Kat410

Great advice. I think it would be good for people before surgery to get their diets as clean and unsweetened as possible before they even start. Understand that fast doesn’t make you fat, but carbs (sugars and fake sugars too) do. Then let your body heal post surgery, learn how to slowly get the Protein Drinks in, and the Water, then slowly add rich Protein foods and healthy, filling fats in. Veggies for “dessert” after those first spoon or forkfuls of protein.

Keep your food chart and see how the weight goes down. I found by eating the protein (I prefer animal, and it comes with lots of natural fat) I steadily lose, but if I find a carb that goes down easy, I lose less. I think a craving for sweets will do us in, so I don’t eat anything sweet, not even fruit. The sweetest thing I eat is dark chocolate at 85% or more.
i only lose 3-7 lbs a month. And that must be fine, the months go by, and I am getting thinner. We need to be patient.

I was open about my surgery with people I spent a lot of time with - including co-workers.
I was very straight about what would and would not work for me.
My staff members are no longer allowed to bring food into my office for meetings. I am also more sensitive to smells, so that means no coffee (I have a coffee aversion).
I can now handle being around any food, but it was not like that for a period of months. I told people what would work and what didn't work.
You should talk to your friend. There is nothing wrong with being straight and telling people what you need and what is OK or not OK in your own dang house.
In the long run, I think it's more undermining to have resentments and be upset about things and NOT discuss it than it is to be straight and work things out.
You are in the toughest part right now. The second toughest part will be right after surgery. You are doing great. And venting is useful.
YOU GOT THIS

I am a fast loser. You can see the monthly stats in my signature. That said, I am 5’8” and started with a high BMI. The first week I was loosing 2-4 lbs a day and lost 19 lbs on my 10 day preop diet.

Everyone is different. If you are a fast looser I would count your blessings.

I use a yoga ap at home and like Down Dog. If you do r subscription you can customize the routine.

I also do a lot of my core work at home and do sit ups, planks, back extensions, Russian twists, push ups, etc.

I do go to the gym and do HITT classes as well as weights.

I live in NYC which means I don’t have a lot of room for equipment so mat work is best for my living situation.

I'm almost a year post-op (12/30) and have been plateaued since 10/2, bouncing up and down the same 3 pounds. It was getting incredibly frustrating since I'm so close to goal as well. I did all my usual stall breaking tips and every time I thought the scale was moving down I would bounce back up to 190. I only weight myself once a week, so it was a pleasant surprise this AM, I haven't been able to break 187 but today I was 186.6! 11 pounds to goal!!!!

Beautiful inside and out!!! Your mom sounds amazing and I am so glad you had her support. Had it with my dad. I am 6.5. Months out and have lost 116 lbs So I know the joy of winning the war !

Beautiful inside and out!!! Your mom sounds amazing and I am so glad you had her support. Had it with my dad. I am 6.5. Months out and have lost 116 lbs So I know the joy of winning the war !

Beautiful inside and out!!! Your mom sounds amazing and I am so glad you had her support. Had it with my dad. I am 6.5. Months out and have lost 116 lbs So I know the joy of winning the war !

This is a great topic. I had terrible posture between the weight and sedentary lifestyle. I have found that strength training and ab work has made a difference. I have also been surprised at the difference that massage has made in loosening these muscles and dealing with the chronic hyper extension of my upper back and shoulder muscles.

Then of course plain old mindfulness helps. I have alarms in my calendar prompting me to sit up straight and suck my navel in!

Yay!!! Good work! Was there anything you changed that broke the stall or did your body decide to start releasing weigh again on its own?

Talk to each other.
You both are dealing with tremendous stress - she is dealing with the stress of the additional financial burden and household management, you are dealing with the stress of recovery and disability.
People say and do stupid things when they start to hit their breaking point. You need to find a way to deal with the stress as partners and in communication.
Get professional/therapeutic help. Schedule times to talk, be in communication and work out schedules - so you can both deal with what you can and can't do right now and she can as well.
Good luck and best wishes.

Talk to each other.
You both are dealing with tremendous stress - she is dealing with the stress of the additional financial burden and household management, you are dealing with the stress of recovery and disability.
People say and do stupid things when they start to hit their breaking point. You need to find a way to deal with the stress as partners and in communication.
Get professional/therapeutic help. Schedule times to talk, be in communication and work out schedules - so you can both deal with what you can and can't do right now and she can as well.
Good luck and best wishes.

You look beautiful!! Congrats on your 1 year!

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When you start seeing and feeling bones you forgot you had!

Does anyone else like to find and feel your unearthed bones? Last night I was laying down and rested my hand on my belly and noticed my ribs were right there! Counted them on each side! I am also totally fascinated with my collarbone

98 Pounds down!
65% of excess body weight gone
Lifting weights, HIT and yoga
More energy, vitality and aliveness!

Talk to each other.
You both are dealing with tremendous stress - she is dealing with the stress of the additional financial burden and household management, you are dealing with the stress of recovery and disability.
People say and do stupid things when they start to hit their breaking point. You need to find a way to deal with the stress as partners and in communication.
Get professional/therapeutic help. Schedule times to talk, be in communication and work out schedules - so you can both deal with what you can and can't do right now and she can as well.
Good luck and best wishes.

When you start seeing and feeling bones you forgot you had!

Does anyone else like to find and feel your unearthed bones? Last night I was laying down and rested my hand on my belly and noticed my ribs were right there! Counted them on each side! I am also totally fascinated with my collarbone

When you start seeing and feeling bones you forgot you had!

Does anyone else like to find and feel your unearthed bones? Last night I was laying down and rested my hand on my belly and noticed my ribs were right there! Counted them on each side! I am also totally fascinated with my collarbone

98 Pounds down!
65% of excess body weight gone
Lifting weights, HIT and yoga
More energy, vitality and aliveness!

Talk to each other.
You both are dealing with tremendous stress - she is dealing with the stress of the additional financial burden and household management, you are dealing with the stress of recovery and disability.
People say and do stupid things when they start to hit their breaking point. You need to find a way to deal with the stress as partners and in communication.
Get professional/therapeutic help. Schedule times to talk, be in communication and work out schedules - so you can both deal with what you can and can't do right now and she can as well.
Good luck and best wishes.

Talk to each other.
You both are dealing with tremendous stress - she is dealing with the stress of the additional financial burden and household management, you are dealing with the stress of recovery and disability.
People say and do stupid things when they start to hit their breaking point. You need to find a way to deal with the stress as partners and in communication.
Get professional/therapeutic help. Schedule times to talk, be in communication and work out schedules - so you can both deal with what you can and can't do right now and she can as well.
Good luck and best wishes.

Instead of beating yourself up try to examine what had you do something you had essentially agreed not to do. I have found it helpful to use the things I have done that haven’t worked to examine myself and hopefully learn something that will support me in being powerful and effective in this journey.

The first layer to peel back is what I have used to justify eating something I shouldn’t be eating and how I have rationalized those choices. I have gotten better at catching the rationalization before I put it in my mouth.

According to neuroscience our brain is selecting actions and behaviors well before we are aware of it happening, yet we think we are choosing something consciously which is a complete illusion.

To win this battle all of us need to retrain our brains especially around certain triggers (specific food triggers or that it’s bad to feel hungry).

The preop liquid phase in the hardest. During that phase I had a mantra. “Hunger is health.” It sounds kind of weird but it worked for me.

Instead of beating yourself up try to examine what had you do something you had essentially agreed not to do. I have found it helpful to use the things I have done that haven’t worked to examine myself and hopefully learn something that will support me in being powerful and effective in this journey.

The first layer to peel back is what I have used to justify eating something I shouldn’t be eating and how I have rationalized those choices. I have gotten better at catching the rationalization before I put it in my mouth.

According to neuroscience our brain is selecting actions and behaviors well before we are aware of it happening, yet we think we are choosing something consciously which is a complete illusion.

To win this battle all of us need to retrain our brains especially around certain triggers (specific food triggers or that it’s bad to feel hungry).

The preop liquid phase in the hardest. During that phase I had a mantra. “Hunger is health.” It sounds kind of weird but it worked for me.

Instead of beating yourself up try to examine what had you do something you had essentially agreed not to do. I have found it helpful to use the things I have done that haven’t worked to examine myself and hopefully learn something that will support me in being powerful and effective in this journey.

The first layer to peel back is what I have used to justify eating something I shouldn’t be eating and how I have rationalized those choices. I have gotten better at catching the rationalization before I put it in my mouth.

According to neuroscience our brain is selecting actions and behaviors well before we are aware of it happening, yet we think we are choosing something consciously which is a complete illusion.

To win this battle all of us need to retrain our brains especially around certain triggers (specific food triggers or that it’s bad to feel hungry).

The preop liquid phase in the hardest. During that phase I had a mantra. “Hunger is health.” It sounds kind of weird but it worked for me.