
Sw 278
Cw 179
Gw 150
Sleeved 10/26/2017

That’s wonderful!!! Congratulations to you!!!

I’m weighed in today and I’m proud and humble to say that I’m down 102lbs. It’s been the best 4 months ever. I’m so excited to continue to accomplish my goals. Thanks for being apart of my journey. Xoxo

I was 332 when I started the preop diet. I’m 4 mons post op, and I’ve lost over 90lbs. The challenges are that it takes awhile for you to really see a difference. I was nearly 80lbs before I started getting compliments. My stomach is holding on for dear life. My legs, arms, and chest went right away.

I have not had surgery yet, but my surgeon told me to wait at least one year after having the gastric sleeve before drinking any alcohol and “never” if I decide to have gastric bypass. (Literally said I could never have alcohol again after bypass)
So my guess is that you should definitely not have any alcohol. I would hate for anything bad to happen to you.