Joe in Texas

Good luck Joe!! Just got home today. I had RNY yesterday morning!

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Best of luck Joe.

Since you are on purée have you tried the ricotta bake, tuna salad, scrambled eggs, puréed Beans with cheese, Soups blended.
those are just a few suggestions that might help you feel full. Also baked Salmon chewed well is allowed on my plan.
I hope this helps. Hang in there and be strong.

Tortilla Soup is amazing and easy. Make a salsa of your liking. I do 1 bunch green onions, 1 24 oz can of PEELED whole tomatoes in their own juice (very important to be in their own juice - others are gross), 1 4 oz can jalapeños, 1 4 oz can green chilis, 1 Tbsp garlic powder, 1 Tbsp Kosher salt and 1 bunch cilantro. Purée in whatever you have - a blender is sometimes hard, but works. Then you get a whole chicken and do just as instructed above for chicken soup - cover it with Water, add chopped onion and any veggies you like. After several hours, remove the chicken from broth. Shred it all up and put back in the broth along with the salsa. You can put the broth in the frig overnight without the salsa mixed in to get the fat to the surface to scrap off first if you want. After all ingredients are mixed, serve to your family and you strain your portion. Don't forget the tortilla strips for your family. Yummy! And then as time goes on you can purée the entire soup as your tummy allows until you can eat the soup just as your family does. Enjoy!

There is a powder called Caldo de Pollo (soup of chicken inspanish). It's very tasty! It's the only keeping me same!!!!! If you've ever eaten chicken ramen noodles, it tastes EXACTLY like that!

Hi! I use Beef shank. Throw a couple in a pot with garlic a whole onion and oregano. Skim the yucky stuff off and once that is all done continue to let boil for another hour or so till meat id flling of fthe bone. Add cilantro, carrots, celery, zucchini and salt to taste. If you have some Knorr buillion you can add some of that in place of the salt. Let all boil until veggies are done. After cools down remove all the meat and veggies you can feed to your family. Put the broth in another pot and place it in refrigerator till all congeals, skim off all the fat. It's pretty good. I do the same with chicken and turkey.

At least you recognized the mistakes and you are trying to rectified the changes. Do you have any support at home or near your area?

Modified from Bee Yinn Low's Easy Chinese recipes.
Ingredients
4 cups low-sodium chicken broth
1 Tbsp soy sauce
1 Tbsp Chinese black vinegar
1.5 Tbsp Chinese Rice Vinegar
1/4 tsp salt
2 Tbsp corn starch
3 Tbsp Water
1/2 Tbs Chili Oil
4 Large eggs, beaten lightly
Method
1. Mix and heat broth, sauces and vinegars.
2. In a small bowl, mix the corn starch and vinegars
3. When broth is boiling, slowly incorporate the cornstarch mix. Keep stirring and let it boil for a while to thicken the broth
4. Slowly pour in the eggs. Mix three times around with chopsticks. Turn off the flame, cover the pot and let the eggs cook slowly in the broth.
Note:
to increase the Protein content, I really think you could put in some extra-silken soft tofu in there. It's a lot more "liquid" than yogurt, or Jello, and should go down easy. If you want, put about 2-3 oz of soft tofu and blend it in before adding the eggs.
Makes 5-6 cups.

Look, you can only drink so many Protein shakes, right? Well last night I stumbled upon a tub of red miso paste in the back of my fridge and heard the proverbial Chorus of Angels!



3/4 tablespoon of miso

1 tablespoon PB2 (plain)

10oz hot Water



Whisk to dissolve the miso and PB2 and enjoy!



I'd kill a man for some tofu and nori, but I'm still just 3 days out from surgery. Is it a replacement for a Proteins hake? of course not, but it does give you a bump of Protein, a new flavor, and I've always fund miso to be so soothing.

I'm a "situational ethics" kind of girl. There are few behaviors and decisions I find to be universally righteous or sinful. (Funny words, those.)
Just as with all other behaviors and lifestyles, it depends on the people, the society they live in, their families, their friends, their intelligence (intellectual and emotional), their patience, their style, and their luck.
I simply don't think I could pull it off. For one thing, this would be a deal breaker for my husband, whom I adore and cannot imagine living without. He'd leave me. Plus, it would wound him horribly. And I would destroy the life I love.
But all that has nothing to do with the OP's decisions and actions. Everything that happens to her is on her.

Oh my, not only is that untrue but there are some famous examples!
Queen Victoria, Marie of Romania, Marie Antoinette, Catherine the Great... it goes on and on!
As for a male mistress, I think the word would be Paramour or Cavalier, but I can't remember my college Renaissance era classes 20 years on! I think gigolo might be close, but it is closer to a prostitute than a mistress or concubine.
As for the OP, this is an intensely personal issue and I don't think that anyone is going to have a situation that is exactly the same as anyone else's. There will be some judging on this thread, just be warned. Me personally, I would never do it nor condone it. But if someone else does it and it doesn't affect me, meh.

One of these days we are going to have a frank conversation about the idea of monogamy. It is a universal failure. What percentage of people do you know have only had 1 partner for life? Nearly everyone is a serial polygamous when you think about it. The idea that one person will always be sexually, intellectually compatible with you your entire life is mathematically improbable. The only options are:
1) Get divorced and give up half your stuff and break up all your relationships
2) Quietly cheat, hope you don't get caught and live a double life.
3) Live in quiet desperation, deprivation and misery.
I think there is another option, which requires a serious change in people's views of sex and relationships. We need to really start to ask ourselves where this idea came from. How much of it was designed to control women. Who are the sex experts we have been listening to anyway? (Most, like Dr. Kellogg [who was a closeted homosexual, but his ideas still out there] were really screwed up people). Its a serious conversation that needs to be had.

I use a ninja. The one that's like the bullet.
It'll be 2 years old in April. So far it's doing great. I use it every day.
If you are worried about "air" in your shake, just let it sit for a bit first.

Hello, I guess this is my introduction to the forum.
I'm a 46 Y/O guy, about to go in for a revision to my RNY that was done a while back (exact date when I remember...)
My new date is this coming Tuesday, May 30th, 2017.
My first surgery was somewhat successful, but I guess I got tired of the restrictions and requirements after a while, and I started cheating more and more in my diet.
I dropped down to around 300 lbs after starting at 618, my heaviest.
A few years ago I had an accident, where I was left in a lot of pain, and since I didn't have insurance I left it go untreated, and that was the beginning of my weight gain, to where I'm now, 504 lbs as of last Monday.
Well, here I am, not as excited as the first time, and not scared either, more of a feeling of "whatever".
Now, don't get me wrong, I will make it work, it's not as fun being fat and 46, like it was being fat and 30.
Anyway, I'm an open book, ask away if you have any Q's, and I'm looking fwd to learning from ya'lls successes and mistakes, especially now that I found a forum dedicated to guy's issues, because my first time around, it was mostly ladies, with very few guys, and most of those guys were young.
Best Regards.

I absolutely get your former and lingering discomfort in front of the camera. Internalizing and reconciling the before & after women isn't easy. Having pored over my photos got me nowhere. Instead I began to suspect that reviewing and making notes, whether written or mental, about who I was before, who I was after (I say "was" here because I've regained much of the weight I'd lost) and where they converge now is the way to go. Looking at photos just yet is confusing for me. As I grasp all my stages better, the photos will make better sense. I think.
Daisee, your recent photo shows a woman confident, proud and welcoming of the lens. If you felt uneasy, no one would guess it. There is more confidence in the older photo than you may know. You looked directly at the camera rather than off to the side or at the person sitting next to you.
You do look wonderful.

OK so like most of us probably, I hated taking pictures before (honestly I'm not crazy about it now) but in a conversation with my therapist the other day, I realized I am still not connecting either with how large I originally was or how thin I am now. So I am not posting these for compliments. I am just posting so I can see the reality of the 2 pics side by side and hopefully start to really understand both where I was and where I am now....


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@Joe in Texas we all make mistakes, it is just the rationalization that we need to learn from them. I wish you all the best on your newest journey.

Hello, I guess this is my introduction to the forum, please point me in the right way if I'm in the wrong place.
I'm a 46 Y/O guy, about to go in for a revision to my RNY that was done a while back (exact date when I remember...)
My new date is this coming Tuesday, May 30th, 2017.
My first surgery was somewhat successful, but I guess I got tired of the restrictions and requirements after a while, and I started cheating more and more in my diet.
I dropped down to around 300 lbs after starting at 618, my heaviest.
A few years ago I had an accident, where I was left in a lot of pain, and since I didn't have insurance I left it go untreated, and that was the beginning of my weight gain, to where I'm now, 504 lbs as of last Monday.
Well, here I am, not as excited as the first time, and not scared either, more of a feeling of "whatever".
Now, don't get me wrong, I will make it work, it's not as fun being fat and 46, like it was being fat and 30.
Anyway, I'm an open book, ask away if you have any Q's, and I'm looking fwd to learning from ya'lls successes and mistakes, especially now that I found a forum dedicated to guy's issues, because my first time around, it was mostly ladies, with very few guys, and most of those guys were young.
Best Regards.

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Spanks or compression shirts are a great idea. As you know most of us get flabby and its embarrassing (to me anyways). To feel more comfortable about myself I use a brand called Insta Slim. THEY ARE GREAT! I've been using them for a couple years. They are much cheaper than Spanx and work better than regular compression shirts (in my opinion). Attached is the link to them on Amazon. If you choose to try them- I'd recommend going one size below their recommendation. They are difficult to get on at first. May need help getting it on.
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_5?url=search-alias%3Dfashion&field-keywords=insta%20slim&sprefix=insta%2Cfashion%2C278