LaLaDee

I get it. At 250-275, I was the first one laid off from companies during my career. I couldn't get a job for the 18 months I was laid off. But now I'm a size 10, very petite and tiny even for a size 10 (they can't see my extra belly skin) and everyone wants me. I got a great contract role and I'm looking at great full time roles. People see me as capable and intelligent, things I were before, but now I'm in a tiny little package they love. It's terrible. I'm happy for myself and I think these people suck.

Here's a first world problem if I have ever heard one... I can't get used to being so much thinner!
I'm down 65 pounds and so many inches, I can no longer count. I'm down to a size 10 in tops and between a size 12-14 in pants (oh... the struggles of the in-between sizes!). And, hey, I'm enjoying my new body (minus the extra skin on the belly - oh!!! the extra belly skin!!) but I have to admit, it's freaking weird!!
I see myself in the mirror or walking down the street in the reflection of glass and I can't believe it is me! Who is that woman walking around in size 12 jeans?
And people aren't looking at me in a strange way any longer, when I walk in to Dunkin' Donuts and order coffee, the woman behind the counter doesn't turn up her nose at me and make me feel self-conscious about my weight... she smiles that secret "thin person club" smile (I'm convinced they have a club, you can't tell me they don't!!) lol The women at the gym don't stop and whisper any longer.. my trainer doesn't look at me with pity in his eyes...when I interview for jobs, they smile when I walk in the room now, instead of averting their eyes, which immediately are dead when they look back at me.
I can't get used to the bones in my knees touching when I sleep at night, I have to put a pillow between my legs now. I can't get used to how thin my shoulders look and how wearing a cold shoulder top doesn't seem so bad now. I can't get used to how much energy I have or how walking up the stairs no longer makes my heart race or how I can walk up the whole flight without stopping to catch my breath.
I work in a plus-sized clothing store and I can't get used to being at the very bottom of the sizes and how my customers tell me "I'm no longer plus-sized"...
This may seem weird but I can't get used to the whole thing! And what's more.. I don't see myself as "thinner" yet. I look in the mirror and still see that "fat" girl staring back at me. I can't see what everyone else sees yet, despite the glaring evidence in front of me.
Please tell me I'm not the only one.

Had my surgey for my 51st birthday and its been an interesting trip. Carbs were and still are my weakest point.
I find it easier to avoid them than to limit them so i work hard to keep cards very very low. if i have them i try to make sure the item also has Fiber this pretty much stops all simple carbs.
I will say if your large around the gut you might want to skip the crunch machine in the gym for a good long while. i pulled a stomach muscle 3rd day i added that dam machine to my workout and it cost me 3 weeks in the gym. I also limit all my eating to a 8 hr window (11-7). I am off 2 bp meds and my Metformin for 2 months now and no more cpap. I put my wedding ring on for the first time in more than 7 years and that was nice emotional victory. I only weigh on saturday mornings now and if i could give 1 piece of advice to anyone new it would be measure yourself. I wish i had those numbers now but i just couldnt make myself do it. the thought of seeing those numbers back then and writing them down was just beyond what i could accept. I regret it now beacuse i dont have a good reference point but i will buy new clothes in march before my 8 month follow up with the Doc.
I have cut 3 new holes in the belt and my wife says i look like **** in these cloths but i didnt want to waste money doing it 2-3 times so i just keep pulling that belt in and going on.
well i just looked back and realized i am rambling away here so thats enough of that.
hope everyone is doing well

I was crying before my surgery and absolutely terrified. I didn’t have an easy time afterwards either (don’t mean to frighten anyone) BUT I still don’t regret it. Just get through it and it will be worth it in the end!

I was crying before my surgery and absolutely terrified. I didn’t have an easy time afterwards either (don’t mean to frighten anyone) BUT I still don’t regret it. Just get through it and it will be worth it in the end!

Time for a forum nick name change miss not-so-thick!!

Time for a forum nick name change miss not-so-thick!!

Time for a forum nick name change miss not-so-thick!!

Time for a forum nick name change miss not-so-thick!!

Time for a forum nick name change miss not-so-thick!!

Three years and seven months out..I'm absolutely happy I had sleeve surgery. No revision needed.
I think you will see people come back to support forums when they are struggling. You don't need support when all is well and you are maintaining your weight.

You walked eight miles? You’re amazing!!! I feel like a lazy bum hearing that!!

Time for a forum nick name change miss not-so-thick!!

My BMI went below 30 this morning. My pulmonologist said if I went below 30, I can probably get rid of my CPAP. I'm also now the lowest weight I've been in the thirteen years my wife and I have been together.

I was sleeved on 8/29/17, I had all the exact feelings as everyone else. I try to focus on non scale moments to help with my self esteem, down sizing on clothes has been the most rewarding for me. Went from a size 22 in jeans to wearing a size 12 now, and on shirts i went from 3x-2× to now a lg and xlg. Another wonderful moment for me is when my oldest daughter boyfriend came over the other night and i was dressed up for a wedding to attend and he said," damn your mama is looking hot". Those little moments is what gets me through this:0) plus i hit my first 2 goals i had set for myself. first being in the 100's by Christmas , 2nd losing 50lbs. Happy to say i accomplished both!
Sw 244 cw 192

I feel like a failure too sometimes since my stats seem awful compared to other people. Times like that I remind myself I’m wearing smalls and mediums in clothes and easily fitting in jackets from college. Haven’t tried my skinny jeans yet.

I have started to treat myself occasionally. I’ll have a bite of chocolate or a small bowl of Pasta. I just have set macros for the day depending on whether it’s a gym day and make sure I meet my nutritional and caloric goals for the day.

We need to be more gentle on ourselves. Not make excuses for poor decisions but recognize we’re all human and one bad meal or snack won’t make or break our success.

Burrito bowl/naked burrito. No rice. Didn’t shell out the extra $2 for guacamole. Will probably end up eating less than a third. I get annoyed eating out because I can never finish and it seems like a waste of money and food!

I have to admit that I am on a low carb plan. I'll eat bananas, sweet potatoes, and quinoa but I don't go anywhere near bread, rice or Pasta. I am allowed these things in moderation by my nutritionist but, for me, it's easier to just avoid them.
Cloebird - I'm sad to hear you're not in a happy place right now. I understand how you want to turn to food. It's a constant struggle for me too. Do you keep a food journal? If so, you might want to try tracking your feelings or moods and then looking for patterns. e.g. if feeling bored makes you overeat or reach for something lacking nutrition then you can try and be mindful of that and distract yourself.
I'm trying to make myself feel better without food. No more eating my feelings! When I get the blues, I go for a walk, treat myself to bath, read a trashy crime novel, listen to music, or go and chat with someone. Anything to distract myself! I don't watch TV when I'm sad (because then I might grab a snack) or go anywhere near the kitchen). I have a lifetime of terrible habits and I need to learn new ones! Sometimes I make mistakes and eat chocolate or whatever and then I have to forgive myself but that's OK. I'm a work in progress.

While I am truly jumping up and down for all of you who are being successful, I am only down 40 pounds since surgery (8/25), and have been stalled for 2 months. I knew surgery was not a miracle answer going into it. I hate the gym, have bad knees, and have a sedentary job. I have tried all sorts of exercise, and have never found one that excites me except kick boxing - which caused me to have back surgery...... I really need to get back on track. I definitely eat less than I used to, but am eating what I want. Soooooo, its all on me to turn it around. Owning it is the first step right?

Sure... my kids are back at college so dinners are easier now. My husband and I eat together, but not the same foods. Haha
fir Breakfast I have a Premier Protein shake which i think is 6 carbs?
lunch a 4oz hamburger or turkey patty
low fat cheese stick 0 carb
dannon light n fit 15 carb but you can subtract the Fiber the nutritionist said??
dinner 4oz chicken or steak, nothing on it, maybe some more non fat cheese, some almonds
thats about it
im down 97 lbs since 8/15
was 356 pre surgery, 342 surgery date
currently about 258 give or take a bit
Good luck to you on your journey!!!

I'm about the same as before Christmas. Hovering around 112.5kg (248 pounds). When I don't lose weight for a few days, I panic that I've entered a little stall which is ridiculous. I wouldn't mind losing another 2 or 3 kg (6 pounds), just so that I could say I had lost 100pounds. I'm Australian and use the metric system, but 100 pounds sounds like an awesome milestone. But I WILL get there.

Toss all the junk!
Start fresh!
You can do it!
We are here for you! Need tough love or a sympathetic shoulder? Use this forum. It's hard, we know. Lean on us
It really does help.

My mother in law is Italian, straight off the boat and she has always talked about my need to lose weight and how beautiful I would be if...(all while making me delicious food and cocktails). She also told my husband last week that I do not need to lose anymore weight. 🤣😂 gotta love them.

Well its official...I'm in onderland, woohoo

First off congratulations on your approval! I chose the sleeve particularly because although it takes longer (2 years) to lose the weight the results of keeping it off statistically is better versus the bypass. My high weight last January when I started my pre op classes was 352lbs. The doctor gave me a goal weight of 178. Which is 174 lbs I have to lose.
I spent last year losing as much as I could, which wasn't much but I got down to 321 by surgery in december.. I'm now almost 6 weeks post op and weighed in at 291 yesterday. I don't expect the weight to keep coming off this fast. I've followed over a hundred sleevers on Instagram and I can tell you, if you don't follow your meal plan and work out it will be a long slow process with little success. But the same goes on the other end, the ones who stick to their plans, and workout a few days a week have done an amazing job! Some have lost 100lbs in under a year! It's a hard process no matter which surgery you choose.

I like that if I don't eat right I won't get results. I'm doing this to change my entire lifestyle, and that will help me stay on track, but everyone is different.

Good luck on whatever you choose!