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To me, this post is less about the diet coke and more about the deep seated fear and guilt associated with consuming certain foods and beverages, as described in your finishing sentiment "I kind of am still scared of food but I am trying to overcome that."
Where is this guilt rooted? Why do we have such damaging relationships with food? In my experience, both pre and post op, I've been plagued with thoughts of "why couldn't I just have one" or "I shouldn't have let myself eat that." There are so many layers to the issue that need to be peeled back and examined: prior trauma with weight issues, Dr.'s orders, cultural norms.
Consider reading this article that I found helpful and uplifting discussing how you can rebuild your relationship with food. It might help you feel less afraid the next time you decide to pick up a diet coke, or anything else you might want to enjoy.
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8258/11-steps-to-rebuild-your-relationship-with-food.html
Congratulations on meeting your goal!

To me, this post is less about the diet coke and more about the deep seated fear and guilt associated with consuming certain foods and beverages, as described in your finishing sentiment "I kind of am still scared of food but I am trying to overcome that."
Where is this guilt rooted? Why do we have such damaging relationships with food? In my experience, both pre and post op, I've been plagued with thoughts of "why couldn't I just have one" or "I shouldn't have let myself eat that." There are so many layers to the issue that need to be peeled back and examined: prior trauma with weight issues, Dr.'s orders, cultural norms.
Consider reading this article that I found helpful and uplifting discussing how you can rebuild your relationship with food. It might help you feel less afraid the next time you decide to pick up a diet coke, or anything else you might want to enjoy.
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8258/11-steps-to-rebuild-your-relationship-with-food.html
Congratulations on meeting your goal!

I had a very similar experience to yours. After a few weeks of hair coming out in clumps I got about three inches taken off and LOVED the results! Although the cut wasn't doing anything to prevent the Hair loss, my negative emotions surrounding my hair went away with a fresh new look.
For anyone going through this now, please know it is not a permanent issue. Everyone's hair loss will be different, but it will not last.

Today marks 9 months post op for me. Down 113 pounds from high weight and 98 pounds from surgery weight. Weighed in at 153.9 pounds this morning and finally at a normal BMI. This process has been a gift and I cannot express how much better I feel. No more achy joints or sleep apnea. I feel good about the way I look for the first time in a long time. I am still learning to moderate as I introduce some limited sweets and whole grains into my diet. I’m hoping to drop another 10 pounds and aim to maintain my weight under 150. For those of you just starting your journeys, stick to your doctor’s plans and you will be amazed by the results! I was very worried about long term success and I still fear backslides, but I feel more confident about long term success with each passing day. Stay strong in this fight, everyone! You can do it!

Looking great! And cute kiddo

I struggled with insomnia very randomly during my first month post op. It was torture to be wide awake and not understand why, as sleep is extremely important to me. I spoke with my Dr. about it, who gave me no real advice other than I could use melatonin and see if it helped. It didn't really. Strangely enough the insomnia left as randomly and quickly as it appeared and I am very happy to be on a regular sleep schedule. My best advice is to not fight the restlessness. Get up, fiddle with a hobby, watch something mindless or relaxing, do some laundry, take a hot bath or shower. Just keep busy until you feel sleepy and try again. Best of luck and hope you get a restful night soon.

It took me to the 15 week mark before BAM none of my clothes fit anymore! Had to swap the majority of them out, go diving for old smaller sizes, swap with friends and family...the first shopping trip post op was out of a dream. Imagine looking into a fitting room mirror and liking your reflection! You will be amazed, it will happen! Congratulations on the loss so far.

I struggled with insomnia very randomly during my first month post op. It was torture to be wide awake and not understand why, as sleep is extremely important to me. I spoke with my Dr. about it, who gave me no real advice other than I could use melatonin and see if it helped. It didn't really. Strangely enough the insomnia left as randomly and quickly as it appeared and I am very happy to be on a regular sleep schedule. My best advice is to not fight the restlessness. Get up, fiddle with a hobby, watch something mindless or relaxing, do some laundry, take a hot bath or shower. Just keep busy until you feel sleepy and try again. Best of luck and hope you get a restful night soon.

Hoping you find your comfy spot soon - nothing worse than going through all this and getting **** sleep. I slept on my side about 4 days post op because sleeping on my back was next to impossible. Only thing that got me through the immediate post op was sheer exhaustion. I found that, just like another user here said, I would fall asleep on my side and wake up sometimes on my stomach. Your pain level will be the best indicator of whether the position is right for you.

OK this might sound dramatic but does anyone else feel like they broke up with food?
I'm 7 weeks out currently. Weeks 1-2 were a non issue as I was so focused on the medical aspect of my procedure and could only have liquids anyway. Fine. Then came weeks 3-4 and I could have pureed food. Joy. Problem is I didn't like a majority of the approved foods in this stage so it was more like a repeat of weeks 1-2. All I wanted was to chew on some veggies. Crunch! Can you imagine a crunch in your mouth?! Anyway week 5 was fine as I could finally have soft food and my diet was basically any type of food you could make from ground turkey. Now here I am, cleared for all foods. My first time having raw vegetables again was orgasmic.
But recently, everything sort of stopped. I don't think about food. I don't crave food. In fact, part of me actually dreads eating. Now it seems like more of a chore than something I look forward to. I've tried making interesting recipes, eating out (keeping with nutrition guidelines). I even tried to eat pizza.
I didn't like the pizza.
Yes. You read that correctly. I DIDN'T LIKE THE PIZZA. In fact, any food I've remotely craved during my weeks of liquid and puree hell do not taste good, nor do I feel are worth the lack of nutritional value.
I am sure that someday I won't feel this way, but I am truly amazed by my attitude toward food. Never would I pin myself as someone who just would rather skip a meal because it's easier than deciding what 1/4 cup of food I want.
If you've experienced this, did it last? Do you view it as a positive? Do you miss loving food?

I just keep reminding myself that I didn't do this to chase numbers. I did it to stop wheezing after a 100 foot walk. To climb a flight of stairs without having anxiety. To stop having to size up my wedding ring. It's also really really fun to ignore the scale and feel so strong (and wow what's this willpower thing I never had when food was involved?) And THEN after weeks of not stepping on the scale and seeing a number that's lower than the one before...nothing better. Fighting the daily 1 lb down, 3 lbs up, 1/2 down...it's a mental nightmare. You can do it!

I'm going through this as well. Prior to surgery I loved food so much that I was considering opening a restaurant, now? Meh, eating is chore, nothing tastes right, and I would honestly prefer to eat nothing instead of have to think about what to eat. It's weird. Kind of freeing but also a little depressing because my mind still remembers how good food USED to be and it's still a disappointment every time I eat. I think it just takes some getting used to.

I am over a year out. I DREAD meal times. I NEVER have an appetite. I can never figure out what i want to eat.

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Almost a year and a half out. I love food. I'm down about 110 pounds - depending on the day I fluctuate between loss of 106 and 110. Some days, I do want food. Others, not so much. I still love food. My hubby and I go out to eat, but I take most of it home in a take out box.
I still love it, but I no longer let it abuse me, like I did before. Its about saying goodbye to a toxic relationship. You are developing a health relationship with food - before we lived to eat. Now, we eat to live.
Yesterday, I had a bad day - on a number of levels, and didn't stay with the program and ate too many carbs. I'm paying for it today because I feel like crap.
But those first few weeks (I couldn't wait for a bite of scrambled egg) are rough. But remember, this is only a tool. You still have work to do. And you can do it.

OK this might sound dramatic but does anyone else feel like they broke up with food?
I'm 7 weeks out currently. Weeks 1-2 were a non issue as I was so focused on the medical aspect of my procedure and could only have liquids anyway. Fine. Then came weeks 3-4 and I could have pureed food. Joy. Problem is I didn't like a majority of the approved foods in this stage so it was more like a repeat of weeks 1-2. All I wanted was to chew on some veggies. Crunch! Can you imagine a crunch in your mouth?! Anyway week 5 was fine as I could finally have soft food and my diet was basically any type of food you could make from ground turkey. Now here I am, cleared for all foods. My first time having raw vegetables again was orgasmic.
But recently, everything sort of stopped. I don't think about food. I don't crave food. In fact, part of me actually dreads eating. Now it seems like more of a chore than something I look forward to. I've tried making interesting recipes, eating out (keeping with nutrition guidelines). I even tried to eat pizza.
I didn't like the pizza.
Yes. You read that correctly. I DIDN'T LIKE THE PIZZA. In fact, any food I've remotely craved during my weeks of liquid and puree hell do not taste good, nor do I feel are worth the lack of nutritional value.
I am sure that someday I won't feel this way, but I am truly amazed by my attitude toward food. Never would I pin myself as someone who just would rather skip a meal because it's easier than deciding what 1/4 cup of food I want.
If you've experienced this, did it last? Do you view it as a positive? Do you miss loving food?

I just keep reminding myself that I didn't do this to chase numbers. I did it to stop wheezing after a 100 foot walk. To climb a flight of stairs without having anxiety. To stop having to size up my wedding ring. It's also really really fun to ignore the scale and feel so strong (and wow what's this willpower thing I never had when food was involved?) And THEN after weeks of not stepping on the scale and seeing a number that's lower than the one before...nothing better. Fighting the daily 1 lb down, 3 lbs up, 1/2 down...it's a mental nightmare. You can do it!

I chose my goal weight because it is the lowest weight I have achieved in my adult life. I know I can get there because I have done in the past and I would like to hit the mark and maintain. It is a lofty goal, and I will probably hit and maintain a weight 10-20lbs higher than that one.

@FluffyChixYes that is what I will be trying! I realized after the fact that the one I drank is made with milk. I also discovered that whey Protein is a by-product of dairy, and even though it may not be triggering my lactose intolerance since the lactose is mostly non existent, my body may have an aversion to the other milk Proteins which totally makes sense. It could also be some artificial sweetener like you said, I'm known to get headaches from certain "no calorie" drinks. I'm going to try both a whey and a soy unflavored to see how I do.
Does the Isopure need to be mixed with your broths under a certain temperature? I know the Unjury has to be under something like 130/140 degrees.

Thanks @Rae5148. I have been eyeing the Unjury chicken Soup for months knowing I would enjoy a more savory option in general but am too stubborn about paying the money for something I won't know if I like or sits well with me. I swear the surgeons need to havea surgery party for people at some time around the pre-op with samples of all the different Protein Shakes. Oh well.

Today marks two weeks until my surgery date. On the 25 my surgeon gave me two pre-op diet options. I wanted to try the liquid diet option, so I began right away. About half an hour after consuming a Premier Protein vanilla, I developed one of the worst Migraines of my entire life. About an hour later I got violently ill. My headache lasted three days. Needless to say I will not be having that product again. Luckily my pre-op diet doesn't have to be liquid, but I'm now terrified for my post-op diet because it will be exclusively Protein Drinks. Has anyone else had a similar reaction to any of the Protein Shakes or powders?

I just read a topic in a - sort of - unrelated post where @James Marusek recommended Bio Oil and his motion was seconded. You can find that thread here:

Almost 24 hours after surgery and at hospital. I felt miserable after surgery because of severe nausea. Today is a whole different story....feel tons better and have been up and walking quite a bit. No nausea and my stomach doesn't hurt and Water has been gong down great!

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I would also HIGHLY recommend watching the documentary From Fat to Finish Line if you haven't yet. It's on most of the streaming sites now, including iTunes to rent or buy. I watched that last year and it got me motivated to start interval running, and I have done a number of 5ks since then. After surgery, one of my big goals to work towards is to complete a 10k and then a half marathon

I am out of surgery and I had a little bit of nausea, but that finally subsided. The gas however took a bit longer, Drinking hurt big timed, so I did what any mother would do... I patted and rubbed my chest until I burped.. It was the most wonderful burp I've had today. I'm feeling sooooo much better. How are the rest of the 11/8's?

It's easy to get upset at the offending partner when they make comments like that, but honestly take it from someone who's been married for 30 years, it all comes from a place of insecurity and fear of the unknown....for both of you. You need to help her understand that your journey to a healthier you is only going to make you a happier, more fulfilled person, which in turn should make her happy, too. Try to reassure her how important her love and support will mean to you as embark on this new chapter of your lives. After all, change is a normal, contstant part of life, and the strongest relationships can adapt.
As far as her not being willing to change her lifestyle, you can't control what she does, only how you react to it. YOU are choosing to do this, not her. Find another support system if need be. As long as she can at least emotionally support you, there's no need for her to change her activity and eating habits if she doesn't want to. My husband didn't, and I did just fine. You will too if you REALLY want to. She may also surprise you and come around.