Jenopolis

Honestly, I think it has to do with people being jealous or insecure. I genuinely feel that in SOME cases, especially with women, they wouldn't want to compliment you or give you the confidence or make you feel good about yourself because they don't want you to look better or thinner than them. It's really sad honestly.
Someone in my life (a female) weighs a little less than me since my weight loss. She was happy that I was about 30-35 lbs more than her. It made her happy knowing I was bigger than her. But now my weight is going down and she has not asked about surgery, how I"m doing, feeling, etc. She says I cheated and took the easy way out and is getting pissed off because I'm a few lbs away from being the same weight as her now. She doesn't realize I'm struggling on this journey of being on liquids for an entire month and not eating fast food or drinking sodas anymore and having Portion Control and exercising will all contribute to my weight loss...the surgery isn't a magic pill....it gives me the will power and hope I didn't have before.
Eff the people who don't support you or notice you. They want you to stay down, how you were before surgery.
Your light is shining through as your coming into your new skin....just shine and blind em.

Congratulations! You are doing so much better at meeting your Fluid and Protein goals than I was at that point.
I had that hunger too, and still do. I am almost 7 weeks out, and on the full texture diet, so I can eat small amounts of actual foods but I still I get so head hungry sometimes. But it's nothing compared to what it was at the beginning, when all I could eat was liquid or near-liquid! That was really hard to get through. It's like, without chewing or having any meals to mark time, it makes the head hunger worse. So I think what you are going through is pretty normal.
Anyhow-- hang in there!! I am still struggling at times, but with each week it does get better. It reminds me of what people said when I had my son-- the first two weeks are brutal, then every two weeks it gets just a little bit better. That has proved pretty true so far, for me anyhow.

So-- I have lost 70 pounds now and four sizes, and apart from my husband, mother, and brother/sister-in-law, nobody-- not one person!-- has made a comment about it. Not even a vague "looking good". It is so bizarre to me! I still have 40-50 pounds to go, but I see a huge difference when I look in the mirror.
Did this happen to anyone else? I know this is not why I had surgery, I'm not in it for the glory or vanity, but... weird, no? I thought someone would have noticed and/or suspected something by now...

So-- I have lost 70 pounds now and four sizes, and apart from my husband, mother, and brother/sister-in-law, nobody-- not one person!-- has made a comment about it. Not even a vague "looking good". It is so bizarre to me! I still have 40-50 pounds to go, but I see a huge difference when I look in the mirror.
Did this happen to anyone else? I know this is not why I had surgery, I'm not in it for the glory or vanity, but... weird, no? I thought someone would have noticed and/or suspected something by now...

So-- I have lost 70 pounds now and four sizes, and apart from my husband, mother, and brother/sister-in-law, nobody-- not one person!-- has made a comment about it. Not even a vague "looking good". It is so bizarre to me! I still have 40-50 pounds to go, but I see a huge difference when I look in the mirror.
Did this happen to anyone else? I know this is not why I had surgery, I'm not in it for the glory or vanity, but... weird, no? I thought someone would have noticed and/or suspected something by now...

Everyone here has great suggestions!
I just wanted to say hang in there-- the first couple of weeks were SO HARD, and I was hating my Protein Shakes by the end. I didn't get enough Protein in consistently until at least a month out, and it all worked out fine. Be gentle with yourself, keep sipping Water, and recognize that you are doing great.

My surgery was 7/24 and I am currently on my liquid phase. Everything is going well but I do have a struggle with completion of my 80 g of Protein a day! I totally understand the importance of protein in this vital step but I have a hard time getting all the grams in. By the end of the day, I can't stand the look of food. Anyone have any suggestions?

I eat popcorn, it's a low carb/cal/fat snack and I have no problem with it. But it's an occasional thing.

Just don't add oil, just add Water and salt and you'll have no calorie issues. I love popcorn and I don't see the problem with ig. It's just the oil that has more than 100 calories in a single table spoon.

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CW:217

Sleeved 01.30.17

Congratulations! You are doing so much better at meeting your Fluid and Protein goals than I was at that point.
I had that hunger too, and still do. I am almost 7 weeks out, and on the full texture diet, so I can eat small amounts of actual foods but I still I get so head hungry sometimes. But it's nothing compared to what it was at the beginning, when all I could eat was liquid or near-liquid! That was really hard to get through. It's like, without chewing or having any meals to mark time, it makes the head hunger worse. So I think what you are going through is pretty normal.
Anyhow-- hang in there!! I am still struggling at times, but with each week it does get better. It reminds me of what people said when I had my son-- the first two weeks are brutal, then every two weeks it gets just a little bit better. That has proved pretty true so far, for me anyhow.

So funny you ask this, I was sleeved on 5/17 and just had my first cup of coffee this week. I stayed close to home that morning just in case... but it was fine.
My NUT has coffee/caffeine on the no go list for life, but I am refusing that little piece of advice. I follow everything else in my diet to the letter, but if my tummy can tolerate coffee, I am not going to deny myself this forever. I talked to some other sleevers, and haven't met anyone who had weight loss problems as a result, just a few whose tummies are too sensitive for it.

I didn't have that exact problem, but the first month my body was all messed up, and energy levels were out of whack.
Sorry you are going through this-- the first month, IMO, really does suck! Once you are cleared for more and more foods, I think it will get better. The variety in your diet and eating food for energy instead of shakes really helps things along. Good luck!

So funny you ask this, I was sleeved on 5/17 and just had my first cup of coffee this week. I stayed close to home that morning just in case... but it was fine.
My NUT has coffee/caffeine on the no go list for life, but I am refusing that little piece of advice. I follow everything else in my diet to the letter, but if my tummy can tolerate coffee, I am not going to deny myself this forever. I talked to some other sleevers, and haven't met anyone who had weight loss problems as a result, just a few whose tummies are too sensitive for it.

So funny you ask this, I was sleeved on 5/17 and just had my first cup of coffee this week. I stayed close to home that morning just in case... but it was fine.
My NUT has coffee/caffeine on the no go list for life, but I am refusing that little piece of advice. I follow everything else in my diet to the letter, but if my tummy can tolerate coffee, I am not going to deny myself this forever. I talked to some other sleevers, and haven't met anyone who had weight loss problems as a result, just a few whose tummies are too sensitive for it.

Oh no, I know that feeling. The first few weeks were rough for me, too. I think that we are really not fit for "normal" life like running errands and leaving the house for a while afterwards. But with kids, what are you going to do, right?
What helped me was accepting that this was okay, and not asking myself to do more than absolutely minimally necessary. I think normally as a mom and if you work, etc., you take care of so much, and it will just exhaust you when you are fresh out of surgery and eating almost nothing. Your body is in shock. That was SO frustrating for me, feeling like I couldn't keep up with my life without failing at the damn fluid/protein goals or feeling weak and sick. Even if you can't stop doing everything, maybe you can really lower your expectations for now and be gentle with yourself. It will get better eventually, I think, when you are on regular food and you start to get some energy back.
And if you need to leave the house, as you will, try to find the one thing that doesn't make you ill-- Powerade Zero, or whatever drink you favor-- and take it with you, so you have one "trusted" source of Fluid. I love Powerade, I swear it gave me so much more energy in the first weeks.
Good luck! It really sucks in the beginning. I'm sure you are doing great, and it may take a while, but it WILL eventually get better and you will feel more normal.

Good choice, I think that's the safe bet. I was struggling like heck with energy levels for the first 5 or 6 weeks, not to mention that vacationing while you are still on all Protein Shakes and purees could be really logistically annoying for you and potentially hard not to sabotage yourself. I'm 7 weeks out now and just NOW having my first vacation, and proud of myself for keeping up with the family all day every day. You could have tons of energy, but why take the risk? I feel like nobody warned me that even though the physical healing can be quick, the constant grind of shakes and fluids can crush your energy and spirit a bit.
Good luck with your surgery!

Congratulations! You are doing so much better at meeting your Fluid and Protein goals than I was at that point.
I had that hunger too, and still do. I am almost 7 weeks out, and on the full texture diet, so I can eat small amounts of actual foods but I still I get so head hungry sometimes. But it's nothing compared to what it was at the beginning, when all I could eat was liquid or near-liquid! That was really hard to get through. It's like, without chewing or having any meals to mark time, it makes the head hunger worse. So I think what you are going through is pretty normal.
Anyhow-- hang in there!! I am still struggling at times, but with each week it does get better. It reminds me of what people said when I had my son-- the first two weeks are brutal, then every two weeks it gets just a little bit better. That has proved pretty true so far, for me anyhow.

rate of weight loss varies a lot between people for a whole host of reasons. One big one I see with you is that you're what we call a "lightweight". Lightweights don't lose as fast as someone who starts out at 300+ lbs. There are other factors - gender, activity level, age, metabolism rate, genetics, whether or not you lost a lot of weight pre-surgery - that will affect your rate of weight loss. I was a "slow loser" from the get-go, and look where I ended up. Your commitment to your program will have a *much* greater impact on your success than your rate of weight loss.

You will be able to eat that post op after you heal. You probably won't be able to eat a whole hamburger and fries for quite a while post op. I've had pizza more times than I'd like to admit. I've also eaten a few fries. My cravings for food didn't go away but my sleeve keeps me quite full. I personally didn't have surgery to be on a diet for the rest of my life. I will eat what my family eats for the most part but I will eat way less. I eat very healthily most of the time but not all day every day. I haven't been to McDonald's post op yet..... I could prob eat half a hamburger now. It just doesn't sound good though. They make a great southwest chicken salad with grilled chicken. I haven't tried those yet either because salads scare me a bit still! I'm just afraid I won't be able to chew it enough. Maybe I'll try a salad tomorrow! I'm six weeks out this week.

Look up the '3 week stall.' It's so common it has a name. And stay off the scale for a few weeks.
When's the last time you lost 21 pounds in less than 3 weeks? I'm guessing the answer is 'never.' You're truly doing great and the scale will start moving again.
Realistic expectations are important during your weight loss phase. Due to your starting weight, you most likely aren't going to be one of those people who loses 30+ pounds monthly. The sooner you face this reality, the merrier.
I lost at an average rate of about 6 pounds monthly. Yes, I was a horribly slow loser and it took me 17 months to lose 100 pounds. You lost 21 pounds in your first couple of weeks, yet I never had a single month where I lost that much. What matters is that I eventually reached my goal weight and have managed to maintain my losses.
Good luck to you.

Thank you for all these comments. I've decided to enjoy my trip and not risk it.

Oh no, I know that feeling. The first few weeks were rough for me, too. I think that we are really not fit for "normal" life like running errands and leaving the house for a while afterwards. But with kids, what are you going to do, right?
What helped me was accepting that this was okay, and not asking myself to do more than absolutely minimally necessary. I think normally as a mom and if you work, etc., you take care of so much, and it will just exhaust you when you are fresh out of surgery and eating almost nothing. Your body is in shock. That was SO frustrating for me, feeling like I couldn't keep up with my life without failing at the damn fluid/protein goals or feeling weak and sick. Even if you can't stop doing everything, maybe you can really lower your expectations for now and be gentle with yourself. It will get better eventually, I think, when you are on regular food and you start to get some energy back.
And if you need to leave the house, as you will, try to find the one thing that doesn't make you ill-- Powerade Zero, or whatever drink you favor-- and take it with you, so you have one "trusted" source of Fluid. I love Powerade, I swear it gave me so much more energy in the first weeks.
Good luck! It really sucks in the beginning. I'm sure you are doing great, and it may take a while, but it WILL eventually get better and you will feel more normal.

How did you do anything else but eat? Really, I'm thinking about my work scheduled and that would be impossible for me.

FINALLY! 69 days post op, and I can have a salad! It's so hot here today, and I'm having the most refreshing arugula, watermelon, and feta salad. Feels so good!

It has been a month since my surgery and I feel the same. It's hard bc I live with my parents and they are always eating out or making unhealthy food that I can't even touch not only that, my bf always tells me I'm taking the easy way out and puts me down for ever getting the surgery. I feel so alone and when I get compliments my bf will not even let me except them he then takes it as an insult. What I find that helps me sometimes is writing in my journal and taking a walk and actually looking and taking time to enjoy the beauty

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