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I had mine Thursday & have been doing my best with Water. I had some broth yesterday & it went down well. I also have pain but can somewhat control it with medicine. If you need something a little stronger contact your doctor & get some liquid meds. Hope you feel better soon.

Hi Brenda - I am 4 weeks out, and eating salad. I do steam spinach quickly or else the leaves stitch a little, but cucumber, bell peppers, zucchini, marrow, tomatoes - good chew and they are good. Not great volumes post surgery - once I eat my Protein there isn’t huge room left!

I had a bypass 12/27/17 due to severe GERD and a hiatal hernia - not WLS (although that is a very happy consequence). If you have any reflux issues, a sleeve is not a viable option - it makes the heartburn and reflux worse.
So far, so great. I haven’t had any problems with any liquids so far (on the full liquid phase) and have my first follow up with the dr today. I haven’t weighed myself since the surgery so am looking forward to what the “official scale” says.

I had a bypass 12/27/17 due to severe GERD and a hiatal hernia - not WLS (although that is a very happy consequence). If you have any reflux issues, a sleeve is not a viable option - it makes the heartburn and reflux worse.
So far, so great. I haven’t had any problems with any liquids so far (on the full liquid phase) and have my first follow up with the dr today. I haven’t weighed myself since the surgery so am looking forward to what the “official scale” says.

By the way, sorry that I did not say it in my post but CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! Your health is about to improve drastically! I know mine has, I just wish that I would have taken the time to do this earlier!!!

Enjoy your babies and your new body. I have 3. Gained and lost 80 with all 3. Then gradually came back to gain 80 because of stress causing me to not care anymore about food coming into my body. Although I ate healthy- salads Protein healthy carbs- my portions were huge. ( plus had to go back to work full time for financial reasons- so no time to exercise like I used to. ) that’s how I gained weight. Gained weight. I also was never thin to begin with so before 80 pounds weight gain I was a Sz 12 looking voluptuous and quite happy- but at + 80 I was a cow! Too tired to wake up at 5:30 am to work out before job- then family stuff after work day. Now that I’ve lost over 60 pounds I have more energy to exercise and energy to wake up early.
But kids are hard- always food around. Always cooking baking and packing lunches. I have def shared a bite here and there and even a slice of pizza at times. I try to do the best most of the time but do like to feel normal. Since I’m not a binge eater nor do I have food issues- just enjoy food and had a big appetite- the sleeve is working well for me as my portions are so much smaller and I don’t get sick with any foods so I do w joy food. ( except Chinese - which I don’t enjoy anyway). Im thinking you are similar to me so wanted to reassure you that it sounds like you are back on the right track again! You can do it!


HW. 289
SW. 284
Height. 5’8

In four years I’ll be enjoying my body and life and won’t be on here scolding people new to the surgery.


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Guess what Kate? You’ve just proved my point!

1) it was a bite
2) this post wasn’t about that
3) it did not cause damage


You and others on here are bullying people for being honest. I am 5 weeks post op now, and I am disgusted at the way some of you behave. If anything could have done damage to me it was the way you all treated me when I created that post at 2 weeks.

Why are you posting on my thread besides wanting to argue and be rude? Did you go through everything you did just so you could come on here and slam people early in their own journey or did you do it for you? What do you want?

Do you want me to say how amazing you are, that you’re so much better than everyone else on here? You’re not, and we will reach our goals too despite people like you trying to drag us when we slip up.

For God sake, do you have a life out of here? I’m proud of losing 20lbs in a month, considering I only have another 40lbs to get to my goal - so keep your negative judgment to yourself.

You have clearly come on here to keep criticising me about admitting I ate a bite of my kids pizza at 2 weeks, which is now 3 weeks ago and nothing to do with this post - so don’t you DARE come on here acting like anything you are posting is anything but a bullying attempt! All of the vets like you should just leave people alone - you are NOT surgeons, you are NOT nutritionists, and you are NOT better than anyone else! We all have our own journeys! We all got here our own ways. I put on weight during my second baby, other people it was a lifelong battle - but one thing is for sure - we don’t need being scolded by know-it-all vets so early in this life changing surgery!


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Kate - thanks for yet another smart ass vet response.

We are not the ones that are know-it-alls, we are at the start of the journey and looking for others experiencing similar challenges and blocks. Perhaps some of you have forgotten what it’s like at this stage, or you’re hungry for more awards on here, whatever it is: coming on and shaming people doesn’t help anyone. I am clearly not the only person on here that has had bad days and going through it, but you’ve singled me out. What’s the point?

Congratulations to all the vets, you should be proud of your weight loss, but if you want to come on here and act like it was always easy, and you’re so much better than anyone else, than maybe you’re looking for something on this forum that we can’t give you. We clearly need support more than any of you do at our stages, and it’s not what many of you give on here, so why bother just to make us feel bad about posting?


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Thanks Mama - that’s what I was looking for to know I’m not alone with bad days. My portion has improved a lot and 20lbs down at 5 weeks post-op, but I think it’s important to be honest that it hasn’t always been easy, and I have slipped up because not everyone on here is as perfect as some like to claim they are.

Let’s stay on track, the holidays are a really hard time for many people, so thank you for being honest about your journey! Xx


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

I appreciate your concern, but it's unwarranted. Like I said some foods I can eat in moderation.... I had fudge and Cookies at Christmas, I drink wine and the occasional cocktail.... but some I just can't open the door to like cheese-it's!

So if I sound obsessive it's more the brevity of my posts and the fact that they may be incomplete in the details. If you look at my history you can see much more.

And I am very aware of transfer addictions/dysfunctions. If I'm in danger of that it's the exercise and when I'm training for a marathon I run a LOT which is why I seek balance and am not always training. I do yoga. I have weeks where I run only 6-10 miles and others where I run 50.

I've spent a lot of time in therapy over the years and seek "touch ups" during stressful times (my mom died this year and I put my dad in a rest home).

So if it's me personally you're worried about, I appreciate it but its unwarranted. If it's people LIKE me, well I'm a big believer in getting your head on straight and recognizing your own vulnerabilities, I think we all have them. Some people find their "balance" in everything in moderation and some moderate by choosing categories/foods to eliminate. I don't think either is the only path. But I do think that different people need different paths. One person's path won't necessary work for another. And this board has all types so all the paths need to be explored and discussed. No one type/path owns any discussion on thread. It's the internet!

Amen.

I think this is great, but I also think that you're in the minority for those of us that are fat or were fat. I think it's also interesting that some people who CAN avoid 'trigger' foods for life seem to assume that it's that way for everyone. This assumption leads to a lot of negativity on forums and FB pages (at least from what I've seen)
I'm not criticizing you or trying to get contentious - it's just what I notice.
I joined this FB page for sleeve/bypass people to (supposedly) share recipes and stuff like that. The lady that ran it (also conveniently had a web store to sell shakes and stuff on) was 10 years out (bypass) and still lived a <20 carb Keto lifestyle, maintained a 200lb weight loss, etc. I think the admins were all friends of hers, too. Holy **** was that a sanctimonious crew - one would think that it was some kind of religion where anything with carbs was essentially satan himself. The admins and the people who wanted to be like the admins would totally jump on people's **** when they admitted to having a cookie, or even suggested substituting something in a shake or recipe - in one post, some lady got reamed for saying she put half a banana in her daily shake. I left the group after a couple of days.
Point being - some things will change for some people, but the same thing won't change for all of the people. I think we should all take great care to qualify any advice we give on nutrition and eating here - make it very clear that what you're talking about works for you, maybe not the OP. Oh, and be nice and supportive too.

Im basically a Liberterian type of guy. Its none of my business what you do in the privacy of your home as long as you dont cause harm to others. If you feel the need to eat what you want then that is totally up to you. Im sure as an intelligent adult you will make the choices that you feel are in your best interests. I do applaud your honesty.

During my six month pre op prgram I had to attend support group meetings (which I still attend) two nuggets offered were 1- treat your WLS as a golden ticket. You really get this one chance to redo what made you obese in the first place and 2- be careful what you reintroduce into your food eco system. If it got you obese once it will do it again.

Since Im the person who cant eat just one I opt to eat none. I have no self control. For those of you who can excercise self control you eat what you feel is appropriate for you. Im glad to see this thread have varying points of views. If everyone agreed it would be a very boring and a non informative forum. Lets just be civil to each other while we work toward our goal of having a healthy and happy life.

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100% this! In my post bout pizza I also shared a friend was just diagnosed with cancer and not one person showed compassion or understanding - and then want to say they are supportive? What fools. And it was a bite- they act like I ate a whole pizza. Anyway, this was a new post but their abuse continued. I bet they’ll fall harder than I will because at least I can be honest about my weakness.

I had ppl DMing me saying they did the same but too afraid to share on here - so the bullying isn’t helping anyone. Surgery may make u thinner but some of you have very ugly personalities.

Anyway - much love to you Creekimp - girl I hope you’re kicking butt! I’m 20lbs down and 5 weeks today!!!


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Not everyone! You can only do your best at that moment in time. Don’t let some mistakes define you!


HW. 289
SW. 284
Height. 5’8

Here's an example of why I think this is bullying behavior....instead of well intended advice.
There's a thread on here about a woman throwing up clots of blood. Almost no one responded. I did. I encouraged her to seek medical advice immediately.
Then...there are posts where someone admits they've had a weak moment and eaten something high calorie...hoping for some encouragement....and the wrath of God rains down upon them like they're committing suicide.
It's bullshit. It isn't about helping others, it's about feeling self righteous. If it was about helping others, the blood clot thread would have dozens of urgent replies.
People who have been bullied often become bullies, and it's sad. Worse, they pick on those they secretly identify with.
Fat shaming is the last safe prejudice. "It's for their own good" is not an excuse to be tone deaf and unkind.

I had a bypass 12/27/17 due to severe GERD and a hiatal hernia - not WLS (although that is a very happy consequence). If you have any reflux issues, a sleeve is not a viable option - it makes the heartburn and reflux worse.
So far, so great. I haven’t had any problems with any liquids so far (on the full liquid phase) and have my first follow up with the dr today. I haven’t weighed myself since the surgery so am looking forward to what the “official scale” says.

I had a bypass 12/27/17 due to severe GERD and a hiatal hernia - not WLS (although that is a very happy consequence). If you have any reflux issues, a sleeve is not a viable option - it makes the heartburn and reflux worse.
So far, so great. I haven’t had any problems with any liquids so far (on the full liquid phase) and have my first follow up with the dr today. I haven’t weighed myself since the surgery so am looking forward to what the “official scale” says.

Thanks to all the ones that posted positive responses that were helpful, if you didn’t receive a like, I am not talking about you.

Basically I was looking for support for others that realised that this surgery didn’t completely stop them from craving some bad foods, and had broken their diets, and how they got back on the wagon after falling, because if I were so perfect at diets,
I wouldn’t have needed this surgery.

And anyone on here trying to act like they’re perfect when their SW is way higher than I’ve ever been in my life is a liar - this isn’t easy for anyone.

I actually worry for the ones trying to act perfect or attack me or anyone else on here for being honest - they’re the ones that will break the worst, and I think they’re writing from that place of fear. Controlling and criticising others helps them to deflect from looking at themselves.

Anyway, most comments were great, really inspirational and helped me to feel less alone with the struggle.


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Why must we turn all threads into Tsk! Tsk! threads...instead of LISTENING to the OP who specifically said....NO JUDGEMENT PLEASE? She clearly just wanted a little support and encouragement.
I think the reading comprehension of those of you who feel you MUST correct people is lacking.
We're all adults. It's not your job to correct anyone. Particularly when you've been specifically asked by the OP not to.
To me, that's disrespectful.
And don't tell me it's about protecting her safety or protecting the newbies or whatever other bullshit you use to justify your piousness. If it was about that...you'd have said your piece once and walked away. This is a pissing contest. And it makes it unsafe for others to express moments when they feel discouraged.
I think you're shitty to do that.

I’m all for moderation and living a balanced life. On one hand I agree with Creekimp, if I can’t learn to enjoy and walk away... then I still have an unhealthy relationship with food. I don’t want to binge, but I don’t want to deny and restrict myself for all of eternity either. I want a balance. I want a healthy and nutritious eating plan... and not to freak out if at the holidays I bite a cookie (as long as I’m not biting 50 Cookies, you know).

Now, that being said, I do agree that cheating early on is more alarming and more dangerous.

I also am just generally concerned for the OP because this is the same OP who was worried about eating cauliflower Soup barely a week out and then later in the same day ate pizza. I commented then and I’ll
comment now, it sounds like you really, really need to seek help from your doctor, nutritionist, and/or therapist. I imagine between the pizza a week post op to wine and loads of chocolate and whatever else NYE you’ve had other pretty serious cheats as well.

Again, I’m not saying I’m against the occasional cheat or treat or whatever. But it sounds like your situation might be borderline worse than that.


5’6”
25 yo
SW: 256
CW: 236.9

*12/04/2017*

I think this is a brilliant illustration of two different schools of thought and two very different approaches....that might be at the root of this conflict.
In my mind...unless I achieve moderation....food is still in control.
I need to be able to have a bite and walk away....or food has won....and is still out there waiting for me to screw up.
For me...being in control of moderation...is the only way to win the war.
Interesting, no?

Hell, I’m excited about being able to eat cottage cheese starting Friday.