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Yes. This is me now. I called my surgery center and they told me my pain sounded like the internal stitch being an a hole. It literally knocks me down and feels like I’m being stabbed to death. I was in the shower today wishing I had a shower chair because I was in so much pain and out of breath.

It’s not just you. *virtual hug

I’ve seen this shirt on Etsy and Amazon! I had one made that said “Straight Outta Gastric Bypass “ 🥰

I’m on work leave and I am bored too 🤣 today I moved into the mushy stage. My diet expanded to being able to have: fat free refried Beans, low fat ricotta or cottage cheese, and eggs 🍳 I had 2tbs of beans for Breakfast and it was way better than it should have been 🤣 I was so tired of yogurt. Days 3-6 my options were yogurt, hot Cereal. I hate hot cereal. So I ate yogurt and was over it. Moving on up!

Why stop at a week? Keep going! I agree, drugs are a bad idea post weight loss surgery 😊

I had a sinus thing a few days before surgery and day of. I had to produce a negative covid test and they did the surgery anyway. The antibiotics actually helped clear it that they give you during surgery 🤣

I’ve seen this shirt on Etsy and Amazon! I had one made that said “Straight Outta Gastric Bypass “ 🥰

1. Restaurants: I eat out about 90% of my meals because I travel for work. I just think carefully about what I'm eating and I stop when I've had enough.
2. Sweets: You just... have to make some changes in order to get the results you want. I have always had a sweet tooth, made worse by medications I take for bipolar disorder... but... I try not to eat sweets much now, and when I do, I use sugar free sweets or have a tiny piece. I CAN eat too much sweets without my restriction kicking in. It's up to me to make the choice that aligns with my goals for long term weight loss
3. Nice food: I love nice food. I just don't need to make it the only thing in my life anymore. I enjoy almost all of my meals, especially when I can enjoy them with friends or family, but it's not the only thing in my life (and I'm Italian!).

It kinda sounds like you want to have your cake and eat the whole thing - you can't eat every single thing as much as you want and lose weight, and only have a surgery that is less effective, and not take time off from work, and not like fat people and not weigh your food... We all want it all, but it's just not possible. I would love to have NOT had this surgery that makes me uncomfortable all the time. But I wanted to be thin. I think you really haven't made up your mind what it is you want yet.

All,
I was attacked by another member for telling a poster what I think is the truth to try to give them some tough love and open their eyes to what is happening. When people post on here, it is not a stretch to assume that they have a real problem and are looking at real solutions. What good does it do to reassure people that they are just fine and they are doing the right thing just to make them feel good. They are on here because they have a problem they need help with. If they want to solve the problem, sometimes they are going to have to hear something that may not make them smile. Sometimes the truth hurts and in order to come to a solution, you have to look at everything realistically to make the corrections needed.
I was accused of purposely being unhelpful and I take offense to that. I have posted many more encouraging posts to people than the opposite because most people here just need a little reassurance and they are doing the right things to be successful. Once in a while, people are not doing what their surgical team recommends or may be doing things counterproductive and I have said that point blank. Does that make me a "mean" person as this person accused me of? Maybe, but maybe, just maybe the original poster needed to hear the "mean" truth in order to understand what needs to be done.
Bottom line is, if people post on here, I again assume they want people to be truthful and helpful, not just be a cheerleader and try to make them feel better. They will feel better when they are successful in their journey.

Unhelpful and mean? No maam. I just try to be honest with people and tell them the truth. There is something not right about what is going on there. 20 pounds after a year is not success and to say so is not helpful to the poster. If you want to just be told what you want to hear, then do not post. This is trying to help people, not just make them feel good and continue doing what they are doing.

I’m on work leave and I am bored too 🤣 today I moved into the mushy stage. My diet expanded to being able to have: fat free refried Beans, low fat ricotta or cottage cheese, and eggs 🍳 I had 2tbs of beans for Breakfast and it was way better than it should have been 🤣 I was so tired of yogurt. Days 3-6 my options were yogurt, hot Cereal. I hate hot cereal. So I ate yogurt and was over it. Moving on up!

So, I hate to be a wet blanket here and I know everyone is trying to be supportive, but to get major weight loss surgery and after a year being only 22 pounds lighter seems to me to be a bit of a failure....I am just being brutally honest. Part of supporting people is to sometimes tell them the truth and try to get them to take action. If I were in the same situation, I would go back to a low calorie, high Protein, low fat, low/no carb diet and get exercising ASAP. The fact is, there has to be a calorie deficit and it we are gaining weight back, there is an issue with that deficit. Maybe we are not counting all our calories....maybe we are not counting at all......maybe we are doing ZERO exercise......maybe a lot of things but what we do know is that it is not working and we are gaining weight. It is time to reevaluate EVERYTHING and get back to what made weight come of in the first place.

Stop. Stop, stop, stop, stop, stop. Take a deep breath. In fact, take three. Working yourself into a frenzy isn't going to help anything.
Now let's evaluate.
It sounds like the scale at work is accurate based on your "test" of it. Try your scale at home again, and if it's wildly off, chuck it out. It's broken. So, with that being said, it sounds like you're 235 lbs. Now we have to figure out why that is so we can begin changing it.
First of all, as a 5'5 woman, 1200 calories is hardly a deficit in the long-term. It may be initially, but your body will adjust, and your metabolism will slow to compensate. Nowadays, it may even be a bit more than you need. My surgeon, who was a pioneer in bariatric surgery and has done thousands of procedures, said that most people only need 1000-1500 calories a day. There are obvious exceptions for athletes and whatnot, but generally speaking, that's the rule for both men and women.
Now, I know you don't want to hear me simply tell you to eat less. However, if you can find a couple hundred calories to cut out from your current diet, it definitely won't hurt. To me, it sounds like your body found a comfort zone with 1200 a day and whatever level of activity you have, and it stopped dropping weight as a result. Just to be sure though, are you POSITIVE you're only eating 1200 calories a day? There are hidden calories everywhere. Passing by the candy dish at work a couple times a day, oil in the pan, a glass of wine with dinner, cream and sugar in your coffee, etc, will all add up.
Now, as someone who just got himself out of a stall by doing this, here's going to be my biggest suggestion. You've heard it before, it isn't sexy, but it works.
Cut whatever amount of carbs you're eating by at least 50% and get rid of anything made with flour or sugar entirely. You're only supposed to be eating 1000-1200 calories a day, and you can't afford to spend them on starch. You may feel like crap for a week, but I guarantee you that you won't feel like crap when you see the number on the scale going down. Plus, it's also incredibly easy to end up eating far more calories than you intended when you're eating this stuff. It takes most people 3-4 bites to eat a 200 calorie serving of Pasta.

I've never taken the temperature of snot...
😂

I’m reading a lot of things that sound like suicidal ideation in your comments. I’m a clinical social worker and should you be serious and not just grieving/processing the new lifestyle you have…
Suicide hotline: 800-273-8255. Open 24/7

Preop lost 15 lbs, going into surgery in couple hrs the liquid diet was ok a lot more f mental no’s , still more work to go after surgery. 🤞

Wiping my own butt without breaking my back trying to reach 🤦🏼‍♀️

It happened with a little help from miralax 🙃🙌 thanks all!

It happened with a little help from miralax 🙃🙌 thanks all!

Yesterday was my sleeve to RNY. Less pain overall but still painful where the drain is and gas pains. Walking has been easier. Ice chips are easier. Nausea sometimes gets me. Will keep you all posted with process and success!

Yesterday was my sleeve to RNY. Less pain overall but still painful where the drain is and gas pains. Walking has been easier. Ice chips are easier. Nausea sometimes gets me. Will keep you all posted with process and success!

Yesterday was my sleeve to RNY. Less pain overall but still painful where the drain is and gas pains. Walking has been easier. Ice chips are easier. Nausea sometimes gets me. Will keep you all posted with process and success!

Yesterday was my sleeve to RNY. Less pain overall but still painful where the drain is and gas pains. Walking has been easier. Ice chips are easier. Nausea sometimes gets me. Will keep you all posted with process and success!

Today is the day! Going in now for RNY!

I’m reading a lot of things that sound like suicidal ideation in your comments. I’m a clinical social worker and should you be serious and not just grieving/processing the new lifestyle you have…
Suicide hotline: 800-273-8255. Open 24/7

I’m reading a lot of things that sound like suicidal ideation in your comments. I’m a clinical social worker and should you be serious and not just grieving/processing the new lifestyle you have…
Suicide hotline: 800-273-8255. Open 24/7