Abeille213

I am sobbing uncontrollably right now and really need to hear from others who have had the band to RNY (or sleeve) revision, please.
I am six days post op from band to RNY and I have lost ONE POUND. I am so upset. My biggest fear going into this was failing again just like I failed with the band. And, to me, a one pound loss is 100% failing.
I'm in absolute hysterics right now crying. Why did I do this? So much money, so much time from work, so much pain... to lose a pound in a week? I could've lost far more than this with some simple Slim Fast diet or something.
I can't do this. I cannot do this. I can't.
What kind of fat, disgusting, out of control pig am I that even two WLS's aren't helping me lose weight??
I know my hormones are raging after surgery. I know I am behaving like an emotional basket case. I know this. But in this moment, this is so real. I am so upset... so ashamed of myself.
If anyone reads this, would you mind telling me if you felt this way? Would you mind sharing your weight loss progress? How slow or fast it was? I know we are all different, but I would just like to see examples.
And, most of all, would you mind sharing how you dealt with the incredibly slow loss? I am not a patient person. Not even close. I know myself. I will become discouraged and give up. I need help here.
I do have an upcoming appointment with a therapist who I hope can help. But in this moment, I really, really just need to hear from those who have been here.

Congrats to you! I am 7 days post op and will share a couple of things I've learned in my short week.

One-- the biggest one-- please have a very solid and understanding person in your life who can help get you through the shocking emotional roller coaster that happens after surgery. The extreme hormones are something I wasn't at all prepared for. I go from being furious, to laughing to (most often) sobbing uncontrollably. I was warned of this but it's a million times more intense than I expected. And I'm actually a psychotherapist so I am trained to recognize illogical emotions and react to them properly. Even so, I have been miserable. So, have someone there who will support you if you're having emotions that make no sense and are way off the charts.

Second, get yourself a body pillow. It will save your life.

Last, do this one for me lol. Go take a bottle of Water (or whatever liquid) and chug that sucker. It's such a strange thing to be super thirsty but be unable to quickly satisfy your thirst by chugging water. Instead, we have to take very small sips which takes a long time to finally satisfy that thirst. You won't be chugging liquid again for a very long time, possibly ever, so enjoy it one last time! Lol


June 12, 2017 I had my lap-band removed, my gallbladder removed and received an RNY.

HW: 402, SW 306, CW 303, GW 185

You are absolutely right. There is literally nothing I can do now regarding changing the past. All I can do is follow my plan as well as I'm able and hope and pray for success. If it is a slow success then that's just the way it's going to be for me. I cannot change that and freaking out about it will do nothing to help and will only upset me further. I think I will take your advice and move the scale to the closet... maybe weigh once per week at this early stage and then once per month after my follow up with my surgeon. That will be difficult but it's important. I have to remember that my goal isn't to arrive at a number on the scale. My goal is to create a healthy body.

Thank you for your kindness and compassion today to a perfect stranger like me. It truly has helped far more than I can express. You made a difference for me today and that means so much.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

This is the kind of childish behavior I see in my psychology practice. A guy with low self esteem bullying others (from the safety and "anonymity" of the Internet, of course). Although I typically see this from adolescents, not adults. Just let it go. Your behavior is ridiculous.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

I'm a licensed therapist and these types of evaluations are extremely common. It is safe to say that the vast majority of WLS patients have issues with food. (Myself included) That is a given. They aren't looking for some perfectly "normal" person to come waltzing in. All they're really looking for are possible contraindications to surgery. For example, someone who has a weight loss goal that is way outside the realm of possibility. Or someone who has a history of anorexia or bulimia. Someone who thinks weight loss will solve every single life problem they have. That kind of thing. They basically want to make sure you don't go into surgery with unreal expectations. Because, if you do, the failure rate is much higher.

But just be honest. If you are depressed then admit that. (Many obese people are). If you are afraid, admit that. Who isn't afraid?? I

They will ask you why you want to lose weight. How much weight do you expect to lose. How will your life change when you lose weight. What will you do when you become discouraged. What kind of an eater are you? (Emotional? Bored eater? Grazer? )

They are simple questions and anything you don't understand it's totally ok to say so.

Try to relax. Take it easy. Be honest, be yourself and you'll do fine.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

lol I'll take that as a very clear admission that you have absolutely zero sources to back up a single word you claimed to be fact. Imagine that! No wonder you're afraid of that personality inventory being in your record! lol


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Actually, you're wrong. There are many surgical procedures that require a psychiatric evaluation.
I would love to see your sources that "prove" psychology and psychiatry having been wrong more than right throughout history. That's such a laughable statement to anyone who is even slightly familiar with how scientific discovery works. Where is this information? Being a scientist myself (and yes, psychology IS a science), I prefer to deal in scientific fact. So, may I ask, where are your sources to the so-called facts you've proposed here? May I also ask what qualifies you to make such blanket statements? Are you a scientist? That last question is rhetorical, considering how blatantly obvious it is that you have zero background in any scientific field.

Oh very cool. Happy birthday to your kiddos. Two weeks from today! I'm super excited!


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

As far as I know, it was you who fabricated the post you made here, not your computer.



Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

So, you only come here as a reminder of what not to do then?
One would think that after 8500 posts, an average of 11.5 posts every single day since you joined this site, you'd surely have it down by now.



Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

I didn't say anything about loving anyone. You made a post about how everyone here asks stupid questions and you're so sick of it, etc. etc. You ended by saying the only reason to come here is to be reminded of what not to do. So, I was curious why, after 8500 posts, you still seemed to need to come here and be reminded of "what not to do". One would assume you'd know by now, thus, by your own statement, have no need to come here any longer.

Okay, Steven, you've gotten the attention you came here for. You can pretend to be an adult now and stop harassing her.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Welcome! Yes there are a handful of us veg*ns out there!
Some of us have been sharing our daily food on the Buddies & Mentors forum.

I mentioned this to another user. You most likely did an MMPI personality inventory. They are 568 questions long. If I were you I would call his office and get a copy of the results. They are super interesting to read and are usually dead on about your personality.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Oh very cool. Happy birthday to your kiddos. Two weeks from today! I'm super excited!


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

I'm very sorry to hear that, though not the least bit surprised. You noticed how he immediately backed off once someone stood up to him? That's what bullies do. They are the weak ones. Part of me feels sorry for him and others like him. They are miserably unhappy people desperate to bring others down to their level of misery and self loathing.
But the other part of me thinks they are fully pathetic in that they choose a support group of all things as the place to attack others. It takes a real man to take aim at a group of people who are vulnerable, afraid and asking for help.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

I'm a licensed therapist and these types of evaluations are extremely common. It is safe to say that the vast majority of WLS patients have issues with food. (Myself included) That is a given. They aren't looking for some perfectly "normal" person to come waltzing in. All they're really looking for are possible contraindications to surgery. For example, someone who has a weight loss goal that is way outside the realm of possibility. Or someone who has a history of anorexia or bulimia. Someone who thinks weight loss will solve every single life problem they have. That kind of thing. They basically want to make sure you don't go into surgery with unreal expectations. Because, if you do, the failure rate is much higher.

But just be honest. If you are depressed then admit that. (Many obese people are). If you are afraid, admit that. Who isn't afraid?? I

They will ask you why you want to lose weight. How much weight do you expect to lose. How will your life change when you lose weight. What will you do when you become discouraged. What kind of an eater are you? (Emotional? Bored eater? Grazer? )

They are simple questions and anything you don't understand it's totally ok to say so.

Try to relax. Take it easy. Be honest, be yourself and you'll do fine.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

So, you only come here as a reminder of what not to do then?
One would think that after 8500 posts, an average of 11.5 posts every single day since you joined this site, you'd surely have it down by now.



Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

I'm very sorry to hear that, though not the least bit surprised. You noticed how he immediately backed off once someone stood up to him? That's what bullies do. They are the weak ones. Part of me feels sorry for him and others like him. They are miserably unhappy people desperate to bring others down to their level of misery and self loathing.
But the other part of me thinks they are fully pathetic in that they choose a support group of all things as the place to attack others. It takes a real man to take aim at a group of people who are vulnerable, afraid and asking for help.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

So, you only come here as a reminder of what not to do then?
One would think that after 8500 posts, an average of 11.5 posts every single day since you joined this site, you'd surely have it down by now.



Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

I'm a licensed therapist and these types of evaluations are extremely common. It is safe to say that the vast majority of WLS patients have issues with food. (Myself included) That is a given. They aren't looking for some perfectly "normal" person to come waltzing in. All they're really looking for are possible contraindications to surgery. For example, someone who has a weight loss goal that is way outside the realm of possibility. Or someone who has a history of anorexia or bulimia. Someone who thinks weight loss will solve every single life problem they have. That kind of thing. They basically want to make sure you don't go into surgery with unreal expectations. Because, if you do, the failure rate is much higher.

But just be honest. If you are depressed then admit that. (Many obese people are). If you are afraid, admit that. Who isn't afraid?? I

They will ask you why you want to lose weight. How much weight do you expect to lose. How will your life change when you lose weight. What will you do when you become discouraged. What kind of an eater are you? (Emotional? Bored eater? Grazer? )

They are simple questions and anything you don't understand it's totally ok to say so.

Try to relax. Take it easy. Be honest, be yourself and you'll do fine.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

I'm a licensed therapist and these types of evaluations are extremely common. It is safe to say that the vast majority of WLS patients have issues with food. (Myself included) That is a given. They aren't looking for some perfectly "normal" person to come waltzing in. All they're really looking for are possible contraindications to surgery. For example, someone who has a weight loss goal that is way outside the realm of possibility. Or someone who has a history of anorexia or bulimia. Someone who thinks weight loss will solve every single life problem they have. That kind of thing. They basically want to make sure you don't go into surgery with unreal expectations. Because, if you do, the failure rate is much higher.

But just be honest. If you are depressed then admit that. (Many obese people are). If you are afraid, admit that. Who isn't afraid?? I

They will ask you why you want to lose weight. How much weight do you expect to lose. How will your life change when you lose weight. What will you do when you become discouraged. What kind of an eater are you? (Emotional? Bored eater? Grazer? )

They are simple questions and anything you don't understand it's totally ok to say so.

Try to relax. Take it easy. Be honest, be yourself and you'll do fine.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

This is the kind of childish behavior I see in my psychology practice. A guy with low self esteem bullying others (from the safety and "anonymity" of the Internet, of course). Although I typically see this from adolescents, not adults. Just let it go. Your behavior is ridiculous.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Okay, Steven, you've gotten the attention you came here for. You can pretend to be an adult now and stop harassing her.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

lol this is good. Who said I don't like the topic or the people discussing it? I think you're reaching, Steven.

And I'm trying to bully people out of a thread because they don't agree with my opinions? Hmmmm. Interesting. Let's explore this statement, shall we?

Who are the "people" I'm allegedly bullying? What method(s) am I using to bully?

What are my opinions? I assume you must know considering you claim to disagree with them. So, let's hear it. What are they?

Methinks you're unable to answer any of these questions. You're here pathetically begging for attention whilst periodically taking breaks in order to harass other users. As I'm not a fan of bullies, I called you out on your behavior and you can't handle it. It's really that simple. A bully will almost always flip out when someone stands up to them. Just as you've flipped out here. Funny, indeed.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185