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I am sobbing uncontrollably right now and really need to hear from others who have had the band to RNY (or sleeve) revision, please.

I am six days post op from band to RNY and I have lost ONE POUND. I am so upset. My biggest fear going into this was failing again just like I failed with the band. And, to me, a one pound loss is 100% failing.

I'm in absolute hysterics right now crying. Why did I do this? So much money, so much time from work, so much pain... to lose a pound in a week? I could've lost far more than this with some simple Slim Fast diet or something.

I can't do this. I cannot do this. I can't.

What kind of fat, disgusting, out of control pig am I that even two WLS's aren't helping me lose weight??

I know my hormones are raging after surgery. I know I am behaving like an emotional basket case. I know this. But in this moment, this is so real. I am so upset... so ashamed of myself.

If anyone reads this, would you mind telling me if you felt this way? Would you mind sharing your weight loss progress? How slow or fast it was? I know we are all different, but I would just like to see examples.

And, most of all, would you mind sharing how you dealt with the incredibly slow loss? I am not a patient person. Not even close. I know myself. I will become discouraged and give up. I need help here.

I do have an upcoming appointment with a therapist who I hope can help. But in this moment, I really, really just need to hear from those who have been here.

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Oh sweety, this IS all crazy hormones. [Hugs]. You are still all pumped full of fluids from the surgery, you are bloated and swollen. The swelling will take weeks to go down all the way, and if you are constipated, it makes it worse!

Please go throw your scale away. The weight will come off without you watching it.

Ultimately, none of us can control what the scale says... all we can control is following our plan.

Follow your plan, and have faith! And I'm not kidding about throwing or giving away the scale.

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I think anyone of us that went through this revision felt the same way !! The first 6 weeks will be an emotional roller coaster but do what ever you can to fight these negative thoughts !! The weight will come off !! Follow your surgeons and dietitians directions and you will succeed !! I am 11 months out and 101 lbs down and I never thought I would be here !! Drink lots of Water and Protein and stop looking at the scale !! If I can do this anyone can BUT the one piece I was never informed about was the hormone roller coaster right after surgery ! You hormones will even out and you will be fast on your road to success !!


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I think anyone of us that went through this revision felt the same way !! The first 6 weeks will be an emotional roller coaster but do what ever you can to fight these negative thoughts !! The weight will come off !! Follow your surgeons and dietitians directions and you will succeed !! I am 11 months out and 101 lbs down and I never thought I would be here !! Drink lots of Water and Protein and stop looking at the scale !! If I can do this anyone can BUT the one piece I was never informed about was the hormone roller coaster right after surgery ! You hormones will even out and you will be fast on your road to success !!





Thank you for this. I also was not informed of the emotional roller coaster either. Although, even if I had been, I really don't think anything could've prepared me for this. I myself am a mental health therapist and am typically a very logical, calm person who is trained to keep emotions in check and recognize when my thoughts and behaviors are illogical. However, all of that training is out the window right now. So this is just shocking to me. It's soooo not me and it's not something I'm dealing with very well at all.

I know much of this is hormone related and almost totally uncontrollable, but wow... I never expected this.

Today was very difficult but this evening has been a small bit better. I'm trying hard to work through these irrational thoughts and remind myself the feelings of uncontrollable sobbing and anger are temporary and are not based in reality.

Again, thank you very much and congratulations on your incredible success. I hope to have such success myself.


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HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

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Oh sweety, this IS all crazy hormones. [Hugs]. You are still all pumped full of fluids from the surgery, you are bloated and swollen. The swelling will take weeks to go down all the way, and if you are constipated, it makes it worse!
Please go throw your scale away. The weight will come off without you watching it.
Ultimately, none of us can control what the scale says... all we can control is following our plan.
Follow your plan, and have faith! And I'm not kidding about throwing or giving away the scale.


You are absolutely right. There is literally nothing I can do now regarding changing the past. All I can do is follow my plan as well as I'm able and hope and pray for success. If it is a slow success then that's just the way it's going to be for me. I cannot change that and freaking out about it will do nothing to help and will only upset me further. I think I will take your advice and move the scale to the closet... maybe weigh once per week at this early stage and then once per month after my follow up with my surgeon. That will be difficult but it's important. I have to remember that my goal isn't to arrive at a number on the scale. My goal is to create a healthy body.

Thank you for your kindness and compassion today to a perfect stranger like me. It truly has helped far more than I can express. You made a difference for me today and that means so much.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

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You know what I was doing 6 days post op? I was walking around nude in front of my teenage kids. I NEVER in a million years would have done that.. but I did! Surgery hormones are crazy!

Things settled down for me quickly once I started getting my nutrition back up. It varies between folks how soon things settle, but hopefully you'll move through this phase quickly. ;)

Good for you, putting the scale away!

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I am sobbing uncontrollably right now and really need to hear from others who have had the band to RNY (or sleeve) revision, please.
I am six days post op from band to RNY and I have lost ONE POUND. I am so upset. My biggest fear going into this was failing again just like I failed with the band. And, to me, a one pound loss is 100% failing.
I'm in absolute hysterics right now crying. Why did I do this? So much money, so much time from work, so much pain... to lose a pound in a week? I could've lost far more than this with some simple Slim Fast diet or something.
I can't do this. I cannot do this. I can't.
What kind of fat, disgusting, out of control pig am I that even two WLS's aren't helping me lose weight??
I know my hormones are raging after surgery. I know I am behaving like an emotional basket case. I know this. But in this moment, this is so real. I am so upset... so ashamed of myself.
If anyone reads this, would you mind telling me if you felt this way? Would you mind sharing your weight loss progress? How slow or fast it was? I know we are all different, but I would just like to see examples.
And, most of all, would you mind sharing how you dealt with the incredibly slow loss? I am not a patient person. Not even close. I know myself. I will become discouraged and give up. I need help here.
I do have an upcoming appointment with a therapist who I hope can help. But in this moment, I really, really just need to hear from those who have been here.


Hugs and support. I keep plateauing and I hate it- like you, the pain, time, and money didn't (doesn't) seem worth it. BUT it is worth it. I can do more now than I ever could. I'm losing slowly, about 10 pounds a month- which reading other stories can be discouraging to think it is this slow for me. I am not patient either and I do continue to struggle. However, if I want a chance at a better me I can't give up.
You are going to do better. Give yourself 2 weeks of no weighing.


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You're only six days out and of course you only lost one pound but think of it this way that is one less pound to worry about and like the others people said give yourself a break things will look up.

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Remember that your fluids are unbalanced and as you take in more nutrition and get exercise the fluids will go away. You have actually lost more than 1 pound. You are doing great. By six days after surgery I still weighed 10 pounds more than before and I wasn't eating. It took about 3 weeks for me to lose the Fluid.


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Thank you for this. I also was not informed of the emotional roller coaster either. Although, even if I had been, I really don't think anything could've prepared me for this. I myself am a mental health therapist and am typically a very logical, calm person who is trained to keep emotions in check and recognize when my thoughts and behaviors are illogical. However, all of that training is out the window right now. So this is just shocking to me. It's soooo not me and it's not something I'm dealing with very well at all.

I know much of this is hormone related and almost totally uncontrollable, but wow... I never expected this.

Today was very difficult but this evening has been a small bit better. I'm trying hard to work through these irrational thoughts and remind myself the feelings of uncontrollable sobbing and anger are temporary and are not based in reality.

Again, thank you very much and congratulations on your incredible success. I hope to have such success myself.


Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12!
HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185






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It will get better, I promise!! I'm sorry you're going through a tough time right now. I know it's really difficult to look at the scale and see just a 1 pound loss! But, like others have said, you're still full of fluids and it takes time for those to leave your system. I'm also a therapist and I'm glad that you recognize your negative thought pattern and that your thoughts are irrational. You're definitely castastrophizing right now...if you follow your plan, there's no way that you can't lose the weight! So, what's the worst that could happen? The weight comes off slow? Could you survive that? Of course you could! You can do this and you know what? You ARE doing this! Just give it time to work! Your feelings are completely normal so cut yourself some slack! Keep being self aware and do your best to reframe those negative thoughts! I'm glad you're going to see a therapist...even therapist's need help...maybe even more than a non-therapist [emoji12]


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It will get better, I promise!! I'm sorry you're going through a tough time right now. I know it's really difficult to look at the scale and see just a 1 pound loss! But, like others have said, you're still full of fluids and it takes time for those to leave your system. I'm also a therapist and I'm glad that you recognize your negative thought pattern and that your thoughts are irrational. You're definitely castastrophizing right now...if you follow your plan, there's no way that you can't lose the weight! So, what's the worst that could happen? The weight comes off slow? Could you survive that? Of course you could! You can do this and you know what? You ARE doing this! Just give it time to work! Your feelings are completely normal so cut yourself some slack! Keep being self aware and do your best to reframe those negative thoughts! I'm glad you're going to see a therapist...even therapist's need help...maybe even more than a non-therapist [emoji12]




Hello back to fit me do you know if feeling extremely emotional is a sign I'm so sad and worried about being lonely I need my 24/7 support which be my partner or mum does this get better.

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I had gastric sleeve done 4 days ago yes I had regrets afterwards just thinking could I have done this my self the answer is no I couldn't have done it that's why I chose this for me and that's why your doing this for you to feel good and be healthy and have a great life I'm an emotional wreck as well like I have some sort of bi polar and cringe at the thought of being home alone sobbing all day but like everyone says it will get better it's just emotions your changing your life be proud of the steps you have mad for yourself your aloud to be upset! It's a big operation just do things to keep busy hun you will be fine ! (sending love)

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10 minutes ago, shericrazylady said:


Hello back to fit me do you know if feeling extremely emotional is a sign I'm so sad and worried about being lonely I need my 24/7 support which be my partner or mum does this get better.

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Shericrazylady, I'm sorry you're having a tough time. After a lifechanging surgery, it's totally normal to feel emotional! This is a lifechanging event that requires a lot of emotional strength and energy! You mention being sad and feeling lonely and asked if the surgery could be making you feel this way. I would ask if you felt sad and lonely prior to surgery. If not, I would be willing to bet that these feelings are coming from a place of worry, anxiety and fear that this surgery has brought on. If you already suffered from depression and loneliness, certainly going through wls could exacerbate your symptoms. Where is your support system? You mention your partner or your mum...are they there for you? You may need to tell them what you need from them if they aren't there for you. They may not know how to beat support you unless you tell them what you need! Don't be afraid to ask for support! It does get better! The beginning is very hard...we go into this with built up expectations and sometimes we've wanted it for so long that we have idealized the surgery itself and are shocked and let down by the reality of the surgery, I.e., the pain, inability to eat/drink well, etc. Reality is that this is tough in the beginning, everything is new and change is scary. Just focus on what led you to where you are now and what the sacrifices you're making will do for you in he end! A happier and healthier you is just around the corner!!

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Shericrazylady, I'm sorry you're having a tough time. After a lifechanging surgery, it's totally normal to feel emotional! This is a lifechanging event that requires a lot of emotional strength and energy! You mention being sad and feeling lonely and asked if the surgery could be making you feel this way. I would ask if you felt sad and lonely prior to surgery. If not, I would be willing to bet that these feelings are coming from a place of worry, anxiety and fear that this surgery has brought on. If you already suffered from depression and loneliness, certainly going through wls could exacerbate your symptoms. Where is your support system? You mention your partner or your mum...are they there for you? You may need to tell them what you need from them if they aren't there for you. They may not know how to beat support you unless you tell them what you need! Don't be afraid to ask for support! It does get better! The beginning is very hard...we go into this with built up expectations and sometimes we've wanted it for so long that we have idealized the surgery itself and are shocked and let down by the reality of the surgery, I.e., the pain, inability to eat/drink well, etc. Reality is that this is tough in the beginning, everything is new and change is scary. Just focus on what led you to where you are now and what the sacrifices you're making will do for you in he end! A happier and healthier you is just around the corner!!

Thanks so much for replying I did have anxiety prior to Surgery. I live with my partner but he works week days 6-5 so I'll be alone I'm OK if Im keeping busy like on YouTube and games on phone occasionally I'll get up and walk around as that's what my surgeon said for me to do. And I'll go sit out back in the sun


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