Todd_196

Welcome to the guys room Diane, you know, the one, for guys.

Your best bet is to go to an information event with a surgeon to see what the real facts are for you. Often they are free.

Got the band at 30 and only told wife and 2 best friends. When I would be at a restaurant with coworkers I would just order a thin Soup and Water I greatly reduced the risk of "problems". If asked why I wasn't eating much I would always pat my gut and say "Oh, just trying to cut back a little". And that was that.
Band had to come out at 38 due to complications. Now, I 40 I am going back to have a sleeve put in today. Plan on telling is the same.
At 28 a man that worked the same place as me but in a difft. Area (I barely knew him), had WLS and had told people. One day he came in to the area I was working and made a delivery. Anyway, as soon as he left most of the 8-10 people in that area started talking about him, speculating how much he had lost, how much they heard it cost, why doesn't he buy some new pants that fit right, why didn't he just "hit the gym" instead of surgery. Etc.... That is when I decided I would keep it close to the chest.

The women can’t stay out of here which pisses me off and makes me not want to contribute. But we’re here...

Don't worry, to prove your point a lady should be by shortly to make a comment on this "Guys Only" post.

Discipline isn't a war to be won, but rather a battle to be fought daily.

We ARE a rare bred on here. Look how infrequently men post in this forum.

Don't worry, to prove your point a lady should be by shortly to make a comment on this "Guys Only" post.

Discipline isn't a war to be won, but rather a battle to be fought daily.

Don't worry, to prove your point a lady should be by shortly to make a comment on this "Guys Only" post.

Discipline isn't a war to be won, but rather a battle to be fought daily.

Don't worry, to prove your point a lady should be by shortly to make a comment on this "Guys Only" post.

Discipline isn't a war to be won, but rather a battle to be fought daily.

Been there & congrats!

I was scheduled for surgery on May 30, 2017. I was at the hospital with the IV in my arm and I backed out at the last second. A decision I regretted until January 18 2018 when I finally got sleeved. Biggest mistake I ever made but that’s what it took to realize my addiction to food. I so wish I could go back and have done it on the 30th now. The surgery went great and all is well. If you’re nervous on the day of surgery tell them immediately when you arrive at the hospital that you want something to calm you down as soon as possible. Also tell them that you want the patch behind your ear for nausea prior to surgery it last up to seven days. The surgery went great and all is well.

I got the call yesterday to schedule my WLS. I was in my counselor’s office waiting for my appointment to start and I got the call!
I’ve got tell you I was floored. I’ve been trying to find out the status of my case, and was checking to make sure they had all of the paper work they needed. I had no idea that they submitted everything to the insurance company for review and approval.
Like many, I’m sure, I was thrilled, excited scared, worried, uncertain etc., etc. When my counselor came to get me for my appointment she knew right away something was odd. LOL, more so than normal. I told her and I found that I was starting to come up with reasons why I should wait and maybe put this off for a while. It was ridiculous. I was more worried about everyone and everything else and how they would be missing my “help”. She pointed out and I came to realize that I never prioritize for myself; I always do for others and not me. In a good way I agreed that I need to be selfish for once and take care of me. To make me happy, make me feel handsome, make me feel smart, sexy, accepted, loved, wanted, part of life.
Am I worried and scared? Hell yes! But for once I feel like I’m giving myself the tools and permission to take control of my life and be who I am rather than who I think I should be for others.

I got the call yesterday to schedule my WLS. I was in my counselor’s office waiting for my appointment to start and I got the call!
I’ve got tell you I was floored. I’ve been trying to find out the status of my case, and was checking to make sure they had all of the paper work they needed. I had no idea that they submitted everything to the insurance company for review and approval.
Like many, I’m sure, I was thrilled, excited scared, worried, uncertain etc., etc. When my counselor came to get me for my appointment she knew right away something was odd. LOL, more so than normal. I told her and I found that I was starting to come up with reasons why I should wait and maybe put this off for a while. It was ridiculous. I was more worried about everyone and everything else and how they would be missing my “help”. She pointed out and I came to realize that I never prioritize for myself; I always do for others and not me. In a good way I agreed that I need to be selfish for once and take care of me. To make me happy, make me feel handsome, make me feel smart, sexy, accepted, loved, wanted, part of life.
Am I worried and scared? Hell yes! But for once I feel like I’m giving myself the tools and permission to take control of my life and be who I am rather than who I think I should be for others.

It show easily that it's the guys room..even if it's on my timeline. You ladies just like to comment on everything regardless lol... EVEN IF you quite possibly didn't see it as the "guys room"...his topic literally says "guys: what do you do to relieve stress?" [emoji52]

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Ladies - I know the topic probably just popped up in the New Post filter or Unread, but this question was posted in the Guy's Room. (Still wished this place was changed to The Humidor!)
Todd - weightlifting is my major stress reliever. Then in the warmer months, motorcycle touring. The latter has become so much easier and more enjoyable since losing the 100-ish lbs.

Anyone else that can’t wait to find a new job after they lose weight? Not necessarily to goal but enough to get confidence and look good in interview clothes.
I’ve overheard supervisors make snide comments about my size, have not been invited to lunches, after work events, meetings, passed over for promotions, wage increases, not given interviews for other jobs, etc.
I can’t frigging wait to start looking for something else. Just need to stay until after my surgery this year, hopefully in a few months, then I’m looking.
I’m sick of being the piss boy and getting treated like crap!

Anyone else that can’t wait to find a new job after they lose weight? Not necessarily to goal but enough to get confidence and look good in interview clothes.
I’ve overheard supervisors make snide comments about my size, have not been invited to lunches, after work events, meetings, passed over for promotions, wage increases, not given interviews for other jobs, etc.
I can’t frigging wait to start looking for something else. Just need to stay until after my surgery this year, hopefully in a few months, then I’m looking.
I’m sick of being the piss boy and getting treated like crap!

@Todd_196 You're not alone! I am right there with you! In fact you took the words right out of my mouth. If you do one thing only, just one thing, move forward in any amount, no matter how small, that you can.

The past week or so I've felt like I just don't care. I don't care about my job, writing in my journal, cooking, cleaning, being with my family. You name it, I don't care.
To be clear, I don't want to hurt myself or do anything radical. I'm just tired of struggling every day. I know life isn't easy but it feels like I'm pushing a boulder uphill every friggin day.

Look we all need to get along on this forum and follow the rules we all agreed with when we signed up.
It is what it is.
While you should check to see what area you are in is common courtesy, mistakes do happen.
However, I've seen the same excuse from BOTH genders and typically its a repeat offender. I'm not casting stones to anyone on this thread just stating what I've seen.
That being said. Lets move along!

Oh for Christ sake......

In a none creepy way, yes. I was raised by women, love women, respect women. Hell I've been accused of acting like a women. But for this go around with my weight loss journey there are some things that I want and need to talk with men about.
I've not hung around with a lot of guys, and to be frank, I feel awkward around men a lot because of my upbringing and lack of social exposure with guys. I enjoy a lot of traditional guy stuff like Hunting, Fishing, cigars etc. But getting the perspective of guys on the subject of WLS is something that I need a little more than that of the ladies.
I would NEVER post in the ladies only area and I'm always hyper vigilant in making sure I look where the post is prior to posting anything. To me its a basic, unbreakable form of respect to all.

That being said, with regard to my original post. I feel a lot better today. I sat down and had a long talk with myself and did a bit of personal reflection. I wrote in my journal for about an hour this morning prior to work and I pretty much started recounting my life since my earliest memory. A life in review if you will. I see things with a little more clarity but I know I wont solve my worlds problems by just writing for a little while. I think men in general, aren't very good at taking stock of their life and putting things in perspective. We are fixers and doers. We try to act strong and be the stoic figure we are traditionally expected to be. And to a degree I believe that should be the way. However, it never hurts to expose your softer side either. Being emotionally vulnerable to other men is important and a private thing for a man. I hate to say it but as men sometime we don't need a women, we need to just be a dude.

I'm actually a big introvert so this is me a lot of the time. I get burned out pretty quick if I have a lot of "people" time. If my wife and kid are out of town visiting family or for gone for part of the day, I'm in my glory, piece and quiet and loads of me time.

what...... the........ F—K.
i bet part of the reason the OP is depressed is because he’s longing for connection with other men, in places like The Guys Room, and women come in anyway, uninvited and unwelcome, and vomit stuff like this all over him.
jesus...

I'm actually a big introvert so this is me a lot of the time. I get burned out pretty quick if I have a lot of "people" time. If my wife and kid are out of town visiting family or for gone for part of the day, I'm in my glory, piece and quiet and loads of me time.